A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Applejack1]

Hey girls!!

Welcome August. The girls are right this is a great thread to be a part of. I know its helping me.

Yeah Lady for a clear scan!

NSN I am still here and ok! How are you doing?

Anyone know where Beach is these days?

Patiently - The posts from others regarding your situation have been so helpful even for me. I think we stress over all of this far too much and put our husbands in a situation where they get preformance anxiety. I never opk or test anymore. As a matter of fact the two times we did get preggers I can't even remember that months fertile period as I have no record. I think this is the best way to go! It's hard I know. Just one more challenge I guess.

AFM - Finished my last dose of my first round of clomid last night. Did not sleep well Wednesday and Thursday night. Had weird dreams (which I always suffer from, night terrors) and woke up anxious. Like panicky. So spent most of Thursday evening reading about side effects since DH was out of town overnight, on the internet. BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!! Went out last night for dinner and was dreading, and fearing bedtime but after a glass of wine ended up sleeping very well last night. Don't have to take any pills tonight so maybe I was just reading into it way too much and fearing what was going to happen. I have not had any terrible hot flushes from it, no headaches and or pain. Is something going to change between now and the time I ovulate side effect wise or prehaps I don't want to know!!! I am suppose to take clomid eveyother month so none next cycle for me but I am wondering if I will react the same way next time. I hope because it has not been so bad so far anyway. We are suppose to get busy cycle day 12-18 everyother day. I am on cycle day 7 today. So that would mean next week we dance. DH is down in the basement working and I just went down to put a tool back and I smelled cigar. He does this every now and then. Seeing we are suppose to dance next week it pisses me off that he is filling his body with shit when he should be doing everything he can to protect his body! But patiently as much as this pisses me off and I want to rant to him about how I just spent 100 dollars on a fertility pill this month I am going to keep my mouth shut and trust that it will happen when it happens. Give and take, give and take!!!!

Hi to eveyone else!

 

[Neversaynever]

AJ...beat him with a big stick after the rudies I'm glad you had some comfort from the stresses we all go through to a certain degree about performing at the right time. For me, it turned into 'whatever' I was timing it to perfection and STILL not getting pregnant so f**k it

AFM...more consistent symptoms more than I've had in any of my pregnancies so far

and to all

XxX

 

[Ladyfog]

AJ - still got my scan on 23rd, but the rest of the chromosome testing has come back clear it means that the only potential issue due to nuchal fold could be a heart defect, but hopefully that could be fixed. I'm pretty sure baby is still going strong as I still have symptoms and every day that goes past means that he/she is getting stronger!

NSN - Yay for symptoms! It's a good sign that HGC is obviously high this time. Long may it continue!

Just to let you all know I think Beach may be joining is again shortly as I she had a MC at the start of the new year . I read about it on one of the PAL forums, and PM'd he to say she'd be welcome back here when she's ready and we'd be ready with lots of hugs.

 

[Neversaynever]

Beach... truly cruel

Lady...means sod all to me unfortunately, had NO symptoms with Furry and all was on track at 7 week scan, HB stopped at almost 9 weeks. Had more symptoms with the empty sac in first pregnancy I'm just a complicated fucker

XxX

 

[August79]

How come the Dr doesn't want you to try again? Do they know why you MC'd? In the UK we are only tested after 3 as it is thought of as quite normal to have 2 MCs (although it doesn't feel very 'normal' does it?!). Here I am, with hopefully a successful pregnancy after 2 MMCs so I guess it might be worth trying anyway??

The first m/c was just kind of chalked up to "Well these things happen" Since having the second m/c my doctor is being more conservative. The loses happen roughly around the same time frame at six weeks. She is not sure what is causing them. We had monitoring with this recent one and my progesterone was low (given oral supplements) and my hcg never doubled like it should. We did see a heart beat at six weeks but the next week I had a bit of spotting and the ultrasound showed the baby passed apparently right after we had saw the heart beat. I also measured a week behind of where should be based on my LMP but I was okay with that because I do not have standard 28 day cycles more like 33-35. I know that most testing doesn't happen until after three so I'm thankful she does want to perform them. At the same time, I worry that they will find nothing or that what they do find will be something where we would need IVF,so expensive

Part of me wants to try again and see what happens. Another much larger part says that I can't handle this again. I know that they are those that have two loses and no testing and goes on to healthy pregnancy (yay LadyFog) but a friend of mine had 3 m/c and testing and it was determined she had clotting issues, problems absorbing folic acid, and an infection. She would have never carried a pregnancy to term without medical intervention.

All these thoughts make my head go round and round. I also feel like time is against me. I know I am not that old but will turn 33 this August.

Sorry for the rambling, I guess I just need to get all of this out of my head.

 

[Tweak0605]

Oh Beach, I'm so sorry.

 

[Bells n Bump]

Hi ladies, hope you are all well, this thread has moved so fast in the last couple of days I cant keep up, lol!!

