WTT - August 2015

[Autumn leaves]

Anglohileash I can relate! Both this month and last I've had horrendous horrendous tooth pain just before o!! Upper jaw! I had same thing re cavities!


When in August is everyone due to ovulate!? I'm due to 3rd! Not too long now 😃

 

[busytulip]

cupcake-I was just teasing. Good luck at your interview!

Autumn I'm not due until the last week in August. I have very long cycles too, does anyone else? It makes waiting feel like an eternity.

 

[cupcake.]

thanks busytulip! I'm not too keen on that job though, i hope maybe something else I applied for will work out, but can't be too picky. I also had a spontaneous phone interview today! I just sent out the application this morning, so I was surprised to hear back so soon. The position sounds super interesting and another huge plus: it would be Home Office. Technically I'm not exactly qualified for that position, but the man who called me said that for them it's mostly important that the personality fits into the company and they would much rather teach someone some of the technical stuff than hire a pro that doesn't fit personality-wise. So we'll see, I have to send them a motivation letter and then the guy I talked to will send all my stuff to the boss who makes the decision. I don't have high hopes, but it would definitely be awesome to be able to work from home!

 

[busytulip]

That would be fantastic cupcake! Personality goes a long way! Good luck writing your motivation letter.

 

[KalonKiki]

Hey ladies, I'm back from my honeymoon! :wave:

I'm trying to convince DH to start TTC in a couple of weeks. He says that he's ready, he just wants to make sure that our finances are "ready" too. I'm hopeful that he'll give the go-ahead when he sees his paycheck.

If we end up needing to wait until August I'll be due to O August 23rd. It's not ideal as now that we're married I'm beyond ready to TTC this coming cycle (it's due to start in 3 days) but obviously I can't make a baby without him and if he doesn't feel like we are ready financially then there isn't much I can do about it.

 

[AnglophileAsh]

Congratulations on your wedding, KalonKiki! Hope everything went off without a hitch! And good luck on the job front, Cupcake!

AF arrived for me today, and it seems funny to me - I'm actually excited to get it, because it's one of the last ones I'll have, hopefully, for a long time if all goes well. One more next month, and while July looks like it will be a NTNP month (August would confirm a BFP), this is either my second to last or third to last! Just one more marker of time going by!

We might possibly be certifiably insane here, too - my fiancé and I decided to set our wedding day for end of next summer! If we conceive by the end of September, we're ok with having a newborn (that's because we have NO idea what we're in for!), but if we don't conceive by end of Sep. we'll go back to WTT until after the wedding next year. Otherwise, due to outside factors, we'd have to wait until 2018 for a proper wedding! So, newborn + wedding = crazy, right???

 

[AnglophileAsh]

Oh, and referencing the earlier convos - I'd looooove to be a SAHM! We've been trying to budget for me to take at least a year off work, and for the fiancé to take 3 months (part of why we think we can finagle a wedding in there). But there's been rumblings of a potential job that is less than 10 minutes from home, and my contact there already knows we're going to be TTC fairly soon, and she said they'd almost certainly be able to work with me on going part-time for 6 months or so after the baby before returning to FT status. That could be a pretty sweet deal!!!

 

[busytulip]

Welcome back KalonKiki! Really August is only a couple weeks, so maybe it will be easy to convince him to start a little earlier.

Anglophile FX'd you get a speedy BFP. How big of a wedding are you hoping to plan for? A newborn and a wedding would be difficult but doable.

 

[busytulip]

I'm kind of envious that your partner would get to take 3 months off. My DH was able to manage 2 weeks off and 1 of those weeks he wasn't really off he just worked from home.

 

[justmeinlove]

Newborn + wedding sounds like a Really bad idea tbh. You don't know what sort of delivery you will have, how the baby would be...how newborn are you thinking??

 

[AnglophileAsh]

The wedding would be pretty small (app. 50 people - to me, that's small I guess! Ha). It would be about 15 months from now, and if we conceive around August, we'd probably have a May/June baby (depending on whether it would come early or late). So an 8/27 or 9/3 wedding is the thought. We'd be right at the tail end of that "fourth trimester." TBH, I do have my doubts about how much stress it will add - this is our first baby, and we have NO idea what to expect (and of course, expect the unexpected!), although I've done waaaay more research into things (DF thinks we'll just be changing diapers 2-3x a day! D. I'll be breastfeeding, and needing to fit back into whatever dress I get (DF suggestion: "can't you get it adjusted earlier that day?"). So there's definitely reasons to be concerned about it all happening at once.

But it has a lot to do with when his parents can afford to be here from the UK, and the next time won't be until 2018. DF's first marriage did not have his parents present as it was kind of last-minute, and it's super-important to both of us. I adore his parents and his mom will be doing the cake(s)!

Now, if we wanted to push back our TTC...but neither of us wants THAT either, ha. So really, we just need a time machine so we could have met like, 2 years earlier! I think if I had to rein in my baby-dreams now that we're practically at the starting gate I'd have a really hard time adjusting back. WTT is already making me antsy!

