20 year old wife looking for young buddies who are ttc! Update: 4 healthy babys born!

[brookettc3]

I just feel terrible cause without me she has no one to watch them... I am too passive I think... how do you think I should tell her?

 

[Fire_Bride]

I just found this thread when I thought I was the only one who was 20 and TTC...good to see I'm not alone

 

[brookettc3]

Oh def not alone I was 19 and ttc for a while

 

[kim_09]

Brooke. I'm usually someone who does my best to avoid confrontation but in your case, i think i would say something to her. It is wrong what she is doing and she isn't being fair to you at all. She says she will pay you $50 for babysitting but then turns around later and only gives you $35. That's just wrong.

As for what you say to her.. hmm.. If she was a good friend of mine i would probably say something in a fairly light hearted manner.. "Hey i thought you were going to give me $$ (whatever amount) for looking after your kids?" and then see what she says. Make sure you stand your ground and don't back down if she comes up with a lame excuse. Or figure out a payment that suits both of you but definitely speak up if you feel it's not right. Also decide on the days you look after her kid's and stick to that. Remind her that you are not feeling too well and need time to rest. If she was a good friend, she should totally understand.

 

[youngwife20]

Brooke- she should have thought about you being the only one to help her when she was taking advantage like that , i just think you should text her letting her know its acceptable when you agree a payment she should stick to it. the same way you say you will look after her kids and you stick to it

 

[youngwife20]

telling her its *unacceptable!

 

[brookettc3]

Thank you guys I talked to her and she agreed to pay me what she owes me...

On a different note my MS is so bad I can't even do anything... My houS is a
Wreck I feel like such a bad mom/wife

 

[youngwife20]

brooke- i hope ur sickness gets better and your husband should help out so the house isnt a wrek lol thts what i was like to start with. i dont have an sickness now i didnt have any symptoms but now i have a rea;ly bad headache!! did u get that with ur first?

 

[brookettc3]

Right?! That's what I keep telling him but he just makes a bigger mess when he gets here... :/ lol with my first I was slightly nauseous but nothing too bad and headaches 2nd beyond sick(kinda like now) so maybe boy? And headaches... Wow I can't believe you are 14 weeks!!!

 

[kim_09]

Brooke, great to hear everything is sorted with your friend

I have had the worst week.. My husband invited his parents to stay over for a week and it's been so difficult to hide the m/s and food adversions. I haven't felt like eating meat at all. I really want to keep this a secret until i'm past 3months. They left today but i think they're already suspicious. His mum kept pressuring me to have some wine but i kept saying that i didn't feel like drinking. Argh.. nothing i can do about it now. When is everyone telling family and friends?

I also have a horrible cold now and i feel so lousy. Does anyone know what is safe to take for a cold? I've been trying to just stick to some lemon, honey and hot water but nothing is working..

 

[youngwife20]

Right?! That's what I keep telling him but he just makes a bigger mess when he gets here... :/ lol with my first I was slightly nauseous but nothing too bad and headaches 2nd beyond sick(kinda like now) so maybe boy? And headaches... Wow I can't believe you are 14 weeks!!![/QUOTE

oooh what would you like to have this time?

i dont mind what i have but i think its a girl coz i dream about girls all the time lol.


and i know i am 14 weeks time is flying abit faster now! im much more calmer. and relaxed ive been very hard to live with since becoming pregnant lol axiety hormones and worry make me a bitch lol but apart from the random hormonal outbursts of tears im pretty much back to my normal self lol

 

[youngwife20]

Brooke, great to hear everything is sorted with your friend

I have had the worst week.. My husband invited his parents to stay over for a week and it's been so difficult to hide the m/s and food adversions. I haven't felt like eating meat at all. I really want to keep this a secret until i'm past 3months. They left today but i think they're already suspicious. His mum kept pressuring me to have some wine but i kept saying that i didn't feel like drinking. Argh.. nothing i can do about it now. When is everyone telling family and friends?

