46 BFPS and Counting -TTC Lucky Support Thread - newbies welcome!

[gina236]

so frustrated. finally got around to checking cervix today and I'm confused a little.
yesterday I had tons of EWCM and cervix was def high, super soft and open. Today med VERY FIRM and closed(and dry!).
I never got a + OPK AND my temp went down little more today.
I'm assuming this means I ovulated.. which I'm OK with but what gives with the temp not up? cervix is def VERY different and totally dry in there today. I am about 99.9% sure ovulation already happen..
Thoughts?

I'm having the opposite. I just finished bleeding and my cervix is softer than it has ever been. I'm so confused. Maybe your thermometer was off this morning? Everything else sounds like you already O'd. Temping is supposed to make it easier to know that you O'd, not more confusing lol.

Well geeze now I'm even more confused cervix is still hard but now i have lots of ewcm. I just don't know how much longer I can actively ttc anymore .. I'm drained and so tired of all this

I'm right there with you. If this month doesn't work I think I'm done. I'll be finding a doctor that will do some blood tests and make sure everything is okay before I continue. I am so sick of all of it, and the money I've spent on all this ttc stuff.

 

[Smille24]

Campn- happy anniversary! I sometimes have big temp rises, then it drops again. That opk is VERY close, I'd image positive either later tonight or tomorrow. Mine are always stronger around 2pm also.

Dh has 10% motility, so not sure if softcups would help, but we did try them. I liked using them just bc there's no mess to clean up after bding. If we do try this cycle I have 2 left and will definitely use them again.

 

[jGo_18]

Ajr & Gina - I'm sorry you ladies are feeling so defeated. I can relate - I wanted to throw in the towel... I would've loved the option to ntnp but since that wasn't an option that would ever result in a baby, I had to stick it out. I did take a step back tho, tested less, focused my mind elsewhere, and if I spent any time thinking about our journey - I made myself repeat how grateful I was that we can try and that it would eventually work. It sounds silly, but I think forcing myself to change my mindset really helped me relax (& ultimately find success). Your bfps are coming - I know it!

 

[campn]

Gina and Ajr- I completely understand! I've even thought of not coming on BnB anymore cause I felt like its a shame that I'm still not pregnant and how it feels like I'm a failure somehow? But I think it's all going to be worth it once we get pregnant, we won't care how hard it was or how long it took. When I had DS I said I was done cause it was so much work, but now I wanna do it again and all those hard times suddenly don't matter at all.

Ajr- I think you may have not ovulated after all? You almost did but then your body decided to wait? Did you go through any stress? Take ibuprofen? I know these things can delay ovulation.

Smille- I think they're going to help! At least keep the ones who have the chance inside!? I wonder is his condition reversible? I know my brother had low motility but it was fixed with a surgery. He has 2 boys now!

 

[squirrel.]

I'll be going to a doctor if this cycle doesn't work too. I had an appointment booked after my last period, but we moved at the same time and I couldn't make it. My worry is that it was so easy the last two times and this time we're struggling, so I worry something may have happened to either of us since we conceived Isla.

 

[gina236]

Ajr & Gina - I'm sorry you ladies are feeling so defeated. I can relate - I wanted to throw in the towel... I would've loved the option to ntnp but since that wasn't an option that would ever result in a baby, I had to stick it out. I did take a step back tho, tested less, focused my mind elsewhere, and if I spent any time thinking about our journey - I made myself repeat how grateful I was that we can try and that it would eventually work. It sounds silly, but I think forcing myself to change my mindset really helped me relax (& ultimately find success). Your bfps are coming - I know it!

Thanks jgo. I try to stay positive. I feel like I would be okay if I was just not getting pregnant, but getting pregnant and losing it multiple times is taking a toll on me. I want that bfp for christmas so if it doesn't happen I am definitely taking a step back. I was so excited to try at first but after 8 months I'm just so fed up. And today my DH got harassed by a coworker about us having a baby -_-

 

[ajr1990]

Ajr & Gina - I'm sorry you ladies are feeling so defeated. I can relate - I wanted to throw in the towel... I would've loved the option to ntnp but since that wasn't an option that would ever result in a baby, I had to stick it out. I did take a step back tho, tested less, focused my mind elsewhere, and if I spent any time thinking about our journey - I made myself repeat how grateful I was that we can try and that it would eventually work. It sounds silly, but I think forcing myself to change my mindset really helped me relax (& ultimately find success). Your bfps are coming - I know it!

