35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[WhiteOrchid24]

I'm back!!!!

How are you all?! I have a HUGE amount of catching up to do - I was able to read a bit when I was away but couldn't remember my log in details etc so unable to post.

Big hugs to my wonderful friends on here and a massive hello to all the new ladies that have joined...it's great to see the thread so active. Will be back later but just wanted to say hi! Totally jet-lagged and the witch is here big time to make things worse!

Hugs to you all, I have missed you! x

 

[Wish4another1]

ladies

Orchid - WELCOME BACK FRIEND!!! I have missed you! please tell about your trip over the holidays!! how did it go, what did you do? AF is here for me too!! booo

Braven - how you doing? did the show up? i hope not... I always hope the symptoms are there but the lady gets lost!!!

tommy - how you doing lady? when is the next IUI?? I am so happy to hear that you will be funded for 4 more!!! Hopefully that is 3 more than you need!!!

Mooshie - how you doing? have you POAS yet??? yes six months does seem like a long time ugh!!! sometimes I hate the medical peeps... are you in the states or another country?? I wish they would listen to us - we know our bodies... anyway good luck and I hope you don't need it anyway!!!

Isaac - how is your LO??? are you going to try for anymore?? hugs for your loss this year... I think I missed it when it happened...

Srbjbex - im sorry you are (were) feeling down... this journey is sooooo hard... it sure doesn't seem fair when others get pregnant so quickly and we struggle... I know if you keep trying it will happen for you too... hold on...

dojenstein - I hope you are feeling better and you O'd and got some Bd'ing in... and yes sometimes the HSG screws up things... but the good news is your tubes are open so hopefully you guys can catch the eggy this time!!! check in when you can!!

chedge86 - how is your new years resolution going? getting those work outs in?? You can do it!!!! I hope you are keeping it up!! Did you and DH start those adoption classes? You might as well do them now in case another situation arises and you guys can be right there to help those little ones...

Mrs W 11 - how about you and your new years resultion? did you hit your exercise class?? and are you in your TWW now?? check in lady - hows it going???

Cali - how you doing???

Lanet - how is your little girl doing? I know you are getting extra monitoring - just wanted to tell you I am praying for ATLEAST another 5 weeks for you... i know you are miserable at times but it will be worth it when those babies are keeping you up all night!!!
I honestly can't believe you are over 30 weeks now!!!

eyemom - hope all is well in your world lady!!! did you go back to work??? how is that going?

Well I hope I got everyone... if not I am sorry - I didn't mean to miss you...

AFM: ok - witch is here... me and DH are no longer actively trying... too much fighting - just long ugly story I am sure none of you want to read about... we are in our 40's now... just seems like its impossible and with treatment off the table... well emotionally its been hard on me... I still have a couple rounds of clomid - so who knows maybe in the future I will try it again...
I am back on my diet - lost 3 lbs the first week - next week I am adding in workouts (only did one this week)
I want to loose 10-15 lbs... I was looking at pictures from 2011 and I was sick about much weight I have gained...
so onwards and upwards ladies!!! I am still here - reading a lot posting once in a while... but know that I am cheering you all on!!!
I cut my hair short (it was real long) and I am headed to Poland in February for work - so I have lots of things to look forward too!! Hope you do too!!!

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hello white! Did you have a lovely time? Looking forward to getting chatting to you.

Braven, did af show up? Hope not xx

Tommy that's great news about the iui! I'm not entitled to anything on the nhs but I'm hoping to have iui in march, fingers crossed. When will you have your next one??

Mooshie I'm sorry about your endo letter. 6 months will fly by though and maybe you will be lucky before then. Any news? How's your tww going?

Serb sorry af got you love. Good luck this cycle xx

As for me.. Am about 7 dpo I think. I usually start getting a horrible lower back pain around 8 dpo and have a short luteal phase with af coming at 11dpo but I know she's coming days before that. I used soy this cycle and I'm now using a natural progesterone cream to see if my lp is any better so will have a good idea if its helped in a few days!! So far it's given me really sore boobs but no other signs that its working really.

