A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Bumblebee2408]

Thank you Neversaynever!

Apparently it was
25.7.12 - 42
27.7.12- 56

Unsure what it was today until I go in for my bloods on Tuesday again and they will tell me then as they don't like to let you know over the phone. I don't know we'll get our answer in the end I suppose
xxxx

 

[Neversaynever]

Well demand the betas until you see the numbers doubling or dropping in large amounts. I really hope you get some answers

There would be no point doing an US as the levels are not high enough so push for bloods and ask if you can call for Tuesday's numbers too.



XxX

 

[Emmediva]

Oh Bumble, I'm sorry your numbers haven't doubled I hope you get definate answers on your Tuesday appointment. It's so hard when you're stuck in limbo, it's better to know either way how things are going. I'm sorry your doctors aren't being as informative as they should! When I had my chemical in March my numbers went from like 38 or so to 16 so there was no denying what was happening. I hope you get answers soon. Thinking of you

 

[hopestruck]

Bumble I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. I am ever hopeful for you that things turn around. It really is cruel. I understand your frustration as I had my 3rd loss in a row this past April, I was 9 weeks but baby stopped growing at 7 1/2 weeks. At the time when I first started to bleed my betas were in the 4000s, which my doctor said were far below what they should have been even at 7 1/2 weeks. So I would say your numbers are low. if I were you I would definitely continue pushing for more bloodwork and then for blood testing for any clotting/immune issues. It's not fair to go through so much at such a young age. I know how it feels as I am 25 (well, 26 in August) and never thought I'd have to deal with 3 losses at such a young age. There is hope though, please dont be discouraged. Most women who have recurrent pregnancy loss (over 70-80% according to the medical literature) will go on to have successful pregnancies.

Anyway, I know this is all probably overwhelming and upsetting for you... I just wanted to put my experience out there and to offer a few thoughts. I am truly hoping that your betas will turn around and for this to be your sticky baby. But know that either way, there are women here who have been through this before and who will be here for you... No matter what. Xoxox

 

[Misswish]

Bumblebee I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. It's so hard not knowing what's actually going on. I hope you get some definite answers on tues. thinking of you & hoping things turn around & get better for you. Last year in may when I had the 3rd miscarriage they couldn't tell me for sure what was happening but my numbers kept dropping & I was having bleeding & pain so thought it probably was again. It's such a frustrating & heartbreaking time being in limbo like that. Take care of yourself

I feel bad saying about my scan. It went well & everything seems to be progressing how it should. One twin measured 12wks4days& the other twin measured 12wks1day. Their heartbeats looked good as well. We are very relieved.
Sending hugs to everyone that needs them.

 

[Nicki123]

Misswish that is great news about your scan. Don't feel bad about it, this thread is a real mix of good news and bad news, that's just was PAL is like and those of us going through a crappy time need the good news too to keep us feeling positive.

Soop and Wookie, thinking of you both today with your various scans. You must both be feeling anxious, let us know how it goes.

Never I hope the blood pressure is settling down.

Thurl - big It's so damn hard.

Monro, sorry you find yourself here and sorry for your losses

Beach and Hope, how is everything going since your BFPs? Beach I hope you haven't had any more spotting.

Bumblebee - big to you too. You must be feeling crappy, not helped by being messed around by Drs. I think we are in the same boat. I have watched my pg tests get progressively lighter and lighter each day. I did a frer 4 days again when the line was 'ok', it got less and less and today it's a real squinter. I am 95% sure it's a chemical. I don't want to sound pessimistic but being realistic has kept my sane the last 2.5 years of this ttc journey! After 3 mmcs i find it better to keep my hopes low (in the hope that one day I'll get a lovely surprise) than to raise my hopes too high and keep having them dashed.

I felt from the outset this pg wasn't right so called the dr on Friday to arrange a blood test. The 'helpful' receptionist kept saying I couldn't have a test without seeing the dr first and they had no apts for 5 days. Great! They seem to think we have endless spare time on our hands. I finally managed to persuade her (so I thought) to get the dr to call me as I really don't need to see him to explain what's going on. She said he'd call sometime on Friday but he didn't. Grrrr, so annoyed. I called on sat but obv the surgery was closed. So will be Grumpily calling them as soon as they open today. I have never had a blood test for hcg but have a feeling it's not going to be easy and am pretty sure AF will turn up before they get their arses into gear.

