35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[chedge86]

dojenstein - The summers are lovely there. I've never been during the winter, but want to visit to see the snow. I live in Georgia, so we don't get a lot of snow this way.

So sorry you've been feeling down. It is so hard to go through this. I too have had my share fair of feeling in the dumps and thinking there is nothing to look forward too. Hope things look up for you soon and you get your BFP!!!

We have been trying for almost 3 years.

tommyg - Hi! Our Christmas was pretty good. My daugher had a blast and got everything she wanted. It was so nice to see her face light up and be so thankful with her gifts. Sorry yours got off to a rough start, but glad to hear it turned out good On another note, I too just found out last night @ church of a lady who is in her 50's who just had a child 2 months ago. They have 2 other kids and they can't afford to take care of this 3rd child. We learned last night that the baby went for it's month check-up and still weighed what it did at the time of birth. The husband said he couldn't take it to the doctor (b/c he couldn't take anymore time off from work) so he left the child with the case worker (for food stamps, etc.) and the case worker had to take the child to the doctor. The doctor said if the child didn't look better at next check up he would call DFACS to have child taken away. I don't personally know these people (it was just mentioned to pray for the child at church last night). DH mentioned last night about trying to adopt him, which shocked me. We have not talked about that much at all. I asked him what if we get pregnant soon after taking this child and he said "we will just have 3 children". Not sure what the outcome will be, but it breaks our heart to hear of this newborn who isn't being taken care of properly!

Braven - The earrings sound lovely!! I love black diamonds. DH got me a pearl necklace to match the earrings he got me for my birthday over the summer!

 

[tommyg]

Chedge could just be me but something just doesn't sound right about what you were told about that baby. I would have thought it would be verging on impossible for a lady in her 50's to get pregnant without help, if you can afford help to get pregnant you can afford to care for it. I could be wrong but it just doesn't sound right. Surely a baby would cry all the time if it was hungry so they must be feeding it something.

However if it has brought you to discuss adoption then it is a worthwhile conversation to have.
I have toyed with the idea but DH didn't feel it was right for him. So it has been sidelined for the time being. We also can't seriously look at adoption while we are going through fertility treatment. In the UK they require you to be at least a year from treatment m/c or birth before they will consider you as you need time to "grief for the child you didn't have"

Anybody figured out who was giving me pangs of envy? - Mary - I did think I was bonkers for the though even entering my head.

 

[Braven05]

I realized that's what you meant Tommy lol we all have lots of silly thoughts these days, it's okay.

As for the pregnancy at 50 - look up menopause babies. Apparently some women are super fertile when they're in the pre-menopausal stage.

 

[chedge86]

It does seem crazy because so many women have trouble even in mid 30's and early 40's, but the child is definitely hers and she conceived on her own with no help. Her hubby is 55 years old. I don't personally know them, but one of my dear friends from church does. Apparently it was a huge shock to the husband who never thought they would conceive a child at that age, while the mother of the baby wants to keep him, but they apparently aren't financially able to do so. From what I was told is that she was indeed feeding the baby, but she was already feeding him baby food from a jar at a month old. We were told he lost weight from birth and had only got back up to birth weight at his month check up.

As for the pangs of envy, I some how missed your last question as to who was the lady in question, so I totally thought you were talking about a lady you go to church with that recently got pregnant that was not trying!

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hi everyone,

Good to hear you all had good Christmases! We did too although we've been away for a week and just now finally en route home so looking forward to getting unpacked and organised!!

Chedge how sad is that story, I think it's sad at any age for an unwanted child especially when there are so many people desperate for babies in the world! I met my new nephew today, born recently after many years of trying and many ivfs, which is really heart warming and shows what can happen if you don't give up on that dream!!

As for me, gearing up to ov now, my favourite time of the cycle! I did soy this month days 5-9 so I'm hoping its a super duper egg!! No pos ok yet but hopefully in the next few days. I've got some progesterone cream for post ov so hoping it might help my short luteal phase!

So is anyone making any New Years resolutions? Mine is just to take up a weekly exercise class which doesn't sound much but I work 4 days a week and have to pick my dd up from nursery so will need to get organised to go back out once hubby gets in from work!! But I think it will help me with ttc.

As for my dreams, obviously number one is a bfp. And ideally a baby born in 2015 but just a 2015 bfp would do at this stage!! Our house is on the market so to move to a bigger house is also on the list.

 

[chedge86]

Mrs W - Glad to hear you had a great Christmas!! Prayers for safe travels on the way home!

It is an extremely sad story. We just found out about it Sunday night. DH and I have never really talked about adoption b/c we keep holding the faith that we will have # 2. The only thing is here in Georgia you have to take so many classes before you can adopt, so if he was to be taken away in the next couple of months, it wouldn't give us enough time to adopt him. I just pray the best works out for him, whether it be his parents are able to keep him and properly care for him or he goes to a loving home where is is wanted and appreciated.

Congratulations on meeting your nephew!! It is so great to hear success stories like that!! Also, good luck with O this month. I hope you get a big healthy/super sticky egg this month.

My New Years resolution is also to try and work out a few nights a week and get healthier. I don't have a lot to lose, but I think it would help me with TTC as well.

I hope all your dreams come true in 2015 and good luck with the house situation! We just bought a new/bigger house in August and we love it. The moving part is no fun, but we are finally settled in and loving every minute of it.

