14 and pregnant

[leeanne]

well i am 14 years old..and my boyfriend of 5 months knows about it and he is kinda happy about it he is a year and a half older than me 16..i have neer tooken the test but i know i am because of the feelings in my stomach..but i will find out for sure next week when he takes me...but i need advice to help tell my mom...she thought i was pregnant 2 months ago but we went to the clinic and they never told me anything....so she let it pass but not before she said she would force me to get an abortion..can anyone tell me how to convince her not to?

p.s. if i am the baby is due november 24 exactly 1 week after my b-day

Did they not test you when you went to the clinic 2 months ago? When you say they never told you anything, can you explain?

 

[14yearoldmomi]

I'm curious to when your last period was too? I think maybe you should tell your mum so she can buy you a test or loan the money off a friend - they only cost like £10.

It could be that the changes to your body are just puberty hormones kicking in and if you haven't had your period that could be cos of your age too - I have friends in the late teens who have irregular cycles so I wouldn't get your hopes up or down until you test.

Whatever happens though I hope you're ok and that everything works out. It's hard being pregnant at 20 - I couldn't imagine having gone through this 6 years ago!

i have had it regular for a year now i would kinda know
but i would def know by thursday

 

[14yearoldmomi]

Did they not test you when you went to the clinic 2 months ago? When you say they never told you anything, can you explain?

well did the cup thing and then they told me to sit down and about 15 minutes later the pap test and they told mem i was done and i could leave..the lady never said anything about it..it made me mad but as i was leaving by the person who did it she just smiled nd said have a good day she never said yes or no

 

[nikky0907]

The only way to know for sure is to take the test.

If your mom took you to a clinic two months ago wouldn't they pick up the pregnancy hormones?You're pretty far along now you know...

It's a bit weird that you haven't tested yet.You're 14,weren't you worried and anxious?

 

[nikky0907]

well did the cup thing and then they told me to sit down and about 15 minutes later the pap test and they told mem i was done and i could leave..the lady never said anything about it..it made me mad but as i was leaving by the person who did it she just smiled nd said have a good day she never said yes or no

You came for a pregnancy test and they never told you if you were pregnant?Did they call back with the results?Ask you mom.

 

[leeanne]

well did the cup thing and then they told me to sit down and about 15 minutes later the pap test and they told mem i was done and i could leave..the lady never said anything about it..it made me mad but as i was leaving by the person who did it she just smiled nd said have a good day she never said yes or no

Seems a bit strange to me. If they did a pee test and did confirm you were pregnant, they would have told you yes so that you can then go and get the proper health care. And I truly believe, if you are this far along, they would have been able to tell you were pregnant two months ago.

 

[14yearoldmomi]

The only way to know for sure is to take the test.

If your mom took you to a clinic two months ago wouldn't they pick up the pregnancy hormones?You're pretty far along now you know...

It's a bit weird that you haven't tested yet.You're 14,weren't you worried and anxious?

i really am but the problem is i cant keep a hold of money long enough to sneak out to a store though it was only 5 dollars hardly enough for one
i know it is wierd but i am always busy babysitting i never have eough time on my hands.

 

[Blah11]

idk I think you need to have a long hard think about if keeping this baby is the best for you and your unborn child. It's going to be very hard if you don't have any support and no money.

 

[Blah11]

i really am but the problem is i cant keep a hold of money long enough to sneak out to a store though it was only 5 dollars hardly enough for one
i know it is wierd but i am always busy babysitting i never have eough time on my hands.

That's not really a valid excuse. I bought my pregnancy test on my lunch break from work. What are you going to do when the baby comes if you don't even have enough time to test yourself :\

 

[Mynxie]

Honey, it might just be puberty. If you've been having periods, even if they're not like they usually are, it's unlikely that you'd be pregnant - especially as a test was done and no maternity healthcare was set up when you went to the clinic.

 

[14yearoldmomi]

Seems a bit strange to me. If they did a pee test and did confirm you were pregnant, they would have told you yes so that you can then go and get the proper health care. And I truly believe, if you are this far along, they would have been able to tell you were pregnant two months ago.

i went march 14 so it was 20 days after so ii am sure they could tell to but i think the lady was a bit reluctant since i told her i got of my period that morning it was barely spotting the next day after

 

[Mynxie]

even if you'd miscarried, it would be likely that they'd want to check you again a few weeks later to make sure that you didn't get an infection though huni

you need to take a test, to obviously get the result and put your mind at rest

 

[14yearoldmomi]

idk I think you need to have a long hard think about if keeping this baby is the best for you and your unborn child. It's going to be very hard if you don't have any support and no money.

luckily i do have suppoert but i am kindof trying to keep it from my mmom so that is another reason why i am kindof too scared to find out if i might be it is kind of undrstandable if your mom said she would make you get an abortion..if i am i would have money my boyfriend is starting work as soon as school is out next week if i am.

 

[nikky0907]

i went march 14 so it was 20 days after so ii am sure they could tell to but i think the lady was a bit reluctant since i told her i got of my period that morning it was barely spotting the next day after

It takes two years for cycles to be sorted out after your first period.

They wouldn't have taken it so lightly if you were pregnant,they would have said something.As Mynxie said it could just be puberty...

 

[14yearoldmomi]

even if you'd miscarried, it would be likely that they'd want to check you again a few weeks later to make sure that you didn't get an infection though huni

you need to take a test, to obviously get the result and put your mind at rest

i was talking about spotting the day after sex

 

[Mynxie]

That can happen for a few reasons huni, not just when you're pregnant. If he's too rough especially on certain days of your cycle, STIs....

You really need to do a test, to find out and put your mind at rest.... but you said that you told the nurse that you had just got your period which was barely spotting, you didn't say that it was spotting after sex huni

 

[VanWest]

I dont know where you live, but in the US, the Dollar Tree sell's pregnancy test for..$1, that's how I confirmed I was pregnant. If your teacher knows perhaps you could ask her to buy you a test.

 

[14yearoldmomi]

That can happen for a few reasons huni, not just when you're pregnant. If he's too rough especially on certain days of your cycle, STIs....

You really need to do a test, to find out and put your mind at rest.... but you said that you told the nurse that you had just got your period which was barely spotting, you didn't say that it was spotting after sex huni

i know i shouldve it was 7 so ic ouldny\t think i am one of those people with horrible memory in morning

 

[14yearoldmomi]

I dont know where you live, but in the US, the Dollar Tree sell's pregnancy test for..$1, that's how I confirmed I was pregnant. If your teacher knows perhaps you could ask her to buy you a test.

yeah i should ask my teacher huh thank you

 

[14yearoldmomi]

I dont know where you live, but in the US, the Dollar Tree sell's pregnancy test for..$1, that's how I confirmed I was pregnant. If your teacher knows perhaps you could ask her to buy you a test.

im talkin to my bf right now and he said that i have a baby bump i would post a pic if you guys want me too