3rd month TTC #1... anyone with me?

[Indigo77]

Hi...I am TTC #1...3RD cycle...Will begin BD-ing in a few days. GL everyone...

I had a dream last night that I had a baby at the hospital on my own....OH was away on business abroad...When we spoke on the phone he asked me what the baby looked like...I replied, "He is short."

 

[NYColoradoan]

I hope you don't mind that I laugh but I think that's hilarious. Obviously not the part about you having to give birth while your husband is abroad, but the he is short comment is pretty funny. Aren't vivid dreams a pregnancy sign?

 

[Indigo77]

Aren't vivid dreams a pregnancy sign?

I don't know if it is a pregnancy sign, but my SIL would always have dreams about drinking beer when she was pregnant...which I found hilarious.

 

[youngwife20]

Hi! My hubby and I are wanting to start our family after getting married this past September. I never thought it would be difficult at all, silly me.

We're on month 3 of TTC. It's so hard not knowing - what if we're doing all this trying and we aren't even capable of having kids? Doesn't help that my 2 best friends both just gave birth within months of each other. One just last week.

They keep telling me 'maybe next month' or 'soon' - one even was like 'Wow, we conceived both of ours on the first try - are you guys actually trying??' No - we're just dilly dallying and hoping for a baby to appear. Please.

Anyone frustrated? Worried? I never thought we'd have an issue, and here we are, no preggo yet. It sucks to keep thinking 'Ooo... I feel nauseous, I bet this is the month!' only for AF to come. Oh, and did you notice that EVERYONE and EVERYTHING around you is baby-related??? Seriously, I swear everyone I see is pregnant or toting around a little one, and somehow I convince myself that this is a 'sign' that this is my time.

*sigh* - time to watch DC Cupcakes to *try* to take my mind off things... although really it's all I think about lately.

I know exactly how you feel! Me and my husband are in our 3rd month of trying to it can get very frustrated i also thought " i hear all this stuff about people under 30 being able to conceive really easy and my younger friends got pregnant quick so i should be fine" yet nothing yet! i also think every symptom i get is a sign of pregnancy! but it wasn't good luck on your journey the important thing is to try as hard as we can to relax!

 

[youngwife20]

I'm with ya girl!! Currently on 3rd cycle ttc too!! Awaiting AF arrival today! Still a no-show, but feel she's on her way! Ugh. My two best friends also had their babies two weeks apart. They are a yr old now, but I know how you feel, bc they are always talking babies and I want so desparately to be a part of it. One of them tried for right at a year and the other got preg the 2nd month of trying. And now one of my other best friends is preggo with TWINS after first month off BC! I will have been married for 2 years in May, I'm 27 and husband is 33, so its def time! I feel like everyone I know is preg and I want to be happy for them, but cant help but feel jealous! I don't think I'm alone in that. And then I feel guilty for feeling like that bc i know there are so many more ppl out there who have been trying for years to have a baby, so I try to remember that we haven't been trying that long (even though it feels like forever!!) and that everything will happen when it's supposed to! Good luck to you! Maybe 3rd time will be the charm for both of us!!

Good luck! and that jealous feeling is completely normal!! my best friend had her baby without even trying so she thinks its really easy lol I'm also on my 3rd cycle and it feels like ive been trying for years lol, i just have to keep putting it in to prospective and thinking people try for years so three months isn't long at all

sprinkles baby dust on you all

 

[youngwife20]

Hi Ladies, I'm with you all too. It's my 3rd cycle TTC #1 after my hubby and I got married last October. We've been together for almost six years so we were ready to start almost right away. I guess I just thought it would happen right away for us, too, because we spent so many years trying not to be pregnant! I too feel silly that it's only been 3 cycles and I feel stressed about it, but it's all I can think about. I'm 32 so I feel the pressure of age even though I know women get pregnant into their 40s. I guess my biggest challenge is just to learn to relax more... I try not to talk about it too much to other people because 1)they think I'm obsessive and 2)they think it should just happen because it did for them. Thank goodness I've found this site because I can read about it and everyone is so supportive!

