35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[Wish4another1]

Hi everybody still reading along... Hope you all are having a great Monday!!!

tommy - FX you are ovulating a nice healthy egg and BAM - BFP!!!

Orchid - good luck with that moving business - I feel your pain!!
won't be long till transfer and the house still is definately keeping you busy!

mk8 -I hate it when BnB deletes a long post... most of the time I just chuck it and start again anther day...

and yes ladies my daughter got her tattoo on her hip - so it cannot be seen unless she is in her bathing suit... thank goodness!! I hope she doesn't regret it either!!



AFM: well you all know I have no TTC news to share with any of you... but here is a pic of the excitement of the weekend... I went to walk the dogs and when I came back to my driveway I was greeted by 10 cows - 6 adult cows and 4 babies... I was shocked - I had my dogs and I for sure did not want to get charged by momma cows ... so I called my daughter to come pick me up in her car... anyway - the farmer got her cows back...but our food plot is terribly damaged along with the yard and part of the garden... my husband's heart was broke - but Sarah and I just giggled... I mean who does this crap happen to??? yep us....

 

[tommyg]

Wish I think I'd have a word with your famer neighbour and ask them to fix the fence the animals got through. The last thing you want is to repair the damage for them to damage it again.

Hope you never need this info but if you are ever in a field with cows and a dog and the cows start to charge. LET THE DOG GO, the cows rarely charge at people but they will very occasionally charge at a dog, the dog will out run the cows and steer them away from you.

Glad your daughter at least had the sense to put her tattoo somewhere that isn't going to be seen unless she wants it to be seen. I doubt she will regret it's location.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Somebody shoot me!! I woke up at midnight last night with the worst ear ache and sore throat It was awful.... Every time I swallowed (which oddly seemed more than normal!) I felt like I was swallowing glass and being stabbed in the ear.... I took some Tylenol which helped with the ear ache but my throat is still insanely sore... Last week it was random leg cramps for no apparent reason, now this! I guess with the stress etc it was only a matter of time, I just hope it doesn't last long as I still have mucho packing to do! AF expected on Friday & Saturday so that will also mean a long trip to the clinic and the start of our FET!! So I need all of the energy I can!

Wish - urgh to the cows!! I was chased by some when I was younger so now I tend to stay as far away from them as possible! I like Tommy's idea re. the dog - makes sense!

Tommy - how are you doing? I hope you managed to get lots of in with the later ovulation than you initially thought!

to everyone else! How are you all doing?

We've been having the most beautiful weather so it makes packing even harder - who wants to be inside packing when you could go outside and enjoy the sun!! DS certainly doesn't want to although if I get him involved he has been pretty good at helping with it. We have finally got our accommodation sorted for when we move out of here in a few weeks so that is a big relief! Plus we can stay there for almost a month which is perfect - I was initally planning on being all over the place visiting ppl which would have been nice but a lot of driving and potential stress which I need to avoid after the transfer! Anyway am off to try and sleep for a bit while DS is at preschool and see if I can feel a little better.

Hugs to you all. Bex any update on when your surgery is happening? Wish not long for you now x

 

[tommyg]

Orchard how are you doing Mrs?
When is your transfer going to take place?
How is the house move?

AFM Right in the middle of the boring part of the 2ww. However assuming no further issues I should be good to start IUI

 

[Srbjbex]

Hi all - sorry I've been a bit absent recently, but I've been reading along, just not really had any news to update!

Tommy - another tww hey! best of luck and here's hoping that you are all good to start that IUI finally!

Orchid - I really hope the AF comes on time for you are doesn't mess you around so you can get cracking with the FET!! Have you definitely decided on transferring 2 embryos? I completely get the logic that 2 is better than 0, but I know the clinic I am at steers you away from multiple transfers as much as they can, especially when they are good quality. But ultimately the choice is down to the couple!

Wish - I did smile when I read your story! I know it wasn't great for you and your land but it is a funny story when you read it like that!

Cookie - glad to hear everything is going smoothly (despite the illnesses), I hope that is still the case! Just keep remembering that vomit is a good sign! ahah!

