A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[NewToAllThis]

Haven't read back yet so apologies to everyone else but sending lots of good luck for tomorrow to Ladyfog.
Hope all is well in there with a nice wriggly baby. Will be thinking of you xx

 

[RaspberryMini]

Looks like its a big Wednesday for both us Ladyfog, I'll be thinking of you too and tomorrow, I'm sure it's all going to be good.

Had a fairly good day today only one lot of actually throwing up which is a massive improvement on the past week or so, still felt rubbish all day.

 

[patiently]

NSN thank you sooo much!! i really appreciate it!! i did read it when i had a look at your journal and i thought it was spot on! i couldnt of put it any better myself! i will copy this and paste it into a word document and give it to people around me because it really seems that they dont understand! i mean even if i'd never gone through a loss i'd still know what could be perceived as being inappropriate! but thank you so much or your understanding! and im so happy things are going well for you!!! thanks or describing your symptoms...fingers crossed i'll be joining you ladies soon!

NTAL hi there have missed you on here so hope you got your internet fixed and you will be here tomorrow...x

Ladyfog hope you have a great scan!

Lexi now AF has gone you can try again!! fingers crossed for you this cycle hun!! good luck! x

AFM done a tesco hpt today at 4 o clock and it was negative so im definately out...i think im about 11 dpo today not really too sure but OH has said that he needs to know next month so will be buying all the ovulation tests the expensive clearblue ones are what i requested hehehe! well i do put in a lot of hard work so think thats a good compromise...Good luck all those in the tww and with scans fast approaching really wish i could get a bfp before xmas but looks highly unlikely now! roll on next month!

 

[Neversaynever]

Patiently..thanks hun...also, Tesco tests are not sensitive...100miu I think? Morrisons and Asda's own are 15 either way, happy POAS whether it be HPT or OPK

to all...

Been having pulloing etc which has made me a nervous and paranoid bunny today hopefully tomorrow will be a better day though

XxX

 

[patiently]

thanks NSN ive been searching the net to find out the exact hpt sensitivity and come people say 25miu others day 50miu or even 100miu...so i think i'll wait...and see!

Hope tomorrow is a more reassuring day for you hun

 

[justwaiting]

patiently, I had a hcg of 35 at 15dpo and at 10dpo there was nothing in my blood let alone the urine test. So keeping my fingers crossed for you.

nsn - I lobe the words from a mother, I read it in your journal but it's so spot on. I hope your feeling well today and a little perkier.

RM - Firstly welcome back rm sounds like you've been having a rough time. Good luck this week making it past your milestone, it is a very nervewracking time I'm sure. Sounds like something is going on inside you with all that sickness. I hope you can manage your xmas dinner, I understand how disappointing it would be to throw that up!!

Lady - good luck with your scan, with time zones i'm not sure wheter it's tomorrow yesterday or right now!!!! I hope you see a wonderful little bean wriggling away. Is this your 12 wk nuchal scan too?

Lexi - I'm sorry af showed but you can now enjoy xmas and hopefully get on with making a new year baby very shortly

To anyone else I missed very sorry but Hi

afm - been feeling really unwell over the weekend, lots of nausea, food isn't appealing at all the though makes my stomach turn. I have a scan tomorrow I'm hoping for good news, if it is this is the furthest I would ever have gotten with a live baby.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Good luck JW... hoping all is well in there x

 

[FloridaGirl21]

AFM im a mess today broke down in my car and all the upset came flooding back from nowhere...took a hpt this morning and surprise surprise BFN, I was upset at the BFN but was so expecting it. If I ovulated when i was supposed to on clomid i'd be 13dpo but if i o'v when i assumed i did i would be 8dpo...i was meant to hold out until sunday but i just couldnt resist and now i dont have any more hpt...so im just going to wait for AF!

What set off my tears originally was a friend of mine (who knows about out ttc challenges) asked if i was attending her cousins baby shower..(who is a day behind what i would've been) so i said im not sure...im not feeling too good as im feeling low but if i improve sure ill come and her response was "ooo stop being jealous...whether ur happy or not you're coming you dont have a choice because you have to support her! and its ok im jealous too your just jealous of her baby bump and wish you could experience what pregnancy feels like" OMG! i broke down instantly how could she say this to me...i told my OH and his response was she probably didnt mean it...but even said as a joke this would still not be funny to someone who has had a loss...even writing this now im struggling to see my screen through the tears...on top of that my friend said she envies me as i dont have children today! yep as you can all imagine im feeling like such a let down and a failure...

