WTT - August 2015

[KalonKiki]

Thanks ladies!

I've done a lot of research on gender swaying during my WTT period and I've found a method that seems to have a lot of success among journals of ladies that have tried it in gender swaying forums. I'll be using Rephresh and Acigel while taking folic acid (will start prenatals after I find out that I'm pregnant as some of the vitamins and minerals in them can make my sway useless). DF will be taking calcium and magnesium while cutting out caffeine, sodium, and potassium as much as possible. We will also be doing a 3 day cutoff before O for BD during my fertile week for the first 3 months and if we don't get pregnant in that time we will be stopping BD as soon as I get a positive OPK. If we still aren't pregnant after 6 months of swaying then we will still use the Rephresh and Acigel but BD all through my fertile week. If we still aren't pregnant after 9 months of TTC then we will stop using Rephresh and Acigel and go back to cutting off BD at the day I get my positive OPK. If we still aren't pregnant after a year of swaying then we will stop swaying altogether and try without swaying for 3 months before seeing a fertility specialist. I don't think that will happen though, we got pregnant with DS after a one time oops with our birth control.

As far as goals go we're pretty much already there, just waiting until at least next cycle and waiting for DF to feel like we're financially ready. He said that we'll wait until we get our next paycheck in and see how it looks and go from there. I'm a nervous wreck, I know that I'm going to be heartbroken if he says that we have to wait longer, even though he's been trying to reassure me that we should be able to start trying by the end of summer.

 

[cupcake.]

I'm doing okay on my goals, not ideal but okay haha
I sarted taking prenatals and i am pretty good at remembering to take them. I'm also exercising regularly-ish but need to get into that a bit more because I really want to make sure I'll be able to keep exercising throughout pregnancy.

I still need to make an appointment with my ob/gyn and also dentist (it's time for my checkup anyway but want to make sure it's all good so there won't be a need for x-rays during pregnancy).

 

[Lola_0106]

BusyTulip - can you get Deva Vegan Prenatal Vitamins in US? On Amazon?

 

[Earthylove]

hey i'm vegan too! vitamin code has vegan prenatal vitamins. they're really great, i've been taking them for a few months now. they have organic, whole food ingredients!

 

[Sakura15]

Heya ladies!

How's it going? It's JUNE!! I'm awaiting my 2nd-last O before TTC. Can't believe how time is flying, but I love it.

Welcome, KalonKiki Good luck with the gender swaying! Do you already have little ones?

FlossieAus & AnglophileAsh - thanks so much for that recommendation! I will certainly try to find that ointment online and give it a go.

busytulip - for some reason, I've noticed I've been slacking on my vitamins lately. I really need to kick it back up. My exercise plan is a bit in flux now with my back issues and having to stop running, but I have gone swimming 3 times this past week and hoping to get approval from the physio today for some low-impact gym work-outs, so we'll see!

It's actually been a bit tough staying positive about my health goals but due in part to support from the ladies on this board, I'm getting my head back in the game and switching things up so that I can keep toning up while rehab-ing my back.

In the middle of that it seems OH is having some doubts. In general, he's definitely talking about our future lives as parents as though it's a definite, but I picked up some hesitation around August as our specific TTC date. Since my Mirena removal, we have been using the rhythm method as bc. I asked if he wanted me to start taking the pill or something and suspend our TTC plans, and he doesn't want to do that. I think it's the seriousness of becoming parents and the way our relationship will change that's freaking him out a little bit. He's been sentimental lately about how carefree we were in the first year or two of our relationship. Whether we TTC in August or not, those days are not coming back, but I do think it's been good for us to think about what kind of relationship we'd like to build and keep being intentional about that, baby or not. So my perspective now is that the plan stays in place for now, but I'll need to make sure I'm tuned in to how he's feeling and thinking about things, and not just get locked into my own vision of how I want things to happen.

Anybody else dealing with doubts from your OH as the time draws near?

 

[AnglophileAsh]

My OH is definitely on board with having the kiddos, but he's started balking about the current timeline, with what we might need to do in regards to legal things prior to having one as we are engaged, but not yet married (I have another thread here started on this topic so I won't go into all of that here). It's made him want to push the TTC date back and I'm like, "um, there's going to be a party in my uterus, and you'd better RSVP for a YES!"

He's not wrong to have some concerns, but it's not something insurmountable or a reason to push it back. He's going to be 34 this fall, and wants to start having kids no later than him turning 35, AND he wants an early-summer birth so he can't be interested in pushing it that much further, heehee.

 

[Earthylove]

Hi Sakura! Thanks for the updates
Yeah, I can sense some hesitation in my OH too when it comes to our ttc date. He definitely wants to be a father, but I think the fact that it is moving from a distant future idea to a reality is really freaking him out. That's probably normal, I mean it's a little surreal and scary for me too but I think I'm way ore excited about it. He doesn't really talk about it much. But he has stated that he just has uncertainties about money and feeling "ready". He at least hasn't outright said no, so I'm trying not to press him too much about it..I think he'll be happy once it actually happens, but it's the anticipating part that is anxiety-producing.

