SashimiMimi
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Hi Sunshine! I totally can relate to how you feel. There is something about that third fail that is absolutely heartbreaking and devastating on so many fronts, you just feel like you'll fall to pieces. I was in the same boat as you back in May:
IUI #1: natural, 1 follicle BFN
IUI #2: femara, 2 follicles BFN
IUI #3: puregon injections, 5 follicles BFFN
I thought to myself if there were 5 eggs and it didn't work, how will it ever? I also had a lap booked for July, but it didn't feel right to me. After the 3rd fail, OH and I went to Hawaii, took a break from TTC and reconnected as a couple. It was nice to eat and drink whatever I wanted and step away from the cycle monitoring chaos. I knew doing the lap did not feel right to me, so I booked a meeting with my doctor. Some additional tests showed that I have a low ovarian reserve, which means my ovaries function as someone who is much older than 31. I was referred straight into IVF and told to skip the lap.
As I've said in other posts on this thread, it was terrifying and seemed like such a huge step that I wasn't ready for but I'm glad I went for it. I had 15 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized and 1 made good quality embryo made it to transfer. One died, and one was very poor quality but transferred anyway along with the good egg. This indicated that I have poor egg quality which was probably the problem all along.BUT that one little embryo survived and I am so thankful every single day to be 16 weeks along. Sometimes I still can't believe it.
I think it's fantastic that you get so many of these procedures covered. I'm in Canada and while all the ultrasounds and blood tests are covered, some of the drugs and the actual procedures are not. So I spent $11,000 on IVF and it felt like a gamble. So I agree with the ladies, don't rush into the lap if you aren't ready. I would continue with the IUIs and then assess if you want to move on to IVF.
A friend of mine that I met on these boards did the lap and a hysteroscopy. She had stage 5 endo, had it all removed and got a BFP on her first try after the surgery. She had been ttc for 14 months. But they could tell she had endo before the surgery, so I think if they haven't detected endo for you chances are you don't have it.
My SIL did 4 IUIs. She was also just broken over the 3rd fail. She was gearing up for IVF and threw in the towel halfway through the 4th round of IUIs, so she didn't do the two inseminations back to back.... She did just one, didn't go back the next day and proceeded to do everything wrong during the TWW. She drank wine, trained for a marathon, ate whatever she wanted. Well that turned out to be a BFP and she conceived my niece! She literally fell off her chair when the clinic called to tell her it had worked. My niece is now a happy healthy 4 year old and my SIL now looks back and says she is glad she had the fails because my niece wouldn't be who she is today.
So I guess the moral of my ramblings is that for all the ladies in here dealing with failed fertility procedures, you WILL get your BFPs. The tough part is you just don't know when and my heart really goes out to you. I think this whole infertility experience makes us stronger and we will all be better mothers because of it.
IUI #1: natural, 1 follicle BFN
IUI #2: femara, 2 follicles BFN
IUI #3: puregon injections, 5 follicles BFFN
I thought to myself if there were 5 eggs and it didn't work, how will it ever? I also had a lap booked for July, but it didn't feel right to me. After the 3rd fail, OH and I went to Hawaii, took a break from TTC and reconnected as a couple. It was nice to eat and drink whatever I wanted and step away from the cycle monitoring chaos. I knew doing the lap did not feel right to me, so I booked a meeting with my doctor. Some additional tests showed that I have a low ovarian reserve, which means my ovaries function as someone who is much older than 31. I was referred straight into IVF and told to skip the lap.
As I've said in other posts on this thread, it was terrifying and seemed like such a huge step that I wasn't ready for but I'm glad I went for it. I had 15 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized and 1 made good quality embryo made it to transfer. One died, and one was very poor quality but transferred anyway along with the good egg. This indicated that I have poor egg quality which was probably the problem all along.BUT that one little embryo survived and I am so thankful every single day to be 16 weeks along. Sometimes I still can't believe it.
I think it's fantastic that you get so many of these procedures covered. I'm in Canada and while all the ultrasounds and blood tests are covered, some of the drugs and the actual procedures are not. So I spent $11,000 on IVF and it felt like a gamble. So I agree with the ladies, don't rush into the lap if you aren't ready. I would continue with the IUIs and then assess if you want to move on to IVF.
A friend of mine that I met on these boards did the lap and a hysteroscopy. She had stage 5 endo, had it all removed and got a BFP on her first try after the surgery. She had been ttc for 14 months. But they could tell she had endo before the surgery, so I think if they haven't detected endo for you chances are you don't have it.
My SIL did 4 IUIs. She was also just broken over the 3rd fail. She was gearing up for IVF and threw in the towel halfway through the 4th round of IUIs, so she didn't do the two inseminations back to back.... She did just one, didn't go back the next day and proceeded to do everything wrong during the TWW. She drank wine, trained for a marathon, ate whatever she wanted. Well that turned out to be a BFP and she conceived my niece! She literally fell off her chair when the clinic called to tell her it had worked. My niece is now a happy healthy 4 year old and my SIL now looks back and says she is glad she had the fails because my niece wouldn't be who she is today.
So I guess the moral of my ramblings is that for all the ladies in here dealing with failed fertility procedures, you WILL get your BFPs. The tough part is you just don't know when and my heart really goes out to you. I think this whole infertility experience makes us stronger and we will all be better mothers because of it.