A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Neversaynever]

Thanks patiently how're you doing?

Everyone else survive all the food and stuff?

Hoping that you all managed to enjoy the day overall...I'm sure there were many quiet moments thinking about what should have been

XxX

 

[Applejack1]

Indeed there were nsn! 2 times the thoughts here.

 

[patiently]

NSN im ok i guess on my second round of clomid and i feel anxious already i really want our bfp this month as it was a year ago i found out i was pg for the first time...felt really down about tbh but had a fantastic xmas nonetheless how are you feeling? good i hope....
x

 

[Neversaynever]

AJ...my thoughts were I should have a three month old baby...ok a 28 week bump...maybe a 10 week bump...I have a 5 week bump and a history of loss so not getting excited

Patiently...hang in there hun

Lexi...ready for the bonkathon?

Afm, doing ok, trying to keep busy. Today is the anniversary of my very first BFP and can't believe how quick the year has gone but with all the heartache that has happened along with it

Scan two weeks tomorrow (if I get that far obviously)

Hope everyone is doing ok

XxX

P.S. Lady...any more results?

RM..when is your scan hun?

XxX

 

[RaspberryMini]

Hey everyone, hope everyone enjoyed Christmas. We're back home now, can't wait to sleep in my own bed!

How's everyone doing? Hope all the newly pregnant are feeling ok and good luck to those starting new cycles or in the dreaded TWW.

My MS has subsided a little the past few days mostly just to bouts of nausea and one bit of actual throwing up usually in the evening, I'm grateful it's subsided but it makes me panic!

My scan is tomorrow morning at 1135. I'm so scared and not feeling positive. I've never been to a scan and seen anything positive before. Not sure I'll sleep that well tonight.

I'll update you all as soon as I'm home.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Sending you tons of positive vibes for tomorrow RM. Really hope it goes well for you. Will be thinking of you xx

I should have a 9 month old or be hitting V Day tomorrow with my twins. Instead I have nothing
Not even AF to reassure me that everything is back to normal.
12 weeks on Thursday since my surgery. I had crippling period pains all Christmas Eve and Day but nothing. All gone now. I'm not getting too worried though, this happened last time and bloods showed I was still ovulating even with no AF.

Chilling tonight with a beer. Got a friend coming in the morning and bringing Costa coffee
Gosh, I'm easily pleased!!

 

[lexi374]

Good luck for tomorrow RM!

Nsn glad all is going ok with you, dates are hard esp this time of year. Yes the bonkathon has started kind of... have def over indulged this xmas and seem to have had a stomach ache since last friday that is getting worse each day, so bd is the last thing on my mind but needs must hey!

Detox needed for jan i think and maybe a little exercise!!

Ive forgotten where everyone is in their cycle anyone testing soon??

CD14 today for me, prob ov friday ish i think.

to all hope you had a great xmas xxx

 

[Ladyfog]

Hi everyone,

Good luck this morning RM - hope everything goes well.

Lexi - good luck with the BD marathon. BDing is great exercise so you could kill 2 birds with 1 stone

I had a lovely Christmas. Christmas dinner was a great success and I've had a good time hanging out with my family. This year more than ever before I have just been glad to share it with people that love me - it's shitty times that make you realise what's really important. Sorry if that sounds really cheesy!

It seems that quite a few of us had our first BFP at this time last year (my first was on Christmas Eve). I'm thinking of you all. I've tried to turn it around to be a happy memory - it really was a fantastic moment in my life and even though I do not have my baby, I still treasure that memory. I just hope we all our babies finally in 2012.

Having my first lazy day today then back to entertaining tomorrow! Feeling a bit icky today as I think I've worn myself out with a few late nights (well, 10.30pm!) so going to have a rest today.

 

[patiently]

sorry for the rant ladies but im just p'd off and stressed out! im on my second round of clomid cd 6 at the mo and im taking it 3-7...but the first two days i took epo as its supposed to help with cm then i read that you should not take clomid and epo as it alters your hormones so now i feel like i have just ruined my chances of conceiving this cycle...im so frustrated..i shouldnt have to go through this i should of already had my baby or be having my baby! argh! i just want to scream...then on top of all the stress of ttc im also worried about mc so you try and try and try to get a bfp and when you do you just worry...i honestly feel to throw the towel in because im just sick and tired of all the hard work...
what have i done that was so wrong to deserve this...
sorry ladies rant over...

 

[RaspberryMini]

We have a positive scan ladies

Baby measured right on 12w1d and was jumping around like a mad thing! I was shaking I was so happy.

It still hasn't sunk in really but I just feel like a huge weight has been lifted from me.

 

[Ladyfog]

Great news RM!

Patiently - you're allowed to rant and listening to you is what we're all here for! You just have to take each stage at a time and you're doing the best you can. I've never used Clomid but even if it takes a while for you to get used to taking it, it will be worth it in the end. Don't worry about MC - it's something we can do nothing about it's just one of the things that comes with the territory You will worry (I do!) but just use your energies to get your BFP first - it won't be long . I'm sure everything will be OK in the end.

