42.3 and trying for #4

[marathongirl]

I just wanted to post as I will be back here myself. I have been stalking and wanted to give hope to all the "older" women ttc. I had my rainbow at 43.5 after 2 losses. She is now 13 months and I am unfortunately having my 2nd mc since she was born. Keep the hope and the faith ladies it will happen for us I don't feel ready to let this pregnancy go but I had an us yesterday at 7+3 since LMP and there was a fetal pole but no hb . No cramping or bleeding yet but my doctor thinks I will mc in the next 2 weeks. I would love to share this journey with you all as I know the ups and downs and it helps to have support. Fx'd for all of us

 

[Sunshine14]

I just wanted to post as I will be back here myself. I have been stalking and wanted to give hope to all the "older" women ttc. I had my rainbow at 43.5 after 2 losses. She is now 13 months and I am unfortunately having my 2nd mc since she was born. Keep the hope and the faith ladies it will happen for us I don't feel ready to let this pregnancy go but I had an us yesterday at 7+3 since LMP and there was a fetal pole but no hb . No cramping or bleeding yet but my doctor thinks I will mc in the next 2 weeks. I would love to share this journey with you all as I know the ups and downs and it helps to have support. Fx'd for all of us

Hey Ladies am back in the land of the living - kindof!! and great to hear all of your updates and catch up with you all

Marathongirl thanks for giving us all hope with your rainbow baby girl at 43.5! & so so sorry to hear that you are going to mc I had a mmc at 9 weeks about 6 years ago and they are are just so awful to experience. I started mc at work and just had no idea what to expect and it really knocked me sideways. to you we are all here for you hun.

Charlie15 - I'm so sorry you had a mmc recently as well. Hoping you get your rainbow baby this month hun - sounds like you did everything right, even with guests! What are you about 3 / 4dpo now? Fingers xd this is ur month neighbour!

2plus - how you doing hun? What cd are you now? I think ur just ahead of me right? ARe you noticing a difference with the preseed and mucinex?

Clairecath - fingers xd for you hun -- three eggs & excellent sperm that is AMAZING & gives you such a great chance this month. Oh I really hope it works for you babe & you caught one / two of those eggs!!!!!! Ur prob feeling v hormonal after producing those fab 3 eggies -- just go with it and try to take it easy and be kind to urself hun & hopefully u wil get that BFP soon!

Fandabby hope you are well hun? YOu must be about 32 weeks now is that right? Really try to enjoy the last part of your pregnancy hun even though you have had it tough the whole way through!! Is there anything you can do like massage or pregnancy pampering day to make urself feel super special during last few weeks?? Try not too worry as well ... if it helps, I had that excess fluid thing with my third pregnancy - if I recall correctly the fluid shouldn't go above 18 or something and mine was at 38 - I was massive!! It didn't affect the pregnancy at all hun just meant I couldn't have my planned home birth and had to have the baba in hospital. Take it easy anyway & try enojy the time you have left .

Afm - we are all settled in London and looking for work now so crazy with interviews and job applications! My little fella (eldest) started a new school last Monday so that was emotional . but he is doing ok thank goodness. Re O I got af cd28 - did OPK's the whole month and no sign of a + (not even a hint!) so I actually think after my chemical pregnancy I didn't O this past month, probably due to the stress of moving! Anyway (sigh) onwards and upwards am on cd5 today and taking soy for the third month in a row & have a trigger my friend (who is doing IVF) gave me so will try that this month and see if that helps me catch a good eggie - fingers xd and to us all x

 

[ClaireCath]

Thanks for the update Sunshine! Glad you are getting settled in nicely there in London, good luck with the job hunting. I hope this is your month too. How will you know when to inject the trigger if you are not being monitored? just curious. But if it will help for the timing of then all the better! I am feeling fine, staying positive but still no extra symptoms I am finding. A little moody, tired, sore bbs, can all be from the progesterone i am on though so I don't trust them. I am finding myself to be excessively thirsty, not sure if that means anything. But, Hopes are still up. I have yet to POAS, I really think I can hold out fro the beta this time.
Marathon Girl, WELCOME! This is a great group of older Girls....Advanced maternal Age as some of the articles I have read called us. Ha! Sorry you are going through the mc right now. I can only imagine it must be awful but I hope you have good support around you and can make peace with it and then join us here for some ttc chat. Be kind to yourself and God Bless.
Fandaby~ I think it's time for you to post an ultrasound pic no? Let's see the babe! Getting excited for you and Sunshine is right a massage or a pamper day would serve you well after the time you've had. Take care ladies and watch this space. The 26th is lurking for me.....

 

[ClaireCath]

I couldn't help myself. Tested today at 11 dpiui. Negative. I guess it could still be a bit early. I could kick myself, said I would wait for beta.

 

[fandabby]

Definitely early ClaireCath, so hang in there dear. Only a few more days to go. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

MarathanGirl, thanks for sharing your success of lil one and so sorry to hear about your MMC. Not easy to get through. Be kind to yourself and take it easy while your body has to do what it needs to and feel free to express here for support.

