30 something and TTC #1 for a year

[GettingBroody]

No, there's no help here for fertility treatment Mk8 Although any medications, injectables etc will be subsidised by the Drugs Payment Scheme so we'll only have to pay the first €130 on them... (I'm guessing they'll cost more than that but haven't a clue really!)

Was just looking back on some earlier posts and noticed that Working, Future and MrsB are all full-term now! How exciting!

 

[mk8]

I was thinking about them too! Wishing them all the best in their deliveries

It will be us very soon too ladies. They had their own struggles and perhaps we just need to put in extra work to get our little bundles of joy. A new cycle for some of us, a new month - lets be hopeful together girls.

Broody- sorry to hear that ivf isn't funded but hopefully the subsidy towards the meds will help. When do you find out about when and how to commence ivf? You and dh ready?

Aleja- whats the latest in your cycle?

Hi to everyone else

 

[aleja]

Hi ladies
Broody I was so sorry to hear about your DH's results I couldn't believe how similar they were to my own dh . I hope you guys take time to let the news sink in . Like u said the results can give you a tangible reason why ttc hasnt worked but it is still hard to accept that the chances of a natural bfp is so low. Thats what hurt me the most. I guess it is true what the stats show. 40% problems with ttc are male factor 40% female and 20% both . Please be mindful of what forums and websites you start looking at as u will hear all sorts of stories. I try to just look at the positive success stories as it helps keep me focused and my spirits up. My FS said that everyone's physiology and biology is different so we can never compare ourselves to the next person even if you have similar diagnosis. The most positive thing is age is the best indicator for ivf success and you have young age on your side . I also suggest looking up the UK govt website (I think HFEA ? ) for impartial information about iCsi . Some fertility clinics put up really fancy stats and trying to tell you that they have the best outcomes etc when in reality most clinics in developed countries have very similar outcomes .

Mk sorry to hear about dreaded witch . I guess you tried the clomid and it didn't pay off so maybe you can rule out ovulation problems because you obviously ovulate each month. I hope you have that hsg soon just to see what's happening in there . I agree with broody that a lap is a big deal and it may not be necessary if your tubes and uterus ok . I wish you had my FS! !!!He would have ordered a few tests and got to the bottom of this!!!

Me: nurse orientation done they showed me how to use the injections and went through the antagonist protocol ... Waiting for AF I think she will come tomorrow. If so I have to call the clinic and first injection starts on cd 2.... EEK

 

[macca197831]

Hi girls, I am back!

Aleja- Best of luck with ICSI. I have heard that acupuncture can help so maybe it is worth a try. If you do go for it, try your hardest to relax as I was so tense the first time round. The second try was much easier and more relaxing. Tell us more about ICSI.

Hi MrsG. How are you doing? I was wondering, is your DH on any vitamins?

Hi Macca- Welcome! The girls here are wonderful. The good news is that there is sperm and there are healthy eggs. So there is therefore hope. Are you in the UK? Best of luck with IUI. Not sure if you know yet but will you be taking injectables with it too?

MrsP- YAY to the swimmers of Mr P. Woopee!

Sarah- What day to you typically O on Clomid? Hope the higher dosage works for you!



GettingBroody- sorry about DH's results. I hope that you will get some useful information when you finally get through to the docs. In the meantime, hope that you are enjoying the weekend.

As for me, CD28 and I was just starting to get hope that this could be my month girls. I typically have 27 day cycles and I tend to start spotting on day 27. Nothing yesterday, nothing the whole day today and then BAM. 9pm I see spotting. Pink tinged CM. I was devastated. I didn't really have hope this cycle until today and just when that hope crept it, AF makes a preview. I should have known really. I got my positive OPK later this cycle so AF should also come later. 17 cycles, 5th one on Clomid, well timed BD and still a big fat nothing. I'm worried that my tubes are blocked, I'm worried about having to go for IVF, I am worried that they cannot figure out what is wrong and I still can't get pregnant. So many things to worry about. I was in the car this evening on a long drive home and I just couldnt help but wonder why other gets pregnant so easily and my hubby and I cant. We are good people, we love one another, both earn an honest living, good to our family and friends. Sigh. But I need to cling on to my hope. It will happen right girls? It will happen for all of us...

Hey mK8 thanks for the welcome! I have been reading through the posts on here today and im sorry to hear you are feeling down!!! I am feeling a bit the same at the moment, despair is a good word to cover how im feeling!

We have an appointment at the fertility clinic on Monday next week to discuss IUI so I have no idea yet if I will need to take injectables or not! I am in the UK so we are receiving treatment through the NHS however have agreed that if we are not pregnant by Sept 12 then we are going to take a loan and try IVF private. I am praying we dont have to go down that route!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Gettingbroody – I’m so sorry about DH’s results Good luck with the ICSI hun. It’s good that you and Aleja are going through it together and are there to support each other.

MK – is a pelvic u/s the same as a TV u/s? The pain has been diagnosed as dyspareunia, similar to vaginismus but I am able to have sex, it just hurts. I saw a counsellor about it & then a gyno when we started TTC. As it got easier when TTC (the gyno said this was because BD now had a purpose) he just left me to get on with it, and to be fair it is a lot less painful. We just don’t BD much unless it’s for TTC, which is sad, I know. I help out DH in other ways though lol . Sorry your AF came

Aleja, so exciting that things are getting started soon!

Macca – good luck with your appointment hun. So will your FS not give you free IVF? Mine said when I last seen him we’d get IUI & 3 x IVF. Though he may suggest going straight to IVF. I think we’ll definitely have started IUI by Autumn if not by summer!

