42.3 and trying for #4

[ClaireCath]

Thanks ladies..he is supportive as are all of you!
Marathon~~ glad you are almost through this part and did not have the d&c. I wish you well as you move forward and please take care of you.
Fandaby~~ Oh my...it's so close now isn't it? I am very excited for you and happy that I have been in on your journey since the beginning. You are such an inspiration for me. Thank you my friend! Was that the sperm meets egg plan you did? And why stop on surge? Is that to try for a girl in particular? I am doing that plan this natural cycle and praying to all my angels that this litle spirit is ready to come into our lives soon. I am soooooo ready!!
2plus1~~ FX's for you this month! Keep us posted....i also hate seein that stark blank no line! I never test early, i find personally it is better for me.
Charlie~~Thanks for kind words as always and good luck this time around...I am also on day7 so will be getting "busy" next week. Picked up the CB digi ov monitor...hopefully i won't get the surge till day 11 or 12 so any eggie that's in there will be nice and plump. I guess we will be cycle buddies on this one! I am also trying the Robitussin expectorant this month along with my plethora of other supplements. Have increased my evening primrose and CoQ10 ubiquinol dosage...supposed to help with CM. I wish i knew if that was my problem or something else...it's all such a mystery but this month I am focusing on just having lots of good and having fun!! Woohoooo!! and massive to you all! xo

 

[marathongirl]

Thanks ClaireCath! Yes I'm still bleeding but its tapering down now. We are cycle buddies but I have no idea when I will ov this month with so much bleeding. When I conceived my rainbow in 2012 I ov'ed on cd 10!! I think that your attitude is perfect!! Try to have fun bd'ing and really enjoy it I'm sure it helps!! Fx'd for you

 

[fandabby]

Hi clairecath, yes we kind of followed the sperm meet egg plan. When my bleed stopped the very next day we DTD, then every other day until I got my first surge on ovulation. And yes to influence a girl. Who know's if it works but we will soon find out.

The plan is every other day and when you get your surge you keep going up until 3 days later (but at that point each night). Something like that anyway.

For trying for a specific sex, my understanding is DTD straight after bleed stops, every other day and stop at first surge = girl. That gives a few days for the girly sperms to get swimming and be in place. Boy sperms are super quick, small but fragile and don't live long, whereas girls are bigger, slower but full of stamina and last 5-7 days hence getting down to it straight after your period.

With a boy, you don't DTD until you have your surge and then through ovulation. Theory is boys get their first because they are faster swimmers.

I didn't completely study the theories but have an idea of how it works.

It kind of falls in with what we have now, which was completely unintentional.

With boys we only DTD at ovulation only. With lady we got down to it straight after my period and then stopped first sign of surge and bingo.

More information can be found by googling "shettles methods". This is pretty full on as it involves diet change, calcium/magnesium for girls, potassium for boys. I also took a high dose of calcium/magnesium to help the girl process.

Watch this space.

Good luck dear, keep intenting baby baby and bingo you'll see those precious two lines -

 

[2plus1more]

Started to spot yesterday and have a heavier flow today. My first thought when a cycle doesn't work is "OMG, I have to do that all over again". Lol...it's exhausting. Part of me is thinking about ditching the temping. I've been ovulating on either the 12th or 13th day, but the stubborn part of me wants to continue. Ugh! For about the first two days i'm down, but then I perk up a bit. Only way to go is forward.

Does anyone else temp their cycles?

 

[fandabby]

Started to spot yesterday and have a heavier flow today. My first thought when a cycle doesn't work is "OMG, I have to do that all over again". Lol...it's exhausting. Part of me is thinking about ditching the temping. I've been ovulating on either the 12th or 13th day, but the stubborn part of me wants to continue. Ugh! For about the first two days i'm down, but then I perk up a bit. Only way to go is forward.

Does anyone else temp their cycles?

Oh know, sorry to read this. I did the temping but with 2nd and 3rd and I didnt bother with this one. Mainly cause I have such unsettled sleep so wouldn't be accurate.

I instead used that saliva test. Got from amazon and it did fern!

Keep smiling, your time will come, persistence and patience.

 

[2plus1more]

Thanks Fandabby. How are you doing and how many weeks are you now?

 

[ClaireCath]

I agree with fandaby...be persistent and patient! It's tough I know, I am always a bit blah for a couple days when AF arrives and the onward and upward!! I have not consistently temped, although I do have the thermometer....I would love to stick to it for a cycle but so far haven't been very good at it. Relying on the CB digi O monitor. Second day of flashing so far and this is CD10 so that's decent I think. Time to get busy!! lol

 

[ClaireCath]

So Fandaby...what do YOU think the sex of Baby is this time @ SMEP?

