3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Strawberry13]

Bma- FET tomorrow! Are you so excited?? Are u going to do 1 or 2??

 

[Maverick007]

maverick - I took a break prior to my this IVF I am just finishing and it not only helped me but it also helped my marriage. fertility treatments can be a strain on even the strongest marriages. If your gut is telling to take some time then I would say do it!

Thanks TTC!! I checked out your journal, you are almost at the end of your IVF wait, that is awesome! I pray it's a positive!!

 

[Maverick007]

Welcome nicedips! Sorry that you're feeling down and that your 5th didn't work. I totally agree if you need a break take it and maybe one month of not going for monitoring and checking your calendar and all the build ups will be good for you. I think it's really hard to find that balance between giving yourself the space you need and getting back on the horse and trying again. I had taken a few months off before this month and can say that it helped a bit, however I'm at the point now where despite the letdowns I need to be doing everything I can to maximize my chances even if it means some tears along the way. But that's just me I know that everyone's journey is different.

Maverick I'm so sorry about your bfn. Sending hugs. I'm sure it feels good to know you'll be hashing everything out with your dr today and you can see what their recommendations are. Keep us posted and keep your chin up!

Thank you, seriously I feel so much better just being able to vent about things to you guys. Keep the faith the next couple weeks and keep us posted if you can.

 

[Bma11]

Maverick- so sorry!

Strawberry- we decided to put 2 back!!! Ahhhh lol

 

[PinkPeony]

Sending you lots of good vibes and crossing fingers and toes for you tomorrow ttcbaby!

So much good luck and baby dust and all that good stuff for your FET BMA! x

 

[Maverick007]

Good luck tomorrow Bma!!! So hopeful for you!

 

[Bma11]

Thanks for the support ladies!!!

 

[StayHopeful]

Maverick, so sorry about the bfn

Ttcbaby, I didn't realize you were so close to the end of your IVF! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I start progesterone tonight to bring on AF and I'll start my stims as soon as it comes. So frustrated though, I got in a minor car accident on Friday and sprained my back and neck. I went to a chiropractor yesterday, but everything she's recommending for treatment my FS says I can't do once I start my stims. I'm going to talk to the chiropractor again tomorrow and see what she recommends. I'm really upset about the timing of all of this!

 

[StayHopeful]

And BMA, lots and lots of well wishes for tomorrow!!!

 

[Bma11]

Maverick, so sorry about the bfn

Ttcbaby, I didn't realize you were so close to the end of your IVF! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I start progesterone tonight to bring on AF and I'll start my stims as soon as it comes. So frustrated though, I got in a minor car accident on Friday and sprained my back and neck. I went to a chiropractor yesterday, but everything she's recommending for treatment my FS says I can't do once I start my stims. I'm going to talk to the chiropractor again tomorrow and see what she recommends. I'm really upset about the timing of all of this!

Oh no! Sorry about your wreck and it spraining your neck and back. Praying for a full and speedy recovery! Glad it wasn't too serious. I wonder of your FS recommends you taking care of the sprains first? I wonder if pregnancy could possibly make all of the pain worse? Hope you get it sorted out!

 

[Strawberry13]

Stay hopeful I'm so sorry about the accident but I agree that it's great it wasn't more serious. Are you in any pain?

Bma best of luck today let us know how it goes!

Maverick what did the dr say?

 

[Maverick007]

StayHopeful, really sorry to hear about the car accident but glad it was not more serious. It still sounds pretty frustrating. I hope you are able to keep moving forward as you planned.

Strawberry, the RE seemed a little disappointed to be seeing us back and she said she feels that unless we want to do one more IUI (which would be 4th at her office, 5th total), we really have no other option than moving on to IVF. I really don't know that I want to do one more, though of course if that ended up being the one that worked...but she didn't really give me a sense that she had confidence in another IUI being the answer.

She also said we are borderline for traditional IVF vs. ICSI as far as counts go and it would all depend on the counts on the day of retrieval...and recommended DH start eating anti-oxidant rich foods like berries, etc. She thinks the timeline would be sometime in early to mid August for the procedure itself, with June being the month I can get any more diagnostic testing up to date (think this would just be the infectious disease blood tests) and then July would be the month I would start BC and then stims after that. We are about 90% sure we're going to do it!

Did anyone in this thread that's doing IVF (or has done it) consider the refund-type programs where they give you a certain # of fresh/frozen cycles and if they don't work, you get a % of money back? I am not feeling like I want to do this (I want to be optimistic that the first try will work).

 

[Strawberry13]

Well I'm glad you and your DH are moving forward with ivf it must feel good to know that your next cycle will have a MUCH better shot than the last several. My dr had said the same thing about icsi vs ivf but you could always do half and half right? I'm not sure about the free cycle type deals but it probably can't hurt to have that kind of "insurance". But good for you on being so proactive and having a good attitude- that isn't easy

 

[Maverick007]

Well I'm glad you and your DH are moving forward with ivf it must feel good to know that your next cycle will have a MUCH better shot than the last several. My dr had said the same thing about icsi vs ivf but you could always do half and half right? I'm not sure about the free cycle type deals but it probably can't hurt to have that kind of "insurance". But good for you on being so proactive and having a good attitude- that isn't easy

Thanks! I am feeling positive about it! I'm not sure about doing half and half, I'd never heard of that actually, but I will ask definitely depending on the outcome of the SA.