 

[justmeinlove]

Well, just saying. For example I had an emcs, post natal depression (undiagnosed) and the baby had reflux. So by 12 weeks, I kind if didn't want to kill myself, but...
And obviously that totally might not be your experience but it seems a bit risky to.hang your wedding on it. But again, I had a Really bad experience! If you do it, def get wedding insurance!

 

[Earthylove]

Yeah, I can see how you'd want to make sure family was present. Could you do two services? Maybe one when his family from the UK can be there and then do some type of service or celebration another time when you feel things are more manageable? My DH and I had a very small service. There were like 15 people total, just immediate family and DH's best friend. It was very intimate and lovely and was very manageable. We put it all together while in the middle of grad school. Plus we had a very short engagement and put it all together in like 3 months. I guess what I'm saying is that scaling things back might allow you with more flexibility.. Just a thought!

 

[busytulip]

Earthylove I think 2 services is a great suggestion

 

[AnglophileAsh]

Thanks for the input, ladies! I definitely appreciate the perspectives, and we'll see how things work out. I hope it didn't seem like I was hijacking a baby thread to talk about wedding things - if these two are going to be in progress concurrently, they will probably be very intertwined for me

Anyone have fun plans for the weekend? I've got some pre-baby goals that need to get a move on - basically all of the "stuff" (boxes, furniture) that needs to get shuffled around, reorganized, donated, etc. in order to free up the room that will be the kid's room. And we're going to be telling my parents that we'll be TTC in a few months over Father's Day weekend next week! I'm nervous and excited about that convo.

 

[Autumn leaves]

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[mrsjarebear]

!!!!!!!
Hello Everyone!

Back with a very positive update! Got the job I was going for so I do not have to worry about looking for a new job, or pushing back TTC!!! When I told the hubby I said looks like we are still on for August, and he told me that even if I didn't get it he would have been okay with trying in August anyway But this way I will be employed and then will get my 1 year mat leave Yay!

Glad I kept up on my prenatals, fitness, and eating healthy... At one point I was thinking whats the point and was ready to give up.

Hope everyone is doing wonderfully. As for the wedding advice, my personal advice is wait until after your wedding to try. We got married last year, and I couldn't imagine doing all the planning and such while pregnant, let alone being a few months post partum for the wedding day. Who knows if you need a C-section and how that would feel with a wedding dress on it and such. Not sure how old you are but waiting till after might be an option? Is there any way you could push the wedding forward to WTT wouldn't be so far away?

Just some options from my experience, that being said I don't have a baby yet so not sure how easy or hard the post partum part is

51 more days still we start trying! Ekkkk... It is going to fly by, going to Galapagos Islands for 3 weeks next Saturday, then we come back for two week then are gone again for a week in Montana (which is where we will start trying). Beyond excited and happy wooohoooo!!!!!

 

[busytulip]

Welcome back Mrsjarebear! Congratulations on getting the job!!
Have fun while vacationing-that should really help the time seem to pass by more quickly.

 

[Sakura15]

Hi ladies!

I feel so out of touch these days! It's the absolute craziest time of year for me at work, and I'm being pulled in all directions. Been itching to pop in and say hi.

Congrats to the newlyweds and hurray for vacations!

I just had a weekend away with some girlfriends from work and it was great. Hard to believe how quickly August is coming now.

I might actually be in a TWW now...? My cycle has been very odd. Based on FF and BBT, I first thought I had ovulated around CD15. I didn't have a positive on my OPKs, but I figured I had just missed the window as I only tested once daily. So OH & I BD'd unprotected around CD20. But then my temperature started doing weird, funky things, FF said it could no longer confirm O. I decided to start taking the OPKs again, and had absolutely glaring positives on CD22! Then my temps shifted big time, and FF changed the day of O. So OH and I BD'd right in the fertile zone. Just once, so chances are nothing's caught. But chances also are....

I let him know what was going on, and the reaction was not that favourable. He's kind of in a 'let's see how it goes' mode, but he definitely would prefer me not to be pregnant. I don't really think I am, (CD28 now), but I'm a little sad because I absolutely would not mind having an "oops" and getting pregnant ahead of schedule, but he's a bit antsy. Our summer travels start soon - provided there's no bean, I'm thinking we should shelf the whole WTT plan for the next couple of months, and then just see where our heads are at in August. Maybe we'll TTC then, maybe we'll put it off? I dunno.

What I need to figure out for myself is, if he's still not ready, how long am I willing to wait? And what if it suddenly occurs to him that he doesn't want kids after all? What would I do then??

 

[busytulip]

I don't even know what to say Sakura. I'm sorry. Do you think it's because having your first baby is really scary and that is why your OH is seemingly getting cold feet? If you guys had talked it over and agreed to a plan then I would definitely say that is what it is. Perhaps an oopsie would be a blessing in disguise. Either way I pray that whatever your future holds that you find happiness.