Just wanted to update, I couldnt last until the weekend so friday morning I took another asda cheapy and got a lovely dark line. So as I have a poas-addiction I also did a digi saturday morning and got pregnant 2-3, which is bang on so it gives me more confidence that this time its in the right place. Next step - see heart beat, so Im at the docs in the morning and hopefully get an early scan around 6 1/2 weeks, that should be ok to heart beat shouldnt it? Ive never seen one before so Im really excited we have everything crossed in anticipation!! Xxx

 

[Neversaynever]

Bells..fab news personally, I'd wait till 7 weeks. Reason being that at 6-7 weeks you may not see the HB and the worry starts...at 7 weeks, IF there is no HB then there's no "come back in a week to see if there's any change" if that makes sense?

That's just my opinion though

Happy Sunday all

XxX

 

[lexi374]

Beach if you are lurking im so sorry hun x

Bells thats fantastic news

August 79, im August 78 a year ahead of you None of my pregnancies developed past 6 weeks although have gone further due to being missed, all rpl testing came back normal, but i paid to have a womb biopsy and it found i have high nk cells so this was prob killing the pregnancy, i will be on steroids next time.

AFM 9/10 dpo was gonna test this morning with an ic but im going shopping with a friend and seeing a bfn is gonna put me in a bad mood for the rest of the day! Will test tom if temp is up, if its down i know im out. Will catch up with all you lovely ladies later, hope you had a great weekend

 

[Neversaynever]

Lexi...happy shopping any SS?

XxX

 

[lexi374]

Thanks hun, no just had really bad backache for a few days but i get that before af anyway so... x

 

[Neversaynever]

Well I hope it's wrong and you are up the duff

XxX

 

[Ladyfog]

Hope you have a good day shopping Lexi! I'm a fan of testing as late as possible but if you're temping I guess you'll know anyway! Good luck and back ache could mean anything!

NSN - you are complicated aren't you! It's just about taking one day at a time sometimes isn't it

August - It's a such a difficult decision about whether to try again. I suppose I had faith that my previous MCs were just bad luck and that I could have a healthy pregnancy (fingers crossed!). My MMCs were at different times though so I believe that my babies died for different reasons. Please don't worry about stuff that hasn't happened yet like needing IVF though - there are so many problems that can be easy to fix I hope you'r Dr can give you some guidance so you can make the right choice, and if you get testing, they can do this for you asap.

Bells - yay for the strong line and digi! Try to relax and enjoy the moment now! I had a scan at 8 wks LMP but actually measured 7+4 so if you have a scan at 6 weeks there's a risk you could be a bit early and it'll raise more questions than it answers. I'd recommend waiting until weeks 7-8 to make sure you definitely get to see a heartbeat if you can.

Beach if you're lurking.

Hope everyone has a good Sunday. I'm back to work tomorrow, but actually don't mind going back. I feel like it's the countdown to the 23rd! DH has a horrible cold and I made him sleep in the guest room as I really don't want to get anything if I can't take any drugs!

 

[ayclobes]

Well..im on cd7 and the bleeding has really slowed down..like its basically the end of af..but i'll know for sure later today or tomorrow. I think we'll start ttc this month and see what happens. Before, when we had been ttc..i did not tell dh when i was due to O, i just told him i got smiley faces on my digi and we werent so concentrated to bd just to make a baby..that must have been it though..

 

[lexi374]

As expected temp drop this morning, will be expecting tomorrow. Back to ttc i dont know what more we can do, we BD everyday for 4-5 days during my fertile window!


and to all x

 

[Ladyfog]

Boo to the temp drop and the turning up soon Lexi. You can't do anything else other than keep trying! Remember that in only 2 weeks or so it'll be time to try again

God luck AYC - hope this is your month

Hope everyone has a good week. First day back to work today - it feels like I've been off for ages! I've been kind of embracing my little bump for the last 2 weeks but time to hide it away again! I'm going to wait until after the 23rd to tell everyone.

 

[Tweak0605]

Aw Lex, I'm sorry

Lady - GL at work!

Hope everyone is well!


Took my last Clomid this morning, not it's a waiting game. Had wicked hot flashes and that's about it. I guess the good thing is that I was taking it in the winter, so being hot wasn't that bad lol. We'll start BDing every other day probably at the end of the week.

 

[BeachChica]

Hey girls! :wave:
Happy New Year!
Well I'm back. Just had an AWFUL MC #4 last week!! Ugh! What a way to start the New Year!!! I am chalking this up to 2011 though because I actually started spotting on New Years Eve.

Hope you girls have been doing well. I will need to catch back up on this thread over the next few days. I went on a much needed cruise mid December and then with the holidays I just kept putting off catching back up on the posts.

I am sure I will be waitng for a couple weeks for test results to see what went wrong but the specialist I was seeing still feels as though all of these have been been bad luck. They can't seem to find anything in my testing that would cause these miscarriages to keep happening.

 

[Ladyfog]

Good to have you back Beach although I know it's not in the happiest of circumstances.

I think it's a really positive thing that the specialist thinks they're just bad luck - all your MCs have happened at such different stages haven't they? To me that means that there's every chance your next pregnancy will be a healthy one

You sound as positive as you can at the moment, which shows how strong and resilient you are .

 

[lexi374]

Hi Beach sorry you are going through this again

Tweak good luck with the clomid

Patiently how are you, did you get any more bd in?

NSN good luck for wednesday

Hows everyone else doing?? x