30 something and TTC #1 for a year

[aleja]

MrsP I can't wait to hear the verdict


Broody, i will tell you all about it .. It would be a dream come true for beginner's luck BFp but I don't want to get all my hope up.
My DH takes daily tabs of vitamin c, vitamin E, zinc, and coenzyme 10. I also hear fish oil good too

 

[MrsPTTC]

Bfn & AF cramps, just got home & red spotting I'm out ladies & don't think I've felt so let down & upset x

Aleja I forgot to answer your question on where we're going on holiday sorry - Turkey. We were only there in Oct but loved it & for obvious reasons didn't want to book a summer holiday (wishful thinking!) so we're off 5 weeks today. Can't bloody wait now! x

 

[GettingBroody]

Sending tons of hugs MrsP. We all know what it's like when you get your hopes up...

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks Gettingbroody feel ok now, well apart from AF pain! x

 

[aleja]

mrsP....damn witch..
Make sure you kick up your heels in Turkey. Drink, dance and be merry. We will all still be here when you get back

hey i think a few of us are on similar cycles...talk about synching!!!!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Ha yeah I know! Cycle buddies! Goodness knows what my cycle will be this month with being au natural, maybe clomid has kickstarted things & I'll not go back to my long cycles! Hope so...
Thank you hun, I still have one more chance before Turkey but very much doubt I'll be preggo before then. So I will be able to enjoy all the all-inclusive alcohol! x

 

[GettingBroody]

Hope the injections went well today Aleja!

 

[MrsG2010]

hey girls. I wanted to check in. Looks like a lot going on that I need to catch up on.

As for me, since I didn't know - I just checked. CD25. I didn't track anything. don't know which days we Bd'd... whatever. I told DH yesterday I need him to start seriously considering where we go from here fertility wise. Because my window isn't as open as his unfortunately. He understood. We're just in a major crossroads in our lives. Don't know. :/

I will go through and make proper hellos later.

Hope you all are well.

 

[aleja]

Hi mrsG good to hear from you. I am glad you had a chat with MrG about where things are at. I really dont think men experience the grief of infertility like we do. I know they obviously do feel scared and stressed about it but sometimes they rather bury their head in the sand and hope it will all work out.
My dear hubby was the same he thought I was the one too stressed about it which was causing bfns!! It took a male FS to be frank with him for DH to start making changes and taking this thing seriously.
I really hope you and MrG can keep talking and figure out what to do next. Take care. X

Broody, my first injection was yesterday at the clinic. It was Elonva and luckily for me one injection replaces 7 daily FSH shots . This med will hopefully stimulate my ovaries to growth some follies.
So far I feel nothing but have a slight headache so drinking lots of water

 

[MrsPTTC]

Wow, good luck with it Aleja!

MrsG hun. Men!! My DH was ok about getting tests done, but TBH I think he felt pressured as his friends were having/had babies and he wanted it to happen to us at the same time as them! Otherwise I may have had a fight on my hands! I'm not sure how he'll be with IUI (possible next step for us) or even IVF as he'll have to go and "deposit" into a cup at the hospital but he'll have to get over it! I hope your DH sees sense soon hun, you're 2 months behind me and you're approaching the dreaded 18 month mark soon. It's not good, I was googling stats last night and I'm now officially in the 10% minority, 90% of people have had a BFP by this point. Perhaps if you frighten DH with some stats he might listen? I got it from here https://www.babycentre.co.uk/preconception/activelytrying/howlongwillittake/

x

 

[aleja]

Hi ladies happy Easter and hope you all enjoy your day whatever you are doing.

MrsP thanks for that link yes the stats are looking grim. It doesn't mention whether the % are just for natural bfp's or include AC too?
My own FS told us that after 12 months of Ttc that the success rates do taper off for
couples and most of the remaining need assistance of some sort.
I guess the lesson we can take is that it is called Assisted conception for a reason because there is things that can be done to help us along the way xx
MrsP your DH sounds like he is also feeling the baby pressure from his friends. I am sure my dh may feel some pressure but he hasn't said it was about other people 's babies

 

[MrsPTTC]

I've assumed its for natural BFP's but it might not be. Yes pretty grim, I think that's why I was so upset when I hit 12 months. He was feeling pressure but now that he's spent time with his friends babies he just wants one so bad (as opposed to feeling pressured) I don't think he was really ready when we
first started TTC & if I'm honest I probably wasn't 100%. But now...we're as ready as we'll ever be! Just waiting for our turn x

 

[Delilah8]

Hi ladies! :wave: Just wanted to let you know that I still think of all of you and pop in from time to time hoping to see some BFP's!