Am feeling pretty ok though. Slightly dissapointed that the healthy diet, vits and acupuncture haven't been a miracle cure, but I think deep down I always thought it was going to take a few more tries. After my mega long break I'm just glad I got pg relatively quickly. It's been a year since my last bfp and it was nice to see that line again if only briefly ...

Hope everyone else is well, sorry to anyone I've missed, it's so early!

 

[hopestruck]

Miss wish, congratulations!! This board is for all kinds of news, good and bad, and I am sooooo thrilled to hear that things are going wonderfully with your twins!! Amazing!!

Nicky, don't count yourself out just yet! I honestly think your lines are great! What doesn't feel right about the pregnancy? Hopefully you'll be able to get some serial beta numbers sooner than later. How irritating. I was lucky that I booked my appt a couple weeks in advance just in CASE I was pregnant (would have cancelled it otherwise), as I'm sure it would have been the same deal with my doctors office. They have so many "rules" for getting things done, it's seriously irritating. And, I like my doctor, but he does seem to "forget" to do some things he says he's going to do. He's supposed to call me tomorrow with my betas and I'd honestly be surprised if he remembered.

AFM, feeling a little bit preggo, right on track! Fatigue has set in big time, bbs starting to grow more sore day by day, and I'm getting a nauseated/low blood sugar feeling morning/mid-day which is a characteristic pregnancy sign for me. I had a non-darker HPT scare (same shade as previous test) on Saturday, but then when I did my 2nd Cb digi the dates bumped up from 1-2 (on 14dpo) to 2-3. So, maybe just a weird test? Hoping so. Decided to throw them all out and stop torturing myself either way.

 

[Nicki123]

Hi hope struck - lots of things don't feel right. With my other three pgs I've had a relatively early bfp and watched the bfp line get darker and darker. With this one I got a later bfp than usual, and have watched it get lighter and lighter every day from 14dpo to 20dpo. The pics i posted were the best that they got. Even on the frer (which I got the best line on) it is hardly there today. The swollen boobs are back to normal and my spots have cleared up. I'm just not feeling it.

I will let you be positive for me but I just don't want to risk it!

I like your approach of making a dr apt 'just in case' - I think I'll do that next time!!

I'm glad you are feeling pg now, I think this is going to be a lucky one for you x

 

[Sooperhans]

Thank you ladies, it's been an emotional weekend but today's the day. I re read the scan letter and there's a line that says book an appt 1 week from your scan for results. I'm sorry but if they don't tell me what's going on today then I'm going to lose it. They must know as they are doing it. Hope so.

Bumble big hugs and I hope this week brings you answers, hopefully the numbers will rise.

Nicki is there an epu near you? They have really helped me in the past, sometimes you don't even need your doc to refer you. I hope the tests aren't a true indication and that everything is ok.

Never I hope you are also better re blood pressure x

Misswish, fantastic news hun x

Beach and Lexi how are you?

Good luck emme and wook with your scans.


I'll report back later xxx

 

[Nicki123]

Oh Soop I hope they give you answers today. It's just a week to them but that seems like forever when you're the one waiting.

I think AF is on its way - have had v light crampy feelings in my tummy this morning, just went to the loo and def pinky red cm ... I expected it and would rather it happens sooner rather than later. Even though i feel ok i am going to a funeral today and think It is going to set me off, I expect to be a blubbering mess by the end of the day.

 

[Sooperhans]

Thank you Nicki, I hope so too - they have it down as routine to them but It's so not to me!

Oh hun I hope it isn't but sometimes your instincts know best. If it is the case then it's so shit for you, I'm so sorry to hear it and what with a funeral too. I'm thinking of you today, let me know whet the day brings for you. Lots of hugs to you xxx

 

[wookie130]

Nicki- I too hope you're wrong about AF...if that's the case, I'll send you endless ...

Bumble-As much as I hate to say it, I agree with Never that it doesn't look good. The numbers are low, but what's more troubling is the small rises...you need to continue having your betas drawn to rule out an ectopic pregnancy. I'm praying for you.

