ChimChims
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Hi! I am looking around to see if there is anyone else who has been through this.
Basically my daughter had shoulder dystocia (she was over 12lb at birth and we had been told we should be given an ult that morning, but were not) after her head was delivered. I'd had two failed epidurals, so was able to feel all of this.
Anyway, one minute I am pushing to the chants of a room full of nurses (that should've tipped me off to emergency), and the next second I am thinking "Who just stuffed me with a cabbage?!?!"
Turns out the doctor had shoved her back inside of me. At that point (from what he told hubs) she was sunny-side up and he wanted her to face down. When he had me push her head back out the second time, his turning her body had wrapped her cord around her neck and she was turning blue. Much to my shock, he shoved her back inside me a second time. I had the exact same thought "Who just stuffed me with a cabbage?!?!"
I pushed her head out the third time - meaning her head had passed my pubic bone five times now - and he began to call for an OR. She had flat-lined, and was dead/dying. The next thing I know the room is completely full (standing room only) and everyone is screaming to PUSH, so I did. The swarm of scrubs made a ring around where I knew but could not see my dd was lying. I kept hearing "I need a bigger respirator." Not long after she was whisked out of the room to their nursery where they bagged air into her lungs manually for five hours until the ambulance arrived to take her to a NICU hours away from us.
The result was that she'd had shoulder dystocia and he intentionally broke her clavical. She did come off the ventilator, but had suffered Erb's Palsy (the tearing of nerves in her neck, causing paralysis down her arm), her heart was pumping her blood backwards through itself in panic, and her liver/kidneys were spitting poison amongst other things. She also had the largest hemotoma they had ever seen, covering the majority of her head (which lay like mush), and was bruised head to foot. For days we just sat there and watched her b/c to hold her would bring her pain. There is more to the story, but it is emotional and exhausting to tell.
She did get out of the NICU and thank God, also came out of therapy with no further damage. By the grace of God her injuries healed and by the time we realized that the doctor had killed her rather than just saving her (like we originally thought) it was too late to do anything about it. I wish to God this was on his record b/c I was told about 3 years later that the Zavanelli Maneuver is his go-to thing for big or stuck babies. So I know I am not the only one out there to have been through this... but is there anyone else out there on BnB who has had a similar experience?
This pregnancy is a shock and a blessing, but I have a different OB and this time around I am getting high quality care and will be given a csection. (My vagina was blown out in that delivery - I tore all the way up to my cervix/uterus and he had to cut it back open and then burn up the new cut six weeks later. He also stuck both arms inside me up to the elbow after the delivery when we were alone in the room and tore out my placenta manually. I will never give birth 'naturally' again, and I am thankful.
So please tell me... anyone else have any horrer stories they feel they can't share with other new moms b/c they don't want to scare them? I wish I had known more and demanded an ultrasound that day. I was told at 30 weeks that she was big and I'd need careful monitoring from then out, but never had another ultrasound again. This time I have them about every 3 weeks.
Basically my daughter had shoulder dystocia (she was over 12lb at birth and we had been told we should be given an ult that morning, but were not) after her head was delivered. I'd had two failed epidurals, so was able to feel all of this.
Anyway, one minute I am pushing to the chants of a room full of nurses (that should've tipped me off to emergency), and the next second I am thinking "Who just stuffed me with a cabbage?!?!"
Turns out the doctor had shoved her back inside of me. At that point (from what he told hubs) she was sunny-side up and he wanted her to face down. When he had me push her head back out the second time, his turning her body had wrapped her cord around her neck and she was turning blue. Much to my shock, he shoved her back inside me a second time. I had the exact same thought "Who just stuffed me with a cabbage?!?!"
I pushed her head out the third time - meaning her head had passed my pubic bone five times now - and he began to call for an OR. She had flat-lined, and was dead/dying. The next thing I know the room is completely full (standing room only) and everyone is screaming to PUSH, so I did. The swarm of scrubs made a ring around where I knew but could not see my dd was lying. I kept hearing "I need a bigger respirator." Not long after she was whisked out of the room to their nursery where they bagged air into her lungs manually for five hours until the ambulance arrived to take her to a NICU hours away from us.
The result was that she'd had shoulder dystocia and he intentionally broke her clavical. She did come off the ventilator, but had suffered Erb's Palsy (the tearing of nerves in her neck, causing paralysis down her arm), her heart was pumping her blood backwards through itself in panic, and her liver/kidneys were spitting poison amongst other things. She also had the largest hemotoma they had ever seen, covering the majority of her head (which lay like mush), and was bruised head to foot. For days we just sat there and watched her b/c to hold her would bring her pain. There is more to the story, but it is emotional and exhausting to tell.
She did get out of the NICU and thank God, also came out of therapy with no further damage. By the grace of God her injuries healed and by the time we realized that the doctor had killed her rather than just saving her (like we originally thought) it was too late to do anything about it. I wish to God this was on his record b/c I was told about 3 years later that the Zavanelli Maneuver is his go-to thing for big or stuck babies. So I know I am not the only one out there to have been through this... but is there anyone else out there on BnB who has had a similar experience?
This pregnancy is a shock and a blessing, but I have a different OB and this time around I am getting high quality care and will be given a csection. (My vagina was blown out in that delivery - I tore all the way up to my cervix/uterus and he had to cut it back open and then burn up the new cut six weeks later. He also stuck both arms inside me up to the elbow after the delivery when we were alone in the room and tore out my placenta manually. I will never give birth 'naturally' again, and I am thankful.
So please tell me... anyone else have any horrer stories they feel they can't share with other new moms b/c they don't want to scare them? I wish I had known more and demanded an ultrasound that day. I was told at 30 weeks that she was big and I'd need careful monitoring from then out, but never had another ultrasound again. This time I have them about every 3 weeks.