 

[lexi374]

Yay for a great scan RM!!!


Patiently im sorry i dont know much about clomid, but i tried epo before and i dont think it did much for me. I feel your sadness and frustration though... i never imagined this whole thing could be so hard or take so long, it's not fair x

 

[patiently]

Thank you Lexi and Ladyfog for your kind supporting words...i think my younger sister is expecting to top it all off...she's eighteen and has been with her partner for less than three months and i think she's having a baby...if she is then im happy for her...but its so frustrating that its so easy for some people and not others argh...im trying to be as positive as possible but its so hard...last time i was getting frustrated after my first mc my OH said "baby be patient because God is kind" these words stuck with me and i fell pregnant that month...i was just relaxed and i truly believed my OH words...i cant seem to find words that reassure me like that and i wish i just wish that i could find some positivity in this whole journey...just some words for strength...

RM congrats on your scan...x x x x

 

[patiently]

Thank you Lexi and Ladyfog for your kind supporting words...i think my younger sister is expecting to top it all off...she's eighteen and has been with her partner for less than three months and i think she's having a baby...if she is then im happy for her...but its so frustrating that its so easy for some people and not others argh...im trying to be as positive as possible but its so hard...last time i was getting frustrated after my first mc my OH said "baby be patient because God is kind" these words stuck with me and i fell pregnant that month...i was just relaxed and i truly believed my OH words...i cant seem to find words that reassure me like that and i wish i just wish that i could find some positivity in this whole journey...just some words for strength...

RM congrats on your scan...x x x x

 

[Neversaynever]

RM... fantastic news can we have a pic? Maybe put it behind a spoiler?

Patiently...massive hun. TTC is such a hard journey, TTCAL is even harder. TTCAL's is cruel, unfair and heartbreaking. PAL is always going to be hard and it hasn't gotten easier for me at all sorry that you are struggling...we have all been there and all go through it at different points too, that's what this thread was set up for hun be kind to yourself

Lexi...woop woop for the shagathon

AJ...how're you doing?

Tweak..you still around hun?

Where has everyone gone?!

XxX

 

[Applejack1]

I am here nsn. Just had a argument with hubby about how a 3rd mc would in his mind put me over the edge and that after 9 mOnths I should not still be grieving the last mc. Am I wrong to totally disagree here?

 

[Neversaynever]

AJ...totally agree that he's talking out his arse if he were to read these forums he'd see that your emotions are perfectly normal and understandable, he'd see that by being on here, you're not hiding yourself away and trying to contain your feelings. Have you tried printing off that post about thoughts from a mother? My OH always worried about how I'll cope with another loss but I will....I'd go through it again and again to try and get our rainbow baby. He says all this because he is scared, scared of how he feels too and it must be hard for them watching us go throught each loss. Big hun and keep the communication open

XxX

 

[Tweak0605]

RM - Fantastic news!! So happy for you!!

Lexi - Hope you have lots of BDing and get that new BFP for 2012!

Patiently - Hang in there hun I always feel like I wanna throw in the towel after AF comes. It gets frustrating trying every single month, doing everything right, and nothing good comes from it. We'll get our BFPs again

Lady - Glad you had a good Christmas

NSN - I'm still around. Find it hard to keep up, so I feel bad coming on and updating about myself, or not getting everyone

AJ - Your DH is definitely in the wrong. You have every right to have emotions about your losses, no matter how long ago it was. They were something that was a part of you, and they will be forever in your heart. Yes, the grief gets easier, but you will always have it.

I'm not doing much. Took a random OPK on Christmas Eve, because of little ovulation symptoms I was getting. Low and behold it was positive. It was a few days late (CD29) but we still caught it. Got positives for 3 days, and just decided on every other day BDing. We've tried everything else, so hopefully this is the key. Hoping we conceived our little Christmas miracle baby!

 

[FloridaGirl21]

patiently, hunnie.. I know how tough this journey is.. People getting pregnant w/o trying, etc. It seems so unfair at times. But you will get your forever baby soon. This is your 2nd cycle on Clomid right? FXed it's your last

 

[lexi374]

Tweak good luck hun you are already into your tww, fx for ya x

AJ you are not wrong to still be grieving your first loss, i think sometimes men dont get it or its easier for them to move on and look to the future, where we are still thinking about what couldve/shoudve been. Or maybe they just think that they have to be like that to help us move forward? I duno... we are very different species sometimes....

Patiently what makes you think your sis is pregnant?
These things do seem to happen when we are most relaxed but its so hard when you want it right now. At the end of 2010 dh and i said what a shit year, the next 1 has to be better but here we are another mc this year and still no baby or pregnancy!

But we cant give up ladies so here's hoping 2012 is gonna be our year!

xxx