How are you feeling so far?

 

[StayHopeful]

Thanks, ladies! I talked to my chiropractor today and she said that there's definitely things we can do that are TTC-friendly, it's okay to keep doing the treatments for my neck and back and to start my stims at the same time. I was so relieved I almost started crying! I got a list of things that she suggests and I'll talk to my FS at my consult/test transfer on Tues. I'm in a little bit of pain, it's more discomfort than actual pain. It's my neck and lower back and it's really only bad when I'm driving. The chiropractor did say during my adjustment today that things feel a whole lot better than they did on Tues and I noticed that my neck wasn't nearly as tender either.

Maverick, I'm doing a 50% refund cycle. My clinic offers a 50% refund on one cycle or 100% on two cycles, but only if you meet certain requirements (only one miscarriage or no miscarriages, below a certain BMI, normal hormone levels in bloodwork, etc.). We decided to go ahead and do the 50% on one. DH and I have decided that 2 IVF cycles is our limit. I am so hopeful that this cycle will work, but that way just in case it doesn't we have some money saved already.

I took my car in for repairs and got my rental car this morning and the license plate is mocking me. The first three letters are BFN...

 

[Bma11]

Maverick- do in your heart what is right. Just remember the statistics of IUI vs IVF. MUCH HIGHER!!! Also, my clinic offers nothing like that. However, I pay the ivf(icsi & assisted hatching included) and if it doesn't work the next cycles are automatically waived if physician fees! That knocks off like 6 grand!! And FET's are like a little over 3k.

Strawberry- glad things are looking up! I also hear going to the chiropractor is really great for fertility!! My friend had a miscarriage and has PCOS and decided to go to the chiropractor and ended up pregnant. So she swears by it!! And I'm so glad I'm not the only one who does the whole license plate thing!!! I do it too!

My embryo transfer was great. Nothing to it. My RE let my mom and best friend in the room. My DH is sick and has to sleep because he is working nights. I am on prednisone which suppresses my immune system so I'd rather stay away from anyone who is sick!!
I'm already itching to POAS!

 

[BreanneB55]

I can totally feel your pain and frustration. I am in a similar situation and it is so painful at times. That' s actually what brought me here. I was also devistated after my third failed IUI.
Myself: 33
Husband: 31
Married: 10-9-2004
Occupation: Registered Nurse
Babies: Two pugs (Odie and Yoshi)
Unknown reason for infertility (all tests/blood work/sperm) normal
TTC: #1 for 15 months
Feb 2013: Clomid 50mg days 4-8, no trigger, one IUI
March 2013:Clomid days 4-8, HCG trigger, 2 B2B IUIs
April 2013: Clomid days 4-8, HCG trigger, one IUI
I had one mature follicle with each Clomid cycle, but never had any success. We started injectables this month.
May 2013: Follitism days 3-10 (tapered dose), 5 large follies, HCG trigger, and 2 B2B IUIs. Currently on my TWW (test on 6-4-13)

 

[Sunshine24]

Breanne- Hope your tww goes quickly and you get your BFP!!! Keep us posted, this is a great supportive group that helped me through many dark days.

xoxo

 

[PinkPeony]

StayHopeful, really sorry to hear about the car accident but glad it was not more serious. It still sounds pretty frustrating. I hope you are able to keep moving forward as you planned.

Strawberry, the RE seemed a little disappointed to be seeing us back and she said she feels that unless we want to do one more IUI (which would be 4th at her office, 5th total), we really have no other option than moving on to IVF. I really don't know that I want to do one more, though of course if that ended up being the one that worked...but she didn't really give me a sense that she had confidence in another IUI being the answer.

She also said we are borderline for traditional IVF vs. ICSI as far as counts go and it would all depend on the counts on the day of retrieval...and recommended DH start eating anti-oxidant rich foods like berries, etc. She thinks the timeline would be sometime in early to mid August for the procedure itself, with June being the month I can get any more diagnostic testing up to date (think this would just be the infectious disease blood tests) and then July would be the month I would start BC and then stims after that. We are about 90% sure we're going to do it!

Did anyone in this thread that's doing IVF (or has done it) consider the refund-type programs where they give you a certain # of fresh/frozen cycles and if they don't work, you get a % of money back? I am not feeling like I want to do this (I want to be optimistic that the first try will work).

Well if you go ahead with IVF, it looks like you we could be cycling around the same time! I'll be working out those particulars on June 11 at the next appt. i don't have the option of any discounts based on multiple cycles at my clinic. I haven't seen that at any of the Canadian clinics... I feel like they don't do that here. I think I probably would do that if I could depending on the cost.

 

[Maverick007]

Pink, that would be awesome to have a cycle buddy! The program I was told about is called Attain and it's a company that offers the program through certain doctors I guess - but is not affiliated directly with the dr. I don't know the cost, but it's 3 fresh and 3 frozen cycles w/ 70% refund if not successful, 100% refund if using donor sperm. I think the cost alone would probably be prohibitive for me, since I'm sure it'd be at least $30K or somewhere around that - all I know is it's somewhat discounted vs. if you paid for those 6 rounds separately. I think we are pretty certain we don't want to do more than 2 IVF cycles (whether fresh/FET), so I think we will pass on this program.

Welcome, Breanne! Good luck to you, I hope you get your BFP!