 

[burningsnow]

Hello everyone, new here!

We're going to start TTC in August/September. We decided last fall that we would start trying then but now OH is getting cold feet... but I'm really hoping he goes through with it.

I'd love to talk with other people who are going to start trying in Aug/Sept. What you're doing for preparations, etc. It's getting closer and closer and I'm so excited I need other people to talk to about it!

 

[AnglophileAsh]

Welcome, burningsnow!

I think several of you ladies have mentioned you've already stopped whatever birth control methods you were using - I stopped the ring at the end of March, myself. And now that my body is regulating itself I am having some crazy-yet-actually-normal things happening with my body, stuff that the BC usually suppressed along with the baby-makin' hormones. Things like way more oil/grease production, especially in my face (resulting in more spots and blemishes, ugh), my breasts are way more sensitive and painful (where they were pretty much numb before), and a HUGE increase in libido. [hope that's not TMI, but we're going to be talking about cervical mucus and bloody shows together one day, right?] Edited to add: the weirdest thing to date has been my teeth on the right side - for 2 months in a row, during the week that I'm ovulating, the upper teeth have been FREAKISHLY painful to the touch (or, you know, chew). I was due a dental cleaning anyway after the first one, but couldn't get in for a week or so. They did x-rays and there's no cavities, plus the pain had subsided and gone away by the time of my visit. My only major change is the BC, and when it happened again a couple of weeks ago for my second O, I started to think it might be related.

Has anyone else noticed major changes in their body once it's gone back to the full range of bodily functions?

 

[Lola_0106]

AnglophileAsh - yes! Major libido increase, it's none exsistant when I'm on BC so it's a welcome change! Also major breast tenderness I've just finished my first AF since coming off BC and it wasn't fun! Back to the agonising, heavy periods I used to have. Also, im sure everyone is with me, there's no such thing as too much info in groups like these!

I'm struggling today, I'm really ready to be pregnant again. And the only thing stopping that is me. I know why I want to wait until August, but it's not easy when I know I could just start trying now and DH would be on board. But deep down, I know August is the right time for us. I just need to keep remembering!

 

[busytulip]

Welcome burningsnow

Lola~Thank you! They offer the Deva vegan on Vitacost, added plus is they are currently on sale
I feel the same as you. It seems as though many of my friends are newly pregnant and that doesn't help. My DH would also be on board in a heartbeat, which is made even more difficult as we don't take precautions against pregnancy.

Earthylove~ unfortunately I haven't been sticking with my strictly vegan diet. My LO has several allergies including all nuts, tomatoes, bananas, and soy. I have cheated and no longer avoid eggs. Is your OH the main financial provider (or plans to be with your family expanding)? I think it's normal for our partners to shy away due to anxiety over finances.

Sakura~ I hope that rehab is going well and that the ointment the other ladies suggested has offered some relief.

Anglophile~ the severe tooth sensitivity is kind of weird, that must be pretty awful as well Hopefully it's not too painful with your next O.

I've never taken any form of birth control and am unfamiliar with how much your body changes during or especially after withdrawing BC methods. It sounds like some of you are experiencing some rough times though, hopefully all those things are very temporary. I look forward to sharing the journey ahead with you guys and hopefully seeing tons of BFP's this fall!

Oh, and also don't believe anything is TMI here.

 

[Earthylove]

i don't blame you busytulip, nuts and soy are pretty big parts of many vegan diets. allergies can be a challenge when you're trying to eat plant based, because of the necessity to have variety. I have a friend who is vegan and is allergic to soy, gluten and some random vegetables. it's hard because a lot of vegetarian/vegan substitutes have soy or gluten in them! I will occasionally have an egg when I have a craving for them

Yeah! my OH will be the main financial provider soon, even before when we have our first. Im sure you're right about it being normal, especially when they feel a lot of responsibility to provide financially..

 

[cupcake.]

hey ladies How was everyone's weekend?

I went camping with a couple friends which was super fun and the weather was great and sunny everyday! yay!
I feel like things are going to get serious now very quickly! I started taking prenatals and also got OH to take a daily multivitamin.
Also, I scheduled an appointment with my dentist and with a new ob/gyn (i wanted to change for quite a while and since I have to o to appointments quite a lot as soon as I am pregnant, i definitely want to change now haha) on july 2nd.

My older sister (she's 24) recently changed doctors (she loves the one she goes to now so I'm changing to the same one) and he suspects that she might have PCOS. I'm so sad for her, i really don't want her to have to go through struggles when she wants to have children.. And at the same time now I am scared that maybe I have it too.. She says she sometimes doesn't have periods for months, which isn't the case for me, but my periods aren't exactly regular.. I just got my period after a 38 day cycle, the last one was 32 days, the two before that 36, the one before that 32, the one before that only 24 (although that was kind of an odd one, mostly my cycles are 31-35 days). I'm not sure if that is already irregular enough to point towards something being wrong :/

So now i kinda can't wait for the appointment because I'm hoping that everything is fine and working properly

 

[mrsjarebear]

Hello Everyone,

Sounds like everyone is doing well in their planning stages and setting great goals.