AFM, like I said nothing really to report here. I had my follow up appointment with my gyn following my MRI and he confirmed what we knew that another op is needed. I have a severely retroflexed uterus which is basiciall pointing backwards by a full 90 degrees. I have significant stenosis caused by my section which effectively blocks he entrance to my uterus and also is periously close to my bladder. Surgery will be open rather than with a scope so will be a bog old op (effectively like another section) BUT if he opens me up then he should be able to fix all the different things that are wrong in there. Timewise, I don't have a date but he has indicated that it will be august or September time. Seems ages, but to be honest ladies, I am glad for the break - I've had a lot of procedures / prodding / poking over the last few months and it's nice to have a rest from that! Plus I have a busy July with 2 weddings and various social events so it's nice not to have to cancel any of those things! Will let you know when I have a date but up until then I can just enjoy the summer!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Hi girls,

I am doing a lot better but I have Strep Throat so I am on antibiotics for that Thankfully they kicked in quite quickly so I am feeling much better today. I just hope the antibiotics don't mess things up but they shouldn't! Decided to take my temp this morning and it was super low (as in my normal ovulation dip low, not standard low) so know it's only a matter of time before the makes her appearance! Which means it's FET time!!! Well almost! I have to go for a baseline scan on day 2 and I think my transfer will be around July 20th give or take a few days.... I'll know more once I have been for my scan and back to the clinic. I can't wait - it feels so surreal right now and that it is never going to happen.

Packing is getting there - I was making good progress until I got sick so need to make up for it now but don't want to overdo things until I am 100% better.... It's so weird cause this time last year I had the flu after having my Lap done, now this a year later..... I wonder if these things go in cycles or just random coincidence!!

Tommy - good luck and lots of A surprise BFP would be just lovely!!

Bex - Waiting sucks but at the same time I think it will be lovely to just have a break, relax and enjoy your summer! I was almost tempted to put the transfer on hold til after Summer but it just gets very complicated for me then. Enjoy the time and then FX you'll have the surgery done and have a BFP before you know it!!!

to everyone else. Happy Friday, I hope you all have a great weekend x

 

[tommyg]

Hi ladies I was at our village Gala day today, band, few games and a handful of kids rides.

On one hand I thought I was coming to terms with the fact DS could end up as our only child. But today was so hard I was close to tears before I "borrowed" our neighbours youngest.
DS wanted to go on a 2 person ride (boats wings) with the neighbours 2 girls, and went into a strop when they went on together, he wasn't for taking the swing beside them. DH is starting to strop with DS because he wasn't happy and saying stupid stuff "oh why don't we just go home". I'm close to tears it's not DS's fault he is lonely looking for a friend.
Trying to be logical I thought one of the neighbours girls could go back on with him when they were done. However it turned out the eldest was going to a party so they were going to have to leave soon at which point I found myself offering to babysit the younger daughter. Really I was borrowing her to keep DS company.
So our day was rescued but it brings me back to the idea of adoption.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Big hugs Tommy - I understand how you feel

Recently I feel like everywhere I go I am surrounded by ppl with 2+ children. We go to the park regularly and there are so many kids around the age 3 mark and there Mum is with a baby (by that I mean up to 16 month old). It has been getting harder and harder and meanwhile DS seems to be finding it harder to play by himself rather than better..... So difficult. FX if you don't get a nice surprise BFP this month the IUI will work. Would you consider IVF or do you prefer the adoption route?

Hugs x

 

[tommyg]

Hi
I'm so glad to have someone understand. That is it exactly DS is finding it harder to play alone and always on the lookout for a friend.
DH just doesn't seem to see it and thinks DS should be happy to go on stuff alone, esp when we have gone on a day out. With bigger rides I will happily go on with him but these were strictly for kids.

Yes I know exactly what you mean about mums with 2 under 3 it does get to you. At one point double buggies were a sore point now its 4 year olds with walking talking siblings.

However thanks for the hugs. Fingers crossed all goes well for you.

 

[eyemom]

Hugs ladies I hope so much that everything you hope for is right around the corner.

 

[tommyg]

Thanks Eyemom. This is the one place where people understand the pain that LTTTC brings.

 

[tommyg]

Evening ladies how are you all doing? This thread has really gone quite quiet.

Anyway the evil on has got me boo, scan Monday and we'll see if we can go ahead with IUI.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Oh Tommy, I am sorry but I am excited about your upcoming IUI!!

I know - I was thinking the other day how quiet this thread is now after so much activity! I am partly to blame.... I read but then I'm so busy just now I forget to write. Anyway how is everyone - what is everyone up to?!

