3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Chris_25]

Chris: I'm so sorry to hear you're down. I couldn't stand when people would say "it'll happen" or "just relax and have fun!" What got me through those dark says was to stop looking at what I didn't have and be grateful for what I do... My husband, my family, etc. it's not easy being in limbo but just when you hit rock bottom often it a actually does happen. Hang in there!

Stay: good luck!! Now the TWW begins. Both Sunshine and I had one put back and for both of us it worked! I'm sending lots of positive energy your way. I admit at the time I had hoped for twins but now that I have a LO there is no way I'd be able up handle it.

Thanks, I def do try and think about how grateful I am for the other stuff I have in my life and say thank you for my health, wonderful husband, home, job, but this is something I wanted as long as I could remember.

 

[Chris_25]

Thanks BMA - That's really good to know. I think if this IVF doesn't work I'll be asking for a lap for sure. BTW - that's so awesome you're expecting twins!!

Wow! Stay that sounds so promising! Sending you so many good vibez~~~~~~~

Chris - so sorry you feel down. I was in that place after my 4th IUI too. That's when I felt the absolute lowest. It's normal - it's so tough going through IUI's month after month... all the monitoring and build-up and getting hopes up and then just being in the same place again after is just so frustrating and defeating. You're really strong for going through that in the first place. Just focus on the little things that you are happy about. Bit by bit things will start to look better.

It's extremely hard and it's sad that i've gotten to the point where I just expect my period and basically feel like i'm doing the IUI and BD for no reason. I wish you the best of luck in the IVF process! I will be doing 2 more IUI's and thenmove on to IVF prob in the fall.

 

[Maverick007]

Thanks ladies for the support, I know we will get through it okay if we just take it one step at a time. Of course I say that and just found out this morning that my DH had stored the ganirelix in the fridge after receiving it and it's not supposed to be stored there. I have a VM in to the nurse to ask whether I have to reorder it but I have a feeling I do. Major bummer!

 

[Maverick007]

Hi ladies, been away for a while and back to my first clomid,ovidrel,progesterone sups cycle. The transition from non-medicated to medicated IUI is overwhelming. My break was really worth it, fully recharged now

Stay - good luck on your TWW
Strawberry - good luck with your IUI. Hope this is it
Maverick - good luck with your prep for IVF

I couldn't catch up with all the posts, how's everyone doing? Good luck!!!!

Nicedips, so glad to hear from you and it sounds like the break was what you needed. Good luck this cycle!!

 

[StayHopeful]

Maverick, I did that with a medicine during an IUI cycle and it ended up being fine. Hopefully it won't be a big deal!

Last day of official bed rest for me today,I'm scared to get up and do things tomorrow.

 

[PinkPeony]

Enjoy your day Stayhopeful! I can't believe you have 19 frozen blasts!! That's fantastic! Not that you'll need em!

 

[StayHopeful]

Thanks,Pink! DH and I are super happy with the numbers but hoping that we won't need any until we're ready for number 2!

 

[Maverick007]

Stay, I know exactly what you mean too about the fine line between being positive and getting your hopes too high. I just keep repeating the "hope for the best but be prepared for the worst" ... you sound like you have a great attitude though regardless!

On hold w/ Merck now...they do not recommend using the Ganirelix Now my only hope is to see if they will allow my pharmacy to dispense it to me for free or at reduced. Not looking too hopeful there.

 

[Bma11]

Stay hopeful- so excited for you! Will you wait to test until you go back to the clinic, or will you test at home??

 

[StayHopeful]

Sorry, maverick! I hope you got good news from the pharmacy. I know how frustrating it is when things go wrong and I felt like it was infinitely more frustrating in my IVF cycle.

Thanks, Bma! I will probably test at home, but not sure when. I did a mini-hcg shot today, so I'd have to wait until that's out of my system. Today I've been feeling lots of little twinges, so hopeful that's a good sign!

 

[Bma11]

Oh yay! I did feel a couple twinges too but other than that I didn't feel anything abnormal so just remember that you most likely won't feel anything at all and don't lose hope! What am exciting time! Can't wait to hear of your bfp!

Maverick- is everything okay ?? I hope you got what you needed.

 

[Maverick007]

Thanks guys! Crisis averted. Merck very graciously agreed to allow me a one-time replacement of all five ganirelix injections that I ruined!! So relieved! I am now a big cheerleader of Merck I have to say! Altogether it would have been a $600 mistake (if insurance wouldn't cover) so I am super relieved.