I've had a pregnancy announcement, a 30 week excitedness post and various other gut wrenching things about pregnancy or new babies on fb this weekend. I just feel so so sad. My hubby is sad and he wants another baby but he doesn't understand quite how bad I feel. Please please please let it be my time soon. I just don't understand why it's taking so long

Anyway, sorry, pity party over..... Good luck everyone xxx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hey wish! We posted at the same time!

Nope haven't done anything about that exercise class yet! But thank you for the reminder, I'm going to google it tonight. I have been eating healthily though so that's good. I feel better for it and just got a new juicer.

I'm sorry to hear you've stopped trying for now, although if I had a pound every time someone gave up trying and got pregnant I'd be rich so you never know..... I'm still hopeful you will have your rainbow when the time is right. My sil just had her miracle at 42. Good luck with your diet and enjoy Poland, sounds exciting!! Xx

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Thanks ladies for the lovely welcome back! Again I will write more later and catch up with all of you but I am worried about Cali..... Being such a frequent poster and the most amazing listener and advice giver she hasn't been on since November....

I am hoping all is ok and she is just super busy etc but it seems so out of character for her. Cali if you are reading etc please post to let us know you are ok and just busy with your lovely family x

 

[tommyg]

Orchard fantastic to hear from you. I've missed you. I trust you have had a fantastic Christmas. You are so right about Cali it seems strange that she hasn't been on since November. Let's pray she is ok just busy with her family.
When do you see the FS?

Wish are you doing the really restricted diet you did before? Beware I think clomid can also lead to water retention / weight gain. I'm fingers cross for you in these last couple of attempts. Good luck.
I hope you enjoy your Poland trip? Is your OH in the military too?

MrW hope the cream managed to sort out your LP. Other than the short lp any other ideas what's causing the problems TTC? Sorry if you've already answered that but I've lost track of where all the newbies to the thread are.

Hello to everybody else.

AFM CD20 and still no signs that I've ovulated. As always looking out for EWCM and hoping to catch the eggy however if nothing happens by CD40 the clinic will end it for me so I can start my next IUI cycle.

 

[Wish4another1]

Orchid - I agree about Cali - I didn't realize it had been so long since she logged on - I hope its just the busyness of the season and with a new little one!! FX she logs on soon...

Tommy - Yes its the restrictive diet from last time - but I haven't been good at it... I've been about 80/20 on keeping it...so I definitely need to get some good exercising going!! I have not ate out all week - so that is a BIG plus... just cooking and bringing my food every day....

no my DH is not in the military - he works for Caterpillar - he is a design engineer for several of their machines... he is so smart - I get lost when he starts talking about the things he does every day!! (math with no numbers!! hehe)

I am not taking the clomid for awhile (and I stopped temping in December) - my cycles are very messed up now... I took clomid the last two cycles and both cycles bled on CD10 - for no reason... I don't think I ovulated either cycle... so I need to get it out of my system - and with my trips coming up - I am going to be gone during O time anyway - just as well...

I am even contemplating going back on birth control...but it does seem silly because after two years I haven't even had hint of a BFP... but on BC I have regular cycles with no spotting - which I don't have off of it...

anyways... enough about me... Can't wait for your update Orchid!!! and I hope you O tommy or the cycle ends so you can MOVE ON!!!

 

[Braven05]

Orchid, good to see you back!

Wish, yes AF showed up. That was a 37 day cycle. How ridiculous. I'm paying for it with super cramps and heaviness too. Ugh.

I feel dumb because I allowed myself to have the tiniest bit of hope because my cycle was so long, when I really haven't had any in a long time, so seeing the witch caused quite the emotional crash for me. I just feel like this is it. This is how it's going to be and I'm just not going to have another baby and it's really hard to come to terms with that.

I am going to start taking a break every day at work and do some at home exercises and get back to eating well. But that's all for me and my health. I'm not expecting it to do anything fertility wise.

Anyways, hope everyone rise is doing well!

