33 1/2, ttc #1.

[NDurham12]

i posted this in the main forum, but i would love to get the opinion if my best gals! what do you think about my questions:
I have a few rather strange questions:
1. Can you get ewcm and still not ovulate? I am getting lots watery cm yesterday and a good bit of ewcm today but my opks are not getting dark. I usually o around cd15 and i'm a few days early but still wondering why the opk isn't darker? I plan to bd anyway because the cm seems really fertile. I temp also, so i guess i will know one way or the other.

i think so. I think that cm helps the semen get to the egg. Not sure how much it's related to if there is an egg to get to.

2. Can sleeping under extra super heavy blankets affect your bbt? It's very cold and we used way more blankets last night and my temp went up a bit. Just wondering if this is early o or just the warmth of blanket. If it was o then wouldn't my opk show something? (i test twice a day starting at cd 10 and with a good 3-4 hr hold)
i was wondering the same thing too. It's been very cold the past 3 days in houston, and my temps have been dropping. When i go to bed the temp is usually 78, but it auto adjusts at night so when i take my temp it's probably in the low 70's.
3. So, say i check for cm (internally) and find some...in checking am i removing it and therefore taking away the cm that could assist the sperm if we bd later that day/night? Or is a hint of fertile cm a sign that there is more up there so i shouldn't worry?
that's a really good question. And for that, going back to question 1, i don't think removing it will make the semen less likely to get there. I think it's more about when it's in there, is the cm toxic or accepting. So when it's ec it's no longer toxic. (according to the info i read on ff).
4. Anyone else wonder about how much of the swimmers are staying in there after bd? I usually stay horizontal for 15 -20 mins after but it seems a good deal of the semen finds it's way out if i use the bathroom later. I don't think i'm up for using soft cups.

i like savvy's process. I usually am like you, and have to pee shortly after bd, so i end up getting up. But next go round i'll use savvy's process and just go to sleep. Also, i've never heard of soft cups. Guess it's time to google.

here's a number 5 for you ladies: I still have no idea how to know what my cervix feels like. I check but it does not feel like what i read about. I have no clue what in doing in that regard so i gave up.

i had no idea either. Until i saw this post on ff of a chick that used a spectrum and took a picture. Made it noticing the cm very easy.

Here's the post (hope i'm not violating anything on bb)
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/circles/viewtopic.php?t=2689581&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0 if the link doesn't show up, just go to the forum on ff and search for "what a diff 12 hrs makes -cervix pics - warning: Tmi".

The original pics are gone, but you can look through the comments as there are other sites that will show some pictures.

I even thought about getting a spectrum myself. They do sell them and even in kits with a mirror and everything lol.

 

[savvysaver]

bfn this morning at 9dpo...I figured it would be, but I was very hopeful.

 

[mrshan]

Keep being hopeful, savvysaver! It'll happen.

I'm new to this forum, I turned 33 in December, and I'm happy to see so many ladies in the same boat as me, TTC#1!

 

[savvysaver]

Keep being hopeful, savvysaver! It'll happen.

I'm new to this forum, I turned 33 in December, and I'm happy to see so many ladies in the same boat as me, TTC#1!

Hi, welcome! Where are you at in your cycle?

Thanks for the positive vibes, I had a super short LP last cycle after a m/c in December so I am a bit concerned. Keeping positive and hoping for the best!

 

[mrshan]

I just updated my signature with all the deets, lol.

I'm CD19, so 4DPO. My AF is due Mar 17. I'm not hopeful for this cycle since we only DTD on my O and two days after. :/

My DH has had a sinus infection/cold for the entire winter, it seems, and just isn't down to BD nearly as often as I am.

I'm not charting with FF, but using My Days on my phone, which seems pretty similar. I'm not temping or OPK'ing because I'm afraid that it will drive me insane, but at this point I think I've decided that I would rather rely on science than luck.

 

[mrshan]

And my signature didn't stick... hmm. I'll figure out these boards.


Lesli

33 years old | DH 38 | married 9 months | 11th cycle TTC baby #1 |

C1-26 days, C2-25 days, C3-25 days, C4-28 days, C5-8 days, C6-28 days, C7-26 days, C9-28 days, C10-28 days. Currently on CD19

 

[mrshan]

Figured it out! I previewed my signature instead of saving it.

 

[savvysaver]

I just updated my signature with all the deets, lol.

I'm CD19, so 4DPO. My AF is due Mar 17. I'm not hopeful for this cycle since we only DTD on my O and two days after. :/

My DH has had a sinus infection/cold for the entire winter, it seems, and just isn't down to BD nearly as often as I am.

I'm not charting with FF, but using My Days on my phone, which seems pretty similar. I'm not temping or OPK'ing because I'm afraid that it will drive me insane, but at this point I think I've decided that I would rather rely on science than luck.

A St. Patty's day positive would be nice! All it takes is one to catch the egg, fx'd for you!

If you aren't temping or using opks, how do you know when you O?
DH and I follow SMEP (BD every other day and three days in a row after a + opk), it worked in November for us but I had a m/c. So I am very hopeful it will work again this month!

