°°*°September 2012 Mommies To Be/Due Dates°°*°

[mumsince2010]

Hello ladies, well its been awhile since i posted... sigh...
ive skimmed through what ive missed.

welcome all the new mummies!!
to everyone whose had good news... thats GREAT!
those who found out their bubs gender... YAY
Relationship problems. for those whove worked things out... WOOT and those who havent... Youre better off... haha

Jessy.. wow, dont ever think you have failed your little girl! this is not your fault. these things happen. unfortunately there is not much we can do, except try to fix it as best we can once we find out.

so... i had my 20 week scan on the 7th... my little girl is growing wonderfully... she is perfect. had my 20 week check up monday just gone... sigh

i dont know what i am supposed to do... she is perfect, healthy... and i am wasting away. ive lost 10kgs, i have a low haemoglobin count, low iron, so im anemic. i faint, i cant get out of bed. my pregnancy is ultimately killing me and my drs want to induce me in the next week and terminate the pregnancy. they cant give me a definite answer as to the consequences if i continue with the pregnancy. so... how am i supposed to let them terminate my pregnancy if she is perfectly healthy.... this is sorta why i havent been on the site for a while. ive been trying to get my head around it. they have no idea why my pregnancy is having this affect on me. my pregnancy with my son was perfect, it was textbook, and this one has been nothing but complications...

 

[holywoodmum]

No way, they can't seriously suggest that can they? Surely there must be things they can try before taking such drastic action - nutrional supplements, iron tablets, rest and physio for you? Sweetie that's horrible to hear, but I wouldn't let them bully you in to anything. Obviously I'm not suggesting you let yourself waste away to nothing, but there have to be other options surely?! Huge hugs for you petal xxx

 

[Elhaym]

Mumsince2010 I am so sorry, that is awful and they have no idea why this is happening? Are there any other specialists/consultants they can refer you to, get another opinion? I'd hope that if termination is an option, they'd do everything they can to try and find out what is happening first and if they can help, it seems such a drastic step! How scary for you, big hug and virtual hand hold to you xx

 

[PrincessTaz]

Jessy and Mumsince I am so sorry you're both going through these awful situations

Mumsince - Like Hollywood said, don't let them bully you into anything! It seems like such drastic action when you're only a stones throw from 24 weeks when they try and save baby. I'd want a 2nd opionion, surely there is something they can do to help you get just that few more weeks. My thoughts are with you and your family, try and stay storng

Jessy - You are not a failure as a mum at all, so don't ever think that! The fact that you care so much already shows what a wonderful mother you already are! I know it must be really worrying but the doctors aren't always right, you could still go full term. I'm not saying to ignore them, prepare for all scenarios and take on board everything they've said. Just keep positive and remember they aren't always right.

Lynne - Lists look great, gald I looked cause there was loads of stuff I'd missed

Hollywood - Glad you're feeling better

 

[holywoodmum]

Taz, I was going to say that about 24 weeks as well - even just managing to hang on until then so an induction would have a so much better chance

 

[Elhaym]

Yeah it just seems crazy they cant hang on for just a few more weeks if baby is healthy, even if it means keeping you in hospital for that time mumsince, on supplements/IV etc. We're all rooting for you and your daughter, please keep us updated when you can xx

 

[miss malteser]

Mumsince and Jesy, so sorry that you´re both having to go through this.

Jesy - it is not your fault at all. Get taking those supplements and iron tablets and make sure you eat well and I´m sure everything will be fine. Our bodies react in weird ways sometime to pregnancy and for whatever reason yours doesn´t seem to be getting all the good stuff out of what you´re eating and passing that on to Cora, but that´s not your fault. This is why we have our docs and midwives, to help us through things like this when our bodies don´t want to work properly!

Mumsince - I don´t know what to say. It´s obviously a very personal choice but a termination to me would seem the last possible option only when everything else has been tried and tested. It must be awful for you and I can´t imagine how you must feel after losing 10kg but surely keeping you in hospital, on fluids, controlling your diet, getting you on supplements, would be better than a termination?? Especially as the LO is healthy. Only you will know if that´s possible or not but talking about a termination when you are so close to 24 weeks just seems so drastic. Saying that, if you are going to put your own life at risk (I don´t know if it is that serious or not) you have to take into consideration many other aspects, including your son. Good luck with the decision and remember that we are all here if you need to let off some steam.

x

 

[MommaAlexis]

Yeah I would get a second opinion. I wouldn't risk a life just cause some doctor thinks it'll be too much effort.

 

[kasey c]

Mumsince I agree with everyone else there must be other things they can do such as vitamins and supplements -termination seems drastic when the baby is healthy and doing well and as others have said you have only 3 weeks left until 24 weeks when they could induce you then and the baby would have a fighting chance of survival. Sending you big hugs hun xxxx

 

[kasey c]

Just a quick question for the U.S members on here- still not particularly sure how I go about sorting out an obstretician- do I contact one independently or do I need to first get a general practitioner who will then refer me to an obstretician? I am very confused about how it all works over here in the U.S. We have got our medical insurance all in place now so that's not an issue. Thanks and sorry if I'm being completely stupid! Xx

 

