A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Razcox]

Welcome keep the faith and sorry you have had to join us xx

Sure the scan will be fine lady xx How is everyone in the july PAL thread doing?

 

[Ladyfog]

Welcome keep the faith and sorry you have had to join us xx

Sure the scan will be fine lady xx How is everyone in the july PAL thread doing?

Thanks Raz. I'm just really nervous and so paranoid now! Bit of a mixed bag in the PAL forum. Presh had a scan and is measuring 2wks too small so not looking good. Mlyn's had a great scan at 11+5. I must say I'm not finding it very supportive, just feel my posts are ignored at the moment! Glad I still have the girls here cheering me on - thanks ladies

How are you doing?

 

[filipenko32]

Hiya lady fog, sometimes threads can be a bit crowded and fast moving can't they? How you doing Hun? I am so envious of how far along you are, it must be a dream come true, pal is hard though isn't it? X x x

 

[Ladyfog]

Hiya lady fog, sometimes threads can be a bit crowded and fast moving can't they? How you doing Hun? I am so envious of how far along you are, it must be a dream come true, pal is hard though isn't it? X x x

It's gone quite quickly this time - I think the run up to Christmas has helped. Hope the next 12 weeks fly by for you! I just hope I have good news on Monday and the last few week haven't been for nothing!

 

[filipenko32]

You will I am sure of it, You are going to be one very happy lady!! I will say I told you so! X x x

 

[Neversaynever]

Aw lady... we are all here for you whatever

I am reading lots but am behind on all my thread due to OH being at home which means no BnB time

Patiently..any news?

Lexi...you ok? Hope the hag isn't too nasty

Can't even remember what I've read now

RM...where are you hun?

Hugs to you all

XxX

 

[RaspberryMini]

I'm sorry I've been missing for so long... I've been so ill and feeling sorry for myself it's untrue.

I can't catch up with everyone as its so fast moving!!

Never - a huge congrats to you - I've got a good feeling for you this time, hope getting past Sunday gives you some confidence

Congrats too to any new BFPs since my last visit - Fili et al to you all too.

Welcome to any new ladies, I hope seeing the positivity on this thread helps you all out too.

Well I'm 10w 3d now and no more bleeding other than that one spot about 4 weeks ago, so far, so good. I'm so though just lately, I've had nausea since about week 6, with some actual throwing up from week 7, then on and off in week 9 and for the past 2 days I can't keep any food down apart from 1 bagel a day! And when I don't feel sick I have a horrible burning sensation in my stomach. Also having insomnia during the night, can't keep my eyes open much past 9pm (my bed is calling me now ) but then I wake up 2am or 3am for a few hours.

Its like a rock and a hard place you'd worry if you had no symptoms but when you have them you wish they'd do one! I'm taking it as positive signs although some days I'm finding it hard just to get through the day. Roll on scan day 12 sleeps to go!

Massive update and sorry for the moans, I'll try and keep up more now promise

 

[Neversaynever]

RM so good to get an update from you...glad you are feeling rotten and that all is ok...when is your scan?

XxX

 

[patiently]

RM thats fantastic news im so happy for you time really is flying isnt it? glad ur getting all the symptoms too...sounds positive! Good luck on your 12 week scan which is aporaching

NSN did you experience any symptoms in your tww?

AFM im a mess today broke down in my car and all the upset came flooding back from nowhere...took a hpt this morning and surprise surprise BFN, I was upset at the BFN but was so expecting it. If I ovulated when i was supposed to on clomid i'd be 13dpo but if i o'v when i assumed i did i would be 8dpo...i was meant to hold out until sunday but i just couldnt resist and now i dont have any more hpt...so im just going to wait for AF!

What set off my tears originally was a friend of mine (who knows about out ttc challenges) asked if i was attending her cousins baby shower..(who is a day behind what i would've been) so i said im not sure...im not feeling too good as im feeling low but if i improve sure ill come and her response was "ooo stop being jealous...whether ur happy or not you're coming you dont have a choice because you have to support her! and its ok im jealous too your just jealous of her baby bump and wish you could experience what pregnancy feels like" OMG! i broke down instantly how could she say this to me...i told my OH and his response was she probably didnt mean it...but even said as a joke this would still not be funny to someone who has had a loss...even writing this now im struggling to see my screen through the tears...on top of that my friend said she envies me as i dont have children today! yep as you can all imagine im feeling like such a let down and a failure...

