42.3 and trying for #4

[ClaireCath]

Awww Clairecath I'm sorry. Big hugs and take care of yourself. You will get your baby. Just keep the faith and we will all be here for you. I'm glad we will all have each other to go through this journey together

Hi girls. No luck this time. I'm feeling sad but I'll be ok. Thanks for all the positive thoughts and support. We'll get em next time.

Argh honey , was really hoping you would get your positive this time around. Big hugs and it will happen for you keep the faith that you will have your dream baby.

Do you have a plan for your next move?

I'm so sorry ClaireCath, I was hoping it would be your month. and as others have said, keep the faith

Fandabby that's great news that things are better with the scan measurements looking forward to hearing about delivery plans

Welcome marathongirl, I am so sorry for what you are going through but also thanks for positive note about your rainbow I am 41 turning 42 in November, hope to get a BFP by Septembrr or will probably head to a FS for tests and see about options, here in the UK they tend to go straight for the big guns of IVF I hear for us "oldies" we shall see, one thing at a time

ClaireCath thinking of you today Hun, hope it's good news. I have never had symptoms when pregnant before 6 weeks, so no symptoms means nada

Fandabby how are things? Is it Thursday you have your scans? Hope yours at least still on track with the line today

How are you 2plus1more and Sunshine, settling back into London life?

Hi Charlie, yes thursdays are scan days when in Hometown and Wednesdays are Birmingham. Go every Thursday unless I'm in Birmingham then I skip the Thursday. Scan went well, the MCA doppler level is holding at 50 last week and this week which means the action line and my dot on graph have a slight gap now whereas I was sitting on the line for the last 7 or so weeks. My consultant actually smiled at me today so I knew he was happy. First smile since 23 weeks! If you think about your red book for lil ones weight etc and the centile lines, there is one line which goes up slightly along with gestation going across, and since I've been 50 this and last week there is now a white space so we are relieved for that. He's now writing to Bham to ask what they want in terms of my gestation before induction and where to deliver. Watch this space.

Thanks for asking dear.

Hope you are well and that you achieve your BFP before your target month September...

Thanks everyone for the kind words. It means so much. Sunshine, you are right. Persistence, determination and faith. And yep, that's what sucks, when everything seems perfect, how does it not work? I mean 20 million sperm and 3 eggs..how does one not make it through? Or it could be that it won't implant....ugh Makes me start doubting my ability.."what's wrong with me syndrome" Small pity party but I bounce back fairly quickly. I am just not used to failing at things you know? And always in the back of my mind is...Did I wait too long? Then I smack myself straight and say This baby will come when the time is right, I just have to keep reminding myself of that! Again, I appreciate all your support. Makes me feel better about it all having you guys. xo
As far as my next move....Doc wants me to have laporoscopy to see if there are any underlying issues that can't be seen via ultrasound. The office will call me next week to let me know when the surgery is....I would love to take a couple months and try again the old fashioned way. Wouldn't that be sweet!! In the meantime I'll keep taking my supplements. I really need to get back to yoga and running as those both help me with stress. After the lap, we will decide if we do one more IUI of go to one shot at IVF. Financially, IUI is better but statistically IVF more successful maybe? God, I don't know. To spend 10 grand and have a failure would knock me over. What a gamble.....anyway. Rambling. Sorry. Will cross that bridge when it comes.
Fandaby~~ so happy your scans are improving!! I am excited for you and your babe will be in your arms soon! Will keep watching here for your details.
Marathon~~hope you are feeling better hun. How are things progressing for you? Thinking of you and hope you are in better spirits...
Charlie~~ Like mentioned by Sunshine, it only takes one sperm and one egg! You got the BD in so you definitely never know on this crazy ride!!

 

[Sunshine14]

Fingers crossed sunshine for this month for you.

I am cd 25 so 11 dpo here so expecting AF this Sunday or Monday. Am not testing as I would be seriously surprised if I was but hey you never know!

Thanks Charlie - cd12 today and still waiting to O! I think it's coming soon so fingers xd ..... will bd tonight as well & then not much else I can do but sit back and wait!

Hope it works out for you this month hun - ur supposed to be more fertile following a mc (we were trying for 6 months end of last year with nothing & then fell in December & had 3 chemicals one after the other so I think there is something in it - fingers xd u get ur rainbow baba this cycle. Let us know if u do test babe - hope the witch stays away!

