TTCBaby: It is my absolute pleasure to answer as many questions as you need. I felt it really helped me to reach out to other women who had done IVF before going through with mine. Well, I only had 1 embryo transferred because that's all I had out of the 15 eggs retrieved. I couldn't believe we had such a lousy fertilization result AND with nothing to freeze! I figured if this round didn't work we could at least do a FET, but no... it came down to everything was riding on that one little embryo. BUT, it worked. Sometimes I'm still in shock and can't believe this is real even though I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow.
BMA11: I just got teary eyed readying that you were teary eyed. It's such a struggle, I know. My OH actually got a g/f pregnant when he was in his early 20s. They had been dating for 3 months and she missed 1 pill. For ages it infuriated me that my husband and someone else got pregnant so easily. The g/f opted to have the pregnancy terminated and for months I worried that it might have been my OH's only chance to have children. Also don't worry about the shots, they are surprisingly painless. The needles are so thin you can't even feel it going in. As someone who hate needles, I felt like quite the rock star when I could easily do the injections on my own. My OH would offer to help, but he also hates needles and his hands would shake!!!
Also, I believe the odds with IVF are quite a bit higher... about 65% at least. At least that is what my research has told me and what my doctor told us when we went forward with the procedure. Now it could be different in individual cases, but I do know that IUI has about 15-20% chance of being successful (just slightly higher than a natural BFP). I think it's worth it to try IUI a couple of times, but it does get very expensive. And yes, the IVF is very expensive. As I mentioned in a previous post, I was lucky to find out that my work benefits covered the cost of the drugs. So having $4,000 knocked off my $11,000 bill was quite helpful. Even if it hadn't worked, I still think it would have been worth it. I would have spent the rest of my life thinking what if. For me, I knew I had to try everything humanly possible to have my own baby.
Also, something else I forgot to mention is that I did acupuncture throughout the entire IVF cycle. I believe this really helped and my acupuncturist came to the transfer and did a session with me both before and after. I also saw a fertility hypnotist to help me get past a lot of the emotional blocks from all the failed IUIs. My third failed IUI absolutely crushed me and whenever I would think about it, I would break down into tears. The hypnosis session really helped with that.
It was basically like a meditation, where I pictured myself on a beach writing all my negative thoughts in the sand with a stick and then the ocean waves coming up and washing all those negative words away. I would also say positive affirmations to myself before bed. However, after the fact that we only had 1 embryo all that positivity went out the window and I spent the entire TWW being bitter and jaded!
Let me know if you have any more questions. Happy to help as always!