1st tri is scary?!?!?!

[MADLYSBOYS]

Aww thanks I'm sooo happy you got your Madly

Yes I did see you had a MC prior to this one, I do occasionally stalk the people I remember from TTC I'm sorry you had to go through that All is looking good for you now though The thing I found hardest about 1st tri was staying positive. Every twinge/cramp/feeling I was straight onto google. Not a good idea - avoid google at all costs Even after my 1st scan, when I knew Roo was in the right place etc I was still petrified of ectopic and even rung my doc up about it I'm pleased to say, you do start to relax a bit when you get to 2nd tri. Not totally, I don't think we ever will now, but I have definately started to enjoy the pregnancy more now rather than just getting myself wound up over it.

I think I had my booking in appt at 8 weeks, scan was about 4 weeks after that so FX it will be even sooner for you. They go by LMP so they will be looking to get you booked in asap I should have thought, so you'll be around 12 weeks. Roll on yours so you get to tell DS that he has a little brother or sister on the way... bet he'll be thrilled

Sorry to hear you're suffering with the dreaded all day sickness. Thankfully I never really suffered too much. I felt naseous a lot, but was never actually sick. I got those travel sickness bands - they really helped. Them and cold ice lollies Can't beat it

OMG now you've said it I can't actually believe that I am almost half way It just doesn't feel real at all. Don't think i'll believe it til I have the baby in my arms. Even at scans, I feel like they're just showing me a video or something to dupe me

A 4D scan, I am uber jealous over here!!! I would LOVE one of these, but we can't really afford it. We only got married last December, ended up wacking the honeymoon on a credit card and are still trying to pay the damn thing off, along with decorating the nursery and buying all the furniture and all the other stuff you need. The list seems endless. I'm hoping we will be able to save a little to get a 4D one, but we'll see. I'd definately love to get it done if we can

Are you planning on finding out the sex? I'm team I am hoping not to get a flash of anything at our 20 week scan that will give it away hee hee hee

Thank you hon

Funny thing is I feel really positive about my even after m/c so close too I just have a feeling this is our forever baby

Yes we will be finding out the sex and we are already having name disagreements.....my agreement with DH is the same as with DS we will find out the babies sex but we must def agree on a name before we have the scan or no-go! With DS we were sat up until late the night before the scan still debating I reckon it will be pretty much the same this time around DH says he will let me know when hes decided like he thinks I am going to go with his suggestion mmmmmmmmmmm! At DS 20wk scan I hate to say it hon but it was obvious he was a boy you could so see his winky.....I hope its not that obvious for you hon esp if you def want to remain team part of me hopes sonographer cant tell us and `beanie baby` has his/her legs crossed The 4d scan will be a belated birthday gift using my birthday cash (birthday 1st nov) but I wont be far enough preggers then to determine a good scan so I thought a trip out altogether in run up to xmas would be a nice treat esp for DS who will get a good look at bro/sis! I know what you mean about cash strapped though hon.....I have dropped wage at work b/c I switched positions to fit with school run and its DS birthday next month followed by xmas and then birth of LO.....its all spend spend spend so happy to be pregnant though!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I totally know what you mean. Im beginning to get better at avoiding these threads, but when I first started, I was cringing and cowering away from the first trimester. I went from feeling good about being pregnant to worrying about this, that and 'tother.

There other fab parenting websites you can use (I dont know if Im allowed to name any??) but unfortunately Ive noticed, for the first X amount of time similar stuff happens there too. Although not quite to the extent that they have it here for some reason.

When are you due?

x

Thank you hon I think 1st tri on whichever forum you use is always going to be the same.....doom and gloom.....its like one of the ladies said theres nothing really good to say about early preg with all the mishaps and symptons etc unfortunately the few nice threads I have entered have also been turned into doom and gloom

 

[Louppey]

Thank you hon

Funny thing is I feel really positive about my even after m/c so close too I just have a feeling this is our forever baby

Yes we will be finding out the sex and we are already having name disagreements.....my agreement with DH is the same as with DS we will find out the babies sex but we must def agree on a name before we have the scan or no-go! With DS we were sat up until late the night before the scan still debating I reckon it will be pretty much the same this time around DH says he will let me know when hes decided like he thinks I am going to go with his suggestion mmmmmmmmmmm! At DS 20wk scan I hate to say it hon but it was obvious he was a boy you could so see his winky.....I hope its not that obvious for you hon esp if you def want to remain team part of me hopes sonographer cant tell us and `beanie baby` has his/her legs crossed The 4d scan will be a belated birthday gift using my birthday cash (birthday 1st nov) but I wont be far enough preggers then to determine a good scan so I thought a trip out altogether in run up to xmas would be a nice treat esp for DS who will get a good look at bro/sis! I know what you mean about cash strapped though hon.....I have dropped wage at work b/c I switched positions to fit with school run and its DS birthday next month followed by xmas and then birth of LO.....its all spend spend spend so happy to be pregnant though!

