°°*°September 2012 Mommies To Be/Due Dates°°*°

[Jessy16]

Keep pushing for the birth you want! I have clearly stated throughout my birth plan, which is already in my file and has been for a while, that I want the most natural birth possible and my OB was hesitant to agree to everything as here they like to encourage you to have all the medication possible which makes your medical bill even crazier! As if giving birth isn't expensive enough

 

[lynne192]

thats doesn't matter here so don't see the point its cheaper for them for me to have a home birth and its nhs money thats wasted if i use drugs, with james i was in labour 13days with 2 paracetimol so i think i'll be okay lol

 

[Jessy16]

I just had to google what paracetamol was, we don't say that here

 

[lynne192]

sorry no idea what you call it there its just a crappy over the counter painkiller for mild pain such as headaches or that

 

[kasey c]

Keep pushing for the birth you want! I have clearly stated throughout my birth plan, which is already in my file and has been for a while, that I want the most natural birth possible and my OB was hesitant to agree to everything as here they like to encourage you to have all the medication possible which makes your medical bill even crazier! As if giving birth isn't expensive enough

Jessy that is one of my main concerns of giving birth in the U.S is that they will encourage epidurals etc. just because they want more money out of you! I had a natural birth with Ben - no pain relief, initially was in the birthing pool which was lovely but unfortunately lost quite lot of blood and had to get out as they were worried that something wasn't quite right (nothing wrong just a load of show). I was out of hospital within 14 hours of giving birth. Loads of people said we should have a home birth this time but I am just not keen I would rather be at a hospital where if there is an emergency I will already be there and can be seen to straight away.

 

[miss malteser]

I am all for having the birth the mother wants and can understand you prefering not to have any pain relief (although I´m definitely not brave enough for that myself!!) however as your son was born so early and as you haven´t had the easiest pregnancy up to now, maybe the docs are against a home birth for your safety and the baby´s safety. I know a lot of medical staff aren´t perfect, make mistakes and some have a crappy bedside manner but at the end of the day I always think that in the majority of cases they know far more than we do about these matters. I´m sure that they would have no problem with you having a home birth if they thought that the risks were minimal. However, if unfortunately, things don´t go as smoothly as they should do, would it not be better to have a team of specialists close to hand with the possibility of providing immediate care to you and your little girl, without the hassle of wasting valuable time waiting for an ambulance, getting to the hospital, and making everyone there aware of what´s going on and what they have to do?

I´m not against home births at all and definitely not trying to say that your decision is the wrong one, but maybe trying to see it from the docs point of view instead of seeing them as the bad guys.

Good luck either way x

 

[lynne192]

i'm not going to be stupid about it hun only reason i have been refused is because my son was premature nothing else so after 36th week i don't see what the issues are with having a home birth. I've talked this over with OH, MIL and MIL's brother who was a doctor how retired. I am not against using pain relief in labour/birth either i just personally don't need it so don't see the point, i was more annoyed as was my partner that she was under minding me and telling me i would use it, when i know my body better than her... i don't trust them as far as i could throw them and i likely i will be left alone in a sterile hospital room most of the time some of which my OH wont be allowed near me not my thing, with DS even though he was early he was fine didn't need any extra care really, labour and birth was straightforward, this time in pregnancy had no major complications mostly medical staff jumping ahead of themselves to diagnose blood clots were there are none. the women who did my aneasthetic panel actually asked if i wanted a section she could book us one i was only there to get info on what was safe for me to have if baby was in danger and needed to be whipped out lol kinda scary they are so willing to offer a section when one is not needed lol going to talk to midwife about it as someone else in glasgow has been offered a home birth and she was on same colour pathway as me because she had a section midwife said she could, doctors can be against home births for little reason which can be difficult to deal with some are sooo set in their ways, guess home births if they did increase could put them out a job lol

 

[Jessy16]

Keep pushing for the birth you want! I have clearly stated throughout my birth plan, which is already in my file and has been for a while, that I want the most natural birth possible and my OB was hesitant to agree to everything as here they like to encourage you to have all the medication possible which makes your medical bill even crazier! As if giving birth isn't expensive enough

Jessy that is one of my main concerns of giving birth in the U.S is that they will encourage epidurals etc. just because they want more money out of you! I had a natural birth with Ben - no pain relief, initially was in the birthing pool which was lovely but unfortunately lost quite lot of blood and had to get out as they were worried that something wasn't quite right (nothing wrong just a load of show). I was out of hospital within 14 hours of giving birth. Loads of people said we should have a home birth this time but I am just not keen I would rather be at a hospital where if there is an emergency I will already be there and can be seen to straight away.

The doctors are very pushy towards epidurals etc and my goodness, you don't ever end up overdue here! I've seen people post here on BnB about how they'd delivered at almost 42 weeks -- my doctor has already told me if Cora Grace is late I'll be induced on the 24th -- I'm only due on the 22nd!! Other health care systems are like a whole other world, it's crazy. But yes, they are very focused towards epidurals and unnecessary procedures, so be very forceful when you are discussing things with you doctor (even when you're in labor as they don't always take previous conversations into consideration!) or you could end up with one shocker of a bill! Supposedly the average cost medical bill after having a baby is $15,000. Oh free health care where are you?!

 

[Jessy16]

Ps. 22 weeks today!!