 

[Sunshine14]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. It means so much. Sunshine, you are right. Persistence, determination and faith. And yep, that's what sucks, when everything seems perfect, how does it not work? I mean 20 million sperm and 3 eggs..how does one not make it through? Or it could be that it won't implant....ugh Makes me start doubting my ability.."what's wrong with me syndrome" Small pity party but I bounce back fairly quickly. I am just not used to failing at things you know? And always in the back of my mind is...Did I wait too long? Then I smack myself straight and say This baby will come when the time is right, I just have to keep reminding myself of that! Again, I appreciate all your support. Makes me feel better about it all having you guys. x

Hey ClaireCath don't waste precious energy doubting urself hun and the choices you have made in life -- the media has a lot to answer for screwing with our heads about 'advanced maternal age' wtf! U will do it u just have to keep going and every time u get a knock back (ie everything perfect & it still doesn't work!) take time to deal with it and get right back up there again to get ur baba x take some me time now and loads of tlc for urself hun xx

 

[ClaireCath]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. It means so much. Sunshine, you are right. Persistence, determination and faith. And yep, that's what sucks, when everything seems perfect, how does it not work? I mean 20 million sperm and 3 eggs..how does one not make it through? Or it could be that it won't implant....ugh Makes me start doubting my ability.."what's wrong with me syndrome" Small pity party but I bounce back fairly quickly. I am just not used to failing at things you know? And always in the back of my mind is...Did I wait too long? Then I smack myself straight and say This baby will come when the time is right, I just have to keep reminding myself of that! Again, I appreciate all your support. Makes me feel better about it all having you guys. x

Hey ClaireCath don't waste precious energy doubting urself hun and the choices you have made in life -- the media has a lot to answer for screwing with our heads about 'advanced maternal age' wtf! U will do it u just have to keep going and every time u get a knock back (ie everything perfect & it still doesn't work!) take time to deal with it and get right back up there again to get ur baba x take some me time now and loads of tlc for urself hun xx

Thanks Sweetheart, words to live by. You mad me feel so much better. advanced maternal age....PFFFFFT I got this.

 

[marathongirl]

Clairecath- I agree with Sunshine. You don't want to waste precious energy worrying about being older. You will get your baby just keep believing everyday. Imagine your baby in your arms. We will all get there. As for everything being perfect I had months and months of perfect charts before getting my BFP. You just have to believe they are practice for the real thing!!
Charlie - thanks for the welcome!

Afm- cd1 today. Started spotting yesterday. I'm ok with it. It was awful being in limbo. Now I can jump back on the train with you Ladies

 

[ClaireCath]

i am cd 1 too Marathon...we'll ride this one together. thanks for the encouragement!

 

[2plus1more]

ClaireCath, sorry to hear about your last cycle. I'm a little late getting online. I agree with everyone else. It will happen. I have accepted that it's going to take a little longer to get pregnant this time around compared to my other two. You are a very healthy individual and I think it will happen for you too. I'm not just saying that in passing, I firmly believe it.

 

[charlie15]

Well I am CD1 today so 1 day behind you ladies ClaireCath and marathongirl, so the 3 of us can ride this one together

The great news for me this cycle is that it is my first normal cycle since before I fell pregnant with my daughter, so over 2 years, what with how breastfeeding messed up my cycle and then the mc, so feeling much more positive about my body, at last a normal LP

ClaireCath have you made a decision yet about your next move?

 

[ClaireCath]

I am going to get a laparoscopy so he can see if there's anything going on in there that's preventing me from catching...i am waiting to here from him this week. Trying au naturale in the meantime... as far as another IUI of IVF, nope we have not decided yet. DH says whatever I want is good with him. We will find the $ somewhere.... He's such a doll. Let's all get er done this month and be done with it!! to you all

 

[ClaireCath]

ClaireCath, sorry to hear about your last cycle. I'm a little late getting online. I agree with everyone else. It will happen. I have accepted that it's going to take a little longer to get pregnant this time around compared to my other two. You are a very healthy individual and I think it will happen for you too. I'm not just saying that in passing, I firmly believe it.

Thanks so much 2plus1. I do believe too!!!

 

[marathongirl]

I am going to get a laparoscopy so he can see if there's anything going on in there that's preventing me from catching...i am waiting to here from him this week. Trying au naturale in the meantime... as far as another IUI of IVF, nope we have not decided yet. DH says whatever I want is good with him. We will find the $ somewhere.... He's such a doll. Let's all get er done this month and be done with it!! to you all

Good luck with your laparoscopy! I know you will figure out what's best for you to do next that's so great that your dh is so supportive and in board!

 

[marathongirl]

I went to my doctor for a follow up us to make sure I had passed everything. It all looked good so I guess my body knew what to do. I'm thankful I didn't have to have a D and C. I did pass the sac and have been bleeding quite heavily since Sunday. Hoping it tapers off soon.
Hope everyone is well

 

[2plus1more]

ClaireCath, good luck with the lap. And great that your husband is so supportive and positive. I think it makes all the difference in the world. I feel bad for women that don't have that support.

