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[WhiteOrchid24]

Bex I'm so sorry about AF... Even when you 'know' you are out it's still a huge kick in the stomach. Be good to yourself and give yourself lots of treats

Cookie- Glad all was good with the results of the HSG but sorry it was painful. I had issues with mine as well and it was SO sore as she couldn't get the catheter up properly and kept trying to re-do it... Horrible! Still that's good that all is well with your tubes etc... Do you have a next step or are you just waiting til you can start TTC again? Sorry about your DS - sometimes Dr's are complete idiots!! I've met a few in my life, I hate how they think they know everything when Mum always knows best!! :Hugs:

A big to everyone else! How are you all doing?

AFM: Well I had my IUI yesterday but things didn't go quite as planned... We were SO optimistic driving down... I had bad ovulation pain for most of the day and weird twinges etc so all seemed great timing wise. However when we went back to the clinic for the procedure we were told that DH's post wash count was less than 1 mill. (around 850,000 I think) so we were both pretty gutted. Actually poor DH was and still is super gutted. We did the procedure anyway which turned out to be quite painful as the Dr had issues getting a hold of my cervix again as it was up quite high... I had to stop myself from crying but we got there in the end but it wasn't the best day. We ended up DTD last night (DH's idea!) to try and get a few more swimmers there, especially since the Doc said there was a good chance I had more than 1 egg being released (esp as my ovulation pain was so bad and lasted longer than normal). This morning my temp was right up - higher than I would generally expect for 1dpo but I'm not complaining!! But it does confirm that ovulation is done and for now we wait.

I'm still quite optimistic at this point as really all it can do is help but poor DH isn't. I'll see how I feel in a week but for now I have to just forget about things and try and have a fairly mellow day today....

Edit: My mistake - I just looked online at our page and DH's results weren't 850,000 but 650,000 Maybe this cycle is a total bust....

 

[tommyg]

Cookie glad the HSG went ok, 3 lots of dye seems unusual I wonder if she has managed to "clean your tubes out" with it, you might be one of those lucky ones who has minor blockages cleared out and gets prego in the next 3 mths.
The tea I have been using is the a Pukka 3 mint I couldn't find any pure spearmint either but I see some people have bought pure spearmint from Amazon I would never have thought of looking on amazon for tea.

Orchard lets hope the one super sperm is in the 650,000. But yes if this doesn't work for you I think I'd either insist that DH gets the op or go to IVF.

Random question but I have been thinking this about blood tests too, how do they actually count them. Do they do it by some sort of machine or do they put a minuscule drop under a microscope and have somebody physically count 1,2,3, x the quantity of semen?

 

[Srbjbex]

Well I guess all you can do now orchid is wait! I know you and OH will be disappointed with the count. ..and I think it really hits their pride hard. I know my oh is struggling with it even though he is putting on a brave face.

Cookie - its onwards and upwards for you too. Fingers crossed this will be a turning point and there is a bfp around the corner!

Tommy I have wondered the same!! Haha! My guess is that they physically count the swimmers in a small area then extrapolate it up multiplying by the volume or something like that. Funny job though trying to count swimmers!

Thanks for the kind words everyone. Ive been miserable the last 2 days but coming out of that now and looking forward to our first official consultation on saturday!

 

[Wish4another1]

tommy - your question about counting the - I thought they only looked at 100 (but that still seems like A LOT to me) and then they do some math... and figure out how many is there - so obviously its not an exact science... I mean really orchid - how do they know there was only 650,000... there could have been a million...

another job I am glad God did not call me to do - sperm counter

 

[tommyg]

I can't imagine anybody leaves school with the ambition to be a - sperm counter - Lol.

 

[momwithbabies]

Hi, ladies. I'm in need of some prayers. I might have a cornual pregnancy, where the embryo grows in one of the corners of your uterus, right next to a tube. These pregnancies can rupture, causing the mother to hemorrhage. The doctor is doing weekly ultrasounds to monitor if the baby is growing in the appropriate part of my uterus. I go in next Monday to see what's changed.

I'm scared out of my mind, but I have two things going for me...the baby has a heartbeat and is growing at the appropriate rate and the doctor said I should be in a lot of pain right now, which I'm not.

Please pray that my baby grows in the appropriate place in my uterus. Thank you for reading.