Sorry about your car breaking down

and what a horrible thing ofsomeone to say! Especially "friend"!

AFM ladies i think im out...have had AF cramping all day! its like ovulation pain though...and feels like stretching rather than cramping. guess AF will turn up in a few days if she doesnt come by wednesday i'll test i have just ordered some highly sensitive hpts and a basal themometer off the net just now have no idea how to use the themometer but need to know if ive ovualted or not next cycle! how are the rest of you ladies holding up?

Has the cramping continued? I hope not

Lexi - glad to here you sound so positive even though AF turned up this month. At least you can enjoy Christmas worry free and work on that new years baby

NSN - Hope that lil' bean is still sticking!

My scan's at 9am tomorrow so we'll have an early start but should think I'll be awake early anyway. I'm feeling positive but apprehensive. I'm still full of MS, with this horrible taste in my mouth and sore boobs so I know something's going on in there! I just hope everything is going to plan and there really is a wriggly little baby in there.

I'll let you all know.

I hope your scan goes well, Ladyfog!

 

[Ladyfog]

Hi everyone.

Well, I've had a shit day so far. Went in for my scan - good news is that baby is wriggling around in there with it little heart beating away, bad news is that it has a 6mm nuchal fold (normal is about 1.5mm) which indicate high chance of a chromosomal issue like Downs, Turners or Edwards syndrome.

After my scan I've had 2 blood tests, seen a consultant who was able to perform a CVS straight away to take some cells from the placenta and an anti D injection as I'm Rh negative. I'm home now feeling a bit sore but OK.

All going well I'll have the results on Wednesday or Thursday so we'll know if our little bean is going to be OK or can start to prepare for the worst. I'm hoping that we beat the odds, but even if the chromosome tests come back clear we will then face more tests for heart defects as the nuchal measurement is also linked with that. Why can't everything go OK for me, just for once?

 

[Applejack1]

Oh no ladyfrog! Thinking of you! Stay strong. You never really know, all may work out just fine so think positive thoughts!!!! Xo

 

[lexi374]

Thinking of you lady xxx

JW hope you had a good scan xxx

 

[RaspberryMini]

Ladyfog, sorry to hear you've had a bad day. Positive mental attitude is needed now, everything could turn out just fine. I'll be sending positive and good vibes your way

 

[Neversaynever]

lady...I am so sorry that this wasn't the news you wanted to hear I am glad you won't be kept waiting for the results too long. and we are all here with you sweetie

JW....good luck at your scan too

RM...isn't yours soon too?

Where are all the TTCers? Are you all ok?

and hope ladies

XxX

 

[RaspberryMini]

lady...I am so sorry that this wasn't the news you wanted to hear I am glad you won't be kept waiting for the results too long. and we are all here with you sweetie

JW....good luck at your scan too

RM...isn't yours soon too?

Where are all the TTCers? Are you all ok?

and hope ladies

XxX

Mines the 28th, so another week yet. Hopefully it'll fly by being Christmas this weekend.

Hope you're doing ok

 

[NewToAllThis]

Ladyfog - I'm so sorry hun. Hoping everything comes back ok I really am. Cannot imagine how you must be feeling right now xxxx

Sorry I've been away for a bit, been busy housetraining Milo and I'm happy to say its going well.
Hope he doesnt prove me wrong now!

He's adorable and I love him to bits. He's a feisty little boy but loves his cuddles (which I am more than willing to give him)

Am full of cold now and can't wait til I finish on Friday.
Looking forward to nice relaxing winter walks with DH and my Milo
My little furry bundle has given me a purpose again and I feel almost normal after what has been a horrendous couple of years.

I did something last week which I am extremely proud of too...
A girl I work with emailed me on fb to tell me she was pregnant. She wanted to tell me as she was concerned how I would react when it came out eventually.
I was pleased she had thought of my feelings and duly congratulated her.

A day or so later, she started bleeding and arranged an early scan.
She mentioned to me that she would have to go on her own as her husband had work commitments that he really could not get out of.
I told her that there was no way that she could go through it alone and that I would be more than happy to go with her. She said she was fine and I said, well the offer is there.

