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[yoshy]

Hi all! I would like to join the group. I'm estimated to be due on June 10th. This will be baby #1 - it was a tough journey to get here, had to undergo IVF b/c I have PCOS. Everything is going well so far

Do any of you use a pregnancy pillow for sleeping? I'm thinking of getting one b/c my shoulders hurt a lot when I sleep. I've been told I need to sleep on either my right or left side, but not on my back and that puts a lot of pressure on my shoulders. Sometimes I sleep on my back for a little bit, but prop myself up with extra pillows so I am not completely flat.

I don't sleep with a pregnancy pillow, although I did last time, and it was a godsend. This time for some reason I'm finding it a lot less comfortable with it than without it.
I have the head of my bed at about a 35 degree incline, and so I find that if I'm sleeping on my side, I don't need the addition of the pregnancy pillow. I tend to end up on my back at some point during the night, but I generally wake up and turn over in any case.

And actually, I'm still finding that for the most part, the most comfortable position to sleep in is mostly on my stomach. I kind of have my stomach to one side, and I have one leg bent and coming up towards my chest, and I find it super comfortable.

 

[star_e]

Thanks for the feedback about the pillow. I'm still undecided. I sleep with a pillow between my knees and I hug another pillow so not sure if the pg pillow will help. I might try it but am still thinking about it just bc if it doesn't work I don't want to have another thing to store taking up space in my small apt. If it works though It will be well worth it.

 

[yoshy]

Thanks for the feedback about the pillow. I'm still undecided. I sleep with a pillow between my knees and I hug another pillow so not sure if the pg pillow will help. I might try it but am still thinking about it just bc if it doesn't work I don't want to have another thing to store taking up space in my small apt. If it works though It will be well worth it.

Do you have a friend you could borrow one from to try it out before you go out and buy one?

I will say that I don't have a nursing pillow and I'm planning to use my body pillow as a nursing pillow when the time comes, so it wouldn't be completely without use.

 

[Catalyst]

If it does not work you could sell it.

 

[star_e]

I only have one friend who just had a child but didn't use one. My other friends don't have children. It's true I could sell it if it doesn't work. I think I'm going to keep using regular pillows and if it gets very bad I'll get it. Last night was better. My back aches but that's just a common symptom.

Right now I'm coming up with my baby list and it's so much to research and think about.

 

[crazylilth1ng]

I have never had a pregnancy pillow. I just get in bed and hope for the best. It sounds like a good idea though!

Welcome star Baby list? Do you mean things to buy for baby?

 

[star_e]

Yea things to buy. I'm making a list and doing research and it can be information overload.

 

[OilyMamma]

Dont get too stressed about it. Babies need only the basics for a few months. So you have lots of time to buy the other stuff after baby. Basics like blankets, clothes, diapers and food are all they really need to start out. Oh and dont forget to pack the vitamin D-drops so you dont have to go to the pharmacy on the way home &#128514;

 

[jumpingo]

my mini soapbox about "what baby really needs":

1. way to get home (car seat)
2. somewhere to sleep (crib, bassinet, cosleeper, whatever fits your family and lifestyle)
3. something to wear (my first lived in footed snap/zip-up sleepers for at *least* the first 2 months. easier than onesies over a wobbly newborn head.)
4. something to eat (boobs, formula, again whatever fits your life. both are valid choices and don't feel guilty for either one!)
5. something for their butt! (we did disposables for a bit, then went to cloth until 10 months, at which point we were traveling and moving, so cloth was impractical. both have their pros and cons.)
6. your love. it is exactly what baby needs, even when it feels like you aren't doing it "right" or "well enough." it is.

everything else, carriers, bouncers, toys, all the other "stuff" and gear really is just a bonus to make life easier for mom and dad. *baby's* needs are actually very simple for the first several months.

 

[Symphony7]

Finally decided on her name today. Only 17 weeks til we get to meet Juliette Marie.

 

[crazylilth1ng]

Finally decided on her name today. Only 17 weeks til we get to meet Juliette Marie.

Aww what a pretty name!!

 

[star_e]

That's a beautiful name!

And thank you all for the comments on the baby list. It's helpful. In terms of blankets, do you recommend receiving blankets, quilts?