 

[Applejack1]

Omg patiently! People can be so mean. You are stronger then that! Get mad and then alow the hurtful words go. You most certainly do not have to attend a baby shower friend or not. Does not mean you are not being supportive. I didn't go to my close friends. Went for dinner alone with her, gave her a gift and said I hope she'll understand! And of course she did. So be strong and rise above the insensitivity of others! They do not understand the pain of infertilty. Xo

 

[gaowhywhy]

We are trying for #1 now. I hope you get a positive soon and have a happy and healthy pregnancy!!

 

[patiently]

Welcome gaowhywhy...i hope you get a positive too...where are you in your cycle?

AFM ladies i think im out...have had AF cramping all day! its like ovulation pain though...and feels like stretching rather than cramping. guess AF will turn up in a few days if she doesnt come by wednesday i'll test i have just ordered some highly sensitive hpts and a basal themometer off the net just now have no idea how to use the themometer but need to know if ive ovualted or not next cycle! how are the rest of you ladies holding up?

 

[Ladyfog]

RM - so glad to hear from you . I thought I'd had it bad with morning til night queasiness but you've definitely had it worse! Still, those symptoms mean there's still something going on in there so looks like that bleed was just a false alarm

Are you worried about how you'll feel over Christmas? I'm a bit worried that I'll be too knackered and/or queasy to deal with it. Luckily although I'm hosting, my Mum and Dad will be here to help out so I won't have to do much if I don't feel up for it.

Patiently - wow, what a bitch! She's not being much a friend at the moment, although women who haven't had an MC sometime don't understand just how awful it is - I know I was guilty of thinking it wasn't as big a deal as I know it is now. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but if she experiences the same thing in future, I'm sure she'll realise just how horrible she's been to you. I hope if AF arrives, it all over before Christmas for you

Welcome gaowhywhy

 

[RaspberryMini]

Hey Ladyfog - good to hear you are doing well too. I'm massively worried about Christmas, mainly because it's my favourite time if year and if I continue to feel this sick I won't be able to enjoy it - seems selfish I know but I can't stand the thought of throwing up my Christmas dinner !

Big moment coming up for this week, 1st mc was just shy of 11w and I'm there this week, so get over that milestone, enjoy Christmas then onto the scan on 28th! I hoped it would be before Christmas but to be honest the time is going very quickly now. I feel really calm the time round too, I remember the first time I was pregnant, at about 5 weeks I sobbed to DH about how I was going to loose the baby (I wasn't aware of anyone I knew having a mc at that point) and the second time just waiting for it to happen again. I don't feel that way this time which can only be positive. We are going to tell parents once we pass this milestone - i feel it will be a nice Christmas treat for them especially as we'll almost be past the most worrying time.

Hope everyone else is good

NSN - how's things going?

 

[NewToAllThis]

all. So sorry I've been awol lately. Had no internet at home for nearly a week and having to limit my contract internet usage for fear of using it all up. Has been a real pain as not able to do anything really.
Should be fixed today so hope to catch up with u all soon. X

 

[Ladyfog]

Hi everyone

RM - I feel very much the same as you. I've passed the first milestone of MMC2 at 9+6 but have the 11+6 milestone on Wednesday. It'll be a big deal to get through it. I'll be thinking of you this week.

Especially the second pregnancy I was just waiting for it to go wrong, but this time I feel much more relaxed. I have a scan tomorrow, and I'm preparing myself for the worst, but I know my hormone levels are still high so am feeling like it should be OK. I really hope I'm right.

My sleep patterns are just like yours too. I am dead tired by 8.30/9pm then wake up at 3am or so. It's a battle from then on go be asleep. I know it's part of the journey, but it's really annoying! We're almost over the hump - not long to go!

You could try having your dinner in smaller portions over the day so you don't overload your tummy? I know that I feel more sick if I get too full so I'm going to try and use some self restraint - it's going to be tough though as I love Christmas dinner!

Hi NTAT Hope your internet's up and running soon!

