A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Neversaynever]

Cazi...any timescale given for your referral?

BA (BabyAngel)...so sorry for your losses, it really is heartbreaking I hope you are looking after yourself. This thread will hopefully give support and PMA to help you as well as the other ladies.

AFM...my body is being mean and playing tricks on me. I know AF will be coming so why do I think I might JUST be pregnant? I am seriously dreading the hag's arrival

XxX

 

[lauraemily17]

Hi Neversaynever.

I am so so sorry for your losses.

I don't know if you remember me but I was on a thread with you I think in the PAL forum. I was so nervous when I found out I was pregnant the second time and unfortuneatly I was right to be as I misscarried again a week later. You were very very lovely and kind to me.

I think a thread like this is a great idea. I have been having a really hard time lately and it's good to share it with people who understand.

I actually made the mistake of trying to move on from the second too quickly. I got on with my life then about a month later I almost had a breakdown. I would literally burst into tears over nothing. I have never felt such overwhelming sadness and grief before. It is still very much with me now but gets a little easier everyday. I am allowing myself to feel it now which I think will help in the long run.

Have you thought about having any specific tests? I am very lucky in that our local hospital has a recurrent miscarriage clinic who will do tests after 2 mc not the usual 3. I am now awaiting my results which take forever!! We're supposed to stop TTC until we see a specialist which won't be until mind October. I don't think I can wait that long and think the not tryining is probably not helping how I am feeling. I feel like there's no hope! I see you're in the West Midlands, I think there are some clinics Birmigham way. I actually live in Leicester so not too far away.

Sorry this has turned into a rather long post! xx

 

[cazi77]

Hey all. No idea how long the referral process will take hopefully not too long. We are back to TTC this month so just see what happens in the mean time.

Welcome Lauraemily sorry about your losses. Thats great that your hospital investigate after 2 m/c so hopefully you will get some answers soon.

 

[Smile88]

Hi Ladies

Just come across this group... i've had 3 losses since January this year... all around the 6 week stage! Am currently having some tests done to see if they can find any issues with my.

Im keeping my head up and staying healthy to prepare for fingers crossed we are given the go ahead to try again by my gyno dr!

Wishing you all the best... we will all get there eventually

xx

 

[Aunie]

hello everyone, I had a +opk last weds but i don't have much hope for a bfp this month. After each of my m/c it took at least 3 months to get preggo again but we'll see! Even though its frustrating having all of my bloods come back fine, I'm glad there's nothing wrong. I'm nervous about the genetics test though, if that comes back abnormal it'll be harder to fix! My doc said even if it's abnormal we still have a 50/50 chance of having a healthy baby next time, just gotta get the right combination.

 

[justwaiting]

Hi ladies can I join. I recognise so many of your names from various journals and threads. I have had 2 mmc's since november last year. I am just 24 and dh is 25. I have Asherman's syndrome and Pelvic congestion syndrome. I am having a hysteroscopy on Friday and hope to be busy bding at the start of next month.

Good luck ladies

 

[Neversaynever]

Hi Neversaynever.

I am so so sorry for your losses.

I don't know if you remember me but I was on a thread with you I think in the PAL forum. I was so nervous when I found out I was pregnant the second time and unfortuneatly I was right to be as I misscarried again a week later. You were very very lovely and kind to me.

I think a thread like this is a great idea. I have been having a really hard time lately and it's good to share it with people who understand.

I actually made the mistake of trying to move on from the second too quickly. I got on with my life then about a month later I almost had a breakdown. I would literally burst into tears over nothing. I have never felt such overwhelming sadness and grief before. It is still very much with me now but gets a little easier everyday. I am allowing myself to feel it now which I think will help in the long run.

Have you thought about having any specific tests? I am very lucky in that our local hospital has a recurrent miscarriage clinic who will do tests after 2 mc not the usual 3. I am now awaiting my results which take forever!! We're supposed to stop TTC until we see a specialist which won't be until mind October. I don't think I can wait that long and think the not tryining is probably not helping how I am feeling. I feel like there's no hope! I see you're in the West Midlands, I think there are some clinics Birmigham way. I actually live in Leicester so not too far away.

Sorry this has turned into a rather long post! xx

Laure....of course I remember you from the PAL March babies thread I remember how gutted I felt for you too.

