WillowGrace
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Just opened FB to see my old intern I had two years ago just announced she is pregnant. Her due date is what mine would have been if I didn't lose this baby....
I am SO happy for her.
I am SO utterly heartbroken. I can't help, but just cry. I'm filled with so much pain from this loss and from the last 2 years spent unable to conceive.
For those of you who keep saying that you will be a better mother for it I should let you know-- now... I am a mother. I have secondary infertility, which isn't widely spoken of or understood. FYI- approximately 30 percent of infertility is secondary infertilitythe inability to conceive or have a full-term pregnancy after having had children without difficulty before.
I hope you all understand this is as hard for me as it is for you. I never spoke up about it yet because I didn't want to hear any comments like "you should be grateful for what you have" or be treated any differently because I already have kids or for anyone to think that I am not as infertile as someone else.
I, like you, cannot conceive. ANY form of infertility is heartbreaking. I should mention I AM so so so grateful for my two children, but my family is not complete. It hurts so much to KNOW what I am missing. I know what it is like to hear the baby's heartbeat, to feel the baby kick, to experience a wonderful peaceful birth, to hear that first cry, all the sleepless nights spent rocking/nursing my kids to sleep. I know... and I feel so empty that I cannot have more children as I had always dreamed. What makes it worse is when I have to cry when my children aren't looking when they ask when are they going to get a sister or brother over and over again. My husband and I don't talk about TTC in front of the kids, but they ask for siblings on a regular basis. One day.... One day....
Thank you for listening if you made it this far.
I am SO happy for her.
I am SO utterly heartbroken. I can't help, but just cry. I'm filled with so much pain from this loss and from the last 2 years spent unable to conceive.
For those of you who keep saying that you will be a better mother for it I should let you know-- now... I am a mother. I have secondary infertility, which isn't widely spoken of or understood. FYI- approximately 30 percent of infertility is secondary infertilitythe inability to conceive or have a full-term pregnancy after having had children without difficulty before.
I hope you all understand this is as hard for me as it is for you. I never spoke up about it yet because I didn't want to hear any comments like "you should be grateful for what you have" or be treated any differently because I already have kids or for anyone to think that I am not as infertile as someone else.
I, like you, cannot conceive. ANY form of infertility is heartbreaking. I should mention I AM so so so grateful for my two children, but my family is not complete. It hurts so much to KNOW what I am missing. I know what it is like to hear the baby's heartbeat, to feel the baby kick, to experience a wonderful peaceful birth, to hear that first cry, all the sleepless nights spent rocking/nursing my kids to sleep. I know... and I feel so empty that I cannot have more children as I had always dreamed. What makes it worse is when I have to cry when my children aren't looking when they ask when are they going to get a sister or brother over and over again. My husband and I don't talk about TTC in front of the kids, but they ask for siblings on a regular basis. One day.... One day....
Thank you for listening if you made it this far.