A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

Hello everyone I am usually more of a lurker but I believe that I definitely fit in to this group. I have no children and been pregnant 5 times and had (at least I believe) 7 losses.

I was ready he was not. I got off BC 7/10 had my firt bfp 12/10 but it was a b/o and had a D&C 2/11. He was now
ready.

We officially started TTC 2/11. I had lost my job 5/11 and we decided to hold off on it but got a bfp 6/11 anyways but that was a chem (I was only a few days late). We decided to start again after that. Had another chem. the beginning of 8/11 and he decided he wanted to stop until I had a full time job, but had another bfp at the end of 8/11. I was not hopful at the rate I was going, but the test started to get darker and darker very quickly. I started getting my hopes up and so did he. I started spotting and cramping a little so called the ob at 4:30 they said they were closing soon (@5) and if I wanted to I shold go to the hospital. I want was 5 wks and 1 day.

The took my temp and drew my blood temp was low fever and blood was 15k!!! They sent me in for a ultrasound the tech (same one that was working at ob at time of my B/O) kept asking if I was on fertility drugs but would not tell me why. Went back to room and NP asked same question I told her I was only on vitamin E, baby asprin, prenatel, and b complex. I asked if there was more then one (I actually had a feeling that there was). She said we don't need to worry about that and just hope for a healty baby. The next day I went to hospital and requested the Ultasounds. In the radioligest report it said there was 3 fluid filled sacs and 1 had a yolk and they all measured about the same!!!

At 6 wks 1 day I had a stabing cramp on my right side a few inches across from my belly button. I went to the bathroom and pushed and something came out and I started bleeding really bad. I called the ob and got in and had an ultrasound. They detected 1 hb and 1 baby. They did not mention anything about a twin or anthing else. The dr said the hb was 100 and a little low and to come back in a week. On the ultasound pics I could see that there was another sac (the halo effect a bright ring around the sac) that was closing up right beside the baby with the hb. The weekend before my next ultasound I started loosing my symptoms. I knew it was not good.

I went in and had the ultrasound at 7 wks and 2 days and there was no hb, and the baby was measuring 6 wks and 5 days (when I started to loose my symptoms). I induced the m/c at 8 wks (10/11) using cyotetc (sp?).

After some fussin w/ my ob he sent me to RE. Got blood work eveything came back normal. Had an SHG done and found out I had a partial septate. Scheduled surgery and HSG the next week (the last week in 12/11). Went back to get balloon out and RE told me to wait till next normal cycle and I could start trying if I was not pregnant in 3 cycles to come back for more test. My husband wanted to wait 6 months to try again because of financial issues. I told my RE he said the if I can work out the financial issues we need to start back asap. After months using the "pull out" method I finally convinced him to start back. This month I had my third cycle and tested till 11dpo figured since I have not gotten my bfp it was not going to happen this month and scheduled for a SHG.

Well I was a day late took at IC test and it was a bfp, I had heard that implanting late usually ends bad. From the beginning I had a feeling this one was not going to stick even when my numbers doubled. I was right yesterday at 5 wks I had another loss.

I scheduled the SHG for this cycle before I had heard back from the nurse figured since it was so early it did not matter. She told me I had to wait till next cycle to do it and I should not get pregnant this cycle.

What!!!! It was an early loss and late implanter (13dpo or 14dpo) it was technically like if I had implanted at 10 dpo I would have been a day late. I did not receive a bfp till 15dpo but I stopped testing at 11dpo at 3pm. At 16dpo I had beta and it was 24 so I was definitely late implanter.

Sorry I am ranting a little to because if you read the whole thing, almost the same thing happend last year and I got pregnant with triplets or twins the next cycle. I do believe in the whole more fertile after m/c thing. I feel like this month is our month especially since I am fixed. If I had not had the septate I would have carried to term because when he resected the septum he took pics and said I had retained tissues from my last m/c and in those pics the tissue was right beside the septum.