Sunshine, when my mc started I went on black cohosh which is great for balancing hormones but also good for increasing progesterone too. Do some research on it. You take it up until Ovulation and stop. It may have contributed to us getting a surge after my 7 week long mc. Might be worth adding to your list... ?

Will sort out the latest scan pic and add it on....

 

[Sunshine14]

Definitely early days yet Clairecath! Stay positive & fingers xd for you hun x re the trigger, from the research I've done you can just time the trigger for the first time you get a + opk and theory is it works with your natural surge to release any other eggies that are there! That is what I am hoping anyway! It's only a low dose at 5000 Pregnyl so I am happy to take it and see if it makes a difference! Anyways I'm routing for you here hun : )

Thanks for the tip Fandabby with black cohosh - I feel like I'm rattling at the moment with everything I'm taking!! Will defo have a read up on that and see if it helps me! I did buy some agnus castus as that is supposed to help with balancing hormones but ended up taking the soy and you can't take the two of them together. This is my third month of taking soy so will leave it for a while and now we are back in the UK, once I get time, I will make an appointment to go and see the doctor to see if there is anything I can do - I'm not sure they class 3 chemicals as anything in particular but I will see if I can get tested for anything - just have to find a symathetic doctor now ........... hope you are feeling well anyway hun and getting some much deserved rest! Did you find out the sex btw? I was interested to see if your Shettles method worked as I think you said in an earlier post you were bding up to a + opk and then stopping and that is supposed to help with getting a girl isn't it!?

 

[fandabby]

Good luck tomorrow ClaireCath...... Hope it's a positive.. Let us know how you get on dear.


Sunshine, ref the shettles method. When I looked through my old diary's to see when we DTD and caught with our lil ones, with the boys - bearing in mind completely unintentional as was not aware of shettles method we just wanted to conceive - we DTD once with 1st on ovulation and 2nd two times on ovulation and then I researched a little to sway a girl. Baby 3 indeed a girl and we DTD from period every other day and when I got my first surge for ovulation we DTD that night and stopped. Not sure if it was pot luck or those girly sperms survived longer and was already there waiting for egg. We followed our 3rd method to sway girl for a sister for lady so we will see. Less than 5 weeks to go so will know soon enough.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[2plus1more]

Good luck with your beta ClaireCath. The 2WW is so tough to endure, but I hope it's good news for you.

Welcome Marathon. Sorry to here about your possible miscarriage. Will you have another ultrasound to confirm or only wait at this point?

Sunshine, good to hear you are getting settled and school is going well. Is school ending soon across the pond? We're all done over here. Yay!!! Wishing you good luck for the cycle. Keep us updated.

AFM, I'm in the official 2WW. On CD 14 and I'm pretty sure I ovulated on CD 12. We did use preseed (loved it as a lube!) and mucinex. Not sure if either helped. I do think I had more CM with the mucinex though. And looking at my chart wet cervical fluid started on CD 8 as opposed to my previous cycle it started on CD 10. I ovulated a day early this cycle too though. Also, my husband really liked the lube too. He said it felt very natural.

 

[ClaireCath]

Thanks girls....big hugs to you all. I really hope I have some good news to share tomorrow. Funny thing about this forum thing...you all will be right up there with the first people to know since we are all in similar boats and I thank you in advance for all the support and good vibes! I am somewhat anxious but not too bad. Had one of my oldest and dearest friends overnight for a visit yesterday so that was a great diversion. I have not POAS since Sunday(and I do not have any in the house lol), am keeping that promise of not doing it the day before beta. That way DH and I will get the call from the nurse together, and see where the chips fall....Hopefully it's a !! I don't feel any symptoms, however, but I know that doesn't mean much. Fandaby, you are getting so close now! When is the babe's actually due date? I am not going to find out the sex either when the time comes. I love surprises! 2plusone more good luck in the 2WW, this one was a killer for me!! Seemed to take forever! I hope you get good news and sending you Time is so relative, when you are on holiday for 2 weeks it flies by but this is like pouring molasses in January! Also Hubs and I loved the sperm safe lube, very natural. I couldn't find the preseed in Canada but we used Zestica, essentially the same thing. If it wasn't so expensive I would use it even when not TTC! I have heard about ppl using egg whites but that just seems too bizarre for me, although it would be cost effective~! Ha! I'll check in tomorrow afternoon or evening with my results.

 

[marathongirl]

Fandaby- thanks for the kind words. You must be getting excited to hold your new squish

Clairecath- fx'd for you for good news tomorrow

Afm- still waiting for mc to start. I have been going for betas every couple of days as I had a standing order from my doctor. As of Mon hcg still rising so still feel in limbo. I wish I could go for another scan this week. I'm scheduled to go on July 3. My doctor have me no hope that this is a viable pregnancy but its just so hard for me to let go of that little ray of hope that all is well. Thanks for the support it really does mean a lot to me
Big hugs to everyone!