 

[dojenstein]

Hi ladies. So good to see your posts. I've been feeling really really down lately. I'm only 6 DPO but I've become obsessed about getting PG and have been testing daily since 4 DPO. Why? Why do I torture myself. I really don't know if I have the energy to go through another cycle of this. Every day seems like an eternity. We've been actively TTC for over a year, but we were also NTNP for a year so in all, it's like 2 years.

How do you guys cope with these hard days and frustrations. Any advice is much appreciated.

On a totally random side note. I thought I felt myself ovulate from the right side. I never felt that before. But it's my first O since the HSG so maybe that had something to do with it. And today I feel twinges again on the right side. I'm trying so hard not to get overly hopeful about this.

 

[Mooshie]

Mooshie - how you doing? have you POAS yet??? yes six months does seem like a long time ugh!!! sometimes I hate the medical peeps... are you in the states or another country?? I wish they would listen to us - we know our bodies... anyway good luck and I hope you don't need it anyway!!!

Hi Wish, yes i've tested with ICs since Thursday and nothing I've now run out of tests and am about 11dpo so I would have thought something would have shown up on yesterdays so i don't think i'll bother buying any more today and just wait for AF on Friday.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Hello Ladies!

How are you all? Sorry for lack of updates, I am still horribly jet-lagged (as is DS) so just trying to get over that and caught up with everything else! I really wanted to go back and read all of the posts from the last 4 weeks but unfortunately I'm just not going to have time.... so sorry, feel bad!

Instead I will just do a quick catch up of my story for all of the new ladies, I hope that's ok?! Ok so here it is in the quickest, briefest form I can!!!

DH and I have been TTC #2 for over 3 years now. DS is 5 and was conceived with no problems after 5 months of trying. Turns out DH has MFI with a count of 4 million and terrible morphology and motility. His last SA was over a year ago so I have no idea whether the numbers have improved at all but regardless I'm not pregnant and haven't had a hint of a BFP in the last 3+ years. He did try Fertilaid for Men with the extra boosts for 3 months but again nothing. I have had pretty much all tests done (blood work, HSG and Lap) and all good with me with is one thing at least but definitely doesn't make things easier. I do have a very retroverted uterus but they think it would unlikely to cause any fertility problems. We are finally heading to the fertility specialist in a couple of weeks and then who knows?! With the appt being so close I am full of every mixed emotion possible but I am hoping things will be clearer after the appt. To be honest the timing is terrible as it turns out that we are having to move this year so I am just not sure about things! So typical but regardless we will hopefully work things out! So there you go - that's my story..... so far!! Not sure if that helps anyone but at least you know more about me. I've been on this thread since the very beginning and have "met" some really wonderful ladies so it is a good place to be in the situation we are all in.

Tommy, Wish, Lanet, Isaac, Eyemom, Braven and Cali - a big hello to you all.

Wish - I am sorry that for now you are stopping things but please stay in touch - I have missed you!! I am still keeping everything tightly crossed that all will work out in the end for you! Poland sounds amazing - have a fantastic time

Tommy - that's great about the amount of times they will try IUI but agree that hopefully you just need one more go! Big hugs.... it has to be our time soon!!

Eyemom - how are you getting on with everything? Did you go back to work yet?

Lanet - how are you? Hope everything is continuing to progress well with your pregnancy. I can't wait til you have your twins!!

Braven - so sorry the witch got you Why can't she just disappear for all of us! After flying the other day I had the most horrendously heavy day of bleeding with awful clots (sorry if TMI).... was so strange but clearly flying with AF is not a good idea for me! Thankfully it seems like I got rid of everything in 1 day as has been pretty non-existent since!!

I am so sorry for those that I have missed out but head super sleep deprived and don't have enough time to go back and scroll through everything! Hopefully I will be around/online more in the next week or so and of course will definitely keep everyone updated with our appt! Eeeek

Big hugs x

 

[tommyg]

Wish for some reason I'd always assumed your OH was military too. Hope your Poland trip goes well.

Braven you just never know your luck. Maybe loosing some weight will help, no matter what it can't do any harm. How are you finding the diet now we are in January?