thank you and I do try to relax. Just frustrated with trying to schedule bd with having three kids already and dh crazy work schedule. up until cd 15 or so I was not even thinking of ttc at all, keep busy for sure. just when it gets to middle of cycle is when the stress comes in and even begging dh to take a few days off just so we can get a few bd in is hard. he works a lot and the worst and most stressful thing is RIGHT around O like starting a day before to a week after, my milk supply DRIES up which means my youngest is super clingy, does not let me set up down, he 'nurses' non stop.. it's hard to find even 5 min to get bd in. the second we set him down he is up screaming and wanting to nurse. this cycle is just to stressful Got lucky last cycle for some reason my milk supply did not drop.. but this cycle not so lucky.. breast are deflated..milk dried up = super cranky non sleeping baby

 

[jGo_18]

Ajr & Gina - I'm sorry you ladies are feeling so defeated. I can relate - I wanted to throw in the towel... I would've loved the option to ntnp but since that wasn't an option that would ever result in a baby, I had to stick it out. I did take a step back tho, tested less, focused my mind elsewhere, and if I spent any time thinking about our journey - I made myself repeat how grateful I was that we can try and that it would eventually work. It sounds silly, but I think forcing myself to change my mindset really helped me relax (& ultimately find success). Your bfps are coming - I know it!

Thanks jgo. I try to stay positive. I feel like I would be okay if I was just not getting pregnant, but getting pregnant and losing it multiple times is taking a toll on me. I want that bfp for christmas so if it doesn't happen I am definitely taking a step back. I was so excited to try at first but after 8 months I'm just so fed up. And today my DH got harassed by a coworker about us having a baby -_-

I can't relate to the losses (at least not so far), so I can't say I understand... But I do understand feeling like the deck was stacked against us. Many hugs to you - this journey is a hard one, but it will be worth it.

 

[gina236]

Gina and Ajr- I completely understand! I've even thought of not coming on BnB anymore cause I felt like its a shame that I'm still not pregnant and how it feels like I'm a failure somehow? But I think it's all going to be worth it once we get pregnant, we won't care how hard it was or how long it took. When I had DS I said I was done cause it was so much work, but now I wanna do it again and all those hard times suddenly don't matter at all.

Ajr- I think you may have not ovulated after all? You almost did but then your body decided to wait? Did you go through any stress? Take ibuprofen? I know these things can delay ovulation.

Smille- I think they're going to help! At least keep the ones who have the chance inside!? I wonder is his condition reversible? I know my brother had low motility but it was fixed with a surgery. He has 2 boys now!

Thanks campn, I'm glad I'm not alone. It will definitely be worth it

 

[jGo_18]

Ajr & Gina - I'm sorry you ladies are feeling so defeated. I can relate - I wanted to throw in the towel... I would've loved the option to ntnp but since that wasn't an option that would ever result in a baby, I had to stick it out. I did take a step back tho, tested less, focused my mind elsewhere, and if I spent any time thinking about our journey - I made myself repeat how grateful I was that we can try and that it would eventually work. It sounds silly, but I think forcing myself to change my mindset really helped me relax (& ultimately find success). Your bfps are coming - I know it!

thank you and I do try to relax. Just frustrated with trying to schedule bd with having three kids already and dh crazy work schedule. up until cd 15 or so I was not even thinking of ttc at all, keep busy for sure. just when it gets to middle of cycle is when the stress comes in and even begging dh to take a few days off just so we can get a few bd in is hard. he works a lot and the worst and most stressful thing is RIGHT around O like starting a day before to a week after, my milk supply DRIES up which means my youngest is super clingy, does not let me set up down, he 'nurses' non stop.. it's hard to find even 5 min to get bd in. the second we set him down he is up screaming and wanting to nurse. this cycle is just to stressful Got lucky last cycle for some reason my milk supply did not drop.. but this cycle not so lucky.. breast are deflated..milk dried up = super cranky non sleeping baby

It always felt like chaos here too... But I didn't have the addition of a nursing kiddo. one of these times it'll just all line up and you won't realize it until after its all said and done - I hope that time is so soon!

 

[squirrel.]

jGo: I meant to mention in my post that you're being such a lovely cheerleader for us. Thanks for that

 

[jGo_18]

jGo: I meant to mention in my post that you're being such a lovely cheerleader for us. Thanks for that

Aww I try. You've all been there for me - I owe you ladies so much! It's the least I can do, to try and cheer you all on! I can't wait to see everyone's bfps!

 

[squirrel.]

Have you guys seen this?

https://www.bellabeat.com/?utm_term...th+Toddlers&utm_content=pp_o3_vibrates_beech#

It says it tracks your menstrual cycle, but doesn't give any information on how. I'm intrigued. I'm wondering if it takes your BBT or your mean temp across a day... otherwise I'm really not sure.

