Jennifaerie
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This is going to sound complicated!
My DH is one of three. His brother's LO is due on 11th October and ours is due 22nd December.
On the 14th of December his sister has her adoption hearing to decide whether they have been accepted. This has been a long and hard journey for them but hopefully they will be getting their children soon. They TTC for 5 years and had numerous rounds of IVF. After the last round failed in Spetember 2010 they went to work in Madagascar for 6 months for some time out. They began the adoption process in Feb 2011.
Everything is looking good for them being accepted, he's a primary school teacher and she works for a charity. They are adopting from the next county over to where they live. They both work 3 days a week and have plenty of money saved up for when they get their children.
I'm acutely aware that there has been a lot of focus on the two pregnancies in the family at the minute and really want to do something to celebrate their adoption when (if) they're accepted and get a child placed with them. We already try to make sure we ask about their adoption above anything else and we try not to go on about LO, but do keep them updated on things. They knew we were TTC before we conceived and that we had started having hormone tests etc and just 2 weeks before we found out we were expecting they said they really hoped it happened for us soon as they didn't want us to have to go through all they had.
What can we do to help make a fuss of them? They're hoping to adopt two siblings. I really hope they get the answer before our LO arrives as it will be so much easier for them! I'm wondering whether it's best to wait until just before the children come to live with them.
Any advice? We're having a 4d scan today then going out for dinner with them, though we won't show the pictures unless they ask. I just know that although they're happy for us they're still mourning the loss of their biological child, though it will be easier for them once they know they're getting their adoptive family an we want to celebrate that! x
My DH is one of three. His brother's LO is due on 11th October and ours is due 22nd December.
On the 14th of December his sister has her adoption hearing to decide whether they have been accepted. This has been a long and hard journey for them but hopefully they will be getting their children soon. They TTC for 5 years and had numerous rounds of IVF. After the last round failed in Spetember 2010 they went to work in Madagascar for 6 months for some time out. They began the adoption process in Feb 2011.
Everything is looking good for them being accepted, he's a primary school teacher and she works for a charity. They are adopting from the next county over to where they live. They both work 3 days a week and have plenty of money saved up for when they get their children.
I'm acutely aware that there has been a lot of focus on the two pregnancies in the family at the minute and really want to do something to celebrate their adoption when (if) they're accepted and get a child placed with them. We already try to make sure we ask about their adoption above anything else and we try not to go on about LO, but do keep them updated on things. They knew we were TTC before we conceived and that we had started having hormone tests etc and just 2 weeks before we found out we were expecting they said they really hoped it happened for us soon as they didn't want us to have to go through all they had.
What can we do to help make a fuss of them? They're hoping to adopt two siblings. I really hope they get the answer before our LO arrives as it will be so much easier for them! I'm wondering whether it's best to wait until just before the children come to live with them.
Any advice? We're having a 4d scan today then going out for dinner with them, though we won't show the pictures unless they ask. I just know that although they're happy for us they're still mourning the loss of their biological child, though it will be easier for them once they know they're getting their adoptive family an we want to celebrate that! x