Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

I agree lolly it's hard to know when to say no, enough is enough. As I said before, little man's bf asked what would happen if they were to get pg again and it plays on my mind. I want him to have time to settle and be cherished and treasured before a sibling comes along! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Exactly Dream, I feel the same. It's so hard when the only control we may have is whether to say yes or no...

 

[karenh]

Thank you Aimze, I really appreciate it.

 

[puppymom32]

Lolly we have the same with our little man he is very low for weight but catching up for height he is just pre determined to be a skinny man eats non stop!! Our BM was also pregnant again she had a MC but we were kinda all over the place of what we would do. If it happened now I would jump on it but at the time LO was just too young.

 

[Lolly1985]

Just saw you've had a loss Karen, very sorry, thinking of you lovely. Hugs xxx

Thanks for sharing puppymom. I know what you mean regarding timings. Like dream said earlier I want to give all I can to little pink and think about a sibling down the line. Maybe. If we did have two so young it would massively change the dynamics of our life now and future. Tricky one isn't it. It's just not in our control at all. Anyway, hope your beautiful boy is doing well

Go Dream, another busy day tomorrow!

Love to all xxx

 

[aimze]

Yup when do you say no? 2,3,4???? You couldn't say yes to 2 an nt 3....then how could you turn down 4?!

It's crazy, these girls need lessons in contraception if they aren't capable of looking after children!!

X

 

[drudai]

I have an aunt who lost custody of her 3 children & went on to have 3 more. They would be immediately taken, not sure if she really got to hold them. My mother says she would say "this time I will get clean & get my kids back" but couldn't follow through. I think it's lack of care on their part for getting pregnant over and over, but I think it's also their mental state. They "lost" their baby and think they can... Not replace it? But just make another to keep. I don't know if that goes for all, but that's what happened with my aunt.
Terrible part is that now we're all grown up, she is clean & doing quite well, but the older children don't want anything to do with her & younger don't even know who their bm is.

 

[LolaM]

well, THEY wont tell her or make her stop, so you are going to have to cut yourselves off. How frustrating that THESE are the people who are able to mass <re> produce when we ladies have fought so hard! I guess we all have a purpose. I have a meeting with baby boys team, and im sure it will be mostly unpleasant, my husband isnt going to anymore meetings, he has thrown his hands up with these people and it takes a lot for him to get this way!

Hugs to you Karen, sorry for your loss

 

[karenh]

Thank you for your support guys.

Lola goo dluck at your meeting. I am sorry it has gotten to the point that hubby can't take it any more, that is so rough. I wish I could be there to support you.

 

[dreamofabean]

Thinking of you Karen

So today was panel! We are officially matched with little man!
I was super nervous and think I rambled a bit when we were asked questions! I didn't cry though.... Until they gave their recommendation... And then I bawled like a good 'un!! Ha ha! I was so very emotional I had to try and hold in the sobs!
Following that we composed ourselves and then went to the sw office to meet the foster carers! They came running up to us and enveloped us into big hugs as they recognised us from our pic! I'll iust state at this time our sw stood with her mouth open and we were stunned as we hadn't seen pics of them so weren't sure what was going on!
They are sioooo lovely! They want to stay in contact of we do and chatted a lot about him and his likes and dislikes
We meet our boy Monday I can't quite believe it.... I'm a mummy and meet my son in 5 days!!!! Eeekkkkkk!!!!!!

 

[karenh]

Holy crap! What an amazing day! You are a mom! Your little boy is going to be so blessed! Dream this is so wonderful! Congratulations! EEK, Monday is so close!

 

[aimze]

Dream amazing news!! I am so excited to read about your Monday!!! Yay!!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

Mummy Dream, Dream is a MUMMY!!!! Yeah!!! What an amazing day, oh my goodness hunny, 5 sleeps!!!!! I am so over the moon, it was all meant to be xxxxx

 

[karenh]

I really can't get over how excited I am for you!

 

[dreamofabean]

Thank you girls! I really just can't believe it still! It all feels like a dream!!
I truly feel the luckiest person in the world at the moment!! Xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Change your signature, change it to say you are a forever mummy!!! xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hee hee!! Ok Hun, bear with me x

 

[Lolly1985]

Perfect

 

[aimze]

Yayyyyyyy!!! Such amazing stuff!!!! Wahoooooo x

 

[Rainy123]

Great news dream - so so happy for you. You've waited long enough and now your time is finally here

Need some help with my situation - just had a call from SW to say that they've just found out BM is 22 weeks pregnant. They have only just found out so not sure whether the baby will be removed etc but basically they think baby will be removed and they'll want them placed together. SW isn't convinced that this is the right thing for me - essentially 2 babies with barely a year between them. Tough decision to make and I'm just devastated that it looks like it's all over once again