3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

Stay-that is amazing congrats!!! You are going to have a ton of frosties I bet. You must be so happy that part is over.. Are you doing a 5 day transfer? Hope you are resting up today.

As far as morph yes they say ivf helps with it bc w icsi they will be able to fertilize regardless of sperm shape. Did you do icsi or natural fertilization

I am definitely happy that part is over! It was such a relief to find out that number this morning! I'm so hopeful that this fresh cycle will work, but it's reassuring to know that we'll have some frosties just in case, or when we decide we're ready for another one. From what I know of FETs, they're not nearly as intense as IVF. The lab said to plan on a day 5 transfer. He said he'd let me know for sure tomorrow, but that's what he's thinking. We signed the consent for them to do ICSI if needed (our clinic doesn't charge extra for it) but they decided to do natural fertilization with all of them.

 

[Anne24]

Thank you all for your responses.

Stay Wow that is amazing. When is your transfer? Good luck and keep us updated.

Strawberry I am sorry your 4th iui failed. Its beyond comprehension how such perfectly timed inseminations do not work. I see you plan to move to ivf in fall. So will you go for more iui cycles in the summer? Good luck.

Maverick I see that you are doing ivf in August. Good luck and baby dust to you.

Afm I shall keep you all updated about the outcome of my appointment. But as far as I am concerned even my clinic doesn't recommend more than 3iuis and I'm kind of anticipating that we will be asked to move to ivf as well. However I plan to take a break this summer and probably then move to ivf in fall/winter.

 

[Strawberry13]

Stay that's great that they all fertilized naturally and they didn't need icsi!

Anne if you do ivf in the fall we can be cycle buddies by that time I bet stayhopeful and maverick will already be preggo!

 

[StayHopeful]

My transfer is scheduled for Monday, so that gives me the weekend to rest and get over being sore from stims and the retrieval.

 

[Sunshine24]

Stay! Best of luck to you. Hopefully youre like me and your recovery from retrieval is quick and easy and resulting in a BFP!

Best of luck.

 

[Anne24]

Stay that's great that they all fertilized naturally and they didn't need icsi!

Anne if you do ivf in the fall we can be cycle buddies by that time I bet stayhopeful and maverick will already be preggo!

Strawberry Ya that would be nice to be cycle buddies. Will you be going through more iuis before fall? I have heard many clinics go for 6 iuis but if it is meant to happen it should happen within the 3.

 

[Orchid6]

Stay hopeful what wonderful news, I'm so excited for you!

 

[Strawberry13]

Anne-Yes I'm going to try one more, then will have my ivf consult in August. It can't get here soon enough I'm so anxious! Lol.

 

[PinkPeony]

StayHopeful !!!! EEEE!!!!! That is an amazing result!! Can't wait to hear how things go! Lot's of frosties I bet but you won't need em for a while!!!!!!!!!! ;-)

Orchid - I recently had that bombshell of "unexplained" diagnosis after meeting a new doctor too. Totally threw me for a loop. My doc also mentioned egg quality. It all does my head in a bit. She basically looked at the results of all my IUI's and said your male factor isn't so bad that you shouldn't have conceived by now. OY. I've been taking a big dose of CoQ10 everyday so hopefully that helps.

Welcome Anne! My personal experience is that I regret doing so many IUI's (I did 5)... I feel the whole experience really beat me down and made me feel like nothing would ever work. I'm about to do an IVF cycle but I feel very numb toward the whole thing like deep down I can't imagine it working at this point even though the statistical chances are so much better. Obv if my last IUI had worked I'd feel differently about keeping with them but I think something I didn't consider going in was the psychological toll those failures would take on me.

 

[Orchid6]

Anne- I believe statistically 3 treatments of iui/superovulation/clomid for unexplained infertility success rates are at its highest.The 4th treatment is a little lower in success than the first 3 but after 5 or 6 iui/hyper ovulation - your chances are only a cpl of percent higher than normal intercourse. So in a nutshell, both RE's that I have gone to have said after three failed treatments its time to move on to a more aggressive treatment and change it up. With that being said its known that some women will get a BFP on their 5th or 6th+IUIs, theoretically if you are unexplained you have a 50% chance of becoming pregnant in the first three years. It all depends on how aggressive you want to be, I've been told that I'm not a candidate for injectables/iui as I've over stimulated on clomid and my RE feels that he would cancel my cycles in fear of multiples. So fingers crossed but ill be starting IVF in August, it's your fastest route and its diagnostic test that hopefully will provide some explanation as to why your not getting pregnant but its also the most expensive. Good luck.