I am not waiting!!:growlmad: This is my month!!:hissy:

FX for everyone for H&H pregnancy or bfp!!!:flower:

sorry so long :blush:
 
Monro, welcome to the group and so sorry about all your losses. I definitely understand the need to get back on the TTC wagon and try to get that much wanted & precious BFP. I've read terrible things about Cytotec, it's not supposed to be used on pregnant women because there is a high risk of hemorraging, so I am glad you are ok. I hope you get your BFP soon and it is your forever baby.

Welcome again :flower:
 
Omgosh NSN :rofl: I almost peed my pants reading your post with the "back door" comment.

Hope- yes I am on Endometrin- a suppository form of progesterone. It's a mess "down there" for sure, but hopefully it's doing some good.

Monro- Welcome to the thread and so sorry for your losses. :hugs:

Soop- cant wit for your appt Monday. I think it will be really great to have some answers .

AFM- I had a bit more very light bleeding this afternoon. Gsh I hope everything is ok. Since I have never had bleeding before DH said maybe something different is a good thing. I did some reading about implantation bleeding and it says it can last up to 2-3 days. I hope that's all it is because I also read the low progesterone can cause bleeding.
 
Beach, I know I would be worried too, but as you know many people bleed throughout pg and have perfectly healthy babies. Like all the women on the show "I didn't know I was pregnant" almost all say they had a "period" every month...

Monro, well we are in somewhat similar boat. Sorry for your losses. I had a septate removed as well, but unfortunately it required 2 surgeries and it is likely not totally gone. It actually had a fibroid inside the septate. the dr. said he had never seen or heard of that happening! I had an early loss in aug 11 and an ectopic in nov 11 and since then I have been recovering from the methotrexate for the ectopic and had the 2 surgeries and 2 hsg's. My dr thinks the septate could have been responsible for both losses. My last surgery was may 21 so I am hoping to take advantage of that increased fertility as well, but just in case this month doesn't work for you and you do get the hsg they suspect that that increases fertility too. Best of luck to you!! I know how frustrating it is when they keep making you wait ANOTHER cycle for tests/surgeries and for the hsg it has to be right after af, it is sooo hard to "waste" a month!!! Oh and I also lost my job that I had for 5 yrs in June and I am the primary breadwinner, but dammit I am 32 and nothing is putting this on hold any longer!!!!

AFM I GOT MY PEAK!! My favorite image is seeing three bars with an egg on my cbfm (well BFP's are better). We bd once today and will again tomorrow and sunday so I am sooo hoping this will do it!!!
 
Emme thank you I hope so too I had read a few things as bout it. I did not want a d&c again because I was scared I would develope scaring. It really was not that bad alot of bleeding and a weird nad left leg pain that my ob could not explain. Congrats on your pregnancy.

Beach thank u so much. Congrats on bfp.

Kmp that is exactly how I feel. If the loss was 6 wks or later I could understand but I am not waiting when it was just 5 wks there is no reason too. I am so sorry you have had all those problems. I hope I do not have to have the surgery again but I do feel confident in my RE. He seemed to know about utsriam abnoralities. I had a shg (the saline solution transvaginal ultrasound and right away he said I had a partial septate, which I had read about bicorbinate (sp) ones and I asked if that was what he ment and he explained what it was. I dod have a hsg and lap done during the surgery to ck for endo because I have very bad cramps I only had stage one that he removed but still have bad cramps. That is crazy a fibroid with a septate wow. I have joind tbe mullerian abnormality group on yahoo and learned about kidney problems sometimes associated with it because I have uti very often and wondered if it could have anything to do with it. Hope this month is our month.
 
Just trying to catch up with everyone's news. It's great that we've had a flurry of BFPs on the thread. Congratulations Beach - and great betas, hope this is your sticky bean :hugs:

To everyone going through PAL, my advice would be to just try to take one day at a time :hugs:. There were so many days with Elsa, especially at the beginning that I worried it was all over - lack of symptoms, a negative HPT at 7 weeks (hook affect), the ridiculously high NT measurement, her heart scan... but in the end it was all OK and she's here now. NSN's right, there's a certain amount of acceptance needed, to know that there's nothing more that you can do and if this is the one, then it will just happen. Being pregnant is such a blessing and it should be enjoyed as much as you can, even if your scared and feeling like shit! Try your best to enjoy the moment as worry won't change the outcome in the end. We will all get our rainbows and I hope that for those of you now pregnant, this is your time :flower:.

