3rd month TTC #1... anyone with me?

[LadyL]

NYColoradoan,

I would definately recommend OPKs. But I think it's worth it to spend the extra money and go for the digital. It takes a lot of the guesswork out trying to figure out if one line is darker than the other, etc. I have used the Clearblue easy ones and they are so easy to use. A box of 20 is about $40. Kind of expensive, but worth it. If you happen to have a FLEX spending account through your work, you can get reimbursed for them too!! I am actually on my 2nd month of using the Clearblue easy fertility monitor, which gives you high days before your peak days (when you get an LH surge) so it gives you more of a window of when your most fertile days are. It also keeps up with what cycle day you're on too. They are pretty pricey, but you can find deals on them on Ebay. Tons of good reviews about them on Amazon if you want to check it out!! Good luck and baby dust to you all!!

 

[NYColoradoan]

Thanks LadyL! That's very informative about the Clearblue Easy OPKs. It sounds like something I should invest in for next cycle if we're unsuccessful this round. Question about the OPKs vs the monitors. Do the OPKs only tell you the exact day you ovulate or a day or two before? Do you do both the OPK and the monitor?

 

[LadyL]

The OPKs are gonna tell you your LH surge, which is about 12-36 hours before you ovulate, so when you get a positive you should probably ovulate the next day. The monitor, tells you about a surge in estrogen (which begins the start of your fertile period) which happens a few days before your LH surge, and it will also tell you when you get your LH surge. So it gives you a little bit larger window of your most fertile times. But, no you dont have to use both. I did last month bc it was the first month using the monitor and I had leftover OPKs anyways and I wanted to compare. They both gave me the same results. The monitor really is cool, but you may want to start with the OPKs first just because OPKs dont always work for everyone, and some women never get a surge, even though they do ovulate. My friend used them and never got a surge, and she def ovulated bc she's got a 10 month old!! So you'd hate to spend that kind of money and it not work.
But the reviews on amazon about the monitor had a lot of people saying they got preg within the first 3 months of using it. These were even by some people who had been trying for a long time. Not saying that it will definately help us get pregnant that quickly, but it does make it seem more hopeful!

 

[Feb4th2011]

Hey ladies... My hubby and I have been trying for 2 months 3 days..... (4 hours... 7 sec.. jk) lol and I too can't wait any longer... He is 30 this year and ill be 28 (omg) We've been married for ooooh say 2 months and 3 days! I'm currently on cycle day 34... and getting a :BFN: last month was only a 26 day cycle... I used to be so regular until last June when I found myself working in a mentally toxic environment ( worst boss ever!!!)
When I turn on the television, watch a movie, walk downtown, log on FB, SOMEONE is having a baby and its making me crazy!!

Funny story: I was driving home yesterday from the city and saw a deer with her new baby... and found myself thinking " you bitch " hehe.

I made the mistake of telling a couple people that we are TTC... what the hell was i thinking, wish i woulda kept the trap shut! Sorry for rambling but i got really excited when i saw this thread. Its hard to get out your frustrations out or talk about how your feeling on a thread where some women are have been TTC for years, it just wouldn't be right.

 

[LadyL]

I totally agree! I also made the mistake at work to tell some people that we were TTC and there is a girl I work with who is 7 months preg and she still wont tell me that she is bc she knows I have been trying and doesnt want to hurt my feelings bc she got preg by accident and isnt married. Its kind of awkward bc I know she preg., heck, everyone does, she's busting out of her scrubs!! Ha! Good luck to ya girl! In the meantime, enjoy the married life!! It's great too!

 

[NYColoradoan]

Thanks, LadyL! I think I'll try the OPKs first, as you suggested. The 3 month thing makes it awfully tempting to just spend the money and get the monitor, though... Here's to hoping there isn't a next month of ttc for all of us!
I stopped talking about it to people because my mom just tells me not to stress, it will happen in God's time, etc. and after sharing every single symptom daily to my best friend during the first month when I was convinced I was getting my BFP and didn't, well I just feel silly. Now, I talk to you ladies because you understand completely.

 

[nuffmac]

Hi all,

Yup. TTC sucks. It didn't bother me at all when I was NPNT and then at the start of this year we started TTC and I wait all day to wake up the next day so I can take my temp and I'm afraid to move my arm to reach for the thermometer!!

Bu then I joined this site and realised I'm not alone. And its only been a couple of days but look forward to checking posts already.

I'm in the position where I am the first of my friends to get married and none of my friends are thinking of that never mind having a baby . So can't even begin to explain to them why we want this soooo much. so have to keep it all to myself, but now I can share all the ups and downs that are inevitable by the looks of things.

I'm on cycle 4 on cd1, btw.

Good luck to you all

 

[DG1984]

My husband & I have also been TTC for 3 months. It's been unbelivably stressful for me as it seems everyone around us is pregnant or has kids. We've been married almost 4 years and just recently got financially stable enough to try for our first child. My sister, who is a few years older than me, has 5 kids. What I have found to be really frustrating is she says that with all 5 kids it only took them one month of trying. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Also, my last cycle was very different. It was 5 days late and only lasted for 2 days. I also got pregnancy symptoms, so I thought there was a chance that maybe I was pregnant. I had one positive HPT, but the blood test came back negative. It's now been a few days since the blood test and I still have these symptoms. I feel like my body is playing tricks on me because it knows how badly I want to have a baby. Is anyone else as frustrated as I am??