 

[Srbjbex]

Happy new year everyone. I hope that 2015 brings us all the BFP that we all want so much. I am also trying yo get healthier. I got a fitbit for Christmas so hopefully that will help me be more active. The 3 days when I work (office job, drive to work) I barely move!

AF due this weekend at some point for me. Already constantly prodding my boobs to look for a clue as to when it will arrive!

 

[dojenstein]

So I go for my HSG today. Kinda nervous but also hoping it clears any blockages and helps us get that BFP.

And the good news is that I didn't O yet. I was freaking out that I was gonna O before it and lose out on this cycle but according to my CB OPK I still have a blinky smiley face. So me and the fiance have to BD tonight. I hear HSG's can increase your chances of getting PG so here's hoping we're one of those statistics.

Wish me luck!

 

[tommyg]

Good luck, be aware the increase in fertility is very very slight after it.

 

[dojenstein]

Well, had the HSG done yesterday. More painful than I thought it would be but my tubes were open so I guess that's good. I know there's no real science that an HSG increases fertility so I'm ready for whatever the outcome is. The weird part is I'm not getting "peak" fertility on my OPK. I usually O on CD11 so I'm late. Or I don't know if the HSG screwed me up.

And I also feel like crap. Have been really nauseous for the past few days. I'm at work now and feel like dying. (Only a little over an hour to go). But the last thing I feel like doing tonight is BDing, but I know I have to. So romantic, right?

 

[tommyg]

Hello Ladies
Dorgensen sorry you found it painful. But I do wonder if they have cleared some bits out of your tubes while doing it - good luck.

I'm reasonably happy today, I've had it confirmed the NHS will fund another 4 IUI cycles for me. So I'm happy that I don't need to dip my own pockets just yet.

Orchard when are you due back?
Wish - how are you?
Braven - are you getting the weight loss back on track?
Missing you all

 

[Srbjbex]

Well AF arrived for me which is a rubbish start to the year. Feeling like this really is never going to happen. There are also a lot of newborn #2s around at the moment amongst my friends which is really hard. I'm happy for them of course but so jealous. I want what they have so much!

 

[IsaacRalph]

Hello Ladies
Dorgensen sorry you found it painful. But I do wonder if they have cleared some bits out of your tubes while doing it - good luck.

I'm reasonably happy today, I've had it confirmed the NHS will fund another 4 IUI cycles for me. So I'm happy that I don't need to dip my own pockets just yet.

Orchard when are you due back?
Wish - how are you?
Braven - are you getting the weight loss back on track?
Missing you all

That's amazing Tommy that will be 8 funded iui cycles altogether? Nhs Scotland sure is different to here. I couldn't even get one iui funded in england. whats the case if you get pregnant have a baby and want a 3rd? X

 

[tommyg]

I had one cycle abandoned which doesn't count against my allowance. So I've had 2 cycles and allowed another 4 so 6 in total but if someone is "unexplained" then they will only get 3 rounds for 2nd child.

For me if I get pregnant and want a 3rd I'd be barred on age grounds would be over 40 by the time I have another. Never mind the try for 6 mths and then the waits and all the tests again. But if you are young enough and have the patience for it it's not an issue to them.

But I totally agree the NHS should be offering exactly the same regardless of where people are.

 

[Mooshie]

Hi Ladies, hope you are all well and have a lovely xmas and new year! We had a such a nice time, it was just the 3 of us for most of it which was great.

I thought i'd pop in and give a little update on me: So, after seeing my GP about the really bad endo pains I was having before xmas, I got a letter back from the gynae clinic on new years eve saying that they did not want to see me as the endo they removed back in Feb was minimal and they doubted it had come back so soon. They have said we are to TTC for another 6 months before they will see me again and do any fertility tests/investigations.

Not a great start to the year, 6 months seems like such a long time and by then it will be near to 3 years since my MC so I was a bit gutted. Theres not a lot I can do about it though so we just have to give TTC a really good shot for the next wee while and see how it goes. I suppose if there is no BFP in that time, at least I know I will be seen at the hospital and have some tests done so the ball is rolling of sorts.

My last cycle was a really strange one, and the longest i've ever experienced at 37 days and I have no idea why. This month I ov'd on CD14 so a normalish 28 day cycle for me. The good thing was that I ov'd while we we're on holidays so lots of BD'ing and I am currently 6dpo. I'm trying not to think too much about it as why would this month be any different from others but the urge to pee on a stick is creeping in already!!

Fingers crossed to 2015 BFPs for us all xxx

 

[Braven05]

I'm also having a super strange cycle! I'm on CD 37 right now with no sign of AF at the moment,other than constant cramping. I had signs of ov around CD 17 and 18. I also weirdly had about 12 days of ewcm. I'm thinking the antibiotic I took earlier last month for a tooth might have had something to do with my messed up cycle. Doesn't seem like it would make it this crazy but whatever I guess. Hope everyone else is doing well!

 

[tommyg]

Braven if you think you ovulated around cd17 that means AF should be on the scene by cd31? Do you think it's worth testing?

 

[Braven05]

Tommy I don't want to get my hopes up because I have had a long cycle before. Not in over a year and a half, but I figured if I get past the point where I started late before (CD 40), I'd test. And other than cramps I don't feel pregnant like I did with dd. I'm nervous to be let down, honestly

 

[Braven05]

Gah, awful cramps this morning. Pretty sure I'll start any moment. So weird to have a random long cycle like this. Oh well.

 

[tommyg]

Hugs Braven - sorry the witch has been a bit more evil than usual.