DecemberWait
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I will start this off by saying I am SO very lucky to have a beautiful and amazing daughter, thank God, who is my whole world and despite these struggles I am having I am just so grateful for her.
However, I feel like a piece of my heart is missing with wanting a 2nd child. We conceived on January 3rd or 4th and I got my BFP on the 1 year anniversary of my mom's suicide. People kept telling me it was a "sign" and that she would watch over the baby which actually makes this a lot harder. I don't really believe in that kind of "kismet" anyway but the thought was nice. I had perfectly darkening tests, symptoms, perfectly doubling hcg. I started to relax. Then on a whim I took a test again after my last appointment and it was virtually negative. I thought it might be the hook effect so I diluted my urine and it was 100% negative. My betas are now dropping and I am waiting to miscarry, I am "5w2d" today with zero spotting and I really hope my body will just please recognize that this baby has stopped growing and miscarry naturally before I have to get medical intervention.
I had 3 miscarriages before my daughter who I really consider to be a miracle given my history and inability to stay pregnant. She is such a blessing and I just want to see her grow up with a sibling so badly.
This is hard because there were no signs. Great betas, great tests....great everything. In fact if I hadn't tested again and gone in for more bloodwork I may have ended up with a missed miscarriage, so at least this way I already know and am not sitting here thinking I am still growing a baby - I still have STRONG symptoms which makes it harder.
I really don't want to ever be here for a 5th time, so I am just hoping against hope that my next baby grows and stays and is healthy. I know it can happen. I just don't want to go down this path for as long as I did before I had my daughter. It is worth it in the end but just soul crushing and depressing.
Longed for baby, you are loved and missed
However, I feel like a piece of my heart is missing with wanting a 2nd child. We conceived on January 3rd or 4th and I got my BFP on the 1 year anniversary of my mom's suicide. People kept telling me it was a "sign" and that she would watch over the baby which actually makes this a lot harder. I don't really believe in that kind of "kismet" anyway but the thought was nice. I had perfectly darkening tests, symptoms, perfectly doubling hcg. I started to relax. Then on a whim I took a test again after my last appointment and it was virtually negative. I thought it might be the hook effect so I diluted my urine and it was 100% negative. My betas are now dropping and I am waiting to miscarry, I am "5w2d" today with zero spotting and I really hope my body will just please recognize that this baby has stopped growing and miscarry naturally before I have to get medical intervention.
I had 3 miscarriages before my daughter who I really consider to be a miracle given my history and inability to stay pregnant. She is such a blessing and I just want to see her grow up with a sibling so badly.
This is hard because there were no signs. Great betas, great tests....great everything. In fact if I hadn't tested again and gone in for more bloodwork I may have ended up with a missed miscarriage, so at least this way I already know and am not sitting here thinking I am still growing a baby - I still have STRONG symptoms which makes it harder.
I really don't want to ever be here for a 5th time, so I am just hoping against hope that my next baby grows and stays and is healthy. I know it can happen. I just don't want to go down this path for as long as I did before I had my daughter. It is worth it in the end but just soul crushing and depressing.
Longed for baby, you are loved and missed