 

[ForeverYoung]

My husband & I have also been TTC for 3 months. It's been unbelivably stressful for me as it seems everyone around us is pregnant or has kids. We've been married almost 4 years and just recently got financially stable enough to try for our first child. My sister, who is a few years older than me, has 5 kids. What I have found to be really frustrating is she says that with all 5 kids it only took them one month of trying. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Also, my last cycle was very different. It was 5 days late and only lasted for 2 days. I also got pregnancy symptoms, so I thought there was a chance that maybe I was pregnant. I had one positive HPT, but the blood test came back negative. It's now been a few days since the blood test and I still have these symptoms. I feel like my body is playing tricks on me because it knows how badly I want to have a baby. Is anyone else as frustrated as I am??

Aww, I feel for you. That would be so horrible. If I were you, I'd take another hpt, and go get another blood test. Labs can mess up! In fact, they do it all the time.

 

[DG1984]

My husband & I have also been TTC for 3 months. It's been unbelivably stressful for me as it seems everyone around us is pregnant or has kids. We've been married almost 4 years and just recently got financially stable enough to try for our first child. My sister, who is a few years older than me, has 5 kids. What I have found to be really frustrating is she says that with all 5 kids it only took them one month of trying. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Also, my last cycle was very different. It was 5 days late and only lasted for 2 days. I also got pregnancy symptoms, so I thought there was a chance that maybe I was pregnant. I had one positive HPT, but the blood test came back negative. It's now been a few days since the blood test and I still have these symptoms. I feel like my body is playing tricks on me because it knows how badly I want to have a baby. Is anyone else as frustrated as I am??

Aww, I feel for you. That would be so horrible. If I were you, I'd take another hpt, and go get another blood test. Labs can mess up! In fact, they do it all the time.

Thanks My doctor actually wants me to go back to the lab a week from the day I did the blood test - so this coming Tuesday I will go back for another test, but I think it will come up negative. I only had one positive HPT out of 5 or 6. I'm looking forward to this month, maybe we will get lucky

 

[jdr]

Hi everyone, I can relate to you all as well. We are on our 5month of TTC. I think bc we try so hard for so long to NOT get pregnant, that we assume once we start trying that it will happen right away.

Each month we try, I get so hopeful that it will happen, but no luck yet. And I read somewhere that by 6 months of TTC, i think it's on aveage about 85% of couples are successful... I hope it happens for all of us soon!

 

[wantnumber2]

hay ladies got my BFP this morning testing again tomoz just to be sure!!!

babydust to you all

 

[DG1984]

I finally went and bought an OPK (First Response). Did my first test this morning and what do you know, it shows I have an LH surge. Looks like I bought them at just the right time! I was unsure of where I would be at my cycle this month because last month my cycle was very strange (was 5 days late and only lasted 2 days)

 

[Hodge-Podge]

Hey Ellemarley, I'm in the exact same boat! On our 3rd cycle of trying and so tired of people asking when we're going to start trying. And the few that know we are trying are shocked because they got pregnant without trying so having to "time" everything seems crazy to them. It's very depressing and very heartbreaking.

 

[nuffmac]

hay ladies got my BFP this morning testing again tomoz just to be sure!!!

babydust to you all

Fingers crossed for you!!

 

[misslissa]

I haven't tried OPKs yet so I just figure my ovulation window is somewhere between 12 to 16 days before my period (which is what I read somewhere is typical). But, the problem is that my cycles are either exactly 28 days or 30 days, so based off of this, I have to figure my ovulation window is larger. It's such a mess, and I should just buy some OPKs. What's everyone else's experience with them? Do you recommend?
ForeverYoung, were you on birth control and that's why your cycles have been off?

OPK's are great; cheap and easy to use matey. If nothing else I just find it reassuring to know that I'm ovulating. Get on amazon and try them out x

 

[misslissa]

Hi all, we are on our 3rd month too. it is mad how you spend your life making sure you don't get pregnant and then when you want to it isn't that easy! I was obsessive about it the first 2 months but I've chilled a bit now, I use cbfm and opk's to double check but we have said we might jack all of that in if we don't get a BFP this go, only because we're finding the 'sex at the right time' sex really off putting! Anyone else struggling with that??

 

[nuffmac]

.... I use cbfm and opk's to double check but we have said we might jack all of that in if we don't get a BFP this go, only because we're finding the 'sex at the right time' sex really off putting! Anyone else struggling with that??

Yeah I know what you mean. We call it 'organised sex'!!

 

[NYColoradoan]

congratulations wantnumber2!
The scheduled sex is our biggest struggle. My DH sometimes feels like I only want to BD because it's that time of month. So, I have to work on making him feel more comfortable with it and also make sure I want to do it the rest of the month too! Nuffmac, I like the term organized sex much better than scheduled

 

[misslissa]

I haven't tried OPKs yet so I just figure my ovulation window is somewhere between 12 to 16 days before my period (which is what I read somewhere is typical). But, the problem is that my cycles are either exactly 28 days or 30 days, so based off of this, I have to figure my ovulation window is larger. It's such a mess, and I should just buy some OPKs. What's everyone else's experience with them? Do you recommend?
ForeverYoung, were you on birth control and that's why your cycles have been off?

congratulations wantnumber2!
The scheduled sex is our biggest struggle. My DH sometimes feels like I only want to BD because it's that time of month. So, I have to work on making him feel more comfortable with it and also make sure I want to do it the rest of the month too! Nuffmac, I like the term organized sex much better than
scheduled

I'm ovulating today so I'm hoping my OH feels like it in a bit without me putting the pressure on! Had to jump on it the other morning so that he didn't have chance to think about it!

Shame we didn't want to conceive a few years ago when we were at it every day!!!