Marathon, did your doctor tell you how long to wait before you can begin trying again? Sorry you are going through this. But, yes, not having the surgery seems to be for the best. Take it easy.

AFM, I'm just playing the waiting game. I don't have any symptoms, but that's okay cause I've never had them this early when pregnant. At this point, I'd rather not test early as I hate seeing the white test with a single line. We're headed to the lake today for the holiday so that will definitely keep me preoccupied and excited.

 

[fandabby]

Hi ClaireCath, good luck with laparoscopy and fabulous that you DH is so supportive, you definitely need that whilst on this journey. Keep us posted on your results.

Marathongirl, good to hear you passed everything, my body held on to a small piece of pregnancy eventually letting go 6 weeks into actual MC. Hope your bleeding starts to lessen and you feel more in control of it all. Take care of yourself.

2plus1more, good luck when you do decide to test. Have a relaxing break and it's a good distraction from testing! How far post ovulation are you now? Enjoy your break.

Charlie, how's thing going with you? Will you be testing soon?

How is everyone else doing?

AFM, had another scan yesterday. Doppler went up from 50 to 63 but still following line. He's estimated a weight of 6lb - that freaked me as only 33 weeks. Back in Birmingham Wednesday so we shall see what that brings. Have been having mild contractions so maybe I will go naturally rather than being induced, who knows. Time will tell I guess. Off to garage now to get car fixed.

Have a great rest of the day ladies. Keep smiling and stay positive.

 

[marathongirl]

2plus1more- thanks. He didn't say how long to wait but I'm assuming they want me to have 1 af before trying again. That's what they always say.

Fandabby- glad your scans are still going well! Not long now for you!! I think I remember reading that you bled for a long time and didn't have an af before getting pregnant this time? Is that right?

 

[2plus1more]

Fandabby, I'm currently 11 dpo and I usually start to spot on 15 dpo. So it's still Friday here and that would put me at spotting on Tuesday.

 

[charlie15]

Hi ladies, good luck with lap ClaireCath. Have you got a date yet? And great to have a supportive OH, helps keep us strong.

2plus1 have a lovely day at the lake. I don't bother testing until after AF is due. Drives me nutty otherwise!

Marathon girl, good that you don't have to have a D&C. I did and still had retained produces that didn't pass for a week. I think they generally say wait one AF. I was told 2 which was right for me as I didn't ovulate for the first 2 cycles after. But I think it may depend on how far along you were. I was over 12 weeks when I finally passed everything whereas I think if you mc at say 5 or 6 weeks your body has not got as use to the old pregnancy hormones.

Fandabby, so this may be your biggest baby yet! Good that things are going well. Hopefully baby will come naturally, always better than an induction.

I am CD7 so will be gearing up to get busy with OH over the next week

Have a lovely weekend ladies x

 

[fandabby]

2plus1more- thanks. He didn't say how long to wait but I'm assuming they want me to have 1 af before trying again. That's what they always say.

Fandabby- glad your scans are still going well! Not long now for you!! I think I remember reading that you bled for a long time and didn't have an af before getting pregnant this time? Is that right?

Yes that's right, I bled heavily solid for 7 weeks. My body was trying to let go but body was hanging onto some. I still tested positive for pregnancy week 6 then the thurs of that week I passed extra and two days later went lighter in bleed. By the monday I was testing negative but still light bleeding which stopped by the end of that week. And NO I didn't wait for AF, I thought since I went through 7 weeks of hell I didn't want to wait any longer. I think they say have 1 AF to make it easier for dating but if you go in earlier than the 12 weeks they can date you roughly, then get you back in around the 12 week mark to re do it.

Good luck moving forward.

 

[fandabby]

Fandabby, I'm currently 11 dpo and I usually start to spot on 15 dpo. So it's still Friday here and that would put me at spotting on Tuesday.

Tuesday not too far away. Fingers crossed for you.

 

[fandabby]

Hi ladies, good luck with lap ClaireCath. Have you got a date yet? And great to have a supportive OH, helps keep us strong.

2plus1 have a lovely day at the lake. I don't bother testing until after AF is due. Drives me nutty otherwise!

Marathon girl, good that you don't have to have a D&C. I did and still had retained produces that didn't pass for a week. I think they generally say wait one AF. I was told 2 which was right for me as I didn't ovulate for the first 2 cycles after. But I think it may depend on how far along you were. I was over 12 weeks when I finally passed everything whereas I think if you mc at say 5 or 6 weeks your body has not got as use to the old pregnancy hormones.

Fandabby, so this may be your biggest baby yet! Good that things are going well. Hopefully baby will come naturally, always better than an induction.

I am CD7 so will be gearing up to get busy with OH over the next week

Have a lovely weekend ladies x

Hi Charlie, I started CD7 every other day and then stopped when we got our surge! Good luck to you this cycle.