 

[PrincessTaz]

Happy 22 weeks Jessy

I really want to have a natural water birth at the birth centre but the consultant won't agree to that until my 36 week checkup and if everything is still ok then I'll be able to. If not I'll have to go to another town as my town doesn't have a labour ward. The birth centre is amazing though, it's fully midwife led, every room had a a birth pool every room is huge and like a bedroom, there's a double bed so your partner can stay, a family room and visitors are allowed 24/7. The only downfall is if there is any complications or you wanted an epidural you would have to be transferred to another hospital that is a 7-15 drive depending on traffic! I do have my heart set on the birth centre though, mainly because I want OH to be able to stay with me and my sister and brother to be able to visit no matter what time I have LO.

Seen as I have an anterior placenta I'm still till not feeling much movement which is really depressing, I know it's nothing to worry about but I feel like I'm missing out! xx

 

[frantastic20]

Hey everyone, hope you're having a nice Sunday!

Taz - just wanted to say that I have an anterior placenta and it seems like it's taken forever but between 24-25 weeks the kicking really stepped up a notch, and DH felt him kick for the first time last weekend, and has been able to throughout the week. Plus I can now see my belly moving when he's kicking! And bear in mind that I am a size 22-24 as well, so plenty of fat layered over it too!!!

Hope you feel plenty soon!!

 

[PrincessTaz]

Thanks for sharing Frantastic, that's made me feel much better. I was so worried that I wasn't going to feel anything this whole pregnancy, I'm a uk 16-18 so that might not help. I look forward to OH hopefully being able to feel a few kicks over the next few weeks xxx

 

[lyndsay49]

Im almost 26 weeks and dont feel him move much, so I do worry a lot. He will have a mad 5minutes a day then just the odd kick. Im usually a size 14 too so not overly big. Im hoping he's just a laid back baby Oh and I dont have anterior placenta either.

 

[Jessy16]

I hope you're all having a great Sunday! It's hard to believe that those due at the beginning of September have a little more than 100 days to go -- then it's into single figures! How are you all feeling? Have you got a lot of things for your baby yet? We still haven't got a stroller, thankfully there's still plenty of time!

My next ultrasound is on Friday. I'm excited but nervous too. I'll be sure to keep you all updated. OH and I had a huge fight earlier. Pretty sure he's now gone back to being FOB. I guess I thought us being back together would be a good thing but it turns out it's just brought up a lot of anger and feelings, especially from him.

 

[MommaAlexis]

I'm in double digits!

 

[lynne192]

we have been working like made, we painted my room with two coats of paint room went from purple and cream to sunset yellow its actually really nice i put up the cotbed to see where in the room it would be put, it took all my effort to put it up i now refuse to take it down lol still need to get a mattress for it thought, i also gutted my cupboards under the bed and moved the whole room around, we also got nice new drawers for my room, james' room and two for the living room so alot more storage space lol bedroom is looking pretty good although little empty sure will fill it up although this is hardly space to breath lol got all baby's stuff we have so far all folded and put away in drawers, Me and OH also went out for dinner because we could not be bothered cooking lol its now 20 to 3 in the morning and we have been cleaning/painting/gutting since 1pm so best get some sleep.... it was a james free weekend so thats why we are trying to get everything done

I am now 22weeks and 2days gone only 1week and 5days till 24weeks thank god but think baby is pretty much settled where she is she's been moving around like made women although she does have very distinct patterns of awake and sleeping periods throughout the day, she also gets hiccups at least once a day too which is cute but can be rather painful she's very strong and her kicks are that too can often be pretty painful... been able to see her move around my stomach for the last few weeks and Daniel (OH) has been really enjoying reading and talking to her, she has given him alot of nice big kicks and alot of movement although it took her awhile as she used to get really settled when he was around

thats all my exams over and done with thank god, had 6 last week really need to rest doctors are still moaning at me to rest as much as possible. it will be summer soon so can rest then

anyways sorry for long story its been an all round productive day for me and only few weeks until on leave can not wait could have come soooner

 

[Elhaym]

Apart from buying some clothes - picked up some cute bits from Asda at the weekend - I have done bugger all! Need to start sorting things out really. Got a week off over the jubilee so a good chance to get going on it then.

Jessy, sorry to hear about FOB it might seem hard now but maybe its for the best, the main thing is making sure you and Cora are ok

Lynne my girl has distinct sleep cycles now, its amazing isn't it? Shes really active when awake, can feel her squirming. and rolling about and can see kicks from outside now! Glad your exams are done, good luck with results

AFM, 22 weeks today! 15 weeks till full term. Bloody hell. Sat here being kicked in the bladder

 

[lyndsay49]

Is anyone on here off sick at the moment?
Has I posted the other day I spent the night in hospital last week. I had one day off sick and I am due back to work on Wednesday. I work 12hr shifts and spend nearly all day on my feet and I really don't know how i'll manage.

I couldn't make it round Morrisons the other day and today I have walked my dogs and could only make it around the block. If I went to see my GP and told him this do you think he would give me a sick note or just tell me to get on with it because im not really poorly just cant move! I feel a bit pathetic but im sure thats why I ended up in hospital because of work.

 

[MommaAlexis]

I work nine hours a day and am not allowed any time off at all until I switch to part time in a month. I'm hoping she keeps being nice to mommy! Because I have no choice but to work through every day.

 

[Elhaym]

It's definitely worth asking your GP lyndsay, it may be that some more time off will help you recover. Is there any way they can help take the strain off you at work a bit? Have they done the risk assessment and all that stuff? Maybe there are things they can do to make it a bit easier for you x