I have been missing in action as I am currently waiting to find out what is happening with my job. We had planned for August, but I am going to need to reapply for my job as they are changing it from a term to permanent and it is a union job so I need to reapply. The only issue is a current permanent employee could apply and would have priority over me as I am a term employee. Should find out in the next two week. But it has really knocked me down a few notches. I was so excited to start trying and we had everything figured out until this bump. Hubby says maybe we can start trying anyway but then I won't be bringing in an income while pregnant or getting Maternity Leave/Pay (which in Canada is a year). So we shall see. Trying not to stress out too much but as a close friend just announced her pregnancy I am finding it hard not to focus on it. Have continued to take my prenatals, drink more water, work out, and eat healthy - though with the uncertainty it is getting harder. Hope all is well with all of you, and wish me luck

 

[busytulip]

mrsjare I'm so sad to hear this. Hopefully it will be a moot point and you will given the permanent position. It's hard to not think about TTC when others are in that season of life around you.

cupcake your 'older' sister is 24? I feel ancient now. lol I'm glad that you were able to switch OB's and hope that your new one will be a better fit. I would also fear that I would be taking after a sibling with reproductive issues. I'm hopeful that isn't the case for you.

We had a good weekend. We spent Saturday at a nearby lake. It was beautiful and serene.

Earthy I was put on bed rest in the second month of my last pregnancy and have been a SAHM since. It was kind of an adjustment financially, but I do not regret the decision to stay home at all.

Is anyone else swayed one way or the other on whether you'll be working or staying at home with a LO?

 

[Lola_0106]

mrsjare I'm so sad to hear this. Hopefully it will be a moot point and you will given the permanent position. It's hard to not think about TTC when others are in that season of life around you.

cupcake your 'older' sister is 24? I feel ancient now. lol I'm glad that you were able to switch OB's and hope that your new one will be a better fit. I would also fear that I would be taking after a sibling with reproductive issues. I'm hopeful that isn't the case for you.

We had a good weekend. We spent Saturday at a nearby lake. It was beautiful and serene.

Earthy I was put on bed rest in the second month of my last pregnancy and have been a SAHM since. It was kind of an adjustment financially, but I do not regret the decision to stay home at all.

Is anyone else swayed one way or the other on whether you'll be working or staying at home with a LO?

I'm a SAHM. It's hard and we aren't always in the best place financially. We can't take trips and go on holidays as often as we like and we can only have one car, which my husband needs for work. But I wouldn't change it! I have struggled with depression and anxiety and work made that worse, being a SAHM gives me such happiness. I write for an online site in my 'spare' time (when DH baths my son) so I get to keep busy. I admire working mums so much though! They always seem to have it together! I'm at home and my house is still upside down and I'm so disorganised ha!

 

[busytulip]

How funny, 'spare' time. I don't know how WAHM get anything done. High five Lola!

 

[Earthylove]

I'm glad you guys mentioned being SAHMs, because that's something I have been thinking a lot about lately. I would really love to stay at home when I start having kids. I guess I'm uneasy because I will have just finished my master's program by the time i have my first and I feel pressure to enter the field right away to gain experience. I keep telling myself that i will have time to gain experience and there are ways for me to stay current in the field, so I shouldn't let that dictate my decision. there's also the fact that we would like to have our kids fairly close together in age, so it doesn't make a lot of sense to me to have to continually be on maternity leave! I'm thinking that when i start work, i should wait till i'm done having kids and they're at an age where i feel comfortable having them in some type of daycare or school.. because I would eventually like to start work. I love what i've learned and I'm eager to use it. I'm just more eager to be a mom and stay home with my babies!

 

[busytulip]

I think that it's different for everyone. I've been both a working mom and a stay at home mom. I was miserable as a working mom. I missed my children tremendously. Thankfully I have the choice, some parents don't have that luxury.

I too went back to school and have felt the pressure to be working in my field. Others usually get confused when I tell them I have a degree in the medical field but am not currently using it.

 

[cupcake.]

Busytulip, haha sorry! It's not that she's old just older than me I'm only 22 so i just might be the youngest one here

In other news, i just got offered a job interview! I'm almost done with my work stuy program (it's kind of a german thing where you work in a firm but also go to school part time so when you're done you're a certified worker in whatever field you studied) and the company i work at right now won't keep me after i finish, so after july 1st where i have my last exam i won't have work.. i hope i'll find something new quickly, ideally starting july 15. I sent out a bunch of applications already, so fingers crossed something will work out!
It's not in a field i'd ideally like to work at, but since i will hopefully be pregnant soon it doesn't really matter that much, it's just important for me to be able to save a little before we have a baby and also gain a little experience before I have to stay home for a couple months/maybe up to 2 years