30 something and TTC #1 for a year

[londongirl]

Hey girls. in office toilets about to cry. Af coming. Browny discharge. Cd26, around 10dpo. Should get af on sat but looks like shes early.

you poor thing mk8
but that said, not trying to get your hopes up, my friend got brown CM/discharge when her AF was due, which then disappeared and she was preggas. Maybe it is AF, but I think we have a supportive group here and I think we can stand by your side and be with you for the next shot at things if AF does come. Make the decision that next month will be the month that you start spoiling yourself (go for a massage, pedicure, etc) and really relax... you deserve it
xx

 

[katkat30]

https://www.megagifs.de/glitzer-text-generator/holdz/z4df0e714ab0b4.gif

How's this for a second attempt? Welcome londongirl! glad you liked my attempts... easy really, found a cool website lol. did the first one last night, then woke up and saw it this morning and thought twice about the plus sign!!! hope ish is better. fxd for you this month, good luck. when you due to test you think?

Yay that's perfect!! I love it!!
My cycles are long (35 days or so) and I'm on CD 12 or so, which means another week or so til O & 2ww. So I'm a while off yet. This month I'm not focusing on myself in that way, rather just having fun and keeping fingers crossed for others. I need a mental break from it!!

Where are you with things?

Xx

Currently have af so just starting another cycle. Have been about 30 days long so prob on CD3 now, with Long way to go it feels this month but keeping positive. Having fun too but hard to relax sometimes.
More I think about not thinking about cycle etc, the more I do think about it... did that make sense? Anyway, trying my best!! Fxd for bfps all round!

 

[londongirl]

Katkat, completely!!!!!

at first i thought I was doing great by not thinking about things - but then I realised the more I thought about not thinking about it, the more I was thinking about it!! Catch 22 really! Also this website is a bit hard to just switch off from. So I'm just doing the best I can to not think about the date too much and just have fun

and see what happens...

then if that fails, i'll go back to monitoring every minute of everything!!!

 

[MrsBea23]

Oh mk8 so sorry hun, how are you feeling tonight?

kitkat that is perfect, great work. How do we add it? do we just copy and paste?

 

[katkat30]

If you Can copy And paste have a try. I had to use a code, which I will try And put up, for you x

 

[katkat30]

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this may work. Take out the spaces And add before the url part At the end
X

 

[mk8]

Hey girls

Thanks for your support, you are all incredibly sweet. I felt a bit better but then speaking to mum (who I adore) made me feel worse. Shes a great person but she has so little tact. She said usually people get pregnant straight away and referenced my age next yr (32) and how its worrying her how I would cope with pregnancy. Why?!?!?!?! I got off the phone in tears. I felt like a total failure and I am worried that there will be no children in my life. I feel sad, panicky, angry, you name it. My LP appears shorter this cycle than before (spotting/light AF on CD26 (I usually have a 27 day cycle, so AF shows up the day after that). I feel lost as to what to do. I appear to be ovulating (positive OPKs the cycles I used them and I appear to have a biphasic pattern when I chart my temps (ie I think I am ovulating). So what's the matter? Are my tubes blocked (in which case, hardly any hope!), is my "environment" hostile? Is DH sperm OK?

I also wonder how I should be around DH. I did tell him everything but as time goes on, there is of course a possibility that there is something "wrong" with him or me. If it is him, I would feel bad harping on about how I am not pregnant, how heartbroken I am etc. I dont want him to feel guilty at all. I dont just want a child, I was his child.

Sorry girls for this message. I know it isnt a positive one and it doesn't help your moods I am sure, but I had to vent somehow and I couldnt do it with mum, I cant do it with friends (not told them Im ttc) and now, I fear telling DH to an extent as I dont want to worry him.

baby dust all!

 

[workingttc]

So sorry you're feeling so down, MK. With all due respect to your mum, I do think she's a bit misinformed on this one. You only have a 20% chance in any given month even if you time everything PERFECTLY. I'd bet you'll get your BFP next month. Like the FF charts I posted show, it's very, very common for it to take 6-12 months, even if you're healthy and doing it all right!

That said, I don't think it hurts to get some basic tests done if you're really worried. That's what I'm going to do in a few weeks. It probably will come out that you're totally fine, but you may feel better hearing that from a doctor.

Hang in there!

 

[katkat30]

Sorry to hear you feel so down mk. I do know what you mean about mum with no tact though. Makes it hard, and is not nice to hear from someone so close even if you know its not true. Like working said, it IS not easy to get bfp, and the waiting doesn't help much either. Also agreed with working that if you did go and see your doctor, it may make you feel better just hearing that everything is ok from a medical person, give you some confidence back.
Big hugs, chin up, hopefully things will seem better soon
X

 

[GettingBroody]

Mk8, so sorry you're feeling down hon. Please don't get stressed, look at how many of us here are on cycle 6, you are NOT alone Didn't someone say that the average for a at age 32 on the FF charts was 8 months? So 31 is prob 7-8 months too... I bet you'll see your really soon Has af arrived yet or is it still just spotting? Don't give up hope til the shows up...

 

[GettingBroody]

PS katkat that siggie is fab and the code works perfectly as you can see! Thanks for that!

to all!

 

[GettingBroody]

Katkat, completely!!!!!

at first i thought I was doing great by not thinking about things - but then I realised the more I thought about not thinking about it, the more I was thinking about it!! Catch 22 really! Also this website is a bit hard to just switch off from. So I'm just doing the best I can to not think about the date too much and just have fun

and see what happens...

then if that fails, i'll go back to monitoring every minute of everything!!!