I also have a horrible cold now and i feel so lousy. Does anyone know what is safe to take for a cold? I've been trying to just stick to some lemon, honey and hot water but nothing is working..

im not sure whats safe to take. im strange and dont take anything in pregnancy ( well i havent so far. accept for the morphine i had in the start of my pregnancy when i was in hosp but i didnt know i was pregnant then so since then im staying away from anything) maybe you should contact your doc and see what ur safe to take? plenty of rest would be good!

and you only have 4 weeeks left so hopefuly they wont find out before then, i did my anoucnment after my 13 week scan. i thought it tell everyone earlier but i felt so much better waiting , do whats right for you! if they try and force you to drink say your detoxing! and you feel more healthier when u dont drink. i said that lots of times!

 

[youngwife20]

Whos pregnant ladies so i can add it to the front page of the thread? Brook, Kim , dg and someone else?

 

[youngwife20]

i remember alli was pregnant. how is she doing ive just gone back a few pages and her tickers are gone? i hope shes alright.

 

[Kimbre]

that woman that owed you the money and keeps bringing it down in the amount and stuff is rude. shes deff. taking advantage of you. im the SAME way as you though... i wouldnt be able to say anything. but id stop watching her kids probably lol.

as for the messy house. hello. you have kids. and a husband. and if hes ANYTHING like mine... hes gross when it comes to messes. ha.

i left for a week to visit my mom. i come home and my nice neat house is RUINED. i knew itd be messy but nothing prepared me for what i was coming home to! and he had left our pit-bull out of his kennel! for the whole damn day, he had chewed up anything he could find and it was all over the floor. the whole wood floor in the living room had been filled with piss. it was GROSS and he shit on my kitchen floor! my father and my step mom and step brother had come to see our home. and thats what they walked in on!

i could've killed him. and he was SO embarrassed, "i ddnt know that you were gonna bring them here! why did you!?" um excuse you. i thought the house would have been how id left it. i didnt know that you were a fricken TWO year old who couldnt clean up after himself or take care of the dog YOU wanted. hahahaha. wow. i was mad!
im such a neat freak too. i just kept telling them..."my house NEVER looks like this. im s sorry!"
so yeah. men are kind of ususless. most of them. and i just tell him "see, next time you day im not doing enough and i "dont do anything" when im at home, think about this!"
he didnt have any underwear or work clothes either...at least i know he'd be lost without me.

 

[alli.s]

hi girls, sorry for the long absence, i miscarried at 5 weeks, it was heartbreaking and really was a hard thing to deal with. I tried again this month but i tested today and BFN so onto next cycle, it will be hard with school but i will give it a shot. Congrats brooke! i'm sending you all the happiness i have

 

[brookettc3]

Kimbre- Thank you for your thoughts I really agree. My OH is a slob he never puts anything away I have to clean up after 2 kids and my husband and we have 2 pitbulls so I know how the clean up goes. Sorry to hear that he embarrassed you in front of your family I would be so pissed!

Alli- So sorry for your loss girl Thank you

 

[alli.s]

thank you brooke, and thank you youngwife20 for thinking of me! i will stalk around here from now on hopefully i am pregnant this time by next year, here's to wishful thinkin!

 

[kim_09]

Thanks youngwife. I'm hesitant with taking anything also so i'm trying to go the natural way. Lots of fruit, sleep and staying hydrated. I feel a little better today so that's a good sign.

I now feel guilty for complaining to my husband that he's lazy.. i guess i should be thankful that he sometimes helps out with dinner and cleaning. I wouldn't go as far as saying he's a clean freak though.. but he really does try.. even if i have to wash some of the dishes a second time.. atleast he tries. haha

I'm so sorry Alli. Hopefully you get that bfp soon.

 

[youngwife20]

Alli- ur very welcome! Ur such a lovely person and I know u will be pregnant soon! Xxxx

Kim- washing dishes a second time lol u may as well do it to start with haha but ur right atleast he's trying its the thougt tht counts lol