 

[baby.wish]

Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind if I join your group. I've been reading all of your posts and you guys are a really wonderful supportive group of women. Its rare to see women who even after conceiving take time out of their busy life to answer questions and support those trying to conceive. It makes me feel good. Here is my story, my husband and I have been trying to conceive for two years. We tried 3 failed IUI's which was so hard on me and at the time I didn't know how I would recover after each one to continue on this journey. To top it off after every IUI I formed a cyst from the injectables and would have to sit out a cycle until the cyst went away.
We finally decided on doing IVF as it has the highest chance of success. I am now two weeks into BCP's and had my sonohysterogram today only to find out I have a polyp that needs to be removed before my stims start on Aug 2. RE said it can affect implantation so they have scheduled me in for next Friday but i'm worried if having it removed and starting stims a week later will reduce my chances of IVF working. I can't seem to find anything online about it. Just so upset, why can't something just go right for once. Sorry I know i'm venting but it feels good to let it out and I know you ladies get it.

 

[Sunshine24]

baby.wish-- I totally know where you are at. After 5 failed IUIs we also turned to IVF and encountered some delays on the way ( the largest one being lap surgery to correct endometroesis.... ) I wondered so many times why these delays were happening, when would it be my time, and would it ever work. It was so frustrated and sad and I felt like no one I knew could relate ( except the ladies on this board. )

Well, fast forward to today----and here I sit almost 21 weeks pregnant feeling this little baby kick inside me as I type this. I always hoped and believed I would get here, and here I am. Now looking back ( and I realize this is easy for me to say now ) those little obstacles and hold-ups were NOTHING to overcome---because it was so worth it.

Hang in there. Your time is coming. Maybe there is a reason for the delay---perhaps the universe wants you to have a different due date or something! Who knows! Trjust the process and believe it WILL happen for you. If it can happen for me, it can happen for anyone.

Keep us posted, we are here for you.

 

[baby.wish]

Thank you Sunshine, I feel so much better hearing that from someone who understands and feels what I'm going through. You give me hope! How long after the lap did you do continue with IVF?

 

[Sunshine24]

I did IVF the cycle right after the lap, since they found moderate endo we didn't want to waste anymore time since it comes back after 6 months. I did have to go on BCP after the lap though because of a cyst ( AHHH! FRUSTRATING! ) but after that was done we moved right on to our first ( and successful ) IVF.

Please don't hesitate to reach out to me if you need anything, I know how frustrating this can be.

 

[StayHopeful]

Mav, so glad it worked out!!!

Baby.wish, welcome! This is such a supportive thread and I know it's keeping me sane during my TWW. I know how frustrating delays can be. I don't know about polyps, but I did have a cyst during my baseline ultrasound that made me push back starting stims by 2 weeks. At the time I was so frustrated, but I ended up using those two weeks to relax and enjoy myself and looking back, I'm glad I did. I know it's frustrating, but IVF does put your body through a lot and you want to give yourself the very best chance of it working.

Sunshine, I can't believe you're 21 weeks!!!

 

[Strawberry13]

Maverick phew! Glad that all worked out, an extra 600 is no fun on top of everything else!

Stay I am praying that those twinges are a good sign!

Baby wish- welcome! So sorry about the failed iuis. I'm glad you're getting any potential roadblocks sorted out before ivf. I know that I always google everything after the dr tells me something but in the end just try to trust what the doctors say. I'm sure you're in great hands. You will have at least a few cycle buddies on here! Please keep us posted on everything and good luck these next few weeks!

 

[baby.wish]

You are all so welcoming and wonderful thank you! I feel better today, I think its always hardest the day you get bad news or stumble across a new roadblock. This journey has taught me sooo much about myself and being patient. In the end we will all have our little ones and none of this will matter.
Bma11 and Sunshine- You guys give me hope one day my status will say "expecting"

Stayhopeful and Strawberry13- Good luck!

Stayhopeful if you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

 

[Maverick007]

hi babywish, welcome to the thread! the reasons for being here are not fun but we are glad to have you all the same.

i agree that those days you get the bad news can be the hardest. i think sometimes you have to go easy on yourself too and realize that it's okay to be upset now and then and not feel like something is wrong with you if you don't bounce back and feel cheerful immediately. it's a form of grieving really, i feel. i wish you the best and pray this IVF works for you. it sounds like you are super close to me in terms of your progress. i just finished 2 weeks of bcps and had bw/us today to find out whether i can start stimming on july 20. ultrasound looked good but have to wait on the bloodwork till later today.