 

[ClaireCath]

Fandaby- thanks for the kind words. You must be getting excited to hold your new squish

Clairecath- fx'd for you for good news tomorrow

Afm- still waiting for mc to start. I have been going for betas every couple of days as I had a standing order from my doctor. As of Mon hcg still rising so still feel in limbo. I wish I could go for another scan this week. I'm scheduled to go on July 3. My doctor have me no hope that this is a viable pregnancy but its just so hard for me to let go of that little ray of hope that all is well. Thanks for the support it really does mean a lot to me
Big hugs to everyone!

Thanks sweetie. Sorry that you are going through this. I would be holding onto that ray too. How you feel is how you feel. No doctor can change that. Take care of yourself.

 

[marathongirl]

Thinking about you today Clairecath

 

[charlie15]

Welcome marathongirl, I am so sorry for what you are going through but also thanks for positive note about your rainbow I am 41 turning 42 in November, hope to get a BFP by Septembrr or will probably head to a FS for tests and see about options, here in the UK they tend to go straight for the big guns of IVF I hear for us "oldies" we shall see, one thing at a time

ClaireCath thinking of you today Hun, hope it's good news. I have never had symptoms when pregnant before 6 weeks, so no symptoms means nada

Fandabby how are things? Is it Thursday you have your scans? Hope yours at least still on track with the line today

How are you 2plus1more and Sunshine, settling back into London life?

 

[ClaireCath]

Hi girls. No luck this time. I'm feeling sad but I'll be ok. Thanks for all the positive thoughts and support. We'll get em next time.

 

[marathongirl]

Awww Clairecath I'm sorry. Big hugs and take care of yourself. You will get your baby. Just keep the faith and we will all be here for you. I'm glad we will all have each other to go through this journey together

 

[fandabby]

Hi girls. No luck this time. I'm feeling sad but I'll be ok. Thanks for all the positive thoughts and support. We'll get em next time.

Argh honey , was really hoping you would get your positive this time around. Big hugs and it will happen for you keep the faith that you will have your dream baby.

Do you have a plan for your next move?

 

[fandabby]

Welcome marathongirl, I am so sorry for what you are going through but also thanks for positive note about your rainbow I am 41 turning 42 in November, hope to get a BFP by Septembrr or will probably head to a FS for tests and see about options, here in the UK they tend to go straight for the big guns of IVF I hear for us "oldies" we shall see, one thing at a time

ClaireCath thinking of you today Hun, hope it's good news. I have never had symptoms when pregnant before 6 weeks, so no symptoms means nada

Fandabby how are things? Is it Thursday you have your scans? Hope yours at least still on track with the line today

How are you 2plus1more and Sunshine, settling back into London life?

Hi Charlie, yes thursdays are scan days when in Hometown and Wednesdays are Birmingham. Go every Thursday unless I'm in Birmingham then I skip the Thursday. Scan went well, the MCA doppler level is holding at 50 last week and this week which means the action line and my dot on graph have a slight gap now whereas I was sitting on the line for the last 7 or so weeks. My consultant actually smiled at me today so I knew he was happy. First smile since 23 weeks! If you think about your red book for lil ones weight etc and the centile lines, there is one line which goes up slightly along with gestation going across, and since I've been 50 this and last week there is now a white space so we are relieved for that. He's now writing to Bham to ask what they want in terms of my gestation before induction and where to deliver. Watch this space.

Thanks for asking dear.

Hope you are well and that you achieve your BFP before your target month September...

 

[charlie15]

I'm so sorry ClaireCath, I was hoping it would be your month. and as others have said, keep the faith

Fandabby that's great news that things are better with the scan measurements looking forward to hearing about delivery plans

 

[Sunshine14]

Hi girls. No luck this time. I'm feeling sad but I'll be ok. Thanks for all the positive thoughts and support. We'll get em next time.

Ahh ClaireCath so sorry sweetie x u did everything perfect hun (timing, eggs, sperm) & it completely sucks when it doesn't work out when everything was perfect xx take ur time to deal and then u get right back on it babe - it only takes one sperm and one egg & ur time will come! It's just persistence, determination & unfortunaltey endurance! Are you going to do iui again hun or what is the plan?

Fandabby - ahh thanks for the info. I hope you get your second little princess! Can't wait to hear ur news hopefully 5 weeks from now (and not before!) and glad everything going well for you and your consultant is happy!! I am trying for babygirl number 2 & just done my trigger (on almost positive surge) cd10 and bd last night and cd8 - easing back now so we will see!

2plus how are you hun? I'm cd11 today so think I'm just behind you mrs?

Charlie all good seetling in to London - thank you for asking. How are you doing? What cd are you hun?

Marathongirl - hope you are doing ok.

 

[charlie15]

Fingers crossed sunshine for this month for you.

I am cd 25 so 11 dpo here so expecting AF this Sunday or Monday. Am not testing as I would be seriously surprised if I was but hey you never know!