3rd Time Lucky Club

[beachlover1]

Amos I just PMd you....i am so happy to see you here!!!!

You will stress out, but all I can say is everytime is different and look at some of us on here...some are out at almost due date now, some 20+ weeks and some of us 14+ weeks now, we are all (touch wood) going ok!! stay calm and think positive, having a baby is really a numbers game, I truely believe the first time for you and I was just nature being cruel....and the second, well it was just too soon after the first!!

we are all in the same boat..so chat to us anytime!!! xxx

 

[Poshie]

Hello girls :wave:

Welcome Amos and many congratulations on your pregnancy I remember you from our time in mc section I'm not pretending it's easy, but we have to have some PMA to get through this emotional journey and pray that we will be 3rd time lucky. Sometimes I find it difficult to take my own advice, but hey, we have to get through this. I'm proud to say that all the members here are doing nicely.

Lol, I feel the same way. I still can't imagine it will be me giving birth, holding our baby. I haven't got to that stage yet. I am at the same stage as BL and I am now anxiously waiting my 16 week mw appointment and pray that we can hear a heartbeat. God I'm going to be sooo nervous as she starts trying....

You can be rest assured that all the ladies here can sympathise with your worries and concerns and it's great to be able to chat with people who know.

 

[beachlover1]

Oh and Amos/Lol...try not to read too many of the negative/worrysome posts on here, they can be quite upsetting and have a negative impact. I found when i read them, i just stress that might happen to me etc.....like no HB at 15 weeks etc, its just makes me wonder too much and freak out. Does that make sense? before I came on here I had no idea so many things could go wrong, and to be honest as much as i like the support, I was once quite happy being oblivious! Too much knowledge can be a bad thing.

I know people need support, we have been there too, and I try to give it when I can, but I find it a much more positive place being here rather than in the main forum. I know that sounds selfish, but several MCs on the trot can really knock yr confidence, and you need to be positive right now.. xxx

 

[samzi]

hi ladies, how are we all today? x

 

[Poshie]

Ah hello Samzi, you haven't popped yet then? How are you feeling?

I'm feeling okay. Fairly normal, which worries me slightly! You know how it is.

BL - Am I right in thinking you have a doppler? I am considering buying or perhaps hiring one (a friend on here does) sometime after my 16 week appointment. I know nothing about them. Which one do you have? Is it easy to use?

 

[samzi]

nope, im still here!

im going to go overdue, you just know it

feeling ok thanks, finally got my hospital bag sorted so just have to wait now! 38 weeks tomorrow, i cant believe it

 

[beachlover1]

Poshie....yep I have a doppler. I have 2 thoughs on it....I hate it but its reassuring to say the very least!!!

I have a Hibebe bt200, you can hire them off anawiz I think. Easy to use.....get the gel with it too, switch it on and off you go!! It is good to be honest, I have a little listen at bedtime for 30 seconds and off I go to sleep. It easy to use ONCE you get the grasp of it, and appreciate that its difficult to find LO at first.

I had a MW listen to the HB for me so I knew what to listen for....there are a few wooshes and chewchewchews down there! ;-) Once you hear it once...its easy to spot and the Hibebe unit flashes a heart on the screen with a HR once you have a HB NOT the placenta.

Its helping me get thru this drag of waiting for my 20 week scan, and not yet feeling movements!

I wonder how stressed id be if i cant find the HB though...thats the problem!!

xxx

 

[beachlover1]

Samzi....almost time to get eating curry, baby dancing for Britain, eating pineapple, swimming, drinking raspberry tea and googling anything else that will make baby come on time!!!!! ;-)

My accurpuncturist said there are special forbidden places to be avoided during pregnancy as they bring on labour, but once I am at that 40 week mark....ill be there getting pricked right left and centre ;-) xx

 

[MissyMojo]

to you ladies,
hope your all doing pretty well

Luvz ur stalker xxx

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Hi Girls,

Can I join?? I'm really hoping its 3rd time lucky for us, not sure how I wuld get through another loss.

Lil history on me, Me and DH got married in May last year and I fell pregnant in June, I was scanned at 10 weeks, and was admitted to hospital for suspected eptopic, I had laraposcopy and ERPC (I wasn't eptopic, was missed miscarriage). I had spotting and very short cycles until November last year when I fell pregnant again (Vitamin B-Complex really helped with spotting). I sadly miscarried 3 days after Christmas although I had a feeling from the day the found out that it wasn't going to work out.

I'm now pregnant again, no AF since last M/C and I'm out of my mind with worry, I can never imagine making it to 12 weeks, let alone ever holding our baby. I have decided that nothing I can do will change the fate of what might happen, I'm almost trying to forget I'm pregnant and cannot talk to DH about our baby until I know everything will be ok.

I'm keeping VERY busy for the next few months, we have a few weekends away booked and many things to look forward to so I'm taking everyday 1 at a time and just pray that this is our time.xxx

Will be nice sharing the journey with other people in the same position.xx

 

[Amos2009]

Thanks everyone for your warm welcome! Poshie- I also remember you from the mc section...I remember you and Beach getting your BFP's and I cannot believe that has been 14 weeks ago. Crazy how time has flown.
Beach- I think I read just about everything that can go wrong during a pregnancy during my last two losses, so I am definitely steering clear of those conversations this time. I think it just made me more nervous and worrisome and I am NOT going to do that this time. (Yeah right- hahah) Well, at least I am going to try

Congrats to everyone here!!!

 

[beachlover1]

Sassy Welcome!! I remember you from MC section when I had my MMc in August, so its great to see you here now!!