I'm sure I am starting the emotional rollercoaster now especially on the run up to AF

As for the tests...my GP says no testing until three, he researched and I loved his line 'there are many associations with MC but not many definitive causes' he ahs been lovely in every sense though and he did test thyroid which is all fine it'll happen...one day

Hey all. No idea how long the referral process will take hopefully not too long. We are back to TTC this month so just see what happens in the mean time.

Welcome Lauraemily sorry about your losses. Thats great that your hospital investigate after 2 m/c so hopefully you will get some answers soon.

Well fingers are crossed you get some luck this month

Hi Ladies

Just come across this group... i've had 3 losses since January this year... all around the 6 week stage! Am currently having some tests done to see if they can find any issues with my.

Im keeping my head up and staying healthy to prepare for fingers crossed we are given the go ahead to try again by my gyno dr!

Wishing you all the best... we will all get there eventually

xx

SOrry for you losses Smile but welcome to this group here's hoping that if they do have ansers..they are easily fixed or even no answers and all ok next time

Hi ladies can I join. I recognise so many of your names from various journals and threads. I have had 2 mmc's since november last year. I am just 24 and dh is 25. I have Asherman's syndrome and Pelvic congestion syndrome. I am having a hysteroscopy on Friday and hope to be busy bding at the start of next month.

Good luck ladies

Hey JW have seen you about too and keep meaning to read through your journal..will do I promise. and sorry for your losses too. I'm sorry you have your diagnosis that makes it that little bit harder for you but I am going to have everything crossed that all will be ok for your next one.

What does the hysteroscopy involve? Is that so they can have a good look at your uterus?

WIll be thinking of you

AFM...just back from doctors and thyroid results are normal have a bit of aching going on so thinking the hag 's arrival will be on target for next week or even over the weekend How I hate her

XxX

 

[Bells n Bump]

Hi ladies, can I join you?

Im 27 and DH is 28, we are ttc #1, and so far we seem to be able to get pregnant easy enough (first cycle trying with both losses) but cant get the to stay or develop in the right place. We have just had a break from ttc as I had the mtx shot for my ectopic in feb then after the 3 months wait I was made redundant. But now Im back employed and Im currently on CD7 of my 2nd cycle ttc.

Fingers crossed that we all get our bfp's in the near future and enjoy a happy and healthy nine months!!! Xxx

 

[hopingx]

im currently just going through my 2nd miscarriage, had one 2 months also, i fall quick but cant seem to get past the 5-6 week stage, im feeling very frutrated

 

[lexi374]

It's 2 weeks and 4 days since my erpc, and think i may have seen a tiny bit of ewcm (still spotted with brown) earlier. Feeling quite irritable this week also, hopefully af will arrive on time and i can start thinking about trying again x

 

[Neversaynever]

Aunie...sorry I don't reply earlier...I'm sure I clicked on your post too get going with the baby dancing...you never know, this could be the cycle

Bells...sorry for your losses too I'm sure it must be hard not to try for those months after the shot at least you have regular and fairly short cycles and that this is your month too and it's a sticky one

Hoping...sorry for your losses and I know how it is feeling frustrated...I haven't got past 12 weeks yet hoping you get your sticky bean soon

Lexi...EWCM...how long is your LP? Do you have regular length cycles?

How is everyone?

Me...it's been a very long and emotional day

XxX

 

[lexi374]

Sorry you have had a crap day, i think things will be up and down for a while x

My cycles have varied a bit in length but always 10 day LP, well since the last mc anyway, wasnt charting before that. So we will see x

 

[mandy1971]

Have any of you read the recurrent miscarriage thread? Lots of ladies there who are very knowledgeable. X

 

[justwaiting]

Sorry you had a bad day never. I read your journal sounds like a shocker

A hysteroscopy is when they insert a camera through your cervix and have a look around and in my case they will cut out the scars/adhesions in my uterus. From my scans I have mild scarring so hopefully only one surgery before I can try again. it's been 5 months since our last loss and we haven't been allowed to try the whole time. I hate waiting.

I'm so sorry for everyone's loss's. I hate the waiting to 3mc's crap dr's give you, how hard is it to run a blood panel on the basic things, like blood clotting, thyroid, diabetes, hormones, vitamin deficiency and karotyping, and a pelvic ultrasound. My GP did that for me after 2, as she thought something was going on and she didn't want me to have to go through it a third time when there is in fact a silent problem.