Woo hoo! How exciting! I can't wait for my next scan so I can see my little roo again I think I may ask for a 4d scan as a xmas pressie. We have 2 weekends away this month, a week away in october then christmas so it is all spend spend spend at the moment LOL! We booked all the breaks before we even thought about trying for Roo, but like you I don't care about being strapped for cash, i'm just happy to be pregnant.

Hmmm so I think we will prob come out of our scan with an idea of the sex then! We've both said, if that happens, it was "meant to be" so fair enough but we're not going to ask the sonographer to look iykwim.

You and your hubby sound like me and mine over names!! We have the girls name sorted, Coralie Elyse. We're both happy with that... but boys, who knows!! I like Hayden Mark but DH isn't so sure. We just can't find any boys names we really LOVE. I joke with DH I hope it's a girl or else it's just going to be "Baby". Hahaha

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I love Roman for a boy but DH doesnt we both like Charlie though but no girls names yet agreed so I reckon we will have a girl guess we will just have to keep calling her `beanie baby`

 

[Louppey]

I love Roman for a boy but DH doesnt we both like Charlie though but no girls names yet agreed so I reckon we will have a girl guess we will just have to keep calling her `beanie baby`

LOL! Yeah to be fair we could just call him Roo. I wonder if he'll be teased in the school playground

Only 25 more minutes til I get out of work today. Cannot wait!!! 4 day weekend, woo hoo

 

[LucBumpy10]

I completely agree! I'm always paranoid about my baby and think its partly to do with some things I read on here! I have also avoided any scary looking threads but like a lot of people have said eveyone has an opinion! The 1st trimester is scary enough without reading into statistics and so on.
Good Luck with your pregnancy!
x

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I completely agree! I'm always paranoid about my baby and think its partly to do with some things I read on here! I have also avoided any scary looking threads but like a lot of people have said eveyone has an opinion! The 1st trimester is scary enough without reading into statistics and so on.
Good Luck with your pregnancy!
x

Thank you hon I am glad am not on my own in this! Goodluck to you too :hugs

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I love Roman for a boy but DH doesnt we both like Charlie though but no girls names yet agreed so I reckon we will have a girl guess we will just have to keep calling her `beanie baby`

LOL! Yeah to be fair we could just call him Roo. I wonder if he'll be teased in the school playground

Only 25 more minutes til I get out of work today. Cannot wait!!! 4 day weekend, woo hoo

ooooooooh 4 day weekend tomorrow is my last day off (I havent been in work since last sat ) before I am back in sat/sun but then I have next mon-fri off so 2 days aint that bad to get thru

 

[KandyKinz]

I am very sorry you're having a hard time dealing with the anxiety of pregnancy. It certainly wasn't my or anyone else's intentions to cause you unwarranted worry. I tend to be more scientific minded and by reading everything I can about pregnancy is how I cope with the anxiety... If I can find scientific data to support my decisions I sleep better at night... but I do see how avoiding information can be mindeasing for others. But that's not me.

Anyways what I wanted to comment on is that it's absolutely not healthy for you to be living in fear all the time. It's not healthy for anyone here. Yes bad things happen but you have to remember that the majority of the time pregnancies remain normal and viable and a healthy baby is born in the end. And I am terribly sorry for your previous loss and I know that can make the anxiety much more real but worrying each day whether or not that will actually happen is of absolutely no benefit. I'm not saying don't grieve previous bad outcomes, because that is an important part of processing loss. I'm just saying that it's important not to completely dismiss optimism out of fear something bad will happen. I know it's often easier said then done but sometimes especially in pregnancy life is much more pleasant if you live each day in the moment and embrace your pregnancy as it is each day... even in the early stages. This can be an extremely special and momentous time in a woman's life and unless there is concrete evidence suggesting things aren't going well (eg dropping hcg levels) there is absolutely no reason to believe that anyone here in the first trimester is doomed to tragedy regardless of what risks they have been exposed to or what happened to them in the past.