AFM, still no witch, spotting subsided but still there. Hope she comes soon so I don’t have any AF when I go on holiday in 5 weeks! x

 

[mk8]

Mrsp, you tested?

 

[aleja]

MrsP ouch your condition sounds very uncomfortable . I am glad it is better now you are bding for a baby.
Where are you going for your vacation? It's great to have something to look forward to during all these months of Ttc stress.
The UK govt is very generous with funding IUI and IvF for you British lasses . Hopefully you will not need these options xx

 

[macca197831]

Gettingbroody – I’m so sorry about DH’s results Good luck with the ICSI hun. It’s good that you and Aleja are going through it together and are there to support each other.

MK – is a pelvic u/s the same as a TV u/s? The pain has been diagnosed as dyspareunia, similar to vaginismus but I am able to have sex, it just hurts. I saw a counsellor about it & then a gyno when we started TTC. As it got easier when TTC (the gyno said this was because BD now had a purpose) he just left me to get on with it, and to be fair it is a lot less painful. We just don’t BD much unless it’s for TTC, which is sad, I know. I help out DH in other ways though lol . Sorry your AF came

Aleja, so exciting that things are getting started soon!

Macca – good luck with your appointment hun. So will your FS not give you free IVF? Mine said when I last seen him we’d get IUI & 3 x IVF. Though he may suggest going straight to IVF. I think we’ll definitely have started IUI by Autumn if not by summer!

AFM, still no witch, spotting subsided but still there. Hope she comes soon so I don’t have any AF when I go on holiday in 5 weeks! x

Thanks! We will get IVF free but they want to try us on IUI first. Once we have done 3-5 cycles of that they will put us on the list for IVF. The waiting time for IUI is around 6-9 months so IVF is a long way off thats why we are going to go private in Sept if nothing has happened by then.

 

[mk8]

Sadly my area doesn't get any free ivf cycles hopefully it will not be required!

 

[mk8]

Hi girls

How are you all today?

Just got home from my acupuncture treatment. This time she stuck needles on my back to help ovulation somehow. I'm zoned out now. Felt a bit deflated after though as the lady said seeing a fs is a must(booked for end apr). She didn't recommend a load more acupuncture treatments but said I can go next week where she will help nourish my blood- I have light periods. But she said after that, she recommends that I see their consultant instead of just trying acu, which is good in a way- she's not trying to rip me off, but I also feel like she thinks she cant help, which doesn't make me feel great.

But continuing to try o destress and enjoy life in the meantime. M

X

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi aleja, yes its not very nice, had it for I would say at least 8 years now, if not longer but its bearable, at least I can do it unlike some poor women. Yes the nhs is very generous, we are lucky. I didn't know you used the word lasses in Oz! I thought it was a brit thing .

MK, sorry you don't feel like you're getting there with the accupuncture. How come they wouldn't pay for IVF? So unfair its a postcode lottery! I tested yesterday with an IC & BFN. But the spotting has stopped completely (for now), even when checking CP! If AF doesn't show I'll test again on Friday with a better test x

 

[mk8]

I wish you the best of luck mrsp! I'm willing you to be the success story this week hun! Come on eggie- you CAN do it!

 

[GettingBroody]

Me too! Fx'd and loads of

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks ladies, I'm scared my body is playing tricks on me! x

 

[aleja]

Good luck MrsP bring on a good friday BFP for us all

we don't use the word 'lass' is Australia, I was using it for your benefit We tend to use 'chick' (not 'sheila' either!!!!)

mk, that is very thoughtful of the Acu lady to be honest and want you to see a consultant. I would have thought they would just keep doing it because they can. she is right though, the FS will have to get to the bottom of this one way or another.

i can't believe the differences between different postal areas in terms of what they offer you girls. I would feel very ripped off if I missed out because I lived in the 'wrong' location.

 

[GettingBroody]

I see your ticker says cd1 Aleja... Me too - we really are like twins at the moment! So have you started your injectables or is that tomor? Hope you're okay with needles!

 

[aleja]

hi broody, my twin!!!!
this was the first month i was actually happy to see aunt flo arrive. i thought she would be late therefore stuffing up my cycle..

Yes it all starts tomorrow. I am excited but petrified at the same time. That probably doesn't make sense!!
The first needle is done by the nurses. I start doing them myself on CD5. luckily I am not needle phobic !!!!!

The whole cycle is truly like having a new part time job. Between the daily needles, there is monitoring every few days, phone calls from the nurses giving me updates and emailing the doctor etc....and that's even before the egg collection and transfer.
i have no idea how I am going to get through it all

when is your appointment again?? GL hun

 

[GettingBroody]

Don't have an appointment yet. Rang the clinic but they said they need another letter of referral from my doctor and when they get it they'll ring me to make an appointment. Seems a bit ridiculous since they're the ones who did dh's SA and made the ICSI recommendation!!

Wow, it does seem like there's a lot involved! You can give me all the tips when it's my turn! Fx'd I'll be ready to start next cycle and you'll be just after getting your !!

 

[GettingBroody]

Oh, and meant to ask - is your dh taking anything (vitamins etc)? If so - which ones? x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Good luck MrsP bring on a good friday BFP for us all

we don't use the word 'lass' is Australia, I was using it for your benefit We tend to use 'chick' (not 'sheila' either!!!!)

Sheila, now that's a stereotype if ever I heard one . I might be wrong but I think lass is a regional word here, I know we say it a lot here in the North East but not so much in the south. I use chick too, and hun.

Good luck to both of you with your ICSI, so exciting!

DH has said I must test tonight, & I'm going to use an FRER rather than an IC x