20 week scan today

[ladyredlainey]

I am so truly sorry, I have never been through this so I can not imagine how your feeling. But I couldn't read and not reply.
I hope your able to have someone to speak to, to help you through this, and your husband to.
Sending the biggest load of hugs possible to you both xx

 

[kipperc]

really sorry for your loss

 

[BeesBella]

I am so sorry. I don't know what to say !

 

[MaevesMummy]

Hello, I am so sorry to read this. You are very much entitled to a second and third opinion. You will have to decide what is best for you so hard and I can not even imagine how this must feel. If you want more opinions, do it, if you want to speak to parents of children who have been born with Spina Bifida, I imagine there are some places you can go.
A friend recently had to let her baby girl go under similar circumstances. They induced Labour. I admire her, she was so brave and made a decision no parent should ever have to, but it was unselfish and completley for her little girl.
If you little baby girl passes away, they induce labou, and you can have a funeral.

We got a birth certificate for Maeve, she was born alive, and it is law any baby born alive must have one. we were also allowed to register her death.

You can chose to have whatever you want. We chose a wicker casket like a little moses basket, and a small imediate family service with donations to Sands. We had her cremated.
We have not found anywhere beautiful enough to scatter her ashes.

I can not imagine how hard this is, stay true to your heart, lots of love and best wishes will be thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[SilasLove]

I am so sorry

 

[Jox]

I'm so sorry ur going thru this I just dont know what to say regarding the sb as I have no experience but if ur little girl does leave u there is a sticky thread in stillbirths section for memories with ur baby. That thread was my lifeline because now i have (almost) no regrets.

If u want a funeral u can have one, u can have a burial/grave or cremation. I dont think you'll get a death certificate unless she is born alive, then u would get a birth and death certificate.

If ur being given the choice whether or not to continue the pregnancy then their r some amazing mummies in the ethical prenatal loss section.

Again, im so sorry x

 

[baileykenz]

My cousin has sb and is an adult and i know theres all different stages..get all the help you can hun..do what ever makes you and husband feel you need too..
So so so sorry...i havent been through this but got told today i am having a silent miscarriage so i am hear for u if you need it..
Emma

 

[nuala]

thank you everyone for your kindness and support i really cant do this i feel soo lost i just cant cope... as i was told her brain and skull hasnt developed i still have hope and it kills me that she is kicking soo much i hope when i deliver her i get chance with her alive xo

 

[babesx3]

Massive Hugs XXX
It is a terrible decision u have to make.. i can't imagine, as every part of u will want to protect your unborn baby..
As the others have said there are sticky threads in the stillbirth section that really helped me when i lost my son.... after reading lots of others storys i felt more preppared for what was going t o happen when i gave birth and i did everything i could for my baby, and i found comfort in that. i took pictures, spent time cuddling him, i have his footprints, and although i had no birth certificate they gave me a certificate to show his birth details etc... i had him blessed...
I had a funeral for him, chose music, and wrote him a passage... i also put pictures of his family in his coffin, and wrote him a letter telling him how much i loved and wanted him and had that put in his coffin..
I had him cremated, and so far have no scattered his ashes, but have him at home where i actually like him to be..on a high shelf in our lounge with and angel ornament, and pictures of his family, i feel like he is home where he should be...
we also planted a tree for him.....
I wish u the strength to get thru the following painful days XXX

 

[MaevesMummy]

thank you everyone for your kindness and support i really cant do this i feel soo lost i just cant cope... as i was told her brain and skull hasnt developed i still have hope and it kills me that she is kicking soo much i hope when i deliver her i get chance with her alive xo

Never give up hope, You are doing the right thing by you. Lots of love and praying for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Groovychick]

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[purpleposting]

Firstly, If it were me, I would definately get a 2nd/3rd opinion, just to be sure.
I don't know how you must be feeling, my heart is breaking for you. Prepare yourself with knowledge and write down what you want to do (take photos, prints etc) if that time comes.
Sending you massive hugs, x

 

[bubble1990]

Oh Hun I'm so sorry I didn't want to read and run thinking of you and your family xxxx

 

[marnie79]

i am so so sorry hun, i wish there was something i could saythat will make the next few day's weeks months easier for u, but i know from experience there isnt much anyone can say, just know that there are people here that will support u if we can

 

[Weeplin]

I'm so sorry hon xx

 

[Skye1]

it hurts so much words cant describe as she is still living and kicking inside it hurts so much everytime she moves and kicks i really dont wana go through this this week i hope they will allow me to spend as much time as we need and bring a teddy and camera i want some memories i feel as if someone has ripped my heart out

OMG this is heartbreaking for you, I really feel for you. I don't know what else to say other than send you hugs and I'll be thinking about you tomorrow

 

[cliqmo]

I'm so sorry Nuala xx

 

[Joyzerelly]

I'm not religious but god bless you and your hubby during this impossible time.

 

[Mrs-C]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't begin to imagine

 

[nuala]

ok so went to the hospital today and confirmed spina bifeda (sp) baby mollys skull and brain hasnt developed i broke down in hospital was soo hard to listen that my baby wont survive if i carry her for another few months i feel so lost and scared and i havent got a clue whats going to happenn thank you all kind friends xoxo i will keep you all informed