 

[Cookie1979]

Tommy - hubby got me spearmint and camomile tea, doesn't really taste of anything though...often the problem with flavoured teas. I googled about HSG and fertility and have read some very positive things about women falling pregnant after a HSG, and I wonder because she had to use so much dye there was perhaps some blockage. It pushed through eventually though, I think it was the spilling out at the ends that she struggled with, so maybe some sort of small blockage was pushed through. Fingers crossed. I just wish we were able to try immediately but got my second MMR tomorrow...part of me just wants to not bother but I know the risk is tiny but what if just one child in my sons preschool had german measles, I could walk in that room 2 hours after the child has been in there and catch it...thats how contagious it is. I know it's not worth the risk, not with the damage that can be done to baby but god I'm feeling so impatient, especially since reading the benefits about a HSG. The benefits will still be there next cycle, so got to hope that once we try again it finally does happen. xx

Orchid - Awww sorry to hear that your hubby isn't feeling positive, you still have a good chance though, after all just takes one swimmer to get in there!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you. xx

Bex - Good luck with your consultation on Saturday, hope it goes well. xx

momwithbabies - Fingers crossed for you, hope it all works out, must be really scary. Let us know how you get on, hoping everything turns out ok. xxx

AFM - well Getting there with all my tests etc, got my pelvic scan next week and my last progesterone blood test I plan to do in May (so next cycle) and then thats it...but looking likely that there is nothing wrong. Just going to focus on being healthier, started increasing my water intake, and drinking less caffeine, not cut it out completely but getting there. Also just want to get some lbs shifting, which doesn't seem to be happening right now, but it will. Next cycle we will start trying again, for once the fact that my cycles are roughly 34 days long is going to benefit me as means that when we are ok to try again I will be at the start of a new cycle. Can't come quick enough. xx

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Momwithbabies - so sorry to hear what you are going through. I'm thinking of you and hoping and praying all is ok.... I know you have waited a really long time for this pregnancy. Let us know how the scan goes

Tommy & Wish - your comments about being a sperm counter totally made me laugh cause funnily enough DH and I had been talking about that on our way for our IUI! I can't even begin to imagine having to do that job, especially since on DH's form one of the criteria is 'Odour'!! I mean seriously can you even imagine.... (his was normal btw )

Cookie - I agree with Tommy, maybe the 3 rounds of dye did the trick and you'll have that BFP before you know it!

Bex - thank you, you are so right - it is a total dent in the male ego...big time! DH was so crushed and it didn't matter what I said. I realised yesterday after going through his results a million times (to try and understand it) that his initial count was 12.5 million which is the highest yet so it's just so crappy that the final count was so low.... I guess we just got unlucky and it was a bad batch We've DTD twice since but I know I have well and truly ovulated now so nothing more that can be done this cycle.

I did a bit of research yesterday on IVF and I'm not going to lie it kind of scares the crap out of me!! After giving myself 5 injections for this IUI and having however many blood tests the thought of injecting myself for 10 days straight is a little daunting still I'm sure I will get over it if we decide to head that way.

Lanet - not sure how often you get to read here but if you are, any advice since you went through IVF with ICSI which is what we would be doing...

Whatever we decide one thing for sure is that I want ALL the info from my Dr this time including a detailed schedule of how it all works, when I have to have scans etc so I know exactly what's ahead of me and how many trips I'll have to make to the clinic! I realised yesterday that if we do want to do IVF with this clinic then we do need to start the procedure next month since I'll be taking the BCP to start cause we only have until the end of June before we move.... Hmmm why are things never easy and straightforward!!

Hugs to you all and sorry if I have missed anyone!

 

[tommyg]

Odour - if counting them wasn't bad enough to have on your CV - lol so funny!

I'll try to stop laughing about sperm smellers and counters.

Orchard have I got it right it was 12 m then dropped to 650k post wash? At least the 650k could all swim and they got a helping hand to where they need to be.
Think of them as the elite marathon runners who start at the front of the pack so they don't get slowed down by the duff fun runners in clown shoes, or furry suits. They cleared out all the duffers to give the elite a fighting chance.

Mwb hope all is ok

Will chat later

 

[Braven05]

Just dropping by to say hello and good luck to you Orchid. I have my fingers crossed for you and check for updates regularly. I hope everyone else is doing well too!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Tommy thanks for the laugh and putting a smile on my face!! That was far too funny!! You are right - over 12 mill to 650k so hopefully they are as you said the "elite" and raced right to the finish line

Thank you also Braven How are you doing? x

 

[tommyg]

Oh boy! I'm getting odd looks from the other end of the couch as I'm trying to hide my giggles at sperm counters and sniffers Please don't let him ask what I'm giggling at!

Cookie
Definitely wait and get the MMR. Seriously you'd kick yourself if you don't and sod law has it you will get up prego and ill.
I debated delayed and listened to cynics on here while I was pregnant over the flu jab. BIG MISTAKE I ended up really ill with flu pneumonia and various other complications at 36 weeks. My parents were taken into the wee room and given the grim news but told "we think we have got her in time" I spent a week in hospital on oxygen with various drugs getting pumped into me.
I don't think my mum settled or slept until DS was born 5 weeks later.
If they have cleared your tubes out it is unlikely that they will close again so quickly.

Braven Long time no see, how are you doing? How is the weight loss going?