I am soo glad i found here too! because I am starting to get the " relax it will happen when its meant to stop focusing so much on it" etc and its like shhh! if i can help it come along! then im going to try my hardest lol people dont seem to get it! this site is so much help!

 

[youngwife20]

Hi All! I am in the same boat- been "TTC" (Still getting used to that acronym) for about 3 months and am trying out a forum to chat with people about it as my husband and I have not told friends or family! Feel like it would be more "real" if I could talk to someone about it.
Looking forward to talking to all of you!

Good luck! I also havent told many friends accept my bestfriend and my mum, I think the more people you tell the more preasure you have because people will keep asking if its happened yet!! I hope you get your BFP very soon!

 

[youngwife20]

i been ttc for a year now and i am only 18 and my dh is 21 its sad how basically all the girls that went to my high school just got accidentally pregnant and most of them dont know the fathers are! i have been married since i was 17 been married for over a year and trying so hard its just hard seeing all the people you know getting pregnant not having a family just being single moms when im here married and trying so hard i ordered some preseed i just have to wait for my af to arrive then start trying because i missed my ovulation this month please wish me luck!

I wish you all the luck in the world!! I'm also married and 20 years old it can be annoying seeing all the people who dont even want kids just end up pregnant so easy but then again we assume it was easy because they weren't trying but they could have been on no birth control for a year so it could have taken a year lol its only harder for us because we are actively trying so we see how long it is actually taking!

 

[anxiousme]

hi ladies,i know exactly what y'all talkin bout,been ttc for 3mnths now and it has not been easy,especially when pple think u just dont want your fine figure to change.but hey.....ours will be next.will start ovulating in 2days and i hope it works out for me this month.
baby dust to all

 

[peaberry]

Heya, this is my third cycle TTC #1 too even though I just got off the pill two months ago. Still waiting to see if I'll ovulate this cycle cos I didn't for the past two cycles. Am surrounded by pregnant friends and just found out that another one got pregnant last week. Just have to remind myself that everything will happen in its time...

 

[ld1978]

Hey ladies,

I too am in cycle 3 of TTC, Ive just come off the pill (after 16 years) so my cycles are long and periods only lasting 2 days so am taking agnus castus to see if that helps!

I too cant help but worry if Im going to have fertility problems (especially as my luteal phase was short last month) but I need to try and chill out as its only been 2 full cycles!! Its so hard though!!

Anyway Im only on CD4 (and didnt OV til CD23 last time) so got a wait yet!

I hope we all get some BFPs soon xxx

 

[TerriLou]

Hi,

I'm in the same boat too, we started trying officially in January 2011. I have been ready for years and trying to convince my Hubby that he should be ready soon too as we are 35 and 36. He has never felt mature or responsible enough.

I remember I used to tell him that we should start early as it may not happen straight away, his answer always used to be "yes, but it might!" Yeah right!!!!!

I was told I had PCOS in my early 20s and that if I have been TTC for 6 months, to go back to the docs and they'll see if there's anything they could do. As I wasn't in the right place then, I just left it.

Over the last 2 years I've lost about 75lbs in weight and my cycles have been more regular, rather than every 6 months, they're coming between 4 and 6 weeks. This month I have started charting with temperatures and things, so hopefully it should show a better picture and I will see if i do actually ovulate or not. Going by my last 2 cycles, I should be ready to ovulate at some point next week around CD18, so we'll see.

Guess we just have to be patient and enjoy the BDing.

Good luck and fairy dust to everyone.

 

[wantnumber2]

hay ladies just thought i would let you no i got another BFP yesterday and have been comformed at the doctors today!!

wishing you all luck and hope my good luck rubs off.

 

[youngwife20]

Congratulations Waitingfor number 2!!

