14 and pregnant

[Danielle]

just assuming your pregnant isnt the way to go. take the test before thinking like that

 

[nikky0907]

im talkin to my bf right now and he said that i have a baby bump i would post a pic if you guys want me too

um..ok.Let us see if you have a bump,so we have a better view of the situation...

 

[AmysBumpNo3]

oh dear lord!

i really hope your bf gets decent pay at mcdonalds as you wont be able to rely on friends for money to bring up your child!

and as for a baby bump,it could just be a period bump. i always get a swollen tummy the week before my period is due. (well i did before i was pregnant! lol)

you seem totally confused, and also dont seem at all ready to have a child. are you sure your making the right choice? a sibling is for life and they grow up quick. within a blink of an eye your baby will be toddling around being a little monster unlike the sweet little bundle of joy it was when newborn. and you must not expect your mum to babysit everytime you feel like being a teenager again and going out with friends.its really not fair on your mum.

surely if your friends say theyl help out with the baby,theyl be able to lend you some money for a test? you must get one asap!

 

[MammaMia2008]

wow! I wish you good luck and hope your closest friends and family can help.

 

[14yearoldmomi]

oh dear lord!

i really hope your bf gets decent pay at mcdonalds as you wont be able to rely on friends for money to bring up your child!

and as for a baby bump,it could just be a period bump. i always get a swollen tummy the week before my period is due. (well i did before i was pregnant! lol)

you seem totally confused, and also dont seem at all ready to have a child. are you sure your making the right choice? a sibling is for life and they grow up quick. within a blink of an eye your baby will be toddling around being a little monster unlike the sweet little bundle of joy it was when newborn. and you must not expect your mum to babysit everytime you feel like being a teenager again and going out with friends.its really not fair on your mum.

surely if your friends say theyl help out with the baby,theyl be able to lend you some money for a test? you must get one asap!

he is also working with his dad but thats besides
i have had this bump for according to my bf 1 month not 1 week
i am actually used to it i babysit my little brothers and sometimes my cousins and once in a while someone else
so i do have SOME experience in it also i dont get her to babysit even if i do have the baby..my mom is a wonderful person i love her to death. they know nick is going to and they are trying to prove a point about him..grr they dont like him much..

 

[14yearoldmomi]

um..ok.Let us see if you have a bump,so we have a better view of the situation...

i will post one in an hour after it charges

 

[AmysBumpNo3]

he is also working with his dad but thats besides
i have had this bump for according to my bf 1 month not 1 week
i am actually used to it i babysit my little brothers and sometimes my cousins and once in a while someone else
so i do have SOME experience in it also i dont get her to babysit even if i do have the baby..my mom is a wonderful person i love her to death. they know nick is going to and they are trying to prove a point about him..grr they dont like him much..

its all too common...mums not likeing the young lad that could be potentially getting their young daughter pregnant.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Reading through this it seems a bit odd that you went to the clinic for a pregnancy test and they didnt tell you results??

Besides that anyway, I agree with the others, you can't just assume you're pregnant. A lot of menstrual symptoms are very similar to pregnancy symptoms.

Also you can't assume that, if you are pregnant, that you should rely on everyone else for money etc if you can't keep hold of 5 dollars long enough to buy a test then you really need to think hard about your decision.

I hope you find out soon hun. Good luck x

 

[MammaMia2008]

Do a test asap please.... you know it for sure.

 

[TashaAndBump]

Oh geez...

Everyone seems to be being very tough on you... If you are pregnant it's a bit late to be telling you think about whether it's right for you isn't it! I understand that you don't feel able to have an abortion - I couldn't either, no matter how old I was or what my situation was - I understand that being a 14 year old it will be hard to give your child everything that it will need - but it must be better to be brought into a loving family, than killed! (IMO)

However, having said that, it is true that you need to take a test before presuming you are pregnant. When was your last period, hun?

You also need to be doing some tough and serious thinking. Have you considered adoption? If you are pregnant, and you are going to keep the baby, you need to consider what you will be doing now - staying at home with your mum? Moving in with your boyfriend? School will obviously still be compulsory by law, but you will recieve help with childcare costs...

Once we all know what the situation is, I hope you will recieve a lot of support here throughout your pregnancy and through parenting, too - It's not easy, but it can be so rewarding. I wouldn't have reccomended having a baby at such a young age - it's life changing and basically ends your young life - you need to grow up, and that's not always as cool as it seems. However if you are pregnant there's not much you can do about it if you disagree with abortion, and you seem to be taking responsibilty and trying to do what is best - so Good on you!

Good luck whatever the results of the test,

bug x

ps: (just a few things)

a) You are 14, you should know that at your age sex with your boyfriend is considered statuatory rape by law, and your boyfriend could get in serious trouble.

b) unprotected sex is *very* dangerous - not only are you at danger of pregnancy but also of catching STIs or STDs - Some of these have no symptoms but can be very very health threatening (or even life-threatening). You should always ALWAYS use a condom if you are going to have sex. And you should get yourself checked out as you have obviously already had unprotected sex and could have an infection or disease that you do not know about.

c) A few of the girls on here may seem to be judging you very harshly ,or being very untrusting of you: We have had a few fakers on here recently so we are all a little wary of the younger newbies when things don't quite seem to add up, so please forgive our intensive questioning... it will lay off after a while (promise!)

d) looking forward to seeing your bump piccie

And finally, e) All the best hunni, Keep us updated

 

[nikky0907]

a) You are 14, you should know that at your age sex with your boyfriend is considered statuatory rape by law, and your boyfriend could get in serious trouble.