Has anyone talked to their dr's about progesterone next time you get pregnant? I see alot of women on here are on it throughout the first tri. Are there any reason why you shouldn't use it?

 

[lexi374]

My GP doesnt believe in the progesterone theory at all, said nothing has been proven, and that low progesterone is the RESULT of a failing pregnancy not the CAUSE, needless to say she wont be prescribing it, will see what the docs at the hospital say, i dont think it does any harm...? Ive had basic bloods- clotting, thyroid and full blood count with GP all normal, just waiting to see the hospital for more now x

 

[Neversaynever]

Lexi...have you looked in to lengthening your LP? WHat time is you appointment on Saturday?

Mandy...thank you for popping by...sorry for your losses...I can't imagine how hard it is for you losing your precious daughter I have had a sneaky look but there are so many posts on there and I don't really have any questions as such just yet...just needed some emotional support at the minute but thank you.

JW...yup was a shocking day how on earth have you coped having to wait hun? Credit to you though and hoping this works the first time so you can get trying

XxX

 

[mamabearjen]

I dont really fit here...but i dont really think I fit anywhere...I concieved baby #1 on October 15th 2010 found out at 18 weeks he was missing both kidneys. delivered at 32 weeks and he lived for 1 hour. Concieved baby #2 sometime in august but my hcg level on monday was 7. My doctor wants me to retest on Monday but she believes im miscarrying. I have never had an early miscarriage so im not sure what its like....After lossing my #1 Im so sad to suffer a loss again...No one I know understands what im going through and my husband doesnt get it since its so early...he has the "try again" attitude. Im sorry if i have intruded and dont really belong here. Im just trying to find someone to talk to.

 

[Neversaynever]

I dont really fit here...but i dont really think I fit anywhere...I concieved baby #1 on October 15th 2010 found out at 18 weeks he was missing both kidneys. delivered at 32 weeks and he lived for 1 hour. Concieved baby #2 sometime in august but my hcg level on monday was 7. My doctor wants me to retest on Monday but she believes im miscarrying. I have never had an early miscarriage so im not sure what its like....After lossing my #1 Im so sad to suffer a loss again...No one I know understands what im going through and my husband doesnt get it since its so early...he has the "try again" attitude. Im sorry if i have intruded and dont really belong here. Im just trying to find someone to talk to.

Mama...please don't apologise, you're more than welcome in here not sure if you remember me but I followed your story about Carter from when you had the first sad scan

For me, as soon a you see those two lines...you're having a baby and you have already fallen in love with them and are making plans to get through milestones to help you cope. I'm sorry your DH is not quite getting it, maybe he's trying to deal with it in his own way?

Please feel free to stay in here, I'm sure all the lovely ladies in here will support you through the upcoming days/weeks/months.

As for not knowing what to expect, I'm not sure how far along you are/were but if you're around 6 weeks or less, most likely be like a heavy painful period for most people.

Big and feel free to pm me if you prefer

XxX

 

[lexi374]

Welcome mama

NSN yeah i looked into it, tried b50 complex but that didnt make a diff and thought it may have pushed ov back later, i did wonder if lp may be at the root of my problems...... Took 7 months to fall since last mc..... so tried soy isos that month and got bfp 1st try, other people had said it gives a stronger ov and therefore improves lp.

Appointment is 3pm sat, still no letter through, am hoping i will actually see a doc but i have a feeling it will be delaying tactics and just be paperwork or something, anyway when i do finally see a doc lp is 1 of the many things i will be asking about xx

 

[Happygirl18]

Hi ladies,

Can I join too? I am 33 and have had two early losses in the past 14 months, one August 2010 and again May 2011, both around 6 weeks. As you all said, suffering more than one loss without having any children is a unique and heartbreaking experience, and I think this thread is a wonderful idea.
I have had the whole workup and the only things found were a borderline protein s level (has to do with blood clotting), although it normalized on retest, and pcos. I am not overweight but I do have irregular cycles and polycystic ovaries on ultrasound. I decided to see a reproductive endocrinologist and I am now on metformin, folguard, and during the two week wait progesterone and lovenox. Currently 9 dpo and while part of me is getting hopeful, the other part is completely negative and pessimistic....plus I feel like the whole experience is so stressful now, I just wish I could be innocently excited about it you know? Having to give myself injections every day and feeling gross from the progesterone suppositories isn't helping either.
Sending everyone hugs and hope-