3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[PinkPeony]

Pink I was thinking about something you mentioned in your last post about the dr recommending you have another HSG which was upsetting for you. I don't know why I'm thinking about this but I was and I feel like you should ask them if it is really necessary since you are doing IVF. All that test shows is if the tubes are open which does not really matter with IVF since they completely bypass them. If I was you I would say that I did not want to do it again either unless it was absolutely necessary, which I can't understand why it would be since you are moving forward. Hope you are doing well.

Ha! I said the same thing and she said they won't do the full thing and just enough to check the uterus. She even showed me where she wrote on the requisition "no tubes". Apparently they do it before IVF bc thy have to check for fibroids and stuff like that - anything that can get in the way of implantation. I think I'm going to bring a little hooch this time. Last time Advil just did not cut it.

Ps. Thanks for thinking of me.

 

[StayHopeful]

Pink, the test my doctor recommends before IVF is the saline sonogram (similar to the dye test as far as pain level, but they shoot saline into the uterine cavity and it shows if there are any abnormalities that would interfere with implantation). It hurt as much as my HSG but it was more like an IUI in terms of being done in an exam room with an ultrasound wand instead of being done in an xray room. I had one done last October when they wanted to rule out endometriosis, so my doctor decided I don't need another one before IVF.

 

[fisher640]

Def bring the hooch
I took 2 Aleve like 2 hours before, I'm not sure it helped too much. Just glad it's a short test!!! Drinking beforehand sounds like an excellent idea tho!

 

[PinkPeony]

Pink, the test my doctor recommends before IVF is the saline sonogram (similar to the dye test as far as pain level, but they shoot saline into the uterine cavity and it shows if there are any abnormalities that would interfere with implantation). It hurt as much as my HSG but it was more like an IUI in terms of being done in an exam room with an ultrasound wand instead of being done in an xray room. I had one done last October when they wanted to rule out endometriosis, so my doctor decided I don't need another one before IVF.

That's actually what I'm having. I think it's basically the same as the HSG, just not radioactive. That's the same test I had before so I know it's going to be a beeeyach.

 

[CCClomidQueen]

Well IUI #4 BFN ahhhhhhhhh! going in today to start shots and feeling hopeless.

 

[Bma11]

Well IUI #4 BFN ahhhhhhhhh! going in today to start shots and feeling hopeless.

Are you moving on to ivf now?




To all the others good luck with everything

 

[PinkPeony]

Well IUI #4 BFN ahhhhhhhhh! going in today to start shots and feeling hopeless.

That really sucks. I'm sorry.

 

[CCClomidQueen]

Started Gonal F and we'll do IUI again, this is all free so I want to try these options before ivf

 

[Sunshine24]

CC I'm so sorry the 4th was a bust!!! Injectibles is usually the magic drug though, so hopefully this will be your time!! Awesome that you're moving right along, good for you.

Keep your head up and stay strong Thinking of you!

 

[CCClomidQueen]

CC I'm so sorry the 4th was a bust!!! Injectibles is usually the magic drug though, so hopefully this will be your time!! Awesome that you're moving right along, good for you.

Keep your head up and stay strong Thinking of you!

Thank you sunshine, I just keep moving forward, but now I'm really frustrated and don't believe anything is going to work

 

[PinkPeony]

CC I'm so sorry the 4th was a bust!!! Injectibles is usually the magic drug though, so hopefully this will be your time!! Awesome that you're moving right along, good for you.

Keep your head up and stay strong Thinking of you!

Thank you sunshine, I just keep moving forward, but now I'm really frustrated and don't believe anything is going to work

That's the tough thing about doing so many IUI's. It conditions your brain that nothing will ever work. That's a very normal feeling and hard to win over - you'd have to be a little crazy to keep doing the same thing over and over without seeing a trend and expecting it to continue. That's the funny thing about LTTTC though is that you're not pregnant over and over and then you are. I've seen so many ladies on here that have tried a long time and then something finally works. It's just one of the rough things about doing fertility treatments, it really wears you down after a while. I find a break here and there does wonders.

 

[CCClomidQueen]

I will definitely take a break if this round fails

 

[StayHopeful]

So sorry, CC.

I have a question for the ladies who've done IVF. I'm going to be starting my BCP as soon as AF comes, probably in a week or so. The plan my doctor gave me included Follistim as the main stim medicine, but I'd applied to a discount med program and heard back today that I'll qualify for 50% off Gonal-F. I called my doctor's office to ask if I can use Gonal-F instead, but they were already closed so I left a message. Do you guys have any idea?

Today is my birthday, so I'm going to forget about TTC for a while and go out and have a large drink :cheer:

 

[Bma11]

Stay hopeful- I'm not sure but enjoy your drink!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

 

[fisher640]

Happy Birthday! Enjoy your large drink!

I was in quite a low spot after my 4th IUI failed as well, we're all here for you though!

 

[PinkPeony]

That was my low point too. Hopefully I won't get there again. Clomidqueen - hopefully this WILL work and your "break" will be a loooooooong one.

Happy bday Stay Hopeful! Let loose while you can girlie!

 

[fisher640]

I always hated getting false hope while TTC, but I truly thought my 5th IUI was nothing but a waste of time. I mean who does the same exact thing 5 times in a row and expects anything to change? But it can work, I'm awake at 430 sitting in a chair trying to feed the end result of my 5th IUI. I mean I distinctly remember laying on the table during the actual IUI thinking "I didn't feel any cramping this time I bet the doctor just gave up and squirted it in my vag and said 'to hell with it' this time"

 

[CCClomidQueen]

I always hated getting false hope while TTC, but I truly thought my 5th IUI was nothing but a waste of time. I mean who does the same exact thing 5 times in a row and expects anything to change? But it can work, I'm awake at 430 sitting in a chair trying to feed the end result of my 5th IUI. I mean I distinctly remember laying on the table during the actual IUI thinking "I didn't feel any cramping this time I bet the doctor just gave up and squirted it in my vag and said 'to hell with it' this time"

Wow Fisher thank you for this message! were you on pills or shots for your iui's.

 

[Maverick007]

CC, so sorry to hear about the 4th IUI I can only imagine how frustrated you are.

I am heading into my 3rd IUI (w/ this RE - it'll be my 4th ever though)...not feeling super positive but I don't want to really feel too strongly either way. It is starting to feel like a huge energy waster to be thinking and worrying about it all the time.

 

[CCClomidQueen]

CC, so sorry to hear about the 4th IUI I can only imagine how frustrated you are.

I am heading into my 3rd IUI (w/ this RE - it'll be my 4th ever though)...not feeling super positive but I don't want to really feel too strongly either way. It is starting to feel like a huge energy waster to be thinking and worrying about it all the time.[/QUOTE

I know how you feel Maverick! good luck with your upcoming IUI.