To those of you still trying - fingers crossed for you this and every month. Soop :hugs::hugs: to you, I know it's been a tough few months.
 
Congrats Lady, Elsa is absolutely beautiful and so worth all the worry and pain.

Have been reading up on everyone but no time to reply individually - only to say that I feel for each and every one of you who are either struggling to conceive or worrying about miscarrying.

I have a new set of worries now. DH was been diagnosed with Aligospermia, which basically means low count. According to the FS, we are entitled to IVF with ICSI but there's one issue with that, my BMI. We only qualify if my BMI is under 30 and it is currently 35.
Needless to say I am dieting furiously, but I don't lose it easily or quickly so it may be a while until we get there.
It's annoying as all my results were normal so technically there's nothing wrong with me.
 
Welcome New! That is too bad that they are insisting on a lower BMI if you are healthy. Best of luck with your weight loss.

Monro, I had to comment back right away...Apparently my septate is not related, but earlier on this thread I posted about being diagnosed with kidney disease last July! I feel perfectly healthy and have only had one or two bladder infections with one becoming a kidney infection requiring hospitalization back in 2005. Last year after a bout of the flu, my urine labs kept coming back with protein in them. After a biopsy and many other tests a specialist, my nephrologist, diagnosed me with focal segmented glomerulsclerosis or fsgs. It is pretty scary, but my dr has given me the green light ttc. I do not feel sick accept being tired, but one day I will likely need a transplant or dialysis. Anyway sorry to go off on a totally separate subject, but when I heard you mention kidneys I had to share.
 
NTAT...you know I keep chucking you :hugs: you're doing fab with the weightloss and you will get your rainbow :hugs:

Monro...sorry you find yourself here...lots of lovely ladies here to support through the good times and bad :flower:

Soop...enjoy your weekend and worry about Monday when it gets here..start your journal...it saved my sanity many a time and you stop caring what others think :winkwink:

KMP...get :sex: girlie and have a mega orgasm to help those little buggers :dust:

Beach...hoping the bleeding stops soon..I have everything crossed for you :hugs:

:hi: to everyone

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:hi: everyone

Beach I have everyone crossed for you :hugs:

Kmp go get some :sex: girl :thumbup: :hugs:

Bumblebee hope you're ok, I have everything crossed for you :hugs:

Hopestruck great line! :thumbup: Hope you're doing ok :hugs:

Nicki thinking of you, try not to worry too much I hear it's quite normal to have varying shades of lines, hope you're ok :hugs:

Emme hope all goes ok on Monday, I think you should just go with your instincts when you're having your scan, you know like don't make a decision and then to that thing where you answer without thinking :haha: Good to hear all is going good for you :hugs:

Monro sorry to hear about your losses, but welcome to the group, everyone is so lovely here, it really helps me talking to everyone, fingers crossed this is your month :hugs:

Lady congratulations again, I bet it's all still so surreal, hope you are doing well :hugs:

NTAT I have to lose weight too, it's so hard though and such a slow process, your committed though and that's what's important, you will get there :thumbup: :hugs:

Soop hope you're ok, will be thinking of you Monday, if taking a break will help then go for it, perhaps you will get some time to re-focus on you for a bit. Whatever you decide we are all here for you :hugs:


:hi: to everyone I have missed

Afm I'm feeling a bit crap really, I just feel like I have no hope at the moment, ttc just takes over my life! I know everyone says try to stop thinking about it and it will happen, but that's so much easier said than done. My fertility friend is doing strange things too, somehow it thinks I am 3dpo today which is rubbish, there is no way I have O'd yet, my opk's haven't even been slightly positive yet :dohh:
 
Monro, so sorry that you find yourself here, but I think you'll find it to be a very supportive group.

Lady- That Elsa's a lovely little girl!

Everyone else...hope you're doing well!

2 more days until my ultrasound...praying that I actually hear a heartbeat this time!
 