I did what your doing...forgetting im pregnant this time round, at the start too. I didnt tell anyone other than DH, and other than do all the things I was meant to do, i went on as normal until I had an early scan at 7 weeks...then I told my sister and that was it until 12 weeks!! i just decided what will be will be!

Just think positive, have a positive attitude and look ahead not back. We, so far, touch wood have a good record on here, so maybe 3rd time is a lucky charm for us all!

any days you have a down day....or an up day!...we will be around to listen!

xxx

 

[beachlover1]

Thanks everyone for your warm welcome! Poshie- I also remember you from the mc section...I remember you and Beach getting your BFP's and I cannot believe that has been 14 weeks ago. Crazy how time has flown.
Beach- I think I read just about everything that can go wrong during a pregnancy during my last two losses, so I am definitely steering clear of those conversations this time. I think it just made me more nervous and worrisome and I am NOT going to do that this time. (Yeah right- hahah) Well, at least I am going to try

Congrats to everyone here!!!

heee heeee errrrrrrr not sure the last 14 weeks have gone that fast for me but at least they have gone!! xxxx

 

[OmiOmen]

It is nice to see so many new faces. I don't think you will stop worrying and to be honest I think it is normal after two losses. I got through my first 12 weeks mostly because I did not stay positive or negative but tried to live in denial until the 12 week scan at which point I really freaked out. But thankfully the 12 week scan went well and then I finally calmed down right up until the 20 week scan when I got really scared right before it again. But for me the second trimester was almost worry free (and thankfully went fast) but now I am just into the third trimester I keep worrying about what can go wrong again.

Well, today was my last day at work before my holidays are starting and then onto maternity leave! I sort of think I might get bored and then think about how much I need to do and keep thinking about things like aqua-natal classes and such. My back hurts so much today though so I am feeling quite thankful right now. I tried a new shampoo and conditioner today which made my greasy pregnancy hair better which sounds like such a small thing but I feel better now and really am so excited about getting my hair cut (small things, lol). I have slowly started my hospital bag and buy something each time I go to the shop. Unfortunately, I am at that point where I don't fit into the second trimester board at all but the third trimester board seems so far away and scary too.

 

[Lol78]

Oh and Amos/Lol...try not to read too many of the negative/worrysome posts on here, they can be quite upsetting and have a negative impact. I found when i read them, i just stress that might happen to me etc.....like no HB at 15 weeks etc, its just makes me wonder too much and freak out. Does that make sense? before I came on here I had no idea so many things could go wrong, and to be honest as much as i like the support, I was once quite happy being oblivious! Too much knowledge can be a bad thing.

I know people need support, we have been there too, and I try to give it when I can, but I find it a much more positive place being here rather than in the main forum. I know that sounds selfish, but several MCs on the trot can really knock yr confidence, and you need to be positive right now.. xxx

You are so right, I have just scared myself silly reading a thread about blighted ovums. It's not a great thing to read when you are 7 weeks and have only seen an empty sac so far and have a week and a bit to go to worry about whether there will be anything in it next time!! But the girls on loss support forums have been my lifeline for the last few months, so I still go in there. I still can't bring myself to go into first trimester. It's like I'm in denial somehow.

 

[Lol78]

Hi there Sassy! Lovely to see you here. How are the tests going? Or have you stopped. Hope they are going well, but try not to stress. Mine didn't get darker until I was about 5 weeks this time.

Does anyone else find that when they refer to the future with dh, they will always start it with "if things go OK..." or similar? I'm so jealous of people who can just say "when the baby's born..." and not even think twice about it. There are so many people like that who NEVER have to even consider that it would go wrong, because they have 2 or 3 (or more) and it never does go wrong.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Hi Lol,

No I've not tested again yet but will be tomorrow (sorry I cant resist) although I'm not worrying too much at all about the tests as Ive had no pain or spotting but I'll let you know tomorrow how the test looks. Ive slept for 3 hours this afternoon which is so unlike me, I only need 7 hours per night, so assuming pregnancy is making me sleepy.

I so no what you mean about starting sentances with if all ok or if all works out, I cant even talk about due dates, scan dates or anything remotely to do with our baby, taking one day at a time is the only way I will not go mental.xxx

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Amos, I'm soooo happy to see that your pregnant again, I remember both your M/C and I have everything crossed that this pregnancy is going to work out for you.

Thanks to all you lovely ladies for making me feel welcome.xx

 

[Lol78]

Good luck for testing tomorrow sassy. Will be keeping everything crossed for a dark line. I know how that wait feels.

 

[Poshie]

Hello Sassy and welcome to the 3tlc many congrats on your pregnancy and we'll do our best to support you through this emotional time. How far along are you now? Best of luck for a reassuring dark line tomorrow.

I never knew this journey would be as unpredictable, difficult, emotional and hard as it has turned out to be. Like you said BL, I was basicly blissfully ignorant when we set out on the journey in dec 08. I've learnt so much in that time, both from what's happened to me as well as the experiences of ladies here on BnB.

Worst day was being diagnosed with a BO at my first 12 week scan. Second worst day was the pain of passing the sac. Best moments: seeing our pip for the first time and then seeing a baby shaped healthy pip at my 12 week scan

I'm now in that in between mode (just as you said in my journal Lol) of feeling better symptom wise, but not having a full on bump and worrying again if everything's ok.

I think we should do a weekly " important events list ". So each week we all know who's having what test or scan or even birth! So let me know if you have anything scheduled for week commencing 1 feb that way we can all keep tabs. Ps. Only do this if you feel ready, no pressure of course