She said her boyfried is 16 and I belive that she is from US because of the mention of dollars(could be Canadian though).
Here it's not stautory rape because he is not over 18.

 

[TashaAndBump]

She said her boyfried is 16 and I belive that she is from US because of the mention of dollars(could be Canadian though).
Here it's not stautory rape because he is not over 18.

I believe it is, regardless of him being under the age of consent? I don't know for certain, will look it up, though... Is this something you're sure about Nikky?

 

[nikky0907]

And trust me honey,we are not judging you.I think I can say for sure that this forum is a very supportive community and we wish nothing but the best to each other.
That is why we are advising you on your situation and explaining some things to you...

We are looking forward to your update...

 

[14yearoldmomi]

it seems i really need to tell a bit more of my life
i still plan on going to college-i want to become an artist
i have good grades in school a and b except for science
my college is all payed for bc my dad is in the army
there are good bavysitters and daycare centers that even my baby cousins got to..
i know my body well i know when something is not right
wow even my own dreams tell me to take a test lol every single night i have a dream of taking a test but it is wierd and it always turns out positive...i dont really want to be...i have a life and i know how it would affect my life..but my mom was a mom at15 yes i know how it is...except i know i would not act like her... cause i know how it affects me...she goes out and gets drunk sometimes and it is not fun i kndof act more like a mom even to her sometimes it is not fun but it is a bit funny...
so now you guys know more about my life
i am not just some immatue dumb teenager in fact none of the moms who are teen moms are bc they did not have an abortion-it is just an easy way out-there is adoption so can you guys stop saying i dont know what i am talking about

 

[nikky0907]

I believe it is, regardless of him being under the age of consent? I don't know for certain, will look it up, though... Is this something you're sure about Nikky?

well,I wouldn't say 100% but I am pretty sure that in US as long as the person isn't over 18 he can have sex with a another person under 18.If he is over 18 then all hell breaks loose...

 

[Vickie]

Nikky is right about the age

 

[cheryl]

You can't know you are preg if you haven't done a test, I thought I was preg loads of times, but it was just period symptoms.
You really need to take a test.
I had my daughter when i was 15 and there is no way I would have know I was until I tested.
I am not judging you in anyway as I had my daughter at 15, I know how hard it is and the last thing I would do is judge someone.
Luv Cheryl xxx

 

[TashaAndBump]

Nikky is right about the age

Ahh okay, Learn something every day

It's not 18 in every state though is it?

 

[14yearoldmomi]

Oh geez...

Everyone seems to be being very tough on you... If you are pregnant it's a bit late to be telling you think about whether it's right for you isn't it! I understand that you don't feel able to have an abortion - I couldn't either, no matter how old I was or what my situation was - I understand that being a 14 year old it will be hard to give your child everything that it will need - but it must be better to be brought into a loving family, than killed! (IMO)

However, having said that, it is true that you need to take a test before presuming you are pregnant. When was your last period, hun?

You also need to be doing some tough and serious thinking. Have you considered adoption? If you are pregnant, and you are going to keep the baby, you need to consider what you will be doing now - staying at home with your mum? Moving in with your boyfriend? School will obviously still be compulsory by law, but you will recieve help with childcare costs...

Once we all know what the situation is, I hope you will recieve a lot of support here throughout your pregnancy and through parenting, too - It's not easy, but it can be so rewarding. I wouldn't have reccomended having a baby at such a young age - it's life changing and basically ends your young life - you need to grow up, and that's not always as cool as it seems. However if you are pregnant there's not much you can do about it if you disagree with abortion, and you seem to be taking responsibilty and trying to do what is best - so Good on you!

Good luck whatever the results of the test,

bug x

ps: (just a few things)

a) You are 14, you should know that at your age sex with your boyfriend is considered statuatory rape by law, and your boyfriend could get in serious trouble.

b) unprotected sex is *very* dangerous - not only are you at danger of pregnancy but also of catching STIs or STDs - Some of these have no symptoms but can be very very health threatening (or even life-threatening). You should always ALWAYS use a condom if you are going to have sex. And you should get yourself checked out as you have obviously already had unprotected sex and could have an infection or disease that you do not know about.

c) A few of the girls on here may seem to be judging you very harshly ,or being very untrusting of you: We have had a few fakers on here recently so we are all a little wary of the younger newbies when things don't quite seem to add up, so please forgive our intensive questioning... it will lay off after a while (promise!)

d) looking forward to seeing your bump piccie

And finally, e) All the best hunni, Keep us updated

thank you you are tons of help. he just recently (may 12) turned 16 i am going to turn 15 (Nov 16) is this really satutory rape?

 

[AppleBlossom]

i am not just some immatue dumb teenager in fact none of the moms who are teen moms are bc they did not have an abortion-it is just an easy way out-there is adoption so can you guys stop saying i dont know what i am talking about

I know what you mean, it's just having a baby is such a huge responsibility. Us guys on here are just trying to help you by giving you advice, not judging you. And if you are pregnant and you do keep it then I completely applaud you. I am against abortion myself and so I would never encourage anyone to have one whether they were 14 or 40.