I am happy to see a lot of you are starting or getting treatment with a specialist, I feel really confident that with a small amount of help you'll all have your dream!

I'm 21 weeks pregnant now and while getting pregnant was difficult, being pregnant has been very easy on me! Maybe I paid my dues in the trying phase of things?!

Just wanted to add to the part about men that my DH definitely experienced it all differently. He is obviously thrilled we are having a baby now, but he's happiest to have "me" back. He said looking back he hadn't realized how depressed I really was about it but by comparison to having happy me again, he wished he had done more back then to help me. I'm not sure there was much he could have done honestly and thought he was pretty great about it. So I think they struggle with it in more ways than one since they also want a baby and are also stressed/sad over the changes in us during that difficult time.

Anyway, just wanted to let you know I'm still sending positive thoughts this way!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thank you Delilah, lovely of you to pop back. Glad your having a good pregnancy. I might be wrong but was it you that got your BFP via IUI?? x

 

[aleja]

hi delilah, great to hear from you. Wow you are 21 weeks!! where has the time gone??!!
I hope you have a lovely pregnancy. When are you due?

MrsP, we are so ready to be parents too. I am trying to be patient for our turn but its hard!! In my group of friends I think people will start falling pregnant with their 2nd child soonish. That is going to be hard.

Today I am not feeling very positive at all. I don't know if its the meds but I am feeling pretty down. I think it is also related to a text message I received today from a friend. She texted me to tell me about another acquaintence who had her 2nd baby. I really didn't need to hear this today ...some things that happen 'oh so' easily for others is a real struggle for the rest of us.

 

[GettingBroody]

Hi Delilah!! Great to hear from you! So thrilled your pregnancy is going so well Please throw some of that pg baby dust our way!!

Aleja So sorry you're having a bad day. The meds are bound to play havoc with your hormones so I'm sure it's normal to have low days while you're on them. When I'm having a bad PMS day I find it really helps to tell myself that it's just the chemicals/hormones that are causing my low mood and that it's not actually me (if that makes sense?) Doesn't actually make me feel much better but it makes it far easier to cope with the bad day. Remember it'll pass, you just have to ride it out....

How's everyone else doing? all round!

 

[Delilah8]

Yes, MrsP that was me. I took Femara for a few days, then Follistim injections, with follicle monitoring and then had an IUI and we got lucky first time. So it can happen!

Aleja, I'm due August 18th.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks Delilah, I thought so. I was reading bad stats about IUI & IVF the other day, google is the devil! But it worked for yourself, and a friend on the spotting thread has just got a BFP with IUI #3, so I'm starting to feel a bit better about it all! I will have a BFP by the end of the year, if not I will eat my hat!!

Aleja . Yes I wouldn't be surprised if some of my friends start TTC their 2nd babies soon....

gettingbroody!

x

 

[Futuremommy1]

Hi ladies! I too stop in and read your posts still hoping to see bfps!

I still remember the months of trying and the tests and drs appts. It was hard and I hope and wish you guys get your bfps.

I did want to let you guys know that we welcomed Sabrina Michele into the world on April 3rd at 12:46pm. She weighed 6lbs 2oz, 19 inches long at 39w2d. Although I went into labor naturally I ended up having a c/s due to extremely long contractions that caused too much stress on her heart. After a few days in the hospital we were released on Friday and are slowly getting used o each other at home. My mom and husband took time off to help.

Sabrina is very chill. She has the cutest dimples and loves sleeping.

After 2 years we finally got our take home baby. For me having had two losses I did question whether I could actually carry a baby. So the whole pregnancy was not a bonding time for me. I didn't really discuss it with people and that's ok with me.

What I did to get my bfp was acupuncture (for both me and my husband), preseed, drank lots of grapefruit juice and I got a psychic reading done. When she talked about other things that were true, it allowed me to relax that month. She said I wouldn't conceive that month but for some reason I knew I would. so keep trying. My cousin just had her 2nd boy after 13 years of trying with no luck and now she has 2 under 2 through the help of IVF.

So good luck ladies. Know there are those of us praying for you all over the world!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Ah futuremommy your little princess is lush! Huge congratulations & thanks for your kind wishes! x