[lynne192]

get a 2nd opinion my son almost killed me, but he was 33weeks when he was born, i had a god awful pregnancy with him they tried at the start to get me to end my pregnancy but i just couldn't i would be seeking as much advice as i could have they got you on meds and blood transfusions etc? with James i was on bedrest for 17weeks and in hospital alot of the time i really hope something comes up soon how awful for you

 

[Jessy16]

Just a quick question for the U.S members on here- still not particularly sure how I go about sorting out an obstretician- do I contact one independently or do I need to first get a general practitioner who will then refer me to an obstretician? I am very confused about how it all works over here in the U.S. We have got our medical insurance all in place now so that's not an issue. Thanks and sorry if I'm being completely stupid! Xx

I contacted one independently. I have changed OB's since I fell pregnant as I didn't like my first one and I wasn't comfortable with her. Surprisingly I now have a man and I love him, he's great, so I am glad I made the change. Where in the US are you? I'm sure you've said before, I can't remember though! Don't apologize -- ask away! My sister said going from our healthcare system to the one in the UK was very confusing, so I'm sure it's the same coming from the UK to here.

 

[Jessy16]

mumsince2010, I don't even know what to say. I'm sorry you're going through this and I can only second what everyone else has says. Please consult another professional and make sure you take care of yourself.

 

[kasey c]

Just a quick question for the U.S members on here- still not particularly sure how I go about sorting out an obstretician- do I contact one independently or do I need to first get a general practitioner who will then refer me to an obstretician? I am very confused about how it all works over here in the U.S. We have got our medical insurance all in place now so that's not an issue. Thanks and sorry if I'm being completely stupid! Xx

I contacted one independently. I have changed OB's since I fell pregnant as I didn't like my first one and I wasn't comfortable with her. Surprisingly I now have a man and I love him, he's great, so I am glad I made the change. Where in the US are you? I'm sure you've said before, I can't remember though! Don't apologize -- ask away! My sister said going from our healthcare system to the one in the UK was very confusing, so I'm sure it's the same coming from the UK to here.

Thanks Jessy that's really helpful -thought that's what I had to do but wanted to check before going ahead and contacting an OB! We are in CT currently only 40 miles from NYC. I guess with the healthcare thing is what you are used to - even in the UK it can be very confusing especially with regards to arranging Midwife - it seems that every area has a different policy! How are you feeling today? Are you seeing the dietician? Xxx

 

[Jessy16]

I'm feeling a lot better thank you, definitely a lot less emotional which is always good! I have my appointment with the dietitian at 11am. I have missed so much school recently, I'm surprised I still know how to write! Ha. I'm trying to catch up on work in my free time so hopefully when I return to school tomorrow I won't have missed too much.

Ah Connecticut, the complete opposite side of the country to me as I'm in California! It's great that you're so close to NYC, do you think you'll visit there a lot? I live about 30 minutes west of Los Angeles, in a pretty small city. It's nice to be so close to a big place, in my case LA, without being directly in it if that makes sense!

 

[lyndsay49]

Jess and mumsince2010 so sorry you are both going through bad times at the moment, I really hope everything works out and you get all the help and support you need

Well I had a little stint in hospital last night. I was at work about to start a night shift and the right side of my face just swelled up and all my right side went numb and tingly. My blood pressure was really high and pulse really high, so I went to triage. They kept me in overnight to rule out preclampsia which luckily they have. I still have a numb face and both arms but they have sent me home and they don't know what it is, Just got to see if it gets any worse/better. Baby is fine and im 25weeks today so big sigh of relief there.

 

[mrsine]

Hi Everyone, sorry about the news Mumsince and Jessy. We are here to support you. Hope your baby is perfectly fine, Jessy and hope they find a solution that works for both you and baby Mumsince.

Glad you are ok Lyndsay

 

[kasey c]

I'm feeling a lot better thank you, definitely a lot less emotional which is always good! I have my appointment with the dietitian at 11am. I have missed so much school recently, I'm surprised I still know how to write! Ha. I'm trying to catch up on work in my free time so hopefully when I return to school tomorrow I won't have missed too much.

Ah Connecticut, the complete opposite side of the country to me as I'm in California! It's great that you're so close to NYC, do you think you'll visit there a lot? I live about 30 minutes west of Los Angeles, in a pretty small city. It's nice to be so close to a big place, in my case LA, without being directly in it if that makes sense!

Glad to hear that you are feeling a lot better and hope all has gone well with the dietician. Good luck with catching up on the work- I'm sure all will work out! We are planning on visiting NYC this weekend but don't think we intend to go lots and lots especially when our second little one arrives but it is nice to be near if we want to go. Definitely makes sense what you said though!

 

[kasey c]

Jess and mumsince2010 so sorry you are both going through bad times at the moment, I really hope everything works out and you get all the help and support you need

Well I had a little stint in hospital last night. I was at work about to start a night shift and the right side of my face just swelled up and all my right side went numb and tingly. My blood pressure was really high and pulse really high, so I went to triage. They kept me in overnight to rule out preclampsia which luckily they have. I still have a numb face and both arms but they have sent me home and they don't know what it is, Just got to see if it gets any worse/better. Baby is fine and im 25weeks today so big sigh of relief there.

Sorry to hear about your stint in hospital - hope you feel better soon and glad to hear baby is doing well and happy 25 weeks! Xx

 

[holywoodmum]

Lyndsay that sounds scary! glad they've ruled out Pre-e though!HI mrsine