It looks good though.

 

[gina236]

Have you guys seen this?

https://www.bellabeat.com/?utm_term...th+Toddlers&utm_content=pp_o3_vibrates_beech#

It says it tracks your menstrual cycle, but doesn't give any information on how. I'm intrigued. I'm wondering if it takes your BBT or your mean temp across a day... otherwise I'm really not sure.

It looks good though.

I have seen that. Definitely looks interesting. I'm thinking it probably just has a calendar where you enter you lmp and it calculates like most ovulation calendars. It would be cool if it tracked other things though.

 

[TTCBabyG2015]

You make me laugh Campn, bring out that inner pornstar!!! Happy Anniversary

Rooting for all of you ladies, I'm sorry that some are frustrated. I know TTC can get real stressful. Like Jgo said, you'll all have those BFP's sooner than later!!!

 

[squirrel.]

Have you guys seen this?

https://www.bellabeat.com/?utm_term...th+Toddlers&utm_content=pp_o3_vibrates_beech#

It says it tracks your menstrual cycle, but doesn't give any information on how. I'm intrigued. I'm wondering if it takes your BBT or your mean temp across a day... otherwise I'm really not sure.

It looks good though.

I have seen that. Definitely looks interesting. I'm thinking it probably just has a calendar where you enter you lmp and it calculates like most ovulation calendars. It would be cool if it tracked other things though.

Yeah you're probably right, I hadn't thought of that. It would be amazing if it did track temp or otherwise to take the strain off us TTCers. I'd love a little gizmo to tell me "You're about to ovulate, jump on your husband!"

 

[jGo_18]

it's a little spendy - but i'd highly recommend looking into the Ovacue monitor. I invested in that and let me tell you - the prediction element of it is SO helpful. If you wanna know more - i'd be happy to indulge, otherwise take a look at their website. There is an oral and vaginal monitor that each read electrolytes to predict (the oral monitor does this) and then confirm O (vaginal does this). they also just released a thermometer to go with the other two pieces so you can put everything in one place.

 

[ajr1990]

Ajr & Gina - I'm sorry you ladies are feeling so defeated. I can relate - I wanted to throw in the towel... I would've loved the option to ntnp but since that wasn't an option that would ever result in a baby, I had to stick it out. I did take a step back tho, tested less, focused my mind elsewhere, and if I spent any time thinking about our journey - I made myself repeat how grateful I was that we can try and that it would eventually work. It sounds silly, but I think forcing myself to change my mindset really helped me relax (& ultimately find success). Your bfps are coming - I know it!

thank you and I do try to relax. Just frustrated with trying to schedule bd with having three kids already and dh crazy work schedule. up until cd 15 or so I was not even thinking of ttc at all, keep busy for sure. just when it gets to middle of cycle is when the stress comes in and even begging dh to take a few days off just so we can get a few bd in is hard. he works a lot and the worst and most stressful thing is RIGHT around O like starting a day before to a week after, my milk supply DRIES up which means my youngest is super clingy, does not let me set up down, he 'nurses' non stop.. it's hard to find even 5 min to get bd in. the second we set him down he is up screaming and wanting to nurse. this cycle is just to stressful Got lucky last cycle for some reason my milk supply did not drop.. but this cycle not so lucky.. breast are deflated..milk dried up = super cranky non sleeping baby

It always felt like chaos here too... But I didn't have the addition of a nursing kiddo. one of these times it'll just all line up and you won't realize it until after its all said and done - I hope that time is so soon!

Yeah this cycle has been challenging. First the hcg was cancelled due to tech taking day off(ugh) then DH has taken two night off to get bd in but baby has been so fussy it was for nothing oh well, nothing more I can do. I will try to get up at 2am to try and bd tonigh but honestly I'm so tired baby was up at 3

 

[magicalmom2be]

jGo: I meant to mention in my post that you're being such a lovely cheerleader for us. Thanks for that

Aww I try. You've all been there for me - I owe you ladies so much! It's the least I can do, to try and cheer you all on! I can't wait to see everyone's bfps!

I agree, jGo! You're the best!

 

[AngelOb]

Have you guys seen this?

https://www.bellabeat.com/?utm_term...th+Toddlers&utm_content=pp_o3_vibrates_beech#

It says it tracks your menstrual cycle, but doesn't give any information on how. I'm intrigued. I'm wondering if it takes your BBT or your mean temp across a day... otherwise I'm really not sure.

It looks good though.

I have one. It goes based on when you put your lmp and takes the average based on previous cycles. I love my leaf for sure though.