Being a mom is a stressful job. We're faced with decisions all the time and all that matters is that we do what we think is best for our babes. It absolutely does not matter whether that decision was based on scholarly journals, midwifery advice or just instinct... All that matters in the end is your intentions and you just have to let faith do the rest. But you HAVE to learn to trust yourself in your decisions and be able to say "I don't give a sh*t what so and so is saying I'm gonna do this because that's the decision that I feel most appropriate for me and my baby!" That doesn't necessarily mean avoid all information and stats, it means feeling comfortable with what you make out of that information and not being scared by it. But it can take time to get there.

Anyways, no use worrying about things you can't change or things that may never happen. You miss out on alot in life that way. And being pregnant whether your are 6 weeks or 36 weeks is an incredible part of life!

 

[SPN1304]

I am very sorry you're having a hard time dealing with the anxiety of pregnancy. It certainly wasn't my or anyone else's intentions to cause you unwarranted worry. I tend to be more scientific minded and by reading everything I can about pregnancy is how I cope with the anxiety... If I can find scientific data to support my decisions I sleep better at night... but I do see how avoiding information can be mindeasing for others. But that's not me.

Anyways what I wanted to comment on is that it's absolutely not healthy for you to be living in fear all the time. It's not healthy for anyone here. Yes bad things happen but you have to remember that the majority of the time pregnancies remain normal and viable and a healthy baby is born in the end. And I am terribly sorry for your previous loss and I know that can make the anxiety much more real but worrying each day whether or not that will actually happen is of absolutely no benefit. I'm not saying don't grieve previous bad outcomes, because that is an important part of processing loss. I'm just saying that it's important not to completely dismiss optimism out of fear something bad will happen. I know it's often easier said then done but sometimes especially in pregnancy life is much more pleasant if you live each day in the moment and embrace your pregnancy as it is each day... even in the early stages. This can be an extremely special and momentous time in a woman's life and unless there is concrete evidence suggesting things aren't going well (eg dropping hcg levels) there is absolutely no reason to believe that anyone here in the first trimester is doomed to tragedy regardless of what risks they have been exposed to or what happened to them in the past.

Being a mom is a stressful job. We're faced with decisions all the time and all that matters is that we do what we think is best for our babes. It absolutely does not matter whether that decision was based on scholarly journals, midwifery advice or just instinct... All that matters in the end is your intentions and you just have to let faith do the rest. But you HAVE to learn to trust yourself in your decisions and be able to say "I don't give a sh*t what so and so is saying I'm gonna do this because that's the decision that I feel most appropriate for me and my baby!" That doesn't necessarily mean avoid all information and stats, it means feeling comfortable with what you make out of that information and not being scared by it. But it can take time to get there.

Anyways, no use worrying about things you can't change or things that may never happen. You miss out on alot in life that way. And being pregnant whether your are 6 weeks or 36 weeks is an incredible part of life!

Thanks for your post it really helped me look at it differently. I too have been so anxious since I got my BFP last week. I am trying hard to be positive and your post is going to help me along the way a little .

Here is (hopefully) to a happy and healthy 9 months!

 

[cosmotbear]

Bring on the day when we can all wander off into the 2nd Tri! I hated first Tri last time and hate it more this time. Am sure we'll all be a lot happier in a few weeks xxx

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thank you Ladies

I actually feel a little better today and my 1st MW app is on Monday so not far away.... I worry about this pregnancy but I am sure my feelings are perfectly normal feelings right there along with all the other mummys-to-be in 1st tri! I agree though I think once I hit 2nd tri I will be able to relax more not long to go now

Happy and Healthy 9 months to you all Ladies

 

[SazzyB]

Oh good, I thought it was just me! I am around 9 weeks now, so figure only 3 particularly worrying weeks to go. I have an NT scan and CVS booked at end of the month and until I get the results back and all good news, I must admit I am burying my head in the sand! I haven't even told my GP yet!! (Or anyone else). I am taking pregnancy supplement and taking it easy but that is about it. I started reading all the scary stuff and was convinced that, being over 40 and 1st baby, I was definitely going to miscarry/ have a Downs baby/ have a scan to find no heartbeat/ something else awful. So I stopped reading!! In my heart I feel I am going to have a very healthy baby boy, so we'll see if it comes true! Once I know the baby is OK I may start to enjoy the pregnancy. At least until I am brave enough to read about the birth. Am burying my head about that one too as so many scare stories there....lol.