Soop- Good luck to you today!

AFM- It's 3:52 in the a.m., and I'm a bundle of nerves! My scan is later today at 1:00 p.m., and I hope and pray it'll be good news for once! I'll update as soon as it's finished, either way.

 

[Sooperhans]

Aw poor thing wook, I know it must be so on your mind. Look forward to hopefully hearing good news xx

Well the scan woman was pretty silent and let me babble on....I said to husband, 'I don't like the look of that', referring to a mass she was circling on the screen. She didn't say anything, then I saw her label it as left ovary! She waited until the end and said all normal. So that's good, there can't be anything big as it would've shown up. She sais discuss the rest with my doc, so I'm going to try and get a ring on the day appt next mon as no pre books at all. Good news though

Hope everyone else gets on well. Dh and I said maybe ntnp for Aug, then spend a few weeks in the gym to get some fitness back. And then on holiday in Sep to go for it. I'm going to let it all mull about in my mind for a few days xxx

 

[BeachChica]

Hi girls, just popping in for a quick hello..

Bumble – I am so sorry for what you are going though. It’s so hard but the fact that it’s happening this early will helpfully be able to get you to your next cycle sooner, rather than having to wait.

Misswish – congrats on your scan! Such great news!!!

Soop and Wookie – can’t wait to hear about your scans today!

Nicki – hope you get to talk to the doc today and that everything will be OK. I don’t have any symptoms either and many girls have said the same thing and have had successful pregnancies.

AFM – the bleeding seems to have stopped. I had a slight tinge of color yesterday in the progesterone that comes out (sorry TMI) I have beta again today so I am anxious to hear what they are tomorrow. Just hoping for the best.

 

[Sooperhans]

Beach I hope for the best with you too....let us know what they say. Scan comment above your post, all normal x

 

[hopestruck]

Oh Nicki, I'm sorry you feel AF coming on you could still be wrong about this one, but if you aren't then the good news (there really is some) is that your body is doing the right thing and dealing with this on its own. I definitely fear that I am in the category of "super fertility" characterized by a very short time to pregnancy (usually within the 1st or 2nd month for me) and recurrent miscarriages - researchers are speculating this is due to a "non-fussy uterus" that can't differentiate between the good and not so good eggs/blasts. It's scary because there's nothing you can do to prevent, usually it just corrects itself on its own. So, all this to say that perhaps your body is doing the proper thing and "evacuating" the ones that wouldn't have made it anyway. I know that is probably not very encouraging at the moment, but the good news is that if this doesn't pan out, you can try again right away. Let us know how things shape up.

Wookie, I will be sending you all my best thoughts, wishes and prayers for your scan today! I feel this is going to be your sticky baby. Longs of to you.

Sooper, glad to hear your scan turned up clear. Even though there are no answers it is really the best possible outcome! I had a similar experience with my bloodwork, all came back perfect and normal. Was frustrated but the doctor said to be glad - he's seen cases where some women have had this testing and found out they would never be able to have kids. So to that. Do you and your DH have a gameplan for what you think you want to do next?

Beach, glad to hear the spotting has eased up! I "cleaned out" the crinone the other day and found a couple of blood tinged specs. Really small, like the size of a pen point kinda thing. So I'm not too worried but it did make me think of you. Probably similar, just the progesterone making the area more sensitive or something. Who knows. Did ou and our doc decide how many betas you'll be doing? I'm thinking of asking mine for more...maybe I'll see if we can do one a week until 6 or 7 weeks (or an ultrasound, whichever is sooner). Don't know if he'll go for it but can't hurt to ask.

to all the other lovely ladies. Bumble, thinking of you today and hoping you are OK.

 

[kmp]

Hi all, and so sorry to those of you fearing another loss. In a first pg you have the luxury of being naive and hopeful, but after a loss you just sit there preparing yourself for what you feel is inevitable. I tend to try to expect the worst and hope for the best as Nikki feels. Wishing you all the best outcome whether it be a sticky bean or a quick recovery and a more fertile next month. Many women get their forever baby after conceiving immediately after a loss.

Misswish, congrats I am so happy to hear the twins are doing so well. Those measurements are great!!