 

[Cookie1979]

Hey ladies, had my MMR...almost missed it, I picked my phone up as I had a reminder that my appointment was at 11.50am...and it was 11.51am. My son was asleep on the sofa as he's poorly, and so had to wake him, put his shoes on (didn't even do the laces up) and run out of the door. Thought I was going to miss my slot but luckily didn't. So all done, and onto the count down til we can try again. I was never seriously contemplating not having it, just hate the waiting. But least its all done now and hopefully the next 4 weeks will fly by.

Feeling much more optimistic, not just because of the positive things I've read about fertility after a HSG but because I think the break has done me some good.

xx

 

[Braven05]

Doing okay here. Not great but getting by. I started taking vitex on CD 1. I don't know that it'll do anything but can't hurt. Looking forward to nicer weather and being able to get outside again. I have lots of plans for the yard and things I want to do. Hoping the sunshine will help lift my mood. Feel like I've been underwater in an awful funk for 3 months straight.

 

[Cookie1979]

Brave - good luck with the vitex, hope it helps! What's it supposed to do?

My bloody hsg gave me a urine infection, Wednesday after I had it done, was fine, no pain,Thursday again no pain, just a small amount of spotting. Then yesterday (Friday) I woke up with pelvic pain, got worse through the day, today the pain is also in my back. Went to out of hours doctors, she did one of those strip tests, so have antibiotics and hope that tomorrow the pain eases off.

One of my friends is pregnant, I'm happy for her, they've not been trying long and she thought she wasn't ovulating. I can handle pregnancy announcements when it's their first, there's a tiny bit of jealousy but overall am happy. I know my other friend isn't going to be, she's been trying for number one for quite some time and has had no luck, I don't think she'll take it very well. She already feels like everyone except her can get pregnant.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend, we've had a lazy day, hopefully I'll be in less pain tomorrow.

Xx

 

[Braven05]

Vitex is supposed to help regulate hormones naturally. Clomid didn't help so this probably won't either... But worth a shot since I don't have insurance.

Sorry about the discomfort /infection after your HSG. Hope you feel better soon!

 

[momwithbabies]

Doctor had an emergency cesarean, so he had to call me about the results. He says he doesn't believe the baby is in corner. It is a different presentation, close to the corner, but not in the corner. He said it is a different presentation, but he is hopeful it is a different variation and I will make it to delivery. Baby's heart rate is great. Measurements are fine for 8 weeks. He will see me again on April 15. Due date is November 6th.

Thank you for the prayers...I'm feeling more hopeful for sure!

 

[eyemom]

Sorry don't mean to ignore anyone, but mwb I didn't post before I don't think, but I prayed for you and baby and I'm so happy to see this update.

Sorry I've been in stalking mode lately ladies. Always cheering you on.

 

[Srbjbex]

Mwb - that's great to hear...must be a huge weight off your mind although I know you will never stop panicing!

Cookie - how is the infection? Is it clearing up? Feels like its one thing after another with you....you're definitely due a lucky break soon !

Orchid - what day or your cycle are you now on? How long left until testing? Hopefully those elite swimmers have done their business!

Tommy - anything new with you this cycle?

Hi everyone else!

AFM - we has our consultation on saturday and it went well. One good thing about having to pay private is things sure do move fast. I'm back in next saturday fir a scan to check follicle position and for any adhesions etc. Plus tomorrow I'm having a blood test for AMH levels and OH is having a repeat SA. Assuming we can fit everything in on time we should be able to start (with the down regulation) next cycle the the ICSI the cycle after that (end if May)

It's all go!

 

[BabyBump2015]

hi ladies, i hope you dont mind me joining the thread.

a little about me: 40yrs young 1 DD (19) from a previous marriage. married to the most wonderful, considerate man of my dreams he has no children and i want nothing more than to give me a child as well as fulfill a void Ive been carrying since what seems like forever. I've always wanted to have my children be a year or two apart in age however, it didn't work out that way. I suffered several miscarriages after having my daughter and another in 2010 with my hubby now

forward 4 years and after fertility drugs, IUIs and a whole lot of heartaches, not one we've since changed fertility doctors and are now seeing someone who seems like she knows what she's doing and is willing to help us

i have low AMH, in other words, low egg count hubby is scheduled to have the semen tested again but according to the previous doctor, he had low sperm count, low motility and morphology. its a double whammy for us however, the doctor is willing to do everything she can to help us.

our action plan is for me to go in for Cd3 bloodwork when AF arrives and hubby to get his semen tested then on to Natural IVF, no drugs as of right now but that may change.

AF should be here any day now but i dont feel the way i normally do when AF is about to show. i tested yesterday night and of course. i wanted to test this morning but i couldn't hold out I'll test again on Friday if she is not here...

sorry for the long intro

i hope everyone is enjoying their day