 

[charlie15]

Sorry AF has come your way 2plus1. Hope yip get yoir positive vibes back soon. Positive thoughts sent your way for a July BFP.

I temped when I last TTC as I was breastfeeding while TTC and breastfeeding messes with your fertile signs so I would keep on thinking I had O'd but then would continue to have fertile CM, I would have great CM for 2 weeks! Actually not a good sign, but caused by breastfeeding and higher oestrogen levels, very confusing when TTC! This time I temped after my mc as I have heard about anovulation post mc and wanted to check before we started TTC again.I am still temping this cycle, but really don't need to. I O on CD 14 and have pretty obvious signs pre O. But I kind of find it addictive, it's like my thing, whereas hate POAS!

ClaireCath have you had your lap yet? I am also CD 10 so we will be getting busy tonight too to you.

How are you doing marathongirl?

Fandabby any more news? Any guesses to boy or girl in there?

How are things Sunshine?

 

[2plus1more]

Thank for responding Charlie. That's how I feel exactly. I don't need to temp, but it's slightly addicting. I'm curious as to how my chart will look with a BFP. I actually have my charts around the house somewhere from 10 years ago. We were painting a room recently and came across them I showed them to my clueless husband...lol.

Good luck with o date coming up. I find ovulation time stressful. I think I'm going to try to spice things up this time. Maybe candles or a nightie. It'll relax us both.

How's everyone else?

 

[marathongirl]

Charlie- I'm doing well thanks. Still having a tiny bit of spotting on cd11. Very weird for me as I usually ov cd10-11 but I guess with this mc my cycle is way off?
As for temping. I was very religious about it with my last lo and loved how my charts looked so good. It was always a sign for me that I was pregnant if my temp went up on cd13! Now I can't really temp as my sleep is so broken with my lo. I basically just dtd every second day after af stops for about a week. I know it's not scientific but it has worked as we have had 2 BFP's since Feb. We just need to catch a good egg!

 

[fandabby]

Hi ladies

2plus1more - doing ok thanks, just thankful to get this far since all consultants didnt think I would. 34 weeks yesterday. Back in Birmingham tomorrow which will make me 34+2 which is proper spooky as that's when I delivered lady. Fingers crossed not deja vu.

Last wk from scan measurements weighed 6lb, massive for gestation, getting diabetes test friday which think is pointless this late in game. Babe does feel huge, feet under ribs which is a killer, every day for last few weeks.

Watch this space.

Maybe look into that saliva test lipstick size thing. Little microscope you look in ea morning and you lick end and let dry for few minutes and take a peek. When not fertile you see bubbles and dots like lines then leading up slight fern and days later full fern. If you keep doing it for another few days you see it lessen and back to bubble like appearance. You know then you had your fertile window.

Good luck for your next cycle...

Clairecath / Charlie - in terms of DTD straight from bleed stopping and stopping just before ovulation, theory says girl. I normally know from conception what sex is, or rather strong intuition but I switched off emotions as just come from mc and then bled first tri so didn't bond with pregnancy in beginning, too scared too. Now I kinda feel girl but sometimes on scan, I have so many, I think I see dangle bit like willy but no scrotum so that got me confused. Dowsing says girl, as does the bicarbonate of soda test (just for fun).

I should get a date through tomorrow for induction so we'll all find out soon.

Healthy babe with no complications due to me is what we want.

Marathongirl, hang in there too. Just remind me are you doing supplements to help boost your egg quality? I took a concoction of things which I listed early in this thread. It may have helped it may not have but we figured do it anyway. Also hubby took stuff for sperm quality and mobility at same time.

I back on red raspberry leaf again to tone uterus for labour, used it at beginning to tone uterus for conception but you stop it at ovulation.

Ok ladies, lots of baby dust and keep following your dream

 

[charlie15]

I'd love to see my char pregnant, but never have! With the last pregnancy I stopped temping as I had such bad sleep with my dd, so then with a BFP I was bummed, thinking I had no idea what my temps did. And with my dd I never temped. But it is so addictive, I think it's more frustrating for people with irregular cycles, even though they are probably the ones that benefit from it the most.

Marathon girl, hang in there, I know bleeding can go on for a couple of weeks. Maybe wait until your next cycle and just take some time to relax now?

Fandabby can't wait to hear when the D day will be, so exciting! Have you decided on names yet?