Soop, that is great that your scan went well and I am glad they didn't make you wait a whole week in suspense.

Monro, it seems like saline would not cause any problems with conception, but if it were me, I would try to get it done sooner rather than later. I am sure that is even more safe than an hsg and they said I could conceive the same month I had that, but I elected to not get one because I just don't like the idea of the dye being in there, but saline is more natural.

AFM I am now in the 2ww!! I am pretty sure the egg was released Friday night as my LH surge happened Friday morning and by Saturday morning it was just about totally gone. I know it is waaaay to early to feel anything, but sunday while doing errands with dh, I had a weird bout of feeling lousy like low blood sugar and very, very shaky. I had made breakfast not too much earlier so it was quite strange. Luckily we were at Costco with food samples so eating made me feel soo much better. I get like that once in a while when I don't eat, but I had eaten. So it was probably nothing, but hoping it was a blastocyte forming!! (Yes, I know it is a ridiculous thought)

 

[BeachChica]

Oh Soop - I missed your post. I am glad that your scan was good. Hopefully when you speak to your doctor he will be able to shed some light on why your cycles have been a bit strange.

hopestruck - I had a beta last week, a beta today and one again on Thursday just to make sure my values are increasing as normal. My next appt with the doctor is August 9th and I should be about 6 weeks then.

kmp - one of my cycles I felt a wave of dizziness aound O day. I wonder if this is what happened to you!!! FX for you that you caught that egg!!!!

 

[Emmediva]

Nicki, I'm so sorry the lines have got lighter thinking of you.

Sooper, I'm glad the scan went ok

Misswish & Hope, glad all is ok.

Beach, I'm happy bleeding has subsided, hope you get good news on your beta numbers tomorrow.

Kmp, hoping you caught that egg!! When are you testing?

Andrea, I hope you are doing better

Lexi, have you felt the baby move again?

:wave: hi to anyone I may have missed.

AFM sitting at the doctors office and getting irritated I just foun out she is behind, 5 people in front of me, so I'll probably be here all day! And from talking to another patient, she double booked an 11:30 appt!! Me and another lady! WTH?! I was already thinking about maybe changing hospitals to do the natural birth but now I'm REALLY thinking of researching my options.

 

[lexi374]

Nicki im sorry you feel af is on her way, i had a chemical in feb and then fell pregnant with this 1 in april. So chin up. I like you felt that the chemical was not right from the outset for starters it was a really late bfp. x

Soop thats great they didnt find anything bad on your scan, where are you going on holiday? Maybe you should just take august off and go on hols knowing your not pregnant so you can really let your hair down and enjoy it, its not far away after all, and you may get preggo on hols when you are nice and relaxed. x

Bumble im sorry your numbers dont look great i dont know much about it, i hope you get some answers soon. x

Kmp good luck in tww x

Misswish yay for a great scan so pleased for you, get a ticker up woman! x

Wookie good luck with your scan x

Beach good luck with betas x

Nsn i hope you are at home and relaxing x

Lady hows the little lady? I hope she allows you some sleep. x

Thurl hows the temping? Any signs of ov yet? x

Emme how you feeling? x

Hope love the 2-3 x

Monro welcome sorry for your losses x

Sorry if i missed anyone x

Afm last week at work before 2 weeks holiday cant wait for the rest!

We decided to book a last minute holiday so we are off to Ibiza for a week on saturday! And its my birthday sunday..... whispers ..... 34.
Its going to be really strange going back to Ibiza, i went there loads in my 20s out all night clubbing, i loved it! Now im going back staying on the other side of the island, no clubbing, no parties, no drinking!! Will be nice to relax for a week though. As long as dh doesnt keep me awake with his snoring! He had a few beers sat night and snored all night, i got zero sleep and got eaten by mozzies, i got up sun morning and cried cos i was so tired!

Also today 1 of the parents at the nursery rang and said their child has slap cheek! Which means they were infectious last week and i was in contact with them. Its really bad to catch slap cheek when pregnant esp in the first 20 weeks, it can cause miscarriage as well as complications for the baby. I phoned the doc and they will do a blood test to check immunity but theres nothing they can do really if i get it he said keep temperature down by taking paracetamol and just gotta hope for the best. x