 

[Neversaynever]

Patiently...that ain't no friend hun I am going to post a leaflet I had from the support group I attended and it might help you to print it off and show people. It's called thoughts from a mother but it's at work so will have to be tomorrow (unless you want to trawl through my journal for it!) symproms..at 8/9 DPO I had stretching...felt like there had been a party in my uterus BUT I get that every month 9/10 DPO I smelled smells which only happened in first pregnancy further on and I felt a but queasy too. Hoping it's not AF for you hun and be kind to yourself

AJ...lovely words of advice and glad your friend understood

Lady..what time is your scan? Have everything crossed

RM..sorry you're so sick

How is everyone doing? I'm sure this time of the year brings up all those emotions about not having children...I know it does for me

Please don't hide away ladies, use the support network on here

AFM, all seems ok but still trying to ignore it such a long way to go *big sigh *

XxX

 

[Neversaynever]

Ok I've just trawled my journal for you ....

I quickly typed this up over my lunch break...apologies for typos


Thoughts from a mother....


This was written by a lady who had just lost her baby. Even if you only find one of the sentences that describes how you are feeling; then let it show that you are not alone.

1. DO understand that losing a baby changes people. I am not the same person I was before I experienced it nor will I ever be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to “get back to my old self,” you will be frustrated. I am a woman with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations and values.
2. DO not be afraid to speak to me about my loss and to ask questions or just let me talk about my baby when I feel it is going to help.
3. IF I cry or get emotional when I talk about my baby, I wish you knew that is isn’t because you hurt me. The fact that I have suffered has caused my tears. You have allowed me to cry, and I thank you, the crying and emotional outbursts are healing.
4. DO not pretend that nothing is happening to me, because it is a large part of my life.
5. I will have emotional highs and lows, ups and downs. Do not think that if I have a good day, my grief is over, or that if I have had a bad day, I need psychiatric counselling!
6. DO know that all of the “extreme” grief reactions I am having are in fact very normal. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness and lack of self-confidence are to be expected during and following what is happening.
7. Do understand the physical reactions to grief. I may gain weight or lose weight, sleep all the time or not at all, want to surround myself with loved ones or be alone, all of which may be related to my grief.
8. IF I get withdrawn, just know I am doing my best to cope. Do not try to compel me into being cheerful or tell me that it will be better soon. How do you know?
9. DO understand that it is normal that I may re-examine my faith, values and beliefs throughout this journey. I will recall things I have been taught all of my life, and hopefully come to some new and better understandings to include those with God.
10. IF we hear of friends and family that are p[regnant, do understand that I am truly happy for their blessing and my sadness or perhaps distant behaviour during this time is not personal but just a part of my grief for my own baby.
11. DO not avoid me or stop calling because you don’t know what to say or you are waiting for me to call you. Show me that you care and that I can lean on you.
12. DO not tire of my constant modd swings. I know it’s hard for you to be strong all the time for me, I am trying to protect you too but I can’t control my feelings every minute of the day.
13. DO not treat me as though I am not a ‘mother’. Not having a child in my arms does not mean that I do not understand unconditional love. I have experienced the intensity of maternal love and it has changed me.
14. DO not expect my grief to be over if and when I become pregnant or have another child. With the search to add to my family I will face the same fears, concerns and challenges. I will also never forget the pain of losing this much wanted child.
15. DO pray for me to have the strength and patience and pray that I come out of this a stronger and more loving and compassionate person.


XxX

 

[lexi374]

Hello ladies,

NTAT welcome back, where are you in your cycle now, are you trying at the mo? x

NSN am cheering you on girl, and have been checking on your journal even though ive been quiet

RM so good to hear that things are ok, have been thinking about you, sorry you have been feeling so shit, but thats a great sign x

Lady, RM and any1 else having scans soon good luck!

Patiently you're not out yet hun x

Beach, JW how are you getting on? x

Hope every1 else is ok

AFM the has been and just gone, was quite crampy and heavy this month, went to see a friend last night was great to catch up and have a couple of drinks, am god mother to her little 1, shes very sweet. We let her open her xmas present from me last night, shes 18 mths so doesnt really know any different. I got her an aqua doodle, she loved it, had a great time with it.

Good luck to those in tww and to those that need it! xx

 

[Ladyfog]

Lexi - glad to here you sound so positive even though AF turned up this month. At least you can enjoy Christmas worry free and work on that new years baby

NSN - Hope that lil' bean is still sticking!

My scan's at 9am tomorrow so we'll have an early start but should think I'll be awake early anyway. I'm feeling positive but apprehensive. I'm still full of MS, with this horrible taste in my mouth and sore boobs so I know something's going on in there! I just hope everything is going to plan and there really is a wriggly little baby in there.

I'll let you all know.