Pink peony - I felt the same, So numb after all these failed cycles. I have never seen a BFP, I almost feel if I ever saw one that my reaction would be the same as winning a million dollars, pure disbelief. I met with my RE the other day and he commented on my change in demeanour, I feel like three failed cycles have broken me taken a piece of my heart and my optimism. With that being said, I think there's a silver lining, I have been taught to be patient... I'm a control freak and I have been taught that sometimes there aren't answers and you cant control everything. Im slowly becoming optimistic, the success rates look great so fingers crossed. When are you starting IVF? I have a hysterscopy in a cpl of weeks and if all is well... Drum roll.... start BC for suppression stage and Stims are set for August 19

 

[Jlh1980]

Stay hopeful, congrats on the amazing numbers! Best of luck with the transfer, sending positive thoughts your way!

 

[Anne24]

Hi All Just to give an update about my last appointment with FS. He has asked me to go for an HSG and I'm dreading it.

How are you all doing?

 

[Strawberry13]

Anne sorry to hear that I've done an hsg (and probably most of the other girls here also) and I can tell you it wasn't bad at all. If you've done iuis it really isn't much different. I barely had any cramping and the whole thing only lasted 5 min.

How's everyone else doing?

 

[Sunshine24]

HSG wasn't bad at all. Try and take some advil before you go in to help with cramping.....it will be over before you know it!

 

[Anne24]

Thank you Strawberry and Sunshine. I too have gone through HSG early last year when I was diagnosed with bilaterally blocked tubes. Thereafter I went through a lap when my tubes were successfully unblocked. However since the 3 iui cycles didn't work,my FS wants to make sure that the tubes have not blocked up again. Though I know there are many for whom iuis haven't worked either in spite of everything being perfectly timed. Either way I'm moving on to ivf this fall/winter.

Strawberry How many more iui cycles do you want to go through before moving to ivf?

 

[Maverick007]

Anne, I know how frustrating it is to have to repeat tests. I hope it shows that everything is working fine.

I'm doing okay, just battling the constant mood swings from BCPs. I also decided today was the day I'm weaning off coffee...drank black tea and will eventually try to get to green tea or nothing at all. Just want to avoid the bad headaches. I have my injection and IVF classes tomorrow and first bw/us on Thursday.

Hope you are all doing well this morning...

 

[PinkPeony]

Yeah that sucks Anne. I had to redo my saline sono when I switched to the IVF clinic. Not my favourite thing to do that's for sure. The second time around was really easy for me though. They used a smaller catheter this time and I think that really helped.

Mav- I'm not looking forward to the BC. I'm starting it tomorrow. I used to get horrible side effects on it. I keep making attempts at cutting back on the coffee too. It's so tough! I think I would have had more energy for making all these lifestyle changes a year ago. Maybe if we go through it together it'll be easier.

 

[Maverick007]

PinkP- would love to go through this process with you, it's definitely feeling harder some days than others. I hope you do OK w/ the bcps...I knew in advance too that hormonally I would probably have a hard time. I'm typically a very mellow person with no big fluctuations in mood but not the case w/ bcp. Poor DH does not understand that it's not personal but I'm trying extra hard to be sweet during the times I'm not feeling like a crazy person.

Quitting coffee is not easy. I kept making attempts too! I'd try to drink a little less every day but ended up forgetting and drinking the whole cup. So I finally just decided to try switching to black tea, which seems to contain about 1/2 the caffeine of 1 cup of coffee so it's not a perfect solution but will just take it slow and not beat myself up about it!

 

[Strawberry13]

Pink and maverick that's good to know about the coffee... I think I'll start making some changes too in advance of everything. Hope you guys don't have to stay on bcp for too long, I've heard it's usually only like 10 days to 2 weeks?

Anne-I'm doing another iui this month, but that's only bc I don't have my ivf consult till mid August- if it was sooner I'd be done w iuis by now!

 

[PinkPeony]

This is going to sound crazy but my DH got an espresso machine for his bday and I'm drinking espresso to cut back. lol! I know right... but I normally make an entire french press that's like so strong it's like sludge. So having 1 espresso is definitely less caffeine bc I can feel I want more when I finish it. But I'll go a couple hours and then I'm like - bah go have another. So I haven't really been cutting back all that much yet. I kinda suck.

Hey question to the ladies who did IVF... Did any of you do a endometrial biopsy? My clinic likes to do them before IVF but I don't have to if I don't want it. I hear it's very painful so I'm scared.