About half an hour later, she text me and asked if I would go with her. I of course said Yes.
Then the panic set in. But I knew I had to be strong for her, so off I went.
The memories came flooding back as I held her hand in that room, but somewhere deep inside, I felt strong. Stronger than I've felt in a long time. This thing will not beat me, I know that now. I cannot and will not give up.

I held her as she cried when the scan showed nothing, an early miscarriage. I comforted her as best I could and vowed to be there for her whenever and wherever and I remain true to my word.

It has done me good in ways I could not have imagined.

Sorry for the selfish post. I just needed to get all that down.

Hi to everyone xxx

 

[Tweak0605]

Lady - I'm so sorry for your shit day. I'm praying everything is okay with LO

NTAT - You're an amazing friend. I'm glad you could be there for her when she needed it most.

Hope everyone is well

I'm just goin' with the flow still. Thinking I ovulated Saturday, so hoping we caught it. We'll see how my temp is in the a.m. but if it rises, FF will give me dashed CH's for Saturday. So praying for my Christmas/New Years miracle!

 

[justwaiting]

Lady - i'm sorry the scan showed a possible issue, Plenty of times I have heard of this and everything has been fine. Hopefully you will be too I am thinking of you and praying for good news. I am glad that baby is measuring well and wriggling away.

NTAT - what a wonderful friend you are, I was almost in tears reading your story (damn hormones) but it was lovely hearing how all the pain you have been thru meant you were better able to help someone else, that lady will be forever grateful that she had someone who understood not just sympathised with her. Your a strong woman!

good luck to all the testers o and hpt this coming week hoping for some xmas bfp's and bding!!!

afm - scan is in 2 hours, I'm freaking out I have never made it through my 6th week with a baby alive, my husband has never attended a scan with a live baby on the screen. I hope for the first time ever instead of carrying me out of the room, he will be beaming from ear to ear. My symptoms are all still there which is promising but I can't help but think back to every other scan I have had in the last year being bad and the pain as they say I'm sorry. Hoping it'll be ok

 

[NewToAllThis]

JW. Hope your scan went well. I have never seen a heartbeat and would give anything to see that. Praying all is well xxx

 

[Ladyfog]

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts . I have woken up feeling positive and I going to cherish the next couple of days in case they are the last I have thinking this LO will be sticking around. I'll deal with bad news if and when. I can't think about that just yet.

JW - hope your scan went OK? my 8wk scan this time was the first time I'd ever seen a HB and it was amazing. I hope you get the same experience.

NTAT - your story brought tears to my eyes. You are an amazing person and are right to be proud of yourself .

NTAT - I had a kind of similar situation at work too (although not half as heroic!). Just before my 2nd MMC a colleague of mine announced she was pregnant. She was so excited and vocal about it but after my MC I found it hard to deal with so I talked to her about what had happened to me. We had a lovely talk and I said I'm sure everything would be fine for her. Well, that weekend she had a bleed and when she came in after the w/e and said they couldn't get a clear picture of anything on the U/S and she was going to EPAU I just knew that she would be facing bad news (she was meant to be 10wks and was still expecting to see her baby on a better scan). The 2nd scan showed she had had a MMC at 6wks just like me. I had given her my mobile number and she texted me while she was off work and a friendship began from there. I was able to to talk to her about it and help her get through it. It made me feel stronger to be helping someone else. We're now firm friends and are supporting each other through out TTC journey so I suppose sometimes good things come out of bad situations.

Good luck on Thursday RM - hope you have the best Christmas present ever!

Tweak - hope you caught that egg!

 

[lexi374]

NTAT you did a great thing there for that lady, no one knows what a miscarriage feels like until they have had 1 x

My good friend at work became pregnant after my 2nd mc, i was of course pleased for her, although i felt sad for myself. We often had lunch together and shed talk about the baby or being pregnant, i did find this really hard but listened and tried to be a good friend. Then around 10 weeks she said shed had a little blood, i told her just cos my luck was shit didnt mean hers would be too.

Anyway she got a scan and baby had died the week before, she was in bits. I was glad to say i was able to support her as much as i could and i think it helped her having some1 who knew what she was going through. She said that she hadnt realised what i went through, and even though id had 2 mc she never thought it would happen to her!

Unfortunately ive now had 3 and she has had 2, at least we have each other to talk to about it....

JW hope you had a good scan

Lady praying you get some good news

Tweak hope you caught that egg!

RM, NSN hope you are ok

Patiently any news? Did you say hubbys bday is tom same as my dh? Anything planned?

Hi to every1 else x