 

[Sunshine14]

Hey ladies, hope you are all well. Sorry haven't been online for a while have been madly job hunting and attending interviews and it's pretty time consuming, along with the three LO's!

Fandabby that's great you have made it to 34 weeks x I hope you have treated yourself somehow, with a bit of pampering or tlc before the baba comes - sounds like you are doing great - v exciting to be getting your induction date as well!

2plus - how are you doing hun? Sorry to hear you got AF and were feeling down : ( Hope you are feeling better? What cd are you now hun?

ClaireCath how are you doing? Hope you have given yourself lots of tlc and are feeling better now? What cd are you hun?

Charlie I'm good thanks - thanks for asking x how are things with you?

Marathongirl - if I recall correctly it took a few extra weeks to O after my mc so be patient with your body and give it time to recover and it will heal and then O again. Just take it easy hun.

Afm apart from the chaos of interviews, I tested the trigger out of my system at 7dpo, then I started getting sore bbs so I tested at 11dpo and got v v faint line, a real squinter! Did loads of reading cos I thought it was the trigger coming back but everything I read said it should have been out of my system by 7dpo with the amount I took (pregnyl 5000) and also everything said if it starts to get darker it is a genuine BFP. Tonight at 13dpo it got darker! Yippee : ) -- I know this could just be a fourth chemical but I'm tentatively hopeful because I have been taking all of the supplements, coq10, baby aspirin, etc for 3 months now and also I'm hoping the soy and trigger combination enabled me to produce extra eggs and one of them was good!! Fingers xd anyway!!

 

[2plus1more]

I was wondering where you were! Yay! Hope this one is the baby for you. How are you feeling? Do you have a doctor yet? Hope the line continues to get darker and you have a happy, healthy pregnancy.

Doing really well here! It's been a busy summer so after a day, there's no time to be sad...lol. I'm on CD 5 right now.

I'm curious...what was the result of your friend going through IVF? Is she pregnant? Hope so for both of you!

 

[charlie15]

Yey congratulations Sunshine! Hoping that this is your sticky bean

AFM, all good thanks, keeping busy as CD 13, then

 

[fandabby]

Hey ladies, hope you are all well. Sorry haven't been online for a while have been madly job hunting and attending interviews and it's pretty time consuming, along with the three LO's!

Fandabby that's great you have made it to 34 weeks x I hope you have treated yourself somehow, with a bit of pampering or tlc before the baba comes - sounds like you are doing great - v exciting to be getting your induction date as well!

2plus - how are you doing hun? Sorry to hear you got AF and were feeling down : ( Hope you are feeling better? What cd are you now hun?

ClaireCath how are you doing? Hope you have given yourself lots of tlc and are feeling better now? What cd are you hun?

Charlie I'm good thanks - thanks for asking x how are things with you?

Marathongirl - if I recall correctly it took a few extra weeks to O after my mc so be patient with your body and give it time to recover and it will heal and then O again. Just take it easy hun.

Afm apart from the chaos of interviews, I tested the trigger out of my system at 7dpo, then I started getting sore bbs so I tested at 11dpo and got v v faint line, a real squinter! Did loads of reading cos I thought it was the trigger coming back but everything I read said it should have been out of my system by 7dpo with the amount I took (pregnyl 5000) and also everything said if it starts to get darker it is a genuine BFP. Tonight at 13dpo it got darker! Yippee : ) -- I know this could just be a fourth chemical but I'm tentatively hopeful because I have been taking all of the supplements, coq10, baby aspirin, etc for 3 months now and also I'm hoping the soy and trigger combination enabled me to produce extra eggs and one of them was good!! Fingers xd anyway!!

Congratulations dear, keeping everything crossed it's a healthy sticky bean. Stay positive and tell yourself you are pregnant with healthy baby developing.

Really pleased for you, well done.

I'vs been running around like a lunny since wed. Bham was tiring, mca doppler little higher, amnio liquid now classed as polyhydramnios and they found fluid around heart. All indicated anaemia setting in. So since babe looked happy and moving they didn't want to react as still 34 weeks and would prefer more development.

Went back today being told bring a bag, hubby, prepare. If rescan showed liquid still present around heart would induce.

So yesterday spent calling garages to fix my brakes. First brake worked but if you depressed and pressed again nothing. 3 garages later booked in and explained my situation. They sorted it just under 500 pounds later. Vacuum pump needed replacing.Ouch. Car safe main priority.

