14, Pregnant, and desperatedly in need of advice

[14_pregnant]

Hello everyone, I am Maya, I am 14 years old and pregnant. I am looking for advice and for friends. I am at 7 months and feeling very frightened and confused. Please reply to this, my mother offers little comfort.

 

[NickyT75]

Hiya sweetheart

I dont really have any advice for you - just wanted to say sorry your mum isnt giving you as much support as you need & wanted to give you a big xx

 

[Sarah88]

You've found the perfect place for making friends. Are you 7 months along now?
How are you finding being pg so far?

 

[Lyrah]

Hi sweetie.

You are definately in the right place

We're all here for one another and you will make plenty of friends

I'm sorry your mum doesn't offer much support hun, that's a real shame

Lots of big hugs to you.



xxx

 

[HatterasSarah]

Hi doll. I'm sarah, I'm new here. I just want you to know that if you ever need to talk, there are tons of people here that are here for you. I am so terribly sorry about your mother acting so cruelly. Once your little one is born, I'm sure your mother will be more kind.

 

[14_pregnant]

You've found the perfect place for making friends. Are you 7 months along now?
How are you finding being pg so far?

Yes I am 7 months pregnant on the dot. So far I'm really worried about being pregnant. My mom doesn't have much advice about the matter because she couldn't get pregnant and adopted me. I sort of hate myself for getting pregnant, and sometimes I feel like I've ruined my life forever, but other times I feel a strong love for my baby and feel like this just might be a good thing. Now I won't make the mistake of being pressured into something like sex, and I won't try to be cool all the time. In a way, this baby is a blessing to me. (Note: If my mom heard I called my baby a blessing, she would totaly flip out. She thinks I've made a huge mistake by keeping the baby.)

 

[17 and scared]

(Note: If my mom heard I called my baby a blessing, she would totaly flip out. She thinks I've made a huge mistake by keeping the baby.)

oh my gosh im so sorry your mom feels that way about your unborn
your baby is a blessing, dont make any body tell you diffrent, im scared to so if you ever need someone to talk to just message me for a chat

 

[enigma]

I understand to an extent why your mum is upset, you are very young, but she should be supporting your decision to keep the baby, you are going to need someone to lean on when times get tough.

I suggest you do as much research as you can so you know what to expect from everything you have faceing you, such as labour, birth and then your baby, this way you will be prepared for it all.

Good luck hun, im sure you will be a great mum.xxxx

 

[cherylanne]

Hi hun, i just wanted to give you a hug and say that i'm sorry your mum isn't very supportive. It must be a difficult time for her also, have you both sat down and tried to explain how you are feeling and what you expect of the future? It might be good to tell each other how you feel about things.

You are in the right place to gain support, everyone here is really lovely and will offer advice when you need it.

Like enigma said you need to gain some knowledge of whats ahead of you hun. You've not long to go now and it would be a good idea to find out all you can about labour and birth and then you'll know what to expect and it might not be so scary. If you need any advice post away on here and myself and others will help you as much as possible.

Good luck with the rest of you pregnancy sweetie xxx

 

[Alyandherbump]

I just want to offer you my support. I know im a bit older but its still a really scarey time....for anyone. First baby and all that. i know what its like not to have a supportive mother, mine is the same, she thinks im ruinging my life. At the end of the day, if you've made the decision to have your baby then you obviously have good reasons for doing so and are mature enough to accpet the consequences of your actions. If you want some one to talk to you can message me all you want. Hope you find some help and advice here, im sure you will!!!

 

[Hevz]

I got pregnant at 14....it was very hard but luckily I had lots of support from my parents and teachers (all of whom I thought would freak and disown me). I loved my baby very much and although not planned, we were very excited and couldn't wait to have our baby



Unfortunately I gave birth to Rachael at just 24wks and she only lived for 17hours. The support was there for a while but then people thought we should just "get over it" as we were so young and could have other kids etc. That didn't make things any easier and I slipped into deep depression.



Please try and find some support in your area....your family would be the best support obviously but if you can't get it from them you need to get support from somewhere else.

Things will be hard enough for you without feeling isolated. Good luck sweetie

 

[cherylanne]

Hevs :Hugs: xxx

 

[Hevz]

Hevs :Hugs: xxx

Cheers sweetie....didn't want to hijack just to emphasise how important support really is and although everyones situations are different....we all need support at some time or another

 

[cuddles314]

Just wanted to send you some and tell you what a fantastic place B&B is for support, any time, day or night, whatever your query/worry, we're all here to help if we can.
xx

 

[kayley_baby]

heya hun i just wanted to say i get that your scared, i am too! Im sorry your mum is being so unsupportive but no matter what she says this baby is a blessing and something to be proud of x x
Good luck!

 

[mummymadness]

It is a shame you have no support network , Is there any young mums groups in yoru area ?? .
As my best friend had a baby at 15 and she said that group helped her an awfull lot with preparation and other girls in the same situation .
It will be hard , But every baby is a blessing .
As a mother thow i do see why your mum is finding it difficult , My little girl is 3 and i couldnt imagine in just over 10 years her saying she is pregnant it would brake my heart .
I do hope you find support and iam sure with a mature attitude towards the whole situation and the love you have for your baby , You will manage and enjoy the experiance . x .

 

[daniella00]

Hey babe,

I got pregnant when i was 16 and had my little girl at 17, i didnt even know i was pregnant as id had my period all the way through!!

My little girl is now 8 and even though i was so scared when she was born i cant imagine my life without her! Even when she was born its like this motherly instinct just kicks and and you just know what to do!!

You've come to the right place on here, there are so may nice people with such good advice!

Thinking of you babe

xxxx

 

[xarlenex]

Hey, you've defintately came to the right place for support and advice, its great here

My dad had the same attitude as your mum, I felt like I could never be happy about it around him, luckily when Kyle was born, things soon changed, I hope your mum comes around when she meets your little baby, if not sooner xx

 

[starryeye31]

Hey Hun , I was also 14 and pregnant I gave birth to my oldest son just 2 months before I turned 15 , My mom and dad were not at all happy at first but once the baby was born they loved him so much , my mom did help me out at first because I had no clue how to take care of a baby , I didnt have any younger brothers or sisters I had never even babysat ,I caught on fast and moved away at 16 and have been on my own since , Im now 32 and my son is 17 he is a very smart kid . dont worry things will get better for you , is the babys dad around ?

 

[Novbaby08]

All babies are blessings even the unplanned ones.