Dojenstein it's natural to get desperate to see that line but it does become soul destroying to keep testing.

Mooshie any sign of that BFP yet?

Orchard my chum how are you? Settling back down into life? what's happened that you are going to be moving, is it a distant move, what I'm really trying to ask is will you have to change FS?

AFM Something like CD 25 and not convinced I've ovulated yet a long boring cycle.

 

[Mooshie]

I havn't tested since Sunday, i just don't "feel" pregnant so am pretty sure AF will arrive tomorrow.

Have a splitting headache this morning though and feel as if I have a cold coming on which is just ace!

How is everyone else? xx

 

[dojenstein]

So I'm 11DPO today with all BFNs. AF is due tomorrow. I'm actually in the RE's waiting room right now waiting to talk next steps. Which will probably be Clomid and IUI. I'm part nervous, excited and scared. I really don't know what to expect. And since I'm an obsessive POAS addict I worry that I'll be even more stressed during the TWW.

My doctor has the bedside manner of a frozen turkey so I hope he doesn't hand me a packet (as usual) and send me on my way.

Wish me luck!

 

[coquis224]

Hello Ladies, I have been stalking your thread lol and would like to join you if I may. I too am trying to conceive and don't have insurance which makes things difficult. My periods went from clockwork from my last pregnancy to irregular (30 -40 days) on avg with one cycle lasted 56 days! I think I may have PCOS but no one has diagnosed me yet. I have gotten my hands on some clomid (donated from a friend) and am planning to start next cycle if my AF ever shows. Of course I have all the "pregnancy symptoms" but all BFN on CD 35. I'm pretty sure I don't ovulate , have never got a positive result on a OPK. It's so frustrating since my other children were so easy to conceive and I'm only 29 but I weigh 245 so that could be the issue. IDK just frustrated 15 months actively trying and 2 years NTNP, it's crazy.

Good luck to all of you!

 

[Mooshie]

Welcome to the thread coquis224 I'm quite new here too, but they are a lovely bunch of ladies!

As expected, arrived bang on time this morning so onto cycle 15. Major pains and heavy bleeding and i've had to come into work too (sometimes I can work from home).

Feeling really low today, I don't understand what's going on with my cycles. Last month was 37 days, this one a pretty "normal" 28 days. God only knows how long this new one will be

And i've got 5 more months of this before the hospital will do any tests. Meh!

 

[Wish4another1]

ladies

Yes welcome to the thread coquis224 - I hope your stay is short!! How old is your LO now?

Mooshie - sorry about the arriving - mine arrived too and she appears to not want to leave
I hope this cycle will be a "normal" 10 month pregnancy cycle!! FX for you...

dojenstein - how was your dr visit with the frozen turkey? I hope he gave you reasons to keep believing and if he didn't - well that's why you have us!!! (let me baste him for ya) Keep smiling... you will get that baby in your arms!!

tommy - when is your next IUI - did they end your dreadfully long boring cycle this time for you?
My hubby is the farthest thing from military... he doesn't understand it... but he tolerates it until I am eligible to retire (2 years, 7 months) then he wants me to get out...not sure I will do that...but we will see...

Orchid - yes why are you moving??

Braven - how you doing lady??

to those I missed...

I am at grumpy work and counting the hours till I can leave -
I am ready to hit the road and get to some warm sunshine in Georgia...hello sunshine...I need you...

lost 5.2 lbs so far... got three runs in this week - hoping that my road trip doesn't derail my weight loss efforts...got 10-15 more pounds to go...
my daughter and I are running a full marathon in May... yes 26.2 miles ladies...

Have a great weekend ladies - its a holiday for us in the States!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Hi everyone

Welcome to the thread Coquiss! As Wish said hopefully your stay here is a short one!