 

[mrshan]

I've just been going by the calendar so far, and that mostly you O on CD14 on a 28-day cycle, like luteal length=1/2 cycle. My cycles are normally 26-28 days since I went off BCP last July.

I think I've been resistant to temping so far because DH thinks that it'll just stress him out more than me, hearing a thermometer beep every morning when he'd rather just get in some just-waking-up snuggles. I'm trying to not make this whole thing a chore, even though he wants to know when I'm in my fertile week.

I haven't been OPK'ing because I don't want to get a POAS addiction. I just know that I won't be able to stop, and will be using HPTs waaay too often.

 

[savvysaver]

Why do those bbt have to beep! Luckily it doesn't bother my hubby but he starts talking to me and all he hears from me is "beep...beep...beep!" It goes fast but is annoying especially on the weekends when my hubby likes to (and deserves to) sleep in!

Guilty of the POAS addiction! I buy the cheapies on amazon so I don't waste a boatload of cash. I also have been known to run through the house waving the stick with pee to get my DH opinion. I honestly don't use that many, I use 2 per day with the opks and then I haven't started testing until 9dpo on the hpt and I only use one and then wait a day or two. So I am not too bad with them.

I would say do what makes you and DH comfortable and happy.

 

[imphope]

Savvy I am sorry about the bfn, but you're not out yet! It's most likely way too early to tell. Keep up the faith!

Welcome to our group mrshan! We decided that this is our lucky year, so get ready!

My opks are still not dark! I know I'm being impatient, but last cycle I had a positive on cd13,cd14 and got my crosshairs on day 15. I just thought I could expect the same this cycle. Guess not. I do continue to have a good amount of ewcm. And I am not sure (I am cervically challenged) but it seems more open in there? Who am I kidding I don't have a clue what's up there! Words like high and soft? What!? Going to try to sneak in a bd before we leave for the in laws house tonight. I am determined not to miss a day of bd and fingers crossed we can avoid an embarrassing situation.

Good news, I survived my exam yesterday. I won't have the results for a week or so, but at least I don't have to study anymore, Yay!

Bonus good news, I get to visit my best friend this weekend who has 5 month old triplets! They're adorable and she gives me hope that even if the ttc journey is long, it is worth it.

Hope you all have a good weekend! Shark week continues....da dun...da dun...

 

[mrshan]

Thanks imphope!

I hear you on the CM and CP. I'm clueless on high and low, but I think I've figured out hard and soft for the most part. So weird talking about reaching around up there with complete strangers- welcome to TTC!

I've decided I'm temping as soon as I buy a thermometer, morning cuddles be darned. I'm already drinking spinach smoothies with blackstrap molasses in the morning for iron and folates, so DH can deal with a couple little beeps.

DH has also promised to stop drinking diet Mt Dew until I get PG- my coworker swears up and down that it's a sperm-killer. We'll see; it took me months of poking to get him to stop putting his laptop directly on his lap and cooking all his little swimmers, lol.

Have fun around the babies- rub their bellies for good luck, and have fun BDing!

 

[NDurham12]

Hi ladies,

Savvy, I'm sorry about mean ol' af flying in, I'm expecting mine tomorrow as I also got a bfn yesterday. I felt so tired yesterday, I even called in sick from work.

Welcome to the lucky group Mrshan. I tried not doing the crazy tracking thing too, but I feel much better and less crazy now knowing if and when I ovulate. Also ff is a really nice app, especially if you are going to get the bbt.

Hope all went well with your test imphope! When do you get the results?
I still lol to the shark comment. Hilarious. Da dun.

 

[imphope]

Y'all....the bd didn't work yesterday before we left for the Inlaws. We tried but we were rushed and my dh couldn't complete. First time it has ever happened, but I must admit, It felt a little forced and I was distracted too. The last time we did successfully bd was just after midnight Thursday (really Friday). And now that we are here there hasn't been a chance to bd. I don't think we will be able to while here. Best case is tomorrow night when we get home. Ugh! I'm supposed to ovulate soon according to ff. But- please look at my chart and opks. I'm showing the past four days. It just isn't getting darker at all! I have had good cm and my temp creeped up a bit but no spike. I wonder if this miscarriage has me out of whack? Or maybe my I date will be delayed and we can get some more bd in before I happens? I don't know what to think but I don't want a 'wasted' month. At this point I just hope it's not an anovulatory cycle. I will find out when I get cd21 blood drawn next week. Sorry for the rambling.

 

[NDurham12]

Y'all....the bd didn't work yesterday before we left for the Inlaws. We tried but we were rushed and my dh couldn't complete. First time it has ever happened, but I must admit, It felt a little forced and I was distracted too. The last time we did successfully bd was just after midnight Thursday (really Friday). And now that we are here there hasn't been a chance to bd. I don't think we will be able to while here. Best case is tomorrow night when we get home. Ugh! I'm supposed to ovulate soon according to ff. But- please look at my chart and opks. I'm showing the past four days. It just isn't getting darker at all! I have had good cm and my temp creeped up a bit but no spike. I wonder if this miscarriage has me out of whack? Or maybe my I date will be delayed and we can get some more bd in before I happens? I don't know what to think but I don't want a 'wasted' month. At this point I just hope it's not an anovulatory cycle. I will find out when I get cd21 blood drawn next week. Sorry for the rambling.

