Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
It's rather exciting in here at the moment!
I've had an exciting end of the day, the much awaited match panel confirmation!
Little man's court case is Monday, provided it goes ok, we have match panel at 9.30 next Weds and then meet his fcs at 12 the same day! just need court to go ok!!!!
It's actually starting to feel rather real now! If Monday goes ok then it should move quickly! We have planning meeting 2nd dec and potentially meet our boy that afternoon!!

 

[Rainy123]

Wow dream, things have seemed on hold for you for such a long time that it's amazing to hear about things suddenly seeming to speed up for you. So happy for you and look forward out more updates.

My social worker visit went very well. They are happy to progress and I am really happy about everything. There is a slight issue of a relative appealing the decision not to let her become the carer, but hopefully that will get resolved sooner rather than later and I can bring my gorgeous baby girl home.

Booked in to see the foster carer in December and awaiting a date to see medical advisor!

 

[Lolly1985]

Yay Yay Yay!!!! Rainy that's excellent, you sound so happy and I am so happy for you!! So did you say little lady is currently 9 months? Eeek! Get the pink paint out

Great news Dream! It is suddenly all very promising and assuming all goes to plan, I mean come on, it just HAS to, you are going to be one busy mummy!! Lovely news

Awww happy times ladies xxx

 

[karenh]

Dream: How amazing it must be to have all the date narrowed down and even the one when you will meet your son! That is so wonderful! I hope and pray that court Monday goes smoothly. It is time for them to quit dilly dallying.

Rainy: I’m so glad your meeting with SW went well. It sounds like you might have your little girl home before Christmas as well. What a great year for most of you. I hope the thing with the relative gets worked out quickly and doesn’t delay your little girl coming home soon!

AFM: I seem to have no desire to do anything to prepare for a baby. As we were winding down our home study and anticipating getting approved I was really excited and wanted to get everything ready for baby. Now that we are approved it all feel like it is over and baby doesn’t feel anywhere near in our future. I don’t really know what to do with myself and I can’t see how we will be matched with a little one. Also, everyone is getting close to having their babies. Starting yesterday I will have 10 babies born to friends and family through February. I am so happy for all of them, most have suffered with infertility and multiple IVF cycles, but it just puts greater distance between us and the ages of our children. I feel as though I am being left behind. It doesn’t help that the New Year will always bring back the memory of the baby we lost. Sorry to be such a downer guys.

 

[Lolly1985]

Aww Karen, sending massive hugs. Don't think you are putting a downer on anything. This is a safe place to share the good and the bad. I do understand your mindset at the moment as your immediate focus is gone. Everything you were doing and working so hard on was for approval, and now you are approved you are in the dreaded limbo land with nothing to do but wait and think too much. But it'll happen. I know it's easy for me to say but it will. Have faith lovely lady. And then you'll have your focus back and it will be all things baby. Sorry you are down, but you are allowed to, soon enough you'll have a positive day and feel brighter. Ups always follow the downs. But vent away, we're here for you just like you have been for us xxx

 

[karenh]

Thank you!

 

[aimze]

Hey all!!

Some amazing news on here! Yay Karen for next step & your profile is great!

Rainy woop for finding a lovely lil pink!!

Dream sounds like its really happening! How so you prepare yourself an home for a potential first Christmas?!

I have our first stage 1 course coming up, getting on nicely with the social worker weekly visits...panel date set for Feb, family finding starts next month! They said in the new process they like to have panel completed with a child in mind so they can do matching panel same day/week!!!!!! Crazy stuff!!

Also few changes, were moving hme to accommodate siblings!! So were now looking for two under 3's to join our household!!! X

 

[dreamofabean]

Big hugs Karen xx
Aimze how exciting!! We were given a chance like that with siblings before we were approved but it wasn't the right match for us, dh wanted one child at a time

 

[aimze]

Yea we thought about one child at a time but we'd really like to offer siblings a chance to stay together, I also think having that constant connection for them must be comforting for them?

Double the work but I'm sure double the reward!! X

 

[karenh]

Aimze how exciting! When we were going through the state we were looking at siblings as well. We are now with a private agency so it is pretty much only infants, but we are still open to siblings if it arises.

 

[dreamofabean]

I totally agree Aimze! That was always my argument but dh won the fight! Ha ha! Of course I'm glad now as otherwise we wouldn't be considered for little man! Everything happens for a reason hey?!

 

[karenh]

This thread sure has become pretty quiet the fast few weeks.

 

[Rainy123]

I noticed the same thing Karen. I hope that quiet means good things. I have had such a hectic week and literally just realised the huge leaps my life has taken in the past few days

 

[aimze]

Hi ladies!!! I've noticed it's been quiet, I've been stalking but haven't had time to write!

Hope all are looking forward to the weekend?

Rainy, dream an Karen....anymore news on family finding? X

 

[dreamofabean]

It really has!
Sorry I've not posted much, just trying to keep myself super busy so I don't have time to agonise over things? Lol
3 more sleeps until we hopefully know what is happening with little man! If all good then weds will be an exciting day
Potentially I may have my last day at work next Friday which also happens to be my 30th birthday pease god let him be our son!!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

I'm hoping above all hopes that it gets busy again soon reading about Dreamy's introductions. Please please please!

I'm reading lovely ladies, posted my update earlier in the week and will let you know how we get on after health visitor and social worker visits this coming week. Right now I need sleep!!!

Love to all xxxxx

 

[karenh]

No news here. Probably won't be for about two years. Right now just trying to cope and think about the holidays and not babies. Of course holidays brings up children.

Dream I hope to hear a lot from you too as things start getting going to bring your son home!

 

[aimze]

Ah dream how will you sleep!!

 

[Loski83]

Karen I think it feels like that for everyone a bit in limbo and feel like nothing's happening once approved. It will happen though try and keep positive and plan a little holiday etc but remember you may get your baby before holiday so be careful. Best of luck to you.
I haven't been on much as my husband was involved in a hit and run while on his motorbike so it's been a bit crazy here trying to juggle hospital with little one. He's just come home today and is now sleeping on couch he cannot walk yet without crutches and is in pain but at least he's home.

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Loski, so sorry, love to you and the family and hope hubby makes a speedy recovery. How scary :'( xxx