So result of today, amnio increased again but liquid around heart not visible. Mca same as wed. Trace stable, baby moving. 1st steroid injection for babes lungs, boy that hurt. 2nd one booked tomorrow in local hospital. Back in bham wed at 9.30. Depends how things are may induce as in wk 35 and steroids injected. They not saying much, feel in limbo as hard juggling child care BUT main thing is babe ok. Have to slow down, yeah right, take 10 at least and concentrate I'm feeling movements between now and wed.

So we wait. Proper stressful 3 days.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Baby dust to everyone.....

 

[ClaireCath]

Sunshine. Yay for the bfp! Sending lots of sticky dust your way! I'm on CD 14 Now so yeah busy busy. Using cb opks. Day 6 of flashing smileys, not sure if that's normal this is my first natural cycle since January so...when I used these in the fall I got my solid smiley which indicates lh surge on day 11 or 12 so I'm in the dark. I have been feeling O like twinges on left side. Just dtd every other day. Poor dh. Lol. Fandaby try not to stress now my friend, keep breathing deep. Home stretch now! And sorry about the car trouble, nothing worse that car repairs to blow a budget!! Take it easy ok?? Babe will be here sooooon! Xo

 

[marathongirl]

Sunshine- congrats!! Fx'd this is your take home baby!!!! Yes I'm trying to take it easy. I have tons of cm tight now on cd15 so must be close to O. We are not supposed to be trying this cycle but we have been dtd every second day since bleed stopped. Have no idea if or when I o'd but its ok.
Fandabby- hoping you can relax a bit in the next few days. So exciting that you might be meeting your lo sooner! He/she will be ok. 35 weeks is great!!

 

[Sunshine14]

Thanks all for your kind words and congratulations. It's great to have such lovely ladies to share the news with! I hear what you all say about being positive but now the initial joy of the BFP is fading the doubt is creeping in!! Part of me feels that this is it and this is a good strong BFP (I tested with a Boots test Friday evening and it turned + within seconds so hcg is getting higher hopefully) and it just feels like I should go with it but then I keep thinking why would this be any different from the previous three chemicals and every time I go to the bathroom I'm checking for the spotting to start!! My head is wrecked!! To add to the pressure I'm waiting for a job offer to come through on Monday for a fab job (yipee!!) but I feel a bit lousy for starting a new job and then having to tell them I'm pregnant after 2 months of being there - it's a 12 month contract! I'd like to feel good about this BFP but just don't feel I can get too emotionally attached in case it's another chemical and is gone by next week!! I was thinking about going to the doctor (2plus I registered last week) and asking for an early scan but don't even know how it works in the UK.

Fandabby sounds like you have really been through it this week! Running around like crazy!! I really hope you get make some time to just chill and try to enjoy your last few days / week or so of being pregnant before the baby arrives! I think you said before this is your last one and if so make sure to take some time to just be in the moment and enjoy being pregnant and try to put all the worry and chaos of plannign the delivery & childcare to one side - even if just for a little while. I know it is hard to do but you don't want to look back and feel cheated of this last pregnancy cos of all the issues you have had and sounds like you still have a last few days to enjoy being pregnant!

Clairecath fingers xd this is your month hun. With my LO's so far I never used OPK's and always just dtd every 2 days from about CD6 until I thought we have covered all bases and yes it means OH is completely knackered but hopefully shuld mean there is always a supply of little swimmers waiting for that egg! Fingers xd this is your month. Also I used the CB smiley face OPK for a month and did loads of reading up on the flashing face before peak and loads of women said they had had it for a good few days / 6 / 7 days so I think what you are experiencing is normal and you should get your peak anytime now xx sounds like you will have it covered on the bd front anyway!

2plus hope you are well hun? Re my friend who is going through IVF, when they stimulated her she got 9 eggs (the clinic said a 30 year old would be happy with this no.), 8 fertilised well with the sperm and by day 5 blastocyst stage (which I think equates to implantation) she had 4 embryos. The clinic then spent a further week testing the embryos for chromosmal abnormailities and she ended up with 1 good perfect embryo that was frozen!!!!!! The clinic policy is to wait for uterus to settle down after the stimualtion and then implant about a month later or so. Her case is complicated however, as she has thyroid issues and this can cause mc and it has gone out of sync last few weeks so she has to get that resolved before ET. I am so hoping she gets a sticky bean when it does go ahead!!! It does show though that egg quality is so key -- that's why I think the COQ10 is good as it is supposed to really help with egg quality!! Anyway sorry for long essay .......

Charlie thanks for your kind words. Fingers xd for you this cycle hun x have you O'd yet if you are mid cycle?

MGirl - that sounds v positive if you have CM appearing sounds like your body is gearing up for O! Some people say you're more fertile after mc so fingers xd for you hun xx