Positivity is the hardest part Starry. I have tried to stay positive through this and would not let anybody tell me negative things. Yeah, I lost my baby, but at least I got to enjoy her while she was here. That helps it to be a little bearable. To know I refused to let anybody say anything negative about her. I say she because Cheri22 said she was a girl so I will think of her as a girl. I am not sure if she would have been right, but in my heart I feel that she was a girl.
I love to hear you say this! I think doing those things help so much in the grieving and healing process. When I lost my baby at 13 weeks, I chose to embrace that I had her for a full three months with me, and I was happy and enjoyed her every moment I had her. It wasn't long, but it was wonderful. I was thrilled to have had her at all.
We never got to know for sure if she was a girl, but DH and I just knew she was. We gave her the girl name we had picked out even before conception, Elizabeth Rose, and gave her a little memorial garden full of roses and a beautiful angel statue. It helps so much! It's been three months and while I'm still sad that she's not here and how we should have been in third trimester by now, I'm at peace with it and can still feel her with me and guarding this little baby!
I've got AF type cramps tonight and feel a little worried
How's everyone else feeling?
Try not to worry too much, cramping isn't a bad sign. It's just everything getting ready to start stretching and growing.
AFM, I'm the opposite - I have a GIANT appetite! I already gained about 5 pounds and I'm bloating like crazy. I'm always hungry, I've been eating about 5 meals a day lately! My goodness! I think it's my body trying to hurry up and gain a bit of weight as I was a few pounds under, and trying to make up for my daughter still breastfeeding. It's doing a great job, I feel huge already!