You know when you can't use a name because you didn't like someone already called it?

[Jody R]

Well someone I really do not like has used a name a really loved for her baby and now I'm annoyed that we have the same taste And obviously even if I did get the opportunity to use it now I never would because it makes me think of her.

This person (not on B&B as far as I know) has three children and two have names I don't like (so I was happy she had bad taste lol) and one has a name that was on my shortlist once and now it's ruined

I know it's a common problem when people say "oh I loved the name but there was a really awful child at school with me called it and so I can't use it."

But going off a name because a really awful person who is called something else entirely has used it for their child feels different.

This is just out of interest and for fun really but I am curious. Is it normal or do I just bear a grudge that little bit further than everyone else

 

[Leanne020807]

Its normal to not pick a name because you know someone called the same and it kinda reminds you of them so you put off by it instantly, If you really like this name then i would use it, when your child is 1 year old and you call them you wont be reminded of that other person, the name will become your childs name not the other persons.

 

[Iris]

Argh! Had to reply as it happened to me too and I was gutted!
I had this one name picked for years for 'when I had a baby', in all that time noone I knew or knew of had used the name and someone I know who's always made me feel uncomfortable has just called her baby that.
The person is the type to say I copied her and be really bitter about it if we happened to cross paths too. One of those girls who was a bully at school but hasn't changed into adulthood.

If she was nice and sweet (and mature!) I would have used my name regardless so I did get very upset and think of all the people in all the world why YOU? It's not even a name I would have thought she'd like, if anything I would have thought she'd take the pee out of it. But I'd rather have had that!

Holding onto it though, if we have another baby in a couple of years I think thats enough time to have let her have her moment. She doesn't OWN the name after all...

 

[JellyBeann]

yeah...I know...I do it too...My mum gave me the name Gemma (which I hate) because she wanted to call me Leigh (my middle name) but couldn't cos my dad had a daughter with his now wife called Leah and it ''was too similar''...didn't stop them calling their next child Emma, did it! (this is a sore spot for me...I love my middle name, hate my first lol)

 

[LoolaBear]

i am a sod for name association! and also no matter how much i love a name if its too popular i wont use it as this also puts me off!
really makes choosing names difficult so i always end up making a list of names i do like and oh narrows the lists down. thats how we chose the names for this baby.
and with the twins it was a case of you choose name for our son i choose the name for our daughter and it worked that way. we had to agree on the names though so it did kinda make things difficult for him as if it was associated to osmeone i didnt like it wa a big no no and if it was too popular again a big no no!
its like i love the name Lauren but one my best friend is called lauren and two (apart from my friend) all other laurens i have come across in my life have been complete bitches! xx

 

[trumpetbum]

this is why I'm loathe to confirm to people that baby will be called Luca, even though I know this is his name. For dd2, my dh really wanted to use Gary but I thought was a tad dated and since I'd known a lovely little boy called Junior in my childhood had decided to use this, although officially calling him Gary. Well, a little after dd was born Katie Price used it for her wee boy and that just ruined it for me. I'm just waiting for Natalie Cassidy to call her kid Luca and totally ruin that name for me too

 

[hopeandpray]

I think everyone does that, you asociate the name with the negative things about the person and then the name is ruined!