15& pregnant, any advice?

[xJamiex]

Hi, my name is Jamie. I'm new to this website but I just found out I'm pregnant but I have one issue, I don't know how to tell my mom? /: I'm in love with the father of the baby, & he knows that I am pregnant. I'm sorry if my posting sounds dumb I'm just new to all this. ​

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[CSweets]

I really don't have much say in this topic considering the fact that I don't talk to my mom but I suggest sitting her down when you guys are alone and explain everything. Sorry wish I could be of more help

 

[Desi's_lost]

It's best to tell her early, that way you both have time to work through it. Congrats on your pregnancy. I'm Desi, 18 and 28 weeks pregnant

 

[libbymarks198]

hey hun im the same i was pregnant at 17 and she went nuts so this time around i know its going to be worse... i wrote a letter last time and stayed out of her way for a few days..

 

[Burchy314]

I agree it is best to tell them early so they don't feel like you are hidding it and also so that you can get the care you need asap. I think the best way is that you and the baby's father sit her down and calmly explain to her what is going on. Also a good way is to write it down in a letter if you don't think you will be able to say it, because it is very hard to say. But when you give her the letter be sure to sit there while she reads it so she doesnt have to find you afterwards. Congrats on the pregnancy and I wish you the best of luck.

I am Tina, 17 and 25 weeks and 5 days pregnant with my first.

Feel free to message me anytime if needed

 

[xJamiex]

Thank you all for your advice, but my problem with sitting down & telling her is she does drugs & always hits me when she's mad, even if the babies father is there, sorry I didn't mention this earlier I don't know If it would have mattered. I'm just really scared. /:

 

[kaleighdaisy]

Im 15. And when I told my mom, I wrote her a not and left it for her. I left it on the counter when I left to go to my friends house. It worked for me, It might for you too.

 

[BabyMama89]

hmm..i have no experience. my mom was really supportive with my first...but idk..if she htis you..i'd suggest leaving a note and staying away for a few days...

good luck babe...if you need someone to talk to, i'm here!! congrats on the baby! how far along are you?


xx

 

[newmommy23]

welcome and congrats on your baby. I would use the note idea. also, if you think she will hurt you, try to find someone else to stay with for safety

 

[Tanara]

If she is abusive you need to get out of the situation, she should not hit you. Especially when you are pregnant, that is not a safe environment for you and your baby.

 

[Desi's_lost]

i agree with the note idea, that way she has plenty of time to cool down before seeing you. if there is anyone else you can live with, that wouldnt be a bad idea either.

 

[rjb]

i'm 15 and 25 weeks, but i was 14 when i got pregnant and had to tell my parents. igot my dad to tell my mom, could you get someone else to tell?

 

[Leah_xx]

Hi Hun
Im leah im 17
32 weeks and 6 days pregnant with my first a lil girl
First off you have to tell her.
Writing a note and leaving it for ur mom might be the best thing to do

 

[scoml14]

My mom is like super strict about all this stuff and she didn't even know I was having sex (I'm 15 and in my 2nd trimester). I just sat her down on a Sunday evening (while she was calm, not like right after she gets off work when she's tired and grumpy), and told her. She never yelled. We cried together and she assured me everything would be alright. Trust me girl, if your mom loves you, she'll help you no matter what. You just have to think of her too, this isn't exactly what she had planned for you. Good luck

 

[Shell...xxx]

Hey Jamie..

if your mum is a danger to you or your baby you need to make sure that someone is there who can control her when you tell her. i fell pg at 15 but found out after my 26th birthday and dreaded telling my mum. no matter how angry or upset she might be when you tell her it will soon settle in and she will realise that her little grandchild is growing inside of you! if your mum is the type of person to tell you that she doesnt want anything to do with you or baby then she isnt the type of person you want involved in your baby's life anyway chick.

xxx

 

[Shell...xxx]

i meant my 16th birthday lol

 

[Newmummy_tobe]

hey hun...im 18 and pregnant but found out when i was 17...i sat my mum down when it was just the two of us and told her i was pregnant...she made sure it was what i wanted and was just wanting to help with what she could...

your parents can either be happy and supportive or turn the other way.

they may need time to come round the idea that your having a baby but im sure they will be happy for you after they have had time to think...after all you are giving them a grandchild

hope that helps xx

 

[SarahhhLouise]

If she is abusive you need to get out of the situation, she should not hit you. Especially when you are pregnant, that is not a safe environment for you and your baby.

i agree with tanara as its not a safe enviroment for you to be in hun. i would write her a letter maybe but unsire in your situation xx

 

[campost006]

hey jamie!
i was reading your post and i jope i can give you some advice. I was 17 when i got pregnant with my son. My mom and I didnt have the best relationship at all..i got kicked out when i was 15 and when i was 17 moved back in to find out i was preg. I knew i had to tell her so i told her the same day i found out. I thought for sure she would yell and scream and tell me how much of a disappointment i was but to my suprise i was wrong. it was the complete opposite and it brought us so close. i am 22 now and my son just turned 4. the best thing i can tell you is no matter what or how you should tell her. if your afraid she might hit you make sure someone is there to make sure you and the baby are safe. no matter what if she not willing to be there for you go and get on medicaid so that you will be covered throughout your pregnancy. you want to make sure you hae a healthy baby. i wish you the best you never know how things will turn out. sometimes it takes situations like this to bring ppl closer together.

 

[new18]

just cum clean with ur mom...shel b ok after a little wile... mine is so used ta the idea now that shes buying baby clothes already!