Thurl sorry to hear your feeling crap :hugs:Yeah sometimes it sure does feel like TTC takes over your life as its all you can think about. I often have negative thoughts then try to block them out & change it with positive thoughts instead. Lol maybe I'm going crazy but it does seem to help me cope.
Monro welcome to the thread & sorry to hear about your losses. You have been through so much. I understand wanting to TTC again & hope this is your month & get your forever baby.:hugs:
Soop I hope you enjoy the weekend. I hope you can get some answers mon. Thinking of you. :kiss:Yeah starting a journal might be a good idea. Lol we won't think your crazy but might be good to write about how you feel. In saying that I have never started one myself but other ladies find it good. :hugs:
Never you are so funny loved your comment about where to stick progesterone. :haha:It does sound a good idea though & I have heard other women put it there as well. I considered it as I got a bit of burning sometimes from it.
Beach I hope the bleeding stops & everything is going fine. :kiss:
Bumblebee how are you? Thinking of you. I hope you're ok. :hugs:
Nicki I hope all is going well. :winkwink:
Lady little Elsa is adorable. :baby:
Wookie I hope your scan goes really well & you see a heartbeat & everything is going fine. :hugs:It's such a nerve racking time. I no what you mean about never seeing a heartbeat. I too had never seen a heartbeat before my this pregnancy. I was scared to look at first. I really hope this is a happy scan for you. That's what I say these days I'm booking in only happy scans these days instead of sad scans. I have my 12week scan tomorrow. I pray everything is going fine with my babies.
Emme goodluck with your scan. Yeah would b confusing about not knowing about whether you want to know the gender. I didn't realize they could find out so early. Congrats on being 14wks. I'm glad things are going well:happydance:
Kmp yes get bding!
Hi Lexi how are you going?
Hi to anyone I've missed.:flower:
 
Been back today girls and had my bloods the
1st test 25.7.12 - 42
2nd test 27.7.12 - 56

Waiting on todays results this afternoon but its not looking good they're really low aren't they :-(

Still we are expecting the worst but hoping for the best its all we can do atm

Hope all you ladies are getting on ok.
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Good luck Wookie, fingers crossed for you :hugs:

Bumblebee I have heard of people having really low numbers, and then all of a sudden the numbers have shot up, I have everything crossed for you :hugs:

Misswish thanks for the encouragement, good luck for you scan tomorrow :hugs:
 
Thank you all so much for the warm welcome:flower:

kmp- By the time you have to have a transplant or dialysis they might have something better out or a cure. I probably do need to get the recurrent uti's examined more but I have not had one in a few months. I have also been taking 1000mg vit c. I think it keeps my urian more acidic so bacteria can't grow. I also use to get them after a lot of :sex:

On a good note my RE nurse messaged me back and said we could go ahead with the shg (saline sonohystogram) this cycle as long as I am not bleeding. Which I am on cd 4 and bairly spotting. I think we are good. But putting saline in my uterus righ before o will that make it harder for sperm or implantation.
 
Bumble...I'll be honest and say I think it's not likely to be good news sweetie :hugs: also the fact there has been a slight increase could indicate ectopic so I'm hoping they are going to keep testing. Massive :hugs: so cruel :cry:

Wookie...good luck for tomorrow...all sorts of emotions will be running through your mind :hugs:

:hi: to everyone...I'm in hospital again being monitored for high BP...back under control again but another overnight stay :roll:

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Getting annoyed with the hospital now they've said levels have gone up again but not by much but have said that they think it may be an under developing baby which will result in miscarriage however they are UNSURE so repeating the test for a 4th time on tuesday!!

I feel like I'm being messed about as I'm only 21 and all they keep doing is drawing bloods and sending me away then contacting me via the phone and asking to repeat it over and over then not giving us any answers or advice just sending us away its just very frustrating now we're not getting anywhere and I'm fed up of feeling rubbish because of it. I just want it to be over with so I at least no which way I'm going tbh I'm assuming its a miscarriage now and getting on with things as i'm soooo fed up with it all!!

Rant over sorry ladies xxx
 
Bumble I'm sorry they are messing you about :hugs: if the numbers are rising they need to keep doing them every 48 hours...insist on this please..just in case it is ectopic. Always ask them for numbers so you know yourself what is likely to happen..forewarned is forearmed. Lots of :hugs: like this isn't hard enough :nope:

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