I am in the middle of packing - we move in roughly 10 days. Then it's straight into the transfer for me! I am so excited but there seems like a hell of a lot to do before that can happen so I don't really even have time to think about it yet. I can't wait for 2 weeks today.... We'll be out of our house so no more packing and cleaning and the transfer will be done so I will have the perfect excuse to relax for a few days and do very little other than enjoy time with my boys and the sun!

I hope you are all well. Happy Friday! xxx

 

[Braven05]

Good luck ladies with upcoming iui and ivf procedures. Fingers crossed for you!

Nothing to report here. Not really trying either, as my husband just left his job. It would be just our luck to get pregnant right now lol not that I think it will happen but it would be just our luck.

Anyways. Happy 4th to everyone who celebrates and have a good weekend to all others.

 

[tommyg]

Orchard it will be relief when you are out the house and handed it over.
How long to transfer?

Braven has DH got another job lined up? One decent thing to think is even if it is sods law to get pregnant now. He has 7/8 mths before it has an impact on finances IYKWIM.

As for me keen to know what tomorrows scan will bring.
Honestly this whole LTTTC lark is driving me nuts. I spoted rust on my wee car yesterday, she is 8.5 years, old but not old enough for rust!!!
So now I'm thinking is it time to invest in a new car. I've always said if I have another baby I want a taller car, mini mpv or SUV I don't need bigger just taller. So do I buy a supermini or a mini mpv like the Nissan note or Ford B-Max??
Decisions decisions.

 

[Braven05]

No job, Tommy. This was unexpected. Not shocking but definitely wasn't the plan. His business was bought 6 months ago by these people who have been running it into the ground and treating it like a game from the beginning. He's exploring his options now while I stress about the loss of income lol Not a good plan.

Anyways, good luck Tommy! Fingers crossed for you!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

As of now transfer is scheduled for July 16th... With everything going on it seems like a dream TBH! We went and saw the house we are staying in after we move out of ours today and it is wonderful...it has the most amazing views and with the exception of having to keep an eye out for bears it is perfect! I can't wait!!

As for cars I have a Ford Escape which I have had for 9 years and I LOVE!! We unfortunately are going to get rid of it in the next year as need to upgrade while I can but I love him so much.... he has been the best car ever! No problems and have felt so safe despite a few very near misses.... It's a SUV but not big - I still manage to park in the "small car" spaces but that is in Canada where other cars are MASSIVE! I think our next car will be similar but bigger... Worth looking into if they have something similar at home.... Safe but not crazy big = perfect

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Braven - I can only imagine how stressful it is. DH has his own business so I know how you must feel. It is stressful at the best of times.... I hope a solution appears soon for you to put your minds at ease.... Hugs

 

[Srbjbex]

Hi all.

I'm with you on the car thing tommy. I want a new car too (currently have a clio) but i don't NEED a new one in the same way i would with two kiddos. And uf we did have 2 we would prob go fir a Scenic or a B max like you...but doesn't seem worth it at the moment!

Orchid ! I thinks its good you have lots of other distraction s going on! Will help you not over think things hopefully. As long have you have time to rest!! When i had my trial ET it's not painful...just a bit strange and obviously it will be emotionally tiring for you!

Braven - as tommy said, i think it would be bad timing to get pg now....so it might happen haha!

AFM there has been lots more pg /baby announcements this week which has been hard. BUT i gave been given a date for my op of 19th August so am going to focus on that! ! I'm happy with the date...its after all our social stuff this summer (weddings /birthdays etc) but not too far away

 

[tommyg]

Braven while at this moment in time it's all doom with him loosing his job it could be a blessing in disguise. Having sold his business it was probably very distressing for him to see it being run into the ground and it probably wasn't easy for him to be an employee again.
What is he thinking about work, could he start back up again on his own, and get his old customers back??

Orchard 17th isn't that faraway. Its all happening for you at the same time. Have you bought your next house?
I looked up the Escape, in the UK its called a Kuga, DH drives one of them. Ford have brought out a baby SUV, Ecosport, but it looks the part but isn't as well finished as the b-max.

Bex lots of announcements is hard. Hugs at least you have a date for your op and you know that things can happen naturally in time after it.
I know exactly what you mean about not needing a new car. I have been toying with changing mine for ages but the rust that has appeared on both wings has just pushed me to seriously start looking and thinking about it!

Wish how are you, when is your next appointment, can't be that far away?

Cookie how are you doing?

Hope I haven't missed anyone.
AFM Scan this morning to see if we can start IUI cycle, Orchard you never know our luck we could end up bump buddies after all. And catch up with Cookie.