 

[aimze]

Hey! Good to see at least 3 ladies who commented on this post had BFP's! Yay! Congrats Spread your dust over our way hehe xx

 

[amanda77]

congratulations wantnumber2!
The scheduled sex is our biggest struggle. My DH sometimes feels like I only want to BD because it's that time of month. So, I have to work on making him feel more comfortable with it and also make sure I want to do it the rest of the month too! Nuffmac, I like the term organized sex much better than scheduled

I was talking to my hubby about this over the weekend and this was his input on sex when trying to make a baby.....

"Treat me like a dumb man if you have too! As long as you are into me I will want to have sex every day. If you want to time things so we are covered when you are ovulating, just start messing around with me. As long as you don't say we have to have sex now because I am ovulating....we'll be fine."

He then told me that he just wanted it to stay FUN for us and not be mechanical. I think a lot of men are like this!!!!!!!!!

Just thought I would share...this might help you too!

 

[lilyanna24]

i been ttc for a year now and i am only 18 and my dh is 21 its sad how basically all the girls that went to my high school just got accidentally pregnant and most of them dont know the fathers are! i have been married since i was 17 been married for over a year and trying so hard its just hard seeing all the people you know getting pregnant not having a family just being single moms when im here married and trying so hard i ordered some preseed i just have to wait for my af to arrive then start trying because i missed my ovulation this month please wish me luck!

I wish you all the luck in the world!! I'm also married and 20 years old it can be annoying seeing all the people who dont even want kids just end up pregnant so easy but then again we assume it was easy because they weren't trying but they could have been on no birth control for a year so it could have taken a year lol its only harder for us because we are actively trying so we see how long it is actually taking!

thank you so much it just sucks because i see some of the girls having babies and its like all they do is still party they dont care for the baby there parents take care of it so thats just wrong i want something like that for me just mine i wouldnt abuse the rights of my parents

 

[Tryingtrying]

Hi
Hope people don't mind me joining your thread, i'm in my early 30s and from the UK. I am now on my 3rd month of trying and the 2ww is horrible and i'm amazed at just how much us ladies bodies can fool us in to thinking that we have pregnancy symptoms (or is that just me??).
It would be really nice to be able to chat to others who are trying also. Think i ovulated on 18th this month and my cycle is normally between 30 and 35 days however last cycle it messed with my head and came on day 42!!!!!
It lovely to read everyones posts.

 

[youngwife20]

i been ttc for a year now and i am only 18 and my dh is 21 its sad how basically all the girls that went to my high school just got accidentally pregnant and most of them dont know the fathers are! i have been married since i was 17 been married for over a year and trying so hard its just hard seeing all the people you know getting pregnant not having a family just being single moms when im here married and trying so hard i ordered some preseed i just have to wait for my af to arrive then start trying because i missed my ovulation this month please wish me luck!

I wish you all the luck in the world!! I'm also married and 20 years old it can be annoying seeing all the people who dont even want kids just end up pregnant so easy but then again we assume it was easy because they weren't trying but they could have been on no birth control for a year so it could have taken a year lol its only harder for us because we are actively trying so we see how long it is actually taking!

thank you so much it just sucks because i see some of the girls having babies and its like all they do is still party they dont care for the baby there parents take care of it so thats just wrong i want something like that for me just mine i wouldnt abuse the rights of my parents

I know exactly how you feel! i know some girls who literaly were still going clubbing at 8 months pregnant!! its so annoying!but it will be our month so try not to think of those people that dont apreiciate being mothers!!

 

[youngwife20]

Hi
Hope people don't mind me joining your thread, i'm in my early 30s and from the UK. I am now on my 3rd month of trying and the 2ww is horrible and i'm amazed at just how much us ladies bodies can fool us in to thinking that we have pregnancy symptoms (or is that just me??).
It would be really nice to be able to chat to others who are trying also. Think i ovulated on 18th this month and my cycle is normally between 30 and 35 days however last cycle it messed with my head and came on day 42!!!!!
It lovely to read everyones posts.

Hi! its certianly not just you i was so convinced i was pregnant 2 months ago i almost bought baby cloths! lol when you want something so bad your mind tricks the hell out of you!! hope you get your bfp this month and i know how you feel the 2ww seems to feel like more than 2 weeks!