Hey Tommy, how are you doing? Any signs that you have O'd yet?! I would go crazy with cycles that long but what can you do?! Onwards and upwards to that next IUI and a BFP! I was just thinking I can't believe we've both been on this thread since the very start and neither of us preggo.... Surely it has to be our year this year?!?! We'll get there together

Mooshie - so sorry about AF arriving.... Day 1 is always the worst so make sure after work you do something nice for yourself whether it be some shopping, a new book to read, a giant bar of chocolate or a glass of wine.... You deserve some major treats to yourself and yes you are definitely allowed to be super grumpy so moan away to us!!
Hopefully this will be another normal cycle and you'll get that BFP at the end of it!


Dojenstein - How did your appt go?! I love Wish offering to baste him if he wasn't helpful - totally made me LOL!! (Love you Wish!) I hope you got some answers though and perhaps a clearer direction of where to go.

Wish - I can't believe you and your daughter are running a marathon! That's so great - go you!!! I will be cheering from the "virtual" sidelines!! Good job with the weight loss....I was doing well but after Christmas etc have definitely added a few pounds but hopefully now that I am back into my own routine I can drop them!!

I hope I haven't missed anyone?! Sorry if I have. Still no word from Cali and I have sent her a private message etc.... I just so hope she is ok...

AFM: We are moving because of DHs work. It's going to be really tough and when we first talked about it a few months ago I was so upset and stressed but I have had time to come to terms with it and I'm now looking at it as a positive step. Only problem being the timing is terrible and is totally going to coincide with any potential fertility treatment!! Of course - nothing ever goes smoothly!!! So as of now I am trying to do as much as possible to get our house ready to sell. It's not messy at all but over the last 10 years we have just accumulated so much stuff so there is literally crap in every room that I need to eliminate to get it "show-home ready"!!! LOL

I'm counting down the days til we see the FS.... At least after that I will have a clearer picture of things. DH doesn't seem to want to talk about things so it will be interesting to hear his point of view at the appt as I know he has questions and concerns. I guess it will be at least a couple of months before we can start any treatment as will need more tests done first. I'm having an internal ultrasound done at the appt but I know DH will need to do a SA at some point. I kind of want them to ask him to do it there and then but it's probably unlikely.... It's just such a hassle that the clinic is so far away from us. Of course I will be close to ovulating right around when our appt is but maybe that is a good thing as they might be able to see how things look etc.... I have no idea!!

Anyway big hugs to you all.

Lanet & Eyemom and everyone else, how are you doing? x

 

[tommyg]

Hello Ladies

Wish I really admire your determination to run a marathon. The furthest I have ever run is 10K done it once and never again. I think I run flat footed or something I just seem to end up with loads of shin splints if when I run on hard ground.

Orchard
I'm assuming the move means that you will be together 7 nights rather than him working away from home. TBH it is so much easier if the family is together. I know I certainly found it tough when DH was leaving me on a Monday morning and not home to a Friday. The weekends were just so manic as we were trying to do everything.
I'd start with the FS and take it from there or is their a FS where you are going to move to? Might be more manic initially to travel to the one where you want to live than have them near you than to try and change once you move. Just an idea.
Still odd that nothing has been heard from Cali really hope she is ok.

Mooshie sorry the witch got you. Some times I think known that long cycles is the issue is much much easier to deal with than having the witch to so up every 4 weeks and wonder "why"

Hello Coquis. can I ask how many other children you have? You don't think age or anything could be causing irregular cycles?

Dojensen how did you go with the RE what did he suggest?

Hello to anybody I have missed.

AFM Weekend going well had a trip to see some dinosaur bones DS was delighted not that often we trail him round museums etc. Still waiting on my daft body doing something 4 weeks but the clinic won't do anything until CD40 so another week and half. awake me up when the time is right.
Went to register my DS for school can't believe he is meant to start this year however we are likely to defer as he is only a 10 days before the cut off date. He is just growing up so fast and my age gap is getting bigger by the minute.

 

[eyemom]

Hi ladies! Welcome coquis! Sorry I'm alive and following along. I keep thinking I'll reply when I can write to everyone, but so far that hasn't happened. So I thought I'd say at least a quick hello. Thanks for asking about me, yes back at work, family is good. Baby growing like crazy.

Cheering for you all!