A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[DSemcho]

Me and DH were talking last night and I pointed out if we did the IUI first, and theme exuded to do IVF the IVF would only be $3200 instead of $4500 cause we would have already done the spermiogram and HSG. And already paid the exam fee.it he said no, and I pointed out that adoption is expensive to, and he said that we were gonna try til January and then stop all together. We're gonna have a more in depth discussion tonight but idk.

 

[Nicki123]

Ttcmoon - so sorry about the bfn, please don't apologise about venting. We all know that ttc can take its toll and it's so frustrating when you just can't get pg after having done so in the past. Due dates are hard too.

It's so interesting reading about how adoption works differently in each country. In the UK all adopted children have to be told they are adopted right from the start.

DS I'm sorry the costs are so high. I hope you and your DH continue to have more discussions about what to do.

Good luck everyone.

 

[ttcmoon]

Nicki, is adoption costly in UK?How log it takes?

DS - I hope you get your rainbow before Jan.Do not lose hope.

 

[Nicki123]

Hi ttcmoon - no adoption doesn't cost anything in the UK as it's all done through the state. They are trying to reduce how long it takes, I think it's about 9 months from first meeting to approval, and then matching with a child varies. It's probably about a year altogether.

 

[ttcmoon]

oh ok...Here also it does not cost but loads of bribes to be given to the social worker and middle men (sitting at Govt offices).The official cost is nominal, just some money towards orphan children welfare.
But it takes 2+yrs here.

 

[BeachChica]

Hi girls! Popping in to say hello and see how you are doing!

NTAT - love the pics of Hugo.

DS - hope you get your BFP before January! I have everything crossed for you! Maybe your OH will eventually change his mind like he did with adoption.

Ttcmoon - sorry about the BFN. No apologies here for venting! That's what we're all here for! This is definitely a difficult journey.

AFM - I am doing well. Had my appointment with the high risk doctor last week. Everything seems to be looking good but he wants to see me back in 4 weeks just to have another look at her heart and then again in 8 weeks to check growth. With my age, apparently there are additional risks

 

[DSemcho]

AF showed today! No more limbo! New cycle!!! Yay!

 

[ttcmoon]

beachchica - I am keeping my fingers crossed for you so there won't be any additional risks for you and your small one.I just hope everything goes fine.Enjoy your pregnancy, these are the months we all are waiting for and you have gone through a lot to be here.This one will definitely stick March is not far!

DS - Wow!New cycle new hopes.Are you planning IUI or just a natural try?

 

[DSemcho]

Not sure. I asked DH if we could do the spermiogram and HSG when I get paid, that I'd pay for it all, and he flipped. Said he was tired of me talking about kids, and him having to take the vitamins and tired of me waking him up in the morning when I take my temp (which I don't talk to him when I do or lean over him). And we fought for like 15 minutes. Then at the end I told him that I just wanted to so those two tests so we could figure out where we were right now and that he was the one that started fighting cause I was just talking and he started yelling. I went to my room and cried for like 20 minutes and then came out and he apologized and said we could do it all but we'd have to save.

So I'm sure I'm doing the HSG this coming week, idk if DH is doing the spermiogram or not. I think this cycle is gonna be natural, but him taking FertilAid and MotilityBoost and us using PreSeed.

 

[Bibliophile]

Sorry for the BFN, Moon. Vent as needed.

Hugs, DS.

Nothing new here. If it was an option, I think I'd definitely forget all this crap and go straight for adoption. Lol. Not feeling this at all.

 

[ttcmoon]

Thanks for the support bibliophile.I too feel the same.Not sure why we are the unlucky few.Adoption is a great option.You can be a mom in either way But it takes too long here

 

[Bibliophile]

It would take a while here, too. And we're planning on not being in this area any longer than we need to be, so we would have to decide to stay here (not happening!) or wait until we move, anyway. So for now, we're just going to keep trying. But I won't do IUI or IVF or anything. Just a personal choice.

 

[DSemcho]

Aww I hope y'all get your bundles soon!!!!

 

[Nicki123]

Sorry you've had a tough day DS. I'm glad your DH apologised. It not fair that we have to go through all this and that the stresses and choices can cause conflict between partners.

 

[DSemcho]

Yeah, we seem to have come to an agreement

 

[honeyprayer]

Hi ladies

Had our 20w scan today and found out we're team pink

But also got bad news My cervix is short so I've been put on strict bed rest and also on prometrium. I'm very scared about this but will try to take it day by day. It was so difficult to hear after baby looked so great. I love her so much already I just hope I can keep her in there for as long as possible. I'm going to be seen by the high risk assessment unit at the hospital here, so I'm glad I'll at least be under good care.

I hope all of you are doing well

 

[Bibliophile]

Congratulations! Sorry about the bed rest. That would be so difficult!

 

[DSemcho]

How long is the bed rest?? Good time to take up crocheting or knitting lol.


AFM - me and DH had a long talk/fight and agreed one round of IUI and possibly one round of IVF. Got my menses on Sunday finally, so I'll be doing my HSG on Friday or Saturday and DH agreed to do the spermiogram.

 

[Neversaynever]

ladies...thought I'd come and see how everyone's getting on

Welcome to the new ladies and sorry you find yourselves here. Such a crappy place to be but you're with others in the same position so not alone and you get the total understanding and support to help you carry on

Nicki.... for you as always

DS...glad you're out of limbo and a new cycle which means a new hope. This is such a trying time for relationships and unfortunately the men seem to think we stress too much over it all. Hang in there

Ttcmoon...sorry your B2B IUI's didn't work...very frustrating especially when you want to be pregnant and with a due date approaching its incredibly hard. Hugs and

Biblio...sending you for this cycle too

Beach....congrats on and yeah..gotta love the older risk factor after everything you've been through eh? Any names yet?

NTAT...Hugo is so beautiful...I'm on countdown for munches

Honey...congrats on and sorry they found your cervix short but bedrest it is and will be worth it

Soop...any news?

Don't know if any of you remember Hur75 who had lots of bleeds in the first tri? Well she gave birth to her boy at 24 weeks on Viability day. As far as I know from her posts, he's fighting hard. Please spare some thoughts for him and her family

I know I've missed people I'm sorry but I do like to lurk in here

AFM...all fine with my rainbow and rainbow that's cooking so far

Love, and whatever's

Xxx

 

[cruise]

Hi ladies

Had our 20w scan today and found out we're team pink

But also got bad news My cervix is short so I've been put on strict bed rest and also on prometrium. I'm very scared about this but will try to take it day by day. It was so difficult to hear after baby looked so great. I love her so much already I just hope I can keep her in there for as long as possible. I'm going to be seen by the high risk assessment unit at the hospital here, so I'm glad I'll at least be under good care.

I hope all of you are doing well

Congratulations on team pink and on having a healthy embryo. It's awful to be on bed rest!

But it's all worth it. This will be your special little girl.