2 and a half and won't go sleep on his own *Update page 5*

[princess_bump]

lots of luck honey, sounds like you're doing well x

 

[Amanda]

Well, I was really good in the night. He woke about 5 times crying for me, and I ignored him and he went back sleep again on his own!! First night in a new bedroom and he managed all night!!

 

[~KACI~]

Yea well done you!! thats great, he'll soon be going to sleep on his own x

 

[tinytoes]

i^'ve got to thank you for this post - it scared me and made me get on with being stricter with LO and getting him to go to sleep on his own. I needed a kick up the backside!
Also, last week I read that it's easier to set sleep patterns by 6 months than to fix problems afetr 6 months. That AND your post got me sweating. And now LO has been going to sleep alone. It takes a good few minutes of him yelling his objections each time I put hi m down, but we're getting there. And I'm stressing less about it, though i still feel a bit guilty. But we'll both learn to cope in time.

SO thanks. I do hope your LO figures it out soon, i've no doubt he will

 

[~KACI~]

Hows it going?? x x

 

[Helen]

Yeah I've been wondering too....

 

[~KACI~]

Bumpity bump, as i know you are online!! x

 

[Amanda]

Yeh, i'm online Kaci, but been ignoring the questions!!

I've been so ill in the last couple of weeks that I've hardly even managed to come on here, and just haven't had the energy to fight. Not with Charlie, but with DH. He just won't try anything new and insists on laying with Charlie on the sofa till he falls sleep. I'm so tired that I can't fight anymore. He just keeps saying that it'll get better soon, but won't do anything to change it.

Good thing is that I'm starting to win my battle with the napping in the day. DH has been off work today and I've not let Charlie sleep. So it's now 5pm, he's tired and niggly, but still awake. Plan is dinner in half hour, then bath, and straight to bed. I'm hoping that I can do it myself upstairs without bringing Charlie down. Fingers crossed.

 

[Helen]

Aw sorry to hear you've been feeling so rough. Hope you're ok and that things go well tonight.

 

[~KACI~]

Bless you! I know you have been feeling ruff, Not long left now...and all i can say is MEN! x

 

[Amanda]

Well, I nearly managed it. We ate, then took Charlie up for his bath at 6:30. I bathed him, got him out and dried and dressed him, then took him into his bedroom and got him tucked up in bed and started reading to him (quietly so DH didn't know!!). But, then my friend phoned my mobile, so instead of telling her I'd call back, DH brought it upstairs to me! I tried to tell my friend that I'd phone her back, but she's having loads of personal problems at the min, and broke down on the phone, poor love. So I carried on talking to her, DH just picked Charlie up and took him downstairs. I couldn't argue with him as my friend was in such a state. He did fall sleep within 30 seconds of sitting downstairs though, so a minor win for me as he normally doesn't do that.

DH is now snoring on the sofa and I've not had a chance to have a go at him yet. Oh well, another day, another go tomorrow!

 

[Amanda]

Just had a minor miracle!

I'm downstairs watching the football while DH snores, and I hear Charlie wake up, start crying, then heard his door go and little feet along the landing. Normally, the only way to get him back sleep is to bring him in bed with us. But I want to watch the footie!

So, without saying a word, I just turned him round (cuddle cow still in his arms!!), guided him back to his bedroom and he climbed into his bed himself, cuddled his cow, and went straight back sleep!!!!!!

I know this may not seem much to most people, but it's such a big thing for Charlie!

 

[Serene123]

Congrats hun x

 

[~KACI~]

Go charlie!!! Alot of the time it is best just to not talk and guide them back, Occasionally Kieran will come out of his room and just stand at the top of the stairs, I'm usual on the comp with my back to him, i pretend he's not there and within 30secs he's climbing back into bed.

Your OH is a softie!! Hope it only gets better for you x

 

[UKMummy]

Do you think your husband will miss the cuddle with Charlie, which is why he wasn't that keen on changing the routine?

 

[Helen]

Aw sounds like you are turning a corner. Fingers crossed it goes well tonight.

 

[Tezzy]

my OH is exactly the same... its a pain in the ass!

good luck for tonight

 

[Amanda]

Do you think your husband will miss the cuddle with Charlie, which is why he wasn't that keen on changing the routine?

You know what? I think you're right. This could be the reason why he's insisting on leaving it until LO is here - he can have another one to cuddle then!!!

 

[emma_27]

I had problems with my first getting him to go to sleep on his own by the time he was 14mths i thought sod it i was spending over an hour cuddling off to sleep and i thought id be making a rod for my own back. I never liked leaving him to cry so i took him up bathed him read him a story whilst he drank his milk and when i tucked him and first night i stayed with him for 10 mins and i dropped it by 2mins a night. I stood out side of him room and every time he stood up i went in without saying a word i just laid him back down kissed him and left the room and i did this until he went off to sleep and i left his night light show on. he soon got the message after a week and now he goes to bed great. Ive been trying this time to put Ellie down so she gets herself off to sleep but shes not liking it much and i hate leaving her to cry.

 

[cupcake]

i am sorry to say i think the only thing that will work is if you and your husband are united and just put him in bed. you can do your normal routine, story, sit with him for a minute, tuck him in,leave a night light on, maybe even go buy one he picks out, leave his bottle next to his bed if he wants a drink he can take it. He will cry and you will have to put him back in his bed a million times the first night, and its not just gonna take one night but at least he is old enough to understand you. I dont think controlled crying will work because you coming in and out i think will confuse him.

P.s. you are not the only one who has made this mistake, i co -sleep and have been vowing to stop since the baby turned 3 months....