 

[yoshy]

my mini soapbox about "what baby really needs":

1. way to get home (car seat)
2. somewhere to sleep (crib, bassinet, cosleeper, whatever fits your family and lifestyle)
3. something to wear (my first lived in footed snap/zip-up sleepers for at *least* the first 2 months. easier than onesies over a wobbly newborn head.)
4. something to eat (boobs, formula, again whatever fits your life. both are valid choices and don't feel guilty for either one!)
5. something for their butt! (we did disposables for a bit, then went to cloth until 10 months, at which point we were traveling and moving, so cloth was impractical. both have their pros and cons.)
6. your love. it is exactly what baby needs, even when it feels like you aren't doing it "right" or "well enough." it is.

everything else, carriers, bouncers, toys, all the other "stuff" and gear really is just a bonus to make life easier for mom and dad. *baby's* needs are actually very simple for the first several months.

This.

All of this.



This is a perfect list

Not that I'm planning to stick to it. lol. I've ordered a custom made handwoven ring sling, and I'm expecting to have baby in it most of the time for the first few weeks.
And actually, since it'll be mid summer and pretty hot here, my babies usually wear short sleeved onesies most of the first few weeks, cuz it's just too hot for anything else (although I should get some longer stuff too, I guess, cuz we actually have an air conditioner this time, which we didn't have with my first).

I'm not buying any clothes though until after she's born. I've got a big bag of hand-me-downs from a friend, including a going home from hospital outfit, and I've got a bunch of unisex onesies left over from my son. They'll do her for the first month or so.

 

[jumpingo]

yoshy, my first was a winter baby, so i guess i need to figure out what we'll do this time around! and i LOVED my k'tan wrap/carrier. i'm not saying there won't be extras, because there *are* things that made life easier with my first. i just hoped to ease other's worries about having to get "all the things!" because there are so many sites and people out there telling you how much stuff a baby "needs" and i think it's unnecessarily overwhelming to (especially first time) parents. also, every baby is different, so what works for one (i.e. bouncer, swing, wrap, playmat, crib wedge, etc etc) may not for another. there is a lot of trial and error once baby arrives!

 

[yoshy]

also, every baby is different, so what works for one (i.e. bouncer, swing, wrap, playmat, crib wedge, etc etc) may not for another. there is a lot of trial and error once baby arrives!

Totally. I'm not getting anything extra except for the sling until after I give birth. I'm using baby as an excuse to get the sling I've been planning it since before I got pregnant. lol

 

[jumpingo]

what kind of sling are you/did you get?? there are sone really beautiful ones out there!

we just bought a house, so that's my "splurge for new baby!"

 

[yoshy]

It's a handwoven wrap that's being converted into a ring sling. Super expensive but worth every penny.

 

[star_e]

I am getting a baby carrier that's called the lillbaby. Is a sling a wrap? Should I also get one of those? I will be a first time mom and find it overwhelming so I am sticking just to basics and with clothes I'm going to leave tags on everything except for a few things that I'll wash beforehand in two sizes and once I know what size he is I'll return the stuff that does not fit. I guess I need to call the store though bc if something comes as a set of five and I use one thing and determine I don't like it or he does not like it can I return the others? Or do they need to be as a set. I'll call store to ask.

Also can you recommend how many clothes I should get and which ones. I plan on getting 5 short sleeve onesies, 5 long sleeve, 2 footted sleepers and 2 non footed sleepers, 1 romper. Is this a good start?

i was thinking of getting three swaddle blankets and using those as blankets.

 

[Catalyst]

I think you are on a good start, dont think you need any more than that to begin with.

 

[yoshy]

I am getting a baby carrier that's called the lillbaby. Is a sling a wrap? Should I also get one of those? I will be a first time mom and find it overwhelming so I am sticking just to basics and with clothes I'm going to leave tags on everything except for a few things that I'll wash beforehand in two sizes and once I know what size he is I'll return the stuff that does not fit. I guess I need to call the store though bc if something comes as a set of five and I use one thing and determine I don't like it or he does not like it can I return the others? Or do they need to be as a set. I'll call store to ask.

Also can you recommend how many clothes I should get and which ones. I plan on getting 5 short sleeve onesies, 5 long sleeve, 2 footted sleepers and 2 non footed sleepers, 1 romper. Is this a good start?

i was thinking of getting three swaddle blankets and using those as blankets.

The lillibaby is an amazing carrier. I'm jealous you're getting one
I'd love one of those in addition to my wraps. I'm a bit of a wrapaholic. I have 3 woven wraps in differnet sizes, I will have my ring sling soon, I have a stretchy wrap (like a moby), which is good for the newborn stage, and I've got a mei-tai, and one soft structured carrier (which is the same idea as the lillibaby, I think).

I'd suggest having a few more onesies, and some footed pants. Especially to start with, babies will go through clothes faster than you expect. From my experience with my son, I'd say you probably need to assume at least two outfits per day because of spit-up, pee/poop, etc.
Other than that, it sounds like a good start