My thoughts exactly! I'm taking nothing but folic acid this month but if that doesn't work I'm going back to being a walking pharmacy in July

 

[MrsG2010]

Good evening all. 10pm here. Nothing new to report. We shall see in the morning. Chances are my morning post will follow this evening post. hahah.

kitkat love the sig. Im going to work on it when I'm done.

London girl hahah I was thinking the same thing. I don't feel 30+ though I guess I am!

Mrs Bea hahaha Yeah I didn't remember the thread was called 6 months. I thought it was such an odd coincidence! hahaha

Mrs Bea and Dani - Optimal is every 2-3 days - eeep. I feel dumb. Every 2 days. Is that every other day? Or skip 2 days? Why is this hard for me?? hahahah Maybe cause it's late and I've had a long day.

mk - Have you tried vitamin B6 for short LP. Sorry That must have been a shock today. Hope you are feeling better... I know what you mean about not making DH feel bad. I know my DH is probably just as disappointed as me. Just doesn't show it the same.

Everyone - I like our 30ish clique.

Tomorrow unless AF shows I'll probably test again. !?!?

 

[MrsBea23]

Mk8- With AF coming early do you think it could have been a chemical?
I wouldn't worry about your mum to much hun she is of a different generation to us, life has changed allot since we where born in the 70's. I am sure you will be a great mum. My mum had my sister at 21 and me at 23 and then didn't have my brother until she was 40 and he hasn't lost out on anything, actually probably the opposite they go out and play golf together and she has always been able to take time out to drive him around and give him all the material things he wanted because she was older and her business had established itself and so on. I think we will give our kids a great life being older parents because we are more stable now than 10 years ago and its not like we are geriatric I can still physically do anything I could in my teens lol. I really hope your feeling better today hun.

Mrsg - how are you getting on did you test?

Kitkat - Fantastic worked great thanks.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[MrsG2010]

Today is CD37. DPO 14 or 15. BFN. on ic (wondfo from amazon.com)

Though I think I saw an "evaporation" - I've never had one before so I'm not sure. Next time I take a test I'm going to look and see if that indentation is always there. I never noticed it before.

Blaughhhhh

Hope you ladies are well!

 

[quail]

hi,well nothing to report from me cd13 and waiting to o, i have a feeling its gonna be a long wait.hope you are all well,good luck with your next test mrsg.xxx

 

[GettingBroody]

Today is CD37. DPO 14 or 15.

14/15 dpo, sounds promising! How long is your lp usually?

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi ladies, loving the siggie!

I'm just wondering if anyone's tried the home fertility testing for women? Depending on what happens with DH SA results on Monday I might buy one. I would love to get the First Response one's as I know it's a brand I can trust, but it doesn't look like you can get them in the UK.. x

 

[mk8]

Hello girls

First of all, thanks for all of your supportive messages again. I think there is a great support network amongst Baby&Bump!

MrsG- I am sorry about the BFN. Do keep us posted. Big hug to you!

Katkat- Great sig! Will add it in a mo!

So girls, I am conscious that there are a few newcomers (welcome!) I thought it may be helpful for the newcomers (and ones with bad memories like myself) to give a quick recap on our own stories. I am happy to keep a note of them all and will try to update it as appropriate if that helps!

So I will go first...

- Age: Just turned 31. DH 31.
- TTC since Jan 2011. On cycle 7, CD1.
- No children, never been pregnant.
- Was on the pill (Microgynon) for 2 months back to back last Aug/Sep (to stop period on wedding day) and took Norethisterone too because Microgynon messed up my periods and I was spotting (very little) continuously. Off pill in Oct and periods returned straight away.
- Periods: Regular cycles, 26-29 days. Periods last around 4 days: light, medium, heavy, medium. Maybe spot for 2 days after. Since starting TTC I have been getting dark brown discharge spotting a day or two before AF comes fully.
- LP: estimated 10-12 days. Varies.
- Used OPKs for 3 cycles. Got two definite positives and 1 possibly positive.
- Charted for 4 cycles and FF confirmed O, but temps were erratic. Temp dips a day before AF usually too (low progesterone?)
- No history of STDs for DH or myself.
- Went to docs last month due to abdominal pain for a few months. Had blood test and internal ultrasound. Blood test confirm thyroid was OK. One test in bloods was "slightly elevated" which could indicate PCOS, but ultrasound confirmed not the case at. Scan didnt advise of any issues. Report noted lining "thin, 7mm" but was CD9 so maybe normal.
- Taken cough syrup one cycle but felt like a junkie so stopped.
- Taken pregnacare and Vit B on and off. Back on Pregnacare conception and vit B complex-50 again.
- Less EWCM than last year.
- Used conceive plus for the last 2 months.
- Tried SMEP 3 months than tired self out. BD every other day last cycle. Other cycles- less BD but seems well timed.

OK... That was an essay.... LOL

 

[workingttc]

Hi girls! Here's my bio:

- 33 (and a half in 2 days), DH is 35
- TTC #1 since Jan. 2011 (off BC in June 2010 but prevented until wedding in Dec. 2010--silly me, thought I'd get preggers!)
- No losses, not even a faint line on an HPT ever
- Temped/charted on FF for 4 cycles after only using OPKs for first 2 cycles. This cycle, not temping because causes me to get my hopes up at the end of my cycle when my temps look good. Just using digi OPKs.
- According to FF, ovulating every month, regular cycles (27-30 days, with a 13-15 day LP). No thyroid issues. Normal periods. Because of this, concerned that we have a sperm issue.
- Well timed BD every month. This month, planning to try for only every other day in case of sperm issue.
- Seeing a fertility specialist in about a week just to get some answers/feel like we're taking charge!

Oh, and on CD5 right now of Cycle 7. Good luck to everyone! This is a great thread!