Hey Imphope,

I can't really tell on the pic. Very hard to read. To be honest, that's exactly why I get the digital readers, the other ones frustrate me to much, and anywhere I can reduce stress I do.

Looking at your chart and your previous one, Fri and today's temp hike seems to put your O on Thur, since O is the day before the temp hike.

What's the CD21 blood draw checking for?

 

[savvysaver]

I had to take a short break from ttc this weekend after getting AF on Friday. I spent all day watching movies and crying in my pajamas. I am e-mailing my OB today and demanding he starts running tests and if not I will switch doctors or most likely go see an RE. Hubby and I had the talk yesterday and discussed how far we are willing to go to make this happen. Obviously I just had two 9 day LP which after much research is just way too short and I barely have a chance. I honestly can't handle another month or two without getting my bfp, it is just way too upsetting for me.

imphope, I think a lot of girls have a strange cycle after a m/c. That is why some doctors do not recommend ttc before AF shows (they don't count the m/c as AF). Are those wondfo opks? I use those and I do not get them to be darker each day, they range from darkish, to light, to almost no line and them bam I get a blazing positive. I have seen other girls line them all up and they get a little darker each day...not me. I definitely had a + though on those confirmed with a digital clearblue test for each this month and last. Also stress delays O so maybe it is holding off until you get home. Plus your temp went down so it looks as if you haven't O yet.

ndurham, thanks, how are you doing?

 

[imphope]

Savvy, I'm sorry about your rough weekend, I really am. I am glad that you and your hub are discussing your plans though. I think just being on the same page and finding a good doctor will ease your mind a lot. I think having a professional/specialist in your corner sounds like a great tool for success. I might be right behind you in a few months if this doesn't work.

I think my cycle feels very different than last one, and I may chock it up to weirdness after the cm and hope for a better one next month. But we have to wait and see. Miracle or miracles, we found ourselves ALONE in the in law house yesterday for a brief moment, so we did bd! Crazy!
My doc office called and said they would like cd21 blood work to check progesterone levels and they normally do this after a miscarriage. I was surprised as this is my first one, but hey, I will go for it. Not sure what happens after that. It's just a lab appt and no doctor visit.

 

[savvysaver]

imphope, I feel so much better that my hubby and I discussed things. Obviously we were both on the same page ttc, but with the last two cycles and the m/c before that I find myself thinking that we are going to need some help ttc. I know appointments/meds/test cost big time money and either you need to set a limit or do whatever it takes. I am hoping if I can just lengthen my LP that is all we need to make things happen. If nothing else I want a blood test (like you) to check my progesterone levels - I read that with a short LP you should get tested around 7dpo. I definitely need a good doctor who is willing to do what I request and what is best for me, my OB was very laid back about the whole situation. My hubby wants me to give him a chance and at least e-mail him but if he won't help me then I am finding someone who will asap.

So glad you were able to fit a quick BD in yesterday! Keep testing with those opks to see if you get a positive - what time of day do you check?

 

[imphope]

So glad you were able to fit a quick BD in yesterday! Keep testing with those opks to see if you get a positive - what time of day do you check?

I usually try to do between 1-2 and then again at 6-7 and I do my best to hold off going to the bathroom in between. I know I should understand that cycles are unpredictable. But last month was really by the book (minus the mc) so I guess this weirdness is really just kind of 'normal'.

Good for you with the doctors, I think it's great that you know what you want and are willing to be proactive and find the right doctor. I bet your ob will understand and of he/she isn't the right one, maybe they will offer some good recommendations for another.

 

[savvysaver]

I usually try to do between 1-2 and then again at 6-7 and I do my best to hold off going to the bathroom in between. I know I should understand that cycles are unpredictable. But last month was really by the book (minus the mc) so I guess this weirdness is really just kind of 'normal'.

Good for you with the doctors, I think it's great that you know what you want and are willing to be proactive and find the right doctor. I bet your ob will understand and of he/she isn't the right one, maybe they will offer some good recommendations for another.

Hoping you get a + opk soon, either way though it looks like you have the weekend BDing covered! We spend half of our cycle waiting to O and the second half symptom spotting! I still think it is worse waiting to O.

I told my DH that I wouldn't be so worried if I was in my 20's but as each day goes by I get older, even if I get pregnant this month I will be 34 when I deliver. Right now our plan is to (hopefully) have one child but we are leaving the discussion of having more than one until later. I don't want to be even older when we are trying for #2. Ideally I would just have B/G twins and we would be done...hubby doesn't like that idea though! lol twins freak him out!

I told my hubby I won't stop this cycle until I find someone who will listen to me. I will make sure I get that progesterone test even if I have to drive around pleading to each doctors